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[house-of-ace]

Giant List of Asexuality and Aromantic Blogs

Since Asexual Awareness Week is coming up, I figured I’d make a rebloggable version of this blog’s links page for those who want to find new blogs to suggest to people!

Notes:

Included on this list are: Asexuality Tumblrs, Aromantic Tumblrs, Advice Tumblrs, Non-Tumblr Sites and Useful Links!

If you know any other blogs, sites, or other links that aren’t on here, let me know, and I’ll be sure to add it! Also, if you run one of these blogs and I’ve messed something up, let me know and I’ll fix it for you.

Please assume that on this list, the words ‘asexual’ and ‘aromantic’ stand for asexual-spectrum and aromantic-spectrum respectively, unless otherwise indicated.

This post doesn’t always update itself when reblogged for some reason. You can always find the most up-to-date rebloggable version here and the permanent version here!

Asexuality Tumblr Blogs

AceTumblr: an extensive list of asexual-spectrum related Tumblrs! Includes blogs about asexy arts and crafts, asexual-spectrum advice, asexual-spectrum themed Tumblrs, and more. There is also a huge list of individual blogs run by aces!

Ace Advice Network: a blog network for asexual and aromantic advice blogs which provides support and guidance to such blogs’ admins and the people they serve!

Ace and Aro August: a blog which collects submitted asexual and aromantic fanfiction throughout the month of August!

Ace Art: a blog with asexuality wallpapers, artwork and other graphics!

aceasaurus: a general ace blog!

Ace Beth Week: A collection of asexual Beth Childs content for an event which ran earlier the summer of 2014!

aceboned: ace blog probably most known for their series of submissions on ‘I knew I was asexual when…”

Ace Bucky Barnes: a blog which accepts any kind of submission about asexual Bucky Barnes- in addition to other asexual and/or aromantic characters in marvel! 

AceChats: a tumblr for organizing online ace meetups!

Ace Fanfiction Recs: submissions-based blog for asexual fanfic recs!

Ace K-pop Fans: a blog to find other aces interested in k-pop!

Ace Meet-Up: a blog where you can submit a profile and look for other aces to meet up with!

Ace Music: music that does not reference sex, both romantic and aromantic!

Ace Positivity: an ace-spectrum positivity blog!

Ace Secrets: a post-secret-esque blog for aces!

aceshineefics: a blog recommending SHINee fanfic in which someone is asexual!

Ace Stories: a blog for people to submit stories about their experiences being asexual!

Ace Style: a blog for fashion in ace colors!

Ace the Final Frontier: a general ace blog! has a really cool page of ace character headcanons.

Aces and Hearts: a blog for asexuals looking for relationships.

Aces in Space: a submissions-based blog for Star Wars asexuality and aromantic headcanons!

Aces Unabridged: a place for aces to tell their stories! also posts ace challenges to answer.

Acing It Up: a general asexuality blog!

aroacemusic: a blog which posts music for asexual and aromantic spectrum people!

Asexology: an ace blog that tends to post discussion about asexuality and scientific things!

asexualarchive: a collection of ‘proof’ of asexual marginalization!

Asexual Experiences: a blog to collect the stories and experiences of asexual-spectrum people. Accepts submissions!

Asexual Facts: a satire blog which posts entertaining “facts” about asexuality! They answer serious asks at Asexual Science.

Asexual Fanfiction: a submissions-based blog which collects sex-free and asexual and aromantic inclusive fanfiction! 

Asexual Fanfiction Archive: a submissions-based archive and collection of recs for ace-spectrum fic!

Asexual Headcanons: blog for submissions of asexual headcanons!

Asexual Info: an asexuality awareness blog!

Asexual Literature: A place to find literature on or about asexuality and those on the spectrum!

Asexual People of Color: a blog for asexual poc!

Asexual Problems: a blog to submit problems asexual people face!

Asexual Quotes: a blog that posts quotes which are about or relate to asexuality!

Asexuals Connecting With Asexuals: a blog where you can submit a profile and find asexual people in your area!

Asexual Supernatural: a blog for everything asexuality-spectrum in the Supernatural fandom!

asexualtalia: a blog dedicated to asexual characters in the Hetalia fandom!

Asexual Things: general ace and visibility blog!

Asexuality Exists: a general ace blog!

Asexuality in Fandom: a blog for the discussion of asexuality in fandom!

Asexuality-Armadillo: an asexuality blog with advice, resources, cute armadillo comics and more!

Asexuality Studies: a blog for promoting conversations about asexual research in the tumblr ace community! They answer any questions regarding existing asexuality research, statistics and history!

Asexy April: a multifandom challenge during the month of April to create asexy fanworks!

Asexy Slice of Cake: a general ace blog and safe ace space!

Ask an Ace: a blog for answering asexuality-related questions!

Blog Asexual: an asexuality blog for Spanish-speaking people!

Cool Asexual Things: a blog for promoting asexual pride!

Cupiosexual-Cupioromantic: a blog about cupiosexuality/romanticism!

Dear Non-Ace People…: letters from ace-spectrum and aromantic people to non-asexual people.

Demissembly: a blog about demisexuality!

Fandom Ace Archive: (url acesinspades): a submissions-based fanfic archive for ace and aro fic!

Flirtaceous: a flirting tips for aces blog which also accepts submissions!

French-Asexuel: an asexuality blog for French-speaking people!

fuckyeahasexual: a general ace blog!

German AroAces: a blog for German-speaking asexual and/or aromantic people!

Gray-Asexual Shenanigans: a general asexuality and gray-asexuality blog!

A Gray-Asexual Space: a blog for gray-asexual people!

Gray-Demi-Asexual Recognition and Resource: an asexual-spectrum recognition and resource blog!

House of Ace: a blog which aims to provide asexual and aromantic-spectrum content as an alternative to having to look through the tags!

indie asexual art and music: submission-based blog for aces to get more exposure for their art, music, prose & poetry!

kinkyasexuals: for asexuals involved in BDSM!

Let’s Talk About Demisexuality: a blog about demisexuality!

One Percent World: a general ace blog with a focus on writings, drawings, creativity and humor! Also has merchandise.

Religious Aces: a blog for religious aces!

