I named this after my dog but I am not a dog.

therapy is a scam

[northstareclipse]

My sibling and I have both done EMDR with very different results so I may be able to weigh in here.

I went into it for PTSD treatment and came out of is re-traumatized mainly because it clashed very badly with my autism. Autistic brains are very prone to looping information so when EMDR involved replaying the traumatic scene and then moving on or visualizing it going differently my brain would instead get stuck looping the scene, plus trying to imagine it going differently was entirely unhelpful because it both felt like denying reality and the only alternate version of events that could ever be soothing was if it had never happened at all, which was too big of a leap from reality for me to even be able to imagine it. There were some other issues, but it all boils down to most therapists don't actually know all that much about autism unless they specialize in it, so the therapist I worked with didn't know in the first place that EMDR has a documented history of backfiring with autistic clients. She was actually quite proud of herself when she went to a seminar and learned that autism effects a person on every level becuase she had always seen is as a sigle piece of a person rather than the whole, she viewed everything through parts work so to her this was a startling revelation that she was excited to explain to me, but to me it was the most obvious Baby's First Autism Lesson being shared like it was world shaking, like yes I'm aware of how my autism works and I'm shocked that you as a professional are only now learning this. It didn't change her approach with me at all and she didn't listen when I told her that something didn't make sense to me because of my autism, despite her belief that she understood now.

My sibling on the other hand uses EMDR for OCD and has had great results. I don't know the finer details as we don't talk much about their therapy sessions, but they've told me it works really well to break up OCD rumination patterns for them.

Thank you! @ocelotegg

[freyjasrage]

I didn't have emdr but they did do the whole trying to change what happens thing to me too and it also retraumatized me! Also when I said that if it pops into my brain I just burn the whole place down they said I wasn't allowed to do that. Like only they themselves were allowed to be in charge of what happens......I feel like this is the antithesis of helping. They also gave me all new triggers. Fun stuff.

[prenbyw]

Spoon in the shape of a fish. Carved from some Sycamore I found just outside Wivenhoe, Essex.

[hinako-supremacy]

op i love your fish so much i made it a png

they are now a school of fish

[zmpl]

good evening! there’s no such thing as voluntary inpatient hospitalization in the united states because even if you walk in and admit yourself you still cannot leave on your own accord. you cannot revoke your consent to being there

[gothhabiba]

somebody says that they refuse to sell out to a corporate sponsor, so instead they make merch. they assert that said merch was "made by a real human person." by "made" they actually just meant the design of the print. any day now I am going to start killing

[gothhabiba]

all of your t-shirts and hoodies are actually made by a real human person whether AI was involved in the production of the print design or not. tch.

[gothhabiba]

do you think there's any information anywhere on this website about who makes these shirts, and where, and in what conditions? well of course there isn't

[gothhabiba]

#Well of course they don’t even consider whether the shirts are made by real human beings because the human beings who make their shirts—#—are not real to them (via @yvesdot)

[symbio-ratio]

I think I know who this is about. How about you actually go talk to the man about this concern instead of vague posting and making vile assumptions about him. He's a very level-headed dude that's trying to support actual small businesses in his area with his merch, and he's never been afraid to call out racism and discrimination in his videos. He would never use a sweatshop.

Bring this up with him and he'd definitely update the website with some clarification on who makes the clothing. But assuming the absolute worst out of someone you seem to know nothing about is dogshit.

[gothhabiba]

#For people curious I believe this is about Miniminuteman #Which is fucking wild considering his stance on things #Actually go talk to the man. He's not that hard to find. #Kinda tempted to go do it myself actually. #Seeing how you went through the effort to find his merch store and didn't try to contact him about this line of questioning #I can't trust that you'll go talk to him now over my little ass reply. #I'll edit the post when I get a response

The "not considering factory workers to worthy of consideration of mention" thing is pretty clear in referring to the print designer as the person who "created" the shirt, & also in taking care to specify on the website that no generative AI was used in making the design, while writing 0 words about the production of the clothing items themselves. This would be true even if these clothing items were not made in sweatshops

I actually already had asked directly by the time I made this post. The merch store uses Fourthwall, which in turn uses a "network" of "fulfillment partners," who source from various screenprinters, who in turn source from various factories. There is no clarification anywhere on the website about whether Fourthwall demands transparency about which factories things are made at, whether those factories are audited by independent parties or what certifications they have, whether they pass those reports on to their customers, etc., which means that none of those measures are in place (if they were, it would certainly be mentioned).

Which means that this man is almost 100% using sweatshops to make his merch. Also he is not going to fuck you.

[ot3]

conservatives and fascists are obviously whom i would consider to be a more pressing political enemy but on a personal level the centrists are honestly more repellent to me on just an irrational gut level. i think having zero interest in anything other than maintaining the status quo because it has not inconvenienced you too much is pathetic, but what's worth is how many of them consider this complete disinterest in how the world around them should operate to be a more Mature and Enlightened perspective than those pesky heated people on ~both sides~ who just can't get get over caring about petty squabbles like "who counts as a full person" and "who deserves food, shelter, and water". absolutely repugnant.

[depsidase]

[hexpatient]

the boundaries bait and switch pummels me every day too. healthy boundaries yayy but not those boundaries. those boundaries are the bad ones. the mentally ill kind of boundaries. so its actually dangerous for me (the therapist) to respect them. grins. i need to violate those boundaries actually. for your mental health recovery.

[official-lucifers-child]

[gay-for-frog]

Rapists, and killers, too? Really? (Those on death-row?) The drug/prostitution problems are just a portion of USA criminals.

[official-lucifers-child]

yes, all criminals. the moment you say “except X criminal” is the moment that people will try to convict their opponents as having committed X crime.

it’s the same thing as what’s going on right now with people equating drag to some sort of child exploitation. “but the children!!” they wail, and people listen because oh, if drag is harming children, then drag MUST be BAD, so we HAVE TO BAN DRAG.

do you understand what i’m saying? you can’t take away the rights of any category of criminal, because suddenly that category will be overflowing with people who totally 100% definitely committed that horrible crime.

[captain-acab]

Just to look at this from one step further back, let's accept the premise. Let's imagine that there is a type of crime that is 1) horrible evil irredeemable universally-agreed-upon bad, and 2) could somehow be prosecuted with 100% accuracy and 0% bias. Yes, even then, those criminals deserve a right to vote.

Do you they're going to like vote themselves out of jail? Vote to make murder legal? What exactly are you afraid of.

Realistically they'll just... vote just like anyone else. They'll help elect city councilmembers they think will better their hometowns, and presidents they think will best serve the country. They might even vote in their own interests! To reform prisons, fund rehabilitation programs, and outlaw predatory practices by telecoms. Are you saying you don't want any of those things?

And even if there were one of those super-duper