>everyone makes fun of you, your art, and your tastes, is constantly trying to sort you into a million categories of "woman" to mock
>decide you will be a man instead
>everyone makes fun of you, your art, and your tastes, is constantly trying to sort you into a million categories of "trans man" to mock
>half your fellow trans men decide this means men are oppressed and trying to speak out about this makes their language turn mock-MRA, the other half speak out and look suspiciously like radfems (evil hate group that you get at least 1 death threat a day towards on your feed)
>you want to be a cool and different trans man so you become a transfeminist and believe you have male privilege because MTFs say so
>spend years decentering yourself, allowing mockery and seeing threats and devaluing towards trans men and "theyfabs" and cis women because it takes on the language of toothed feminism
>politely ignore how 90% of MTFs are actually 10x more unbearable online than trans men, are largely sortable into a set of predictable tropes, and are actually insanely entitled and careless about anyone except for themselves
>find a couple of other trans men in the same boat, their MTF friends treat them like weird pets, you never get close enough because you hate the content these MTFs post but watch as your online MTF mutuals grow into the exact same kinds of pervert you have been quietly blocking and ignoring
>obvious MTF grooming ring is being covered up, your transmasc friends are the most suicidal they have ever been, community is a swirling vortex of MTFs behaving in the most vile ways and then crying about oppression when they are disliked
>realize these MTFs are weaponizing their suffering and reverting of language to suck you and your community dry, just like men have always done
>realize your other female friends will now hate you if they knew you
>realize the unbearable reality of being born female