Resources for Ace Survivors: resources for asexual-spectrum survivors of sexual violence and people who want to support ace survivors!

stockphotoasexuality: a blog which collects various images used in asexuality articles!

Teen Aces: a blog for young (college-aged and younger) ace folk!

theasexualityblog: a general ace blog!

the-asexual-life: a general ace blog!

Your Fave is Acey: a submissions-based blog for asexual-spectrum headcanons!

Aromantic Tumblr Blogs

15 Day Aromantic Challenge

Ace Music’s aromantic tag

Amatonormative Moments: a blog which catalogues instances of amatonormativity in everyday life, and accepts submissions! 

aroacemusic: a blog which posts music for asexual and aromantic spectrum people!

AroHQ: a blog dedicated to aromantic interpretations and canon characters

Aromantic Aardvark: a blog for aromantic spectrum people which also offers advice!

Aromantic Advice: an advice blog for aromantic people!

Aro and Aro-Spectrum Fanfiction: a blog to submit aromantic-spectrum fic!

Aromantic and Aro-Spectrum Headcanons: a blog to submit your aromantic-spectrum and queerplatonic headcanons for any fandom!

Aromantic Asexuals: a forum for aro aces!

Aromantic Facts: a satire blog which posts entertaining “facts” about aromanticism!

aromanticnerd: a blog for allosexual aromantics which also offers advice!

Aromantic Problems: a blog dedicated to being on the aromantic spectrum and the problems that come with it, which also accepts submissions!

Aromantic Secrets: an aromantic blog which posts general aro stuff, answers questions and accepts post-secret-style submissions!

Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week: an advice and awareness blog for the aromantic spectrum!

The Arospace: a blog for submitting moments when something should have clued you in that you were aromantic!

Asexual Headcanon’s aromantic tag

Cupiosexual-Cupioromantic: a blog about cupiosexuality/romanticism!

Fandom Ace Archive’s aromantic tag

Fictional Aromantics!: a blog to discuss aromantic characters, fiction and media!

The Full Quiver: a blog dedicated to aromantic interpretations and canon characters!

German AroAces: a blog for German-speaking asexual and/or aromantic people!

gray-demiromantic: a blog about gray and demi romanticism, which also answers questions!

grayros: a blog for gray-romantics!

House of Ace’s aromantic tag

Lithromanticism: a blog about lithromanticism, which offers advice!

Nonromantic Songs: a blog which collects songs without romantic themes! also they have a playlist on youtube here!

Perks of Being Aro: an advice/pride/positivity blog for aromantics!

Platonically in Love: a blog to celebrate queerplatonic relationships, platonic partners and other similar forms of relationship! accepts picture and story submissions as well!

Platonic Partners Society: a blog design to showcase platonic relationships, from friendships to platonic partnership! Accepts submissions as well!

Queerplatonic and Aromantic Advice: a blog that offers advice about qp relationships, qp partners and the aromantic spectrum.

Queerplatonic Match: a blog for anyone looking for a queerplatonic partner!

Shades of Grayro: a blog for people on the aromantic spectrum!

Tumblr Blogs That Offer Advice (both aromantic and asexuality blogs listed) many also post other things in addition to advice and have useful lists of resources, links and faqs!

Ace Advice Network: a blog network for asexual and aromantic advice blogs which provides support and guidance to such blogs’ admins and the people they serve!

Aromantic Aardvark: a blog for aromantic spectrum people which also offers advice!

Aromantic Advice: an advice blog for aromantic people!

aromanticnerd: a blog for allosexual aromantics which also offers advice!

Aromantic Secrets: an aromantic blog which posts general aro stuff, answers questions and accepts post-secret-style submissions!

Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week: an advice and awareness blog for the aromantic spectrum!

Asexual Advice: an advice blog for asexuals, (with links to similar blogs for other orientations)!

Asexuals Anonymous: an advice blog for asexuals!

Asexual Helper: an advice blog for asexuals!

Ask an Asexual: blog for asking questions about asexuality!

Ask a Demisexual: an advice blog for demisexuals, other asexual-spectrum people and anyone else!

Confessions of a Demisexual: a blog about being demisexual, which also offers advice!

Demigray: a blog for demi and gray-asexual people, which also offers advice!

gray-demiromantic: a blog about gray and demi romanticism, which also answers questions!

Lithromanticism: a blog about lithromanticism, which offers advice!

Queerplatonic and Aromantic Advice: a blog that offers advice about qp relationships, qp partners and the aromantic spectrum.

Non-Tumblr Sites (both aromantic and asexuality sites listed)

Acebook: an asexual dating and social networking site!

Ace Fet: a forum for asexual and aromantic fetishists. Also has a tumblr.

ace_fic: a livejournal asexuality fanfiction comm!

Ace Ideas: a youtube vlogging channel about asexuality! also has a tumblr.

Acetronauts: a youtube vlogging channel about asexuality! They also have a tumblr.

are:UK: a UK organization for asexuality education, media representation and providing resources. Also has a tumblr.

Arocalypse: an aromantic forum! They also have a tumblr here.

Aroplane: a forum for aromantic-spectrum people!

Aromantic Asexuals: a forum for aro aces!

Asexualitic: an asexual dating site!

The Asexual Agenda: a blog which promotes asexual blogs, shares links and discusses a deeper wide variety of asexual-related concepts. Also the home of the monthly Carnival of Aces!

Asexual Archive: another very comprehensive blog about ‘all things ace’!

Asexual Awareness Week: the official website for Asexual Awareness Week! They also have a tumblr!

Asexual Explorations: a site which promotes the academic study of asexuality! It provides many good links and resources to this end.

Asexual Groups: a reference blog to find asexuality meet-ups and communities!

Asexuality Meetup: list of asexuality meetups!

Asexual News: a site for asexuality news and opinions. Includes a huge list of links and resources, and also merchandise.

The Asexual Stories Project: a place for any asexual-spectrum person to submit their stories about their experiences with any aspect of their asexuality!

AVEN: probably the best-known asexual site on the Internet. I’ve heard some not-so-great things about the forums, but the rest of the site has a large list of links, news, a wiki and other things to check out! They also have a tumblr.

Card House: an asexuality forum!

Demisexuality.org: a website all about demisexuality! (with a very useful links page!)

Kik Messenger group: not really a site per se, but directions for how to join a Kik Messenger network/group for asexuals who would like to chat! According to the post: “Kik Messenger is a free anonymous messaging app that is available on multiple smartphone platforms.”

New England Asexuals: website for the New England Asexuals!

Partnership for Asexual Visibility and Education: an organization focusing on asexual activism!

Other Useful Links

30 Day Ace Challenge

15 Day Aromantic Challenge

ace-muslim’s asexuality resources page!

Anagnori has a lot of useful links, essays, guides and resources on their page!

asexual and aromantic resources

Asexual Essays: tumblr user swankivy’s extensive list of her awesome essays on asexuality!

Asexuality-Armadillo’s Resources Tag: lots of good resources, lists of blogs and lists of links to all kinds of useful things here!

Asexuality Exist’s Resources Page

Asexuality Masterpost full of useful stuff to buy, find, read and link to!

Asexuality and Race Resources

Advice for non-ace partners of asexuals

AVEN’s relationship faq

FAQ for doing research on asexuality!: a very helpful set of explanations from Asexuality Studies on how to conduct research on asexuality for a class, just to find an article, or anything else!

Global media coverage of Understanding Asexuality: ace-muslim’s list of media coverage of Anthony Bogaert’s book around the world!

How to Have Sex with an Asexual Person

A list of non-English-speaking asexuality groups/links/resources!

Linkspam for people giving ace advice by queenieofaces!

linkspam on aromanticism by queenieofaces!

linkspam on asexuality and sex-aversion/repulsion by queenieofaces!

linkspam on demisexuality! by queenieofaces!

linkspam on greyness: by queenieofaces!

list of aromantic and/or asexual books

list of asexual-friendly colleges

On asexual/non-asexual relationships

Intro to Asexuality Studies: a helpful list of starter links and resources for those who want to study asexuality!

K-pop songs that aren’t romantic or sexual!

Pairingless fic rec list

Religion and Asexuality Overview

Resources for Aromantic Non-Asexual people!

Metapianycist’s list of aromantic resources!: links to aromantic-spectrum and queerplatonic resources blogs, visual resources and aromantic tumblrers!

Resources for Ace Survivors: resources for asexual-spectrum survivors of sexual violence and people who want to support ace survivors!

Resources Post: a list of resources from the blog Asexuals_Anonymous!

writing asexual characters links!

also check out my (House-of-Ace’s) list of tags! The resources, community and links tags might be good places to start!

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Words and concepts used in asexual communities

A reference for people who are confused. I’ve also included words from aromantic discourse because of the overlap between the two communities. If I forgot anything, or if a definition is wrong, let me know and I’ll add it to the list.

Keep reading

[aro-bot]

idk can we stop…treating a.ce disc.ourse like it’s some haha funney cringe compilation or whatever the fuck because it fucking destroyed the entire ace and aro communities. there is no solid aspec community on tumblr anymore (which was by far the biggest number of aspec ppl). exclusionists took our community and fucking smashed it to pieces and y'all treat it as this fucking stupid joke when they traumatized, gaslit, and abused an entire group of queer people back into the closet. fuck every single person who doesn’t take that seriously.

[showmesomeoneinnocent]

My personal experience is just that, but it’s really indicative that I have watched almost every single ace and aro person I know, irl and online, actively recloset themselves as a direct result of the consequences of The Disc Horse™

I watched irl queer groups disintegrate bc a few ppl who got into leadership positions used that to make the space hostile towards ace ppl (among others as well), saw friends go from being loud and proud aces n aros to actively avoiding any mention of it and letting ppl assume their sexuality. I myself, having been IDing as ace for 10 years at least, have in the past couple since this whole “"discourse”“ came into being, actively and intentionally stopped telling anyone at all that I’m ace. To put that in some kind of perspective, I am incredibly out as trans and will actively out myself pretty constantly except to total strangers I will never see again. I feel safer telling ppl I’m trans than ace. Especially in queer spaces. It’s fucked me up so much I didn’t even quite grasp how much but today my therapist asked me for the first time about like romantic relationships and I physically could not say I am aro and ace. Completely incapable, utterly frozen, and I just kinda let her believe what she will. Ironically the fact that I’ve gone from being willing and ready to tell ppl I’m ace as just another facet of myself to entirely unable and unsolicited to tell anyone, is probably a thing one might want to talk w one’s therapist about.

This has really fucked not just the community at large but fucked up individual ace ppl in so many ways. It’s not something “funny” or remotely harmless, it’s absolutely devastated us.

[swampgallows]

for people in the notes looking for “elder” aces, i just wanna say that i’m 28 years old and am also desperately searching for that representation. i first found out about asexuality through tumblr when i was 21 and started identifying as asexual when i was 21-22 (around 2012). i’ve sought other online ace communities but nothing compared to tumblr. i mean, props to aven for existing as a repository of resources but in terms of just chatting with other aces “in the wild” as it were, tumblr was the perfect place.

but then this fucking shit happened. around 2015 is when it really kicked into high gear. “discoursers” or exclusionists or aphobes or however you want to refer to them consider asexuality to be a joke and that everyone who identifies as ace is a cringey cishet college-aged white girl who loves dr who. recycled biphobia, homophobia, and even terf rhetoric made its way into the mainstream tumblr conscious by reframing the arguments to target ace people (you’re only X because you’re ugly/can’t get laid; you aren’t part of the community if your partner is of a different gender; maybe something happened to you to make you this way; have you had your hormones checked?; by accepting this identity you are allowing the oppressor to infiltrate our spaces; etc.). you know, in case you think this is just about “snick snack” memes.

this has alienated ace people of color, who already struggle with desexualization/hypersexualization, disabled aces, ace survivors, trans aces, mentally ill aces, neurodiverse/AUTISTIC ACES (you guys get REAL fuckin nervous when i highlight that the majority of your jeering about aces’ perceived awkwardness, missed social cues, infantilization/dehumanization, or “unfuckability”/“cringey-ness” are repackaged ableism, especially considering that a good percentage of the ace community is also autistic), and both young AND older aces. 

younger people are being discouraged from exploring the possibility of being asexual by exclusionists for reasons that vary from internalized homophobia to asexuality being a side effect of SSRIs. they are being told that they are “actually” something other than what they say they are, or that they are broken, or that they’re too young to know, or that our ace identity is simultaneously something that must be excruciatingly examined to determine its “cause” yet so irrelevant that it’s unworthy of discussion or representation—”nobody cares that you don’t want to have sex”. i WISH i had known about asexuality as a teenager, as a kid. I wish i had saved myself from so much grief, abuse, pain, and corrective rape by not subjecting myself to experiences that i hoped would “fix” me. 

and older people like me, who in the grand scheme of things is uhhh really not that much older than the majority of tumblr, are ridiculed for having a presence on tumblr in general, let alone as an asexual person. aces over 30? 40? 50? unicorns. conjured rhetoric. people straight-up don’t believe they exist. people ten years my junior attempt to deny and erase the lived history of aces by saying asexuality was “invented” only ten years ago. i have been terrified of attempting to enter Q* spaces irl because i have heard from even my IRL gay friends that aces do not belong, that “it’s not important enough to form an identity around”, that we are not oppressed enough or we just desperately want to be oppressed. 

i have only heard in passing of people much older than i am who are ace. i have absolutely zero examples to turn to of people like me continuing to live a long life or any evidence that i am worth loving unless i become a parent, which i don’t want to do. when you’re a teenager there’s more discussion about sexual boundaries, but what about dating in my 30s? what adult is going to be satisfied knowing i can never validate their sexual attraction, unless they were ace like me (less than 1% of the population)? am i forced to be alone forever? you can imagine how bleak my future feels. 

it pisses me off that i’m seen as a curmudgeon who “just doesn’t get the young people’s humor” when i have to beg people that i consider friends, for the eight billionth time, to stop making/reblogging jokes about how “cringey” aces are or are tongue-in-cheek declaring themselves to be aphobes, and then those people try to assuage me with respectability politics about how it’s about “THOSE” aces on tumblr and not, yknow, me, who is “one of the good ones”. and since the jokes themselves are so juvenile, it further compounds on the poor social graces and stoicism assumed of asexual people if I’m getting upset over ace war criminal moodboards or whatever the fuck. EVERY time i post about asexual ANYTHING on tumblr, to this day, i lose followers. without fail. people dont bat a lash when i spam 20 untagged posts in a row about a fandom they dont care about but i post two positive words about asexuality and theyre gone.

the environment promoted on tumblr condemns asexuality as a social deficit, as an attack on other Q* identities, as a subject of derision and embarrassment, as an identity lacking in “woke” capital, and makes every effort to expunge us from communities we have already belonged to in favor of making our own while also actively seeking out and dismantling those communities. if tumblr really is in its last days, i sincerely hope that these awful practices will die with it. 

[starberry-kat]

this picture was taken in 1973, asexuality has been part of the lgbt+ community longer than you’ve been alive.

[loverofsomanythings]

The first mentions of asexuality as an orientation are from a leaflet published in 1896 and the X on the Kinsey Scale for non-sexual was added in 1948. It was not invented by white teenage old girls on Tumblr.

ASEXUALITY WAS NOT INVENTED BY TEENAGE GIRLS ON TUMBLR.

For more information on sexual history read this http://wiki.asexuality.org/Asexual_history

Before aromanticism was used as a term there was non-limerant. Limerance described romantic attraction and so a non-linemerant person didn’t experience romantic attraction. It has a lot of similarities to aromanticism and it’s first documented appearance was in a book called ‘love and limerance’ published in 1979.

Aromanticism was also not invented by white girls on tumblr.

AROMANTICISM WAS NOT INVENTED BY WHITE GIRLS ON TUMBLR.

Tumblr might be the first place you saw these terms and where they are most used but the orientations were not invented here maybe the words were first used by a lot of people on here but the orientations not.

[infiniteglitterfall]

(Image transcription: The sign behind them reads: “YEA - IT’S A HEAVY TRIP. BUT! This is a chance to CHOOSE YOUR OWN LABEL instead of having someone else do it for you: straight, asexual, lesbian, bisexual, anti-label, dyke separatist, ?, lesbian feminist, [something partially obscured but i think it might say anti-sexual], or whatever”)

[lovinnelily]

When I saw the picture I just started crying and what came after it… I cant, is like someone put a hand on my shoulder and said “is okay to exist” and I’m sobbing right now.

I did know I needed this. But I never thought it would get me to tears. I never knew I needed it for me, to show to myself, to tell me it’s fine to be me.

I can’t stop crying, fuck.

[infiniteglitterfall]

💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

This is why representation is important. This is why visibility is important.

Sometimes I see exclusionists shooting their mouths off about how the way you can tell aces aren’t oppressed is that our main need is for representation, that our positivity posts are about being valid.

And I’m just like… you have maybe temporarily forgotten what it is like to not see yourself reflected anywhere?? You maybe have been lucky enough to find people like you in history and in media before you came out?? Perhaps you are blissfully unaware that if you don’t have that kind of representation, the only messages you get are that you are a shitty gross broken person that doesn’t have any worth????? Possibly you do not know the effect of hearing that from both the straight and the “LGBT” communities at once??

I don’t know if anybody has studied this (I’m gonna find out!) but I would bet a lot of money that that stuff has a huge impact on health, and that it’s a big part of the reason that m-spec and a-spec people (including aros) have such incredibly high rates of things like suicidality.

We’re valid. We have worth. We are incredible people, part of incredible communities and cultures and histories. We deserve to exist, and the world is much better off with us.

[vaspider]

There were older aces on here. I watched 2 ace folx in their late 30s, one in her early 50s and one in her late 40s get chased off of here by constant harassment. I’m in contact with all 3 on other platforms and have been friends with all of them for 5+ years, so.

One of them specifically came to Tumblr to be a resource for younger aces (the one in her late 40s) and left in horrified disgust over the level of direct, awful harassment she received.

So, yeaaaaaaah, they’re out there, and Tumblr dis.course succeeded in making Tumblr so vile to them that they left.

[revolutionarykoolaid]

Alabama DA to drop fetal manslaughter charge against Marshae Jones

Good news out of Birmingham—Marshae Jones will no longer be prosecuted for the loss of her fetus during a fight last year, in which she was shot. It should go without being said that she had no business being charged in the first place, but this case also shows that our collective outrage still matters, even in a state like Alabama. We helped raise money for her bail, we made calls into the DA and Governor’s office, and we helped amplify this story across social media. There is a long road ahead for Marshae, and I wish her nothing but peace and healing. For her sake, and for the sake of all those who have been threatened and persecuted by the state before and after her, please remember the power of your voice. We have so much left to fight for!

[theforcekeepers]

DO NOT DO THIS.

This makes me so angry.

If you work in a movie theater and you do this I have no respect for you.

My younger brother is Type 1 Diabetic.

When we go to a movie theater, we always get him diet soda. If he were to get regular when we asked for diet, we would not give him the insulin he would need for it. If that happens, his blood sugar level could go so high he could go into a coma, go blind, or even die.

If somebody gave him regular soda instead of diet without telling us, that person could be responsible for a nine-year-old being killed or blinded.

Just thinking about that makes me so angry. I get scared every time we take him to a movie in case the people working there saw this picture and decide to do the same thing.

Please signal boost this so people know.

[wreckedupbarnes]

This also applies to baristas

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Fun story about the baristas doing this kind of shit. 

I am very sensitive to lactose, not Lactose intolerant but because of stomach ulcers that are still healing. A couple years ago I went to Starbucks right after my classes with some friends and asked for a green tea latte with soy milk. The barista, for some reason out of malice and/or hate for her life so she took it out on me, gave me whole milk in my latte.

5 minutes after my first sip of latte, my stomach cramped BAD. Not the “Oh! time to poop!” kind of cramp but it felt like someone had stabbed me with a knife and twisted it. Now I’ve had this happen before so I knew the cause of it. I went up to the barista clutching my gut screaming at her that she put dairy in my latte rather than soy LIKE I REQUESTED. She denied it and called me a “pretentious white girl for wanting soy”and so my friends got the manager. I had to explain that I had stomach ulcers that were still healing and if I were to go to the hospital for this incident, they would be responsible for it.

Manager flipped his shit and the barista was terrified out of her mind. Pretty sure both thought i was gonna sue. Manager actually fired her on the spot because of the negligence. My friends managed to get me home in one piece while I stayed home for 3 days in absolute agony and missed my midterm.

So remember kiddies, if someone is asking for Diet or “Skinny” or “soy” or anything that is not regular, give them what they requested because it may not be them being healthy, but a dietary need that can possibly be life or death

[housebuiltbyghosts-deactivated2]

also if they ARE trying to be healthy you should give it to them to!! Its not your decision to police or question others food choices!!! 

also im lactose intolerant AND ive had stomach infections/ulcers so i feel this. 

[cartoonkatelyn]

I have Celiac Disease, so I’m very gluten intolerant. When I go out to eat at restaurants a lot of people just assume that I asked for my food gluten free because of the gluten free diet fad (which is usually a bullshit diet btw). 

Last month I went out to dinner with a friend at an italian restaurant that had a small gluten free menu. I had been there once before and had their gluten free pasta and it was great! I think one of the managers had been there and was super helpful when taking my order to make sure that everything was gluten free for me. When I ordered the gluten free pasta again this time though, the waitress who took my order all but rolled her eyes at me. I didn’t think much of it at the time, because the restaurant was so accommodating before, I just assumed it would be the same this time.

But sure enough, they brought out my pasta, I ate it, and about an hour later I had extreme stomach pains and was throwing up (in a movie theater no less).

Barfing and agonizing pain aside, eating gluten when you have celiac causes a lot of internal damage that’s hard to notice. The biggest thing is that it damages your intestines, preventing your body from absorbing nutrients properly, which can take months to heal.

So PLEASE, if you work at a restaurant or anything with food and someone asks for something a certain way, please listen to them and don’t just disregard someone’s order. It’s not funny and it can have serious consequences.

[somethingnottooclever]

I will reblog this with every single story about someone getting sick because of an asshole giving them the opposite of what they ordered until it sinks in for everyone.

[sailornightfury]

Recently on the news a 16 year old boy with a dairy allergy had gone to eat at IHOP with his family. The specifically asked if they could make dairy free pancakes and they said yes. Not too long after he had a reaction and was rushed to the hospital. This kid died because the was dairy in his pancakes that they asked for no dairy. His epi pen that his mother had wasn’t enough to help him. I know working in fast food or any job that’s serves food and beverage sucks but not as much as causing someone to get sick over negligence.

[obstinate-nocturna]

My youngest cousin – who is now five, he just started kindergarten – has Celiac’s disease. You would not BELEIVE the amount of times I’ve heard my aunt say she’s ordered something gluten free, only to watch the waiter or waitress’s eyes go huge when she gives it to my cousin – my cousin with the medical id band on his tiny five year old wrist proclaiming I HAVE CELIACS and have to take it back. Shit like this could kill my cousin. Knock it the fuck off.

[iopele]

I cannot tolerate caffeine–it makes me have chest pain and a racing pulse, and also gives me horrible body pain, so I always ask for decaf if I order coffee when I’m out, and doublecheck with the waiter/ress when they bring it. but instead of saying “is this decaf like I asked for?” I always say “oh, did I remember to order decaf?” I shouldn’t have to act like I’m the forgetful one (because I know damn well I asked for decaf) but it seems to work better than implying that they screwed up when I take the blame on myself like that. and if there’s any hesitation when they answer, I tell them, “if there’s any doubt, please get another one, or just give me water–if this is regular, it’ll mess up my heart” and lots of times when I say that, they look alarmed and go change it or get another one. 

but I shouldn’t HAVE to share my personal medical history with strangers just to get my order right! no one should! how is it their business? it makes me really uncomfortable to have to do that. JUST GIVE PEOPLE WHAT THEY ORDER!

[minnigem]

I’ve reblogged this maaaany times before but there’s a few new stories on here so i’m doing it again.

cut this shit out

[willowfae82]

don’t be that kind of asshole.

[untapdtreasure]

As a diabetic, this would make me so beyond angry. Skinny doesn’t mean they don’t have a life threatening illness. Skinny doesn’t mean they can process sugar the way you do. People that do this are the worst kinds of people. DO NOT DO THIS!

[forgetsuperman]

Me and my family went to a restaurant a few years back and one of the dishes we ordered was made with wine vinegar, which I am allergic to, so we asked the waiter to skip it, and he said sure, no problem, that’s fine. So my food gets to the table, and I start eating and then my throat closes and I can’t breathe and then I start coughing and throwing up right there in the middle of the restaurant and it was very fortunate that I was with my family and they knew what was happening to me. I had to be rushed to the hospital, and admitted, and I came damn near close to having my throat cut open so I could breathe through a whole on my neck. Because they put wine vinegar in my food when I explicitly told them not to, because they were assholes, and I could have died. They probably didn’t mean to hurt me but they did. I missed class, and work, and, again, I COULD HAVE DIED.

[cowthropologist]

i have cyclic vomiting syndrome and can’t tolerate dairy or red meat. violating my dietary restrictions triggers an acute episode, and i have to be hospitalized and given iv saline, ativan, and anti-emetics to stop the (extremely painful and incapacitating) vomiting. if somebody put regular milk instead of soy milk in my latte and i didn’t notice the taste immediately, i could wind up in the er and then spend several days in bed recovering, eating nothing but saltines and dry toast and clear liquids until my body was able to tolerate food again, unable to work or go out or do anything besides rest. whenever i go to starbucks, i WATCH them make my drink. cvs episodes are horrible and i hate them, and i can prevent them if i do everything right, but that means my damn barista has to cooperate. if somebody decided i was a stuck up white girl and gave me whole milk instead of soy they could put me in the hospital and cost me days of income. give ppl the food they fuckin order. it’s not that hard.

[voltspice]

Reblogging because it’s so important. I’m “lucky” I don’t have any food allergies or intolerence, but it makes me mad when people take them not seriously, think you are picky or just following a “white girl diet fad”.

90% of people don’t take my cats and dog allergies seriously when I tell them I’m allergic and wondering if a cat or a dog is present at X place. They think it’s just watery eyes. Nope. Well yeah, watery and itchy eyes, but I start wo wheeze and have trouble breathing. They don’t give epi-pen for those (anyway you have to go to the hospital after) just inhaler. It’s no miracle, specially if I didn’t take other meds before.

When people tell you about their allergies or restriction, trust them!

[40yodater]

Reblogging for all the stories here because this is sooo important! 

I have a severe allergy to gluten and relate to MANY of the stories above. My daughter has a severe allergy to milk fat, and I have had to hold her hair many times while she vomits on the side of the road because we couldn’t even make it home from the “accidental” whole milk instead of skim. 

[greenteamoon]

I’m super lactose intolerant so accidental milk is always fun. Severe diarrhea, stomach cramps, bloating, and gas like you wouldn’t believe. Better than death you might say but, I have other medical conditions, so that diarrhea could lead to vomiting(it’s so bad the vomit comes out my mouth AND nose) and dehydration that in turn becomes low cortisol and adrenal crisis. A bitchy barista can land me in the hospital with an intramuscular shot and saline iv. Hun, it takes no time to listen and follow my order. It takes me at least 24 hours to get out of the hospital. Be nice.

[cleverclovers]

I’m allergic to pork. Legit allergic. I can’t count how many times I’ve had to ask it off my food only to receive it with bacon or ham or something on it.

Please respect peoples food requests. It costs 0.00$ to not be a dick.

[prismatic-bell]

I actually have customers who say they’ll only eat at my restaurant when I’m there, because they know I require all policy to be followed, as in “I will kick you the fuck off your shift if you skimp,” if someone says the words “I have an allergy.” I developed our allergy policies, for that matter, because what we had in place before was “I guess you shouldn’t change your gloves … . ?” On my shifts your gloves get changed, that line gets wiped down with a new cloth, paper under EVERY ITEM for the person with the allergy, bag their food separately to prevent contact. If there’s a risk of cross-contamination with an allergen, like tomatoes in the guac because stuff spills when you’re moving as fast as we do, I’ll open a new bag of food. I learned the ingredients in every item we serve so I could advise people on hidden allergens (e.g., there’s a small amount of wheat in our beef as a thickener; we fry with safflower oil). We have a grease pencil to mark special builds and I use it liberally on allergy orders. If all of this sounds like overkill, you’ve never watched a child suffer from anaphylaxis. I don’t play around.

Like, I bitch about my job a lot, but food allergies and special needs are not something I will ever bitch about. Even if you’re a complete asshole I won’t risk contaminating your food. (Although people with allergies seem to be way nicer than the general population, I gotta say.) Don’t do it. If someone’s a petty asshole to you, give them too much ice in their drink. Don’t play with their health.

[tired-philosopher]

DO NOT FUCKING SCROLL PAST THIS P L E A S E

[iambloggingthat]

Reblogging this again because it is important. Doing the right thing has no cost but doing the wrong thing can cost a person’s life. Don’t be a dick, give the person what they ordered

[lapisllong]

As someone with several food allergies of varying degrees of severity, I know the risks I take any time I eat anything I don’t make myself.

I am always very clear and up front with wait staff (no cilantro - I am severely allergic) I ask questions if the menu is vague (are the empanadas made with beef or pork chorizo?) and I scrutinize my food to make sure it is safe to eat, but I still get dairy in my soy chai and actually had a waitress write “extra cilantro” on a kitchen ticket once. I had to send it back with the food runner and he showed me the ticket.

Why do that?! I’m terribly polite because I feel guilty for needing the special order but I do enjoy breathing and would like to continue doing it.

Milk or beef will cause medium distress and I admit that I’ll eat them in small amounts, on occasion, if I’m feeling up to it; apples or lettuce will cause intestinal bleeding so I strictly avoid them; but ingesting even the smallest amount of cilantro will swell my throat, lock my lungs making it almost impossible to breathe and give me aggressive full body hives. I can’t even get to close to it at the store without my heart racing wildly and my lungs tightening like a fist is wrapped around them.

All in all, I do accept the risk associated with eating things I didn’t prepare myself, but I will hold a grudge against any establishment that is staffed by asshats who *deliberately* poison me. I rarely allow a dish I send back to be replaced, never go back to a place that ignored my order and I’ll leave a review everywhere I can.

Please please please do not be the asshat that hurts someone over your assumptions. It may seem petty and amusing to you but it *can* kill.

[elljayvee]

I am allergic to nothing, but giving me soy will make me sick for days, because it sets off my autoimmune disease for some reason.

Giving me unwarned-for dairy will give me severe GI problems, and the inflammation from that will set off my autoimmune disease. (If I know about the dairy, I can ameliorate this by like 90+% easily, like for example I just ate some cheese but since I fed it to myself I took medication and it shouldn’t cause me any problems. So it’s sneak dairy when I ask for something else that’s the problem.) 

Just don’t mess with it when people ask for changes. Or be honest about what you can & can’t do (there’s a restaurant near me which is really great about adjusting most things, but there’s like 2 dishes on the menu they can’t alter in a way that makes them safe for me. When I asked, they were totally up-front about it and now I know).

[seperis]

All of this. And let me illustrate.

I’m medium-sensitive–not allergic–to the solvents used to create decaf and certain artificial sugars (like sweet and low and equal; splenda, not so much, but I still dislike due to classical conditioning from equal experiences).  It’s minor: cramping and extended bathroom use for a few hours and basically just annoying.  Which makes any diet sodas, decaf sodas, decaf coffee, and decaf black teas not recommended and kind of sucky and at worst, it makes me twitchy and nervous along with cramping and bathroom residence.

(I do get the irony that decaf and artificial sugars make me twitchy and nervous while caffeine and sugar calm me down. But it makes it easy for me to tell when I’m given the wrong thing, which by the way is almost never.)

It’s the hat trick of lucky sensitivities; none of these are likely to be given to me by accident ever (it happened once; all other experiences were my own damn fault or an unfortunate Lent sacrifice that taught me the value of not making stupid Lent sacrifices but probably made God laugh a lot).  I don’t have to ask for anything outside the norm of an order.

Which is why I pay attention to people’s allergies and food restrictions.  It’s habit now; even with people I know, even with friends, even with family, I double check before making them anything or feeding them anything.  Sure, I remember, but why take the risk I forget something minor or I didn’t know about some small thing related to it or just didn’t occur to me because I’m in a rush or I had no idea that item actually had a trace of this?  Who on earth wants to be responsible for hurting someone–or killing someone–just by ignorance, much less malice?

Not having allergies is a privilege; not worrying about being given the wrong thing and getting sick or dying is a privilege; not having to be aware every second you are in public around food or other allergens about exposure is one fuck of a privilege.

There is no excuse; deliberately or carelessly ignoring their request is no different than dropping arsenic in their food and thinking it’s funny.  Think I’m being dramatic? Read above and try again; if I had my way, every person who ever deliberately fed or exposed someone to an allergen they were told was a problem would be charged with felony assault and that’s just the minimum.

[labambinafantasma-deactivated20]

If you’re European, in a couple of weeks you will be denied any and all access to fandom contents on Tumblr and everywhere else on the internet. Here’s why.

On June, 20th the JURI of European Parliament approved of the articles 11 and 13 of the new Copyright Law. These articles are also known as the “Link Tax” and the “Censorship Machines” articles.

Articles 13 in particular forces every internet platform to filter all the contents we upload online, ending once and for all the fandom culture. Which means you won’t be able to upload any type of fandom works like fan arts, fan fictions, gif sets from your favourite films and series, edits, because it’s all copyrighted material. And you won’t also be able to share, enjoy or download other’s contents, because the use of links will be completely restricted.

But not everything’s lost yet. There’s another round of voting scheduled for the early days of July.

What you can do now to save our internet, is to share these informations with all of your family members and friends, and to ask to your MEP (the members of the European Parliament from your country) to vote NO at the next round, to vote against articles 11 and 13.

Here you can find more news and all the details to contact your MEP:

https://saveyourinternet.eu

Also, sign and share this petition:

https://www.change.org/p/european-parliament-stop-the-censorship-machinery-save-the-internet?recruiter=50668942&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=psf_combo_share_initial

We have just a couple of weeks to stop this complete madness, don’t let them dictating the way we enjoy our internet.

#SaveYourInternet now!

[theconqueeror]

It’s funny how y'all will reblog any and all US things but when whole Europe might lose access to internet then everything is quiet.

[mmmmmmmilo]

Are you fucking serious? Is this really happening? I’m European and I didn’t know a single thing about this

[labambinafantasma-deactivated20]

Here you have

https://eur-lex.europa.eu/legal-content/EN/TXT/?uri=CELEX:52016PC0593

https://creativecommons.org/2018/06/20/european-parliaments-legal-affairs-committee-gives-green-light-to-harmful-link-tax-and-pervasive-platform-censorship/?utm_source=social&utm_medium=twitterfacebook&utm_content=JURI-vote-june-20

https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/article-13-european-parliament-internet-censorship-copyright-a8408531.html?amp&__twitter_impression=true

https://amp.theguardian.com/technology/2018/jun/20/eu-votes-for-copyright-law-that-would-make-internet-a-tool-for-control?__twitter_impression=true

http://www.wired.co.uk/article/eu-meme-war-article-13-regulation

Also ao3 has spoken out about this

https://archiveofourown.org/admin_posts/10637

[cricketcat9]

FOLLOWERS IN EUROPE! THIS IS FOR YOU ☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼

TAKE ACTION

[stultiloquentia]

Psst the David Tennant/Catherine Tate Much Ado is on YouTube. 

[leupagus]

[astrodidact]

[animegodmother]

Like Hoovervilles.

[little-elf-wanders]

Okay but seriously, do this. This is the number one way to topple narcissist agendas. You want your name everywhere? You want to be adored? Here’s consequence. Now no one will be able to look at you without remembering those kids and how utterly despicable you are. Attach his name all over this shit. Make it impossible for him to get away from it in future years too. #Trumpcamps.

Make this trend. Make it a top google search. Make this his fucking whole presidency. The only thing he did. Trumpcamps.

[labambinafantasma-deactivated20]

If you’re European, in a couple of weeks you will be denied any and all access to fandom contents on Tumblr and everywhere else on the internet. Here’s why.

On June, 20th the JURI of European Parliament approved of the articles 11 and 13 of the new Copyright Law. These articles are also known as the “Link Tax” and the “Censorship Machines” articles.

Articles 13 in particular forces every internet platform to filter all the contents we upload online, ending once and for all the fandom culture. Which means you won’t be able to upload any type of fandom works like fan arts, fan fictions, gif sets from your favourite films and series, edits, because it’s all copyrighted material. And you won’t also be able to share, enjoy or download other’s contents, because the use of links will be completely restricted.

But not everything’s lost yet. There’s another round of voting scheduled for the early days of July.

What you can do now to save our internet, is to share these informations with all of your family members and friends, and to ask to your MEP (the members of the European Parliament from your country) to vote NO at the next round, to vote against articles 11 and 13.

Here you can find more news and all the details to contact your MEP:

https://saveyourinternet.eu

Also, sign and share this petition:

https://www.change.org/p/european-parliament-stop-the-censorship-machinery-save-the-internet?recruiter=50668942&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=psf_combo_share_initial

We have just a couple of weeks to stop this complete madness, don’t let them dictating the way we enjoy our internet.

#SaveYourInternet now!

[staff]

🚨This is a Red Alert for net neutrality 🚨

Last December, the FCC voted to to kill net neutrality. If we do not take action, this will kill the free and open internet as we know it. The internet needs you—all of you—to make sure your voices are heard NOW.

We need all hands on deck for this one. It may be our last chance. If you’re feeling under-informed and overwhelmed about why net neutrality is so incredibly important, we have this handy guide just for you.

Here’s what you can do to save the internet:

In mid-May, the Senate will vote on a resolution to overrule the FCC using the Congressional Review Act (CRA). We only need one more vote in the Senate to win. Write or call your Senators or Representatives. You can also text BATTLE to 384-387 to get more information on how to write to your reps. You can do this, Tumblr.

Join us and dozens of your other favorite companies like Etsy, Vimeo, Reddit, and GitHub to raise awareness with the Red Alert campaign being run by Battle for the Net. Just add this small widget to your Tumblr to let your followers know how they can contact their reps. It’s as easy as copying and pasting the small line of code right into the customize theme page on the web.

This is important. This matters. It’s up to you to help. 

[gahdamnpunk]

“After learning his rival is a woman, his feelings of rivalry turn into something like love.“ 

[loisfreakinglane]

#I’m sooooo underwhelmed and disappointed#they do BatB word for word so why not Mulan which has like perfect source material ://

[sarahexplosions]

if Broadway doesn’t want bootlegs floating around then they need to get their act together and make legal recordings.  you can say all you want that theater is meant to be enjoyed live, but the fact of the matter is not everybody can get to NYC to go to a Broadway show.  not everybody can afford to take the time off of work and buy a plane ticket to NYC and buy a night in a hotel AND get the ticket to the show.  people want to see the shows, that’s why there’s a bootleg market in the first place, but it’s unreasonable to expect that everyone has the time, money, and ability to make it out to the one place in the world to see something on Broadway, especially if it’s a limited engagement.  so record that shit, slap some subtitles on it, and sell it so we can buy it legally.

[actyourshoesizegirl]

Reblogging this every time I see it. Copyright is important for creators but it should not support cultural elitism. Affordability and accessibility of cultural content is key unless we want to live in a very divided society.

[infinrtywar]

so.. I did a thing.

[24hrsoda]

I love this more than I love myself

[uservroomvroom]

I would watch nothing but this for the rest of my life

[finnpoerise-remade-deactivated2]

[gingersnapwolves]

for fuck’s saaaaaaaaaaaaaake

on the upside since JJ Abrams is directing Episode 9, he could very well say “Yeah okay Kylo Ren was lying and Rey’s parents are [whoever he had planned the whole time]”

(Aside: I have no problems with Rey’s parents being nobodies, actually. But I do have a problem with Rian Johnson totally ignoring everything Episode 7 set up.)

[movietvetc]

IM WHEEZING LMAOO

[jazminesullivan]

[coolsaddad-blog]

Roses are red, that much is true, but violets are purple, not fucking blue.

[feels-for-the-fictional]

I have been waiting for this post all my life.

[marzipanandminutiae]

They are indeed purple, But one thing you’ve missed: The concept of “purple” Didn’t always exist.

Some cultures lack names For a color, you see. Hence good old Homer And his “wine-dark sea.”

A usage so quaint, A phrasing so old, For verses of romance Is sheer fucking gold.

So roses are red. Violets once were called blue. I’m hugely pedantic But what else is new?

[ineptshieldmaid]

My friend you’re not wrong About Homer’s wine-ey sea! Colours are a matter Of cultural contingency;

Words are in flux And meanings they drift But the word purple You’ve given short shrift.

The concept of purple, My friends, is old And refers to a pigment once precious as gold.

By crushing up molluscs From the wine-dark sea You make a dye: Imperial decree

Meant that in Rome, to wear purpura was a privilege reserved

For only the emperor!

The word ‘purple’, for clothes so fancy, Entered English By the ninth century

.

Why then are voilets Not purple in song? The dye from this mollusc, known for so long

Is almost magenta; More red than blue. The concept of purple is old, and yet new.

The dye is red, So this might be true: Roses are purple And violets are blue

.

[squeeful]

While this song makes me merry, Tyrian purple dyes many a hue From magenta to berry And a true purple too.

But fun as it is to watch this poetic race The answer is staring you right in the face: Roses are red and violets are blue Because nothing fucking rhymes with purple.

[cryoverkiltmilk]

[young-il-long-kiyoshi]

IT GOT SO MUCH BETTER.

[farrentalon]

My reaction, only with coffee.

[thetiredpianist]

Hang on, need to send this to my literature prof

[flyingmirror]

@deadcatwithaflamethrower Look at this. Poetry and ligustics and history and fabrics.

[deadcatwithaflamethrower]

This is basically Linguistic Porn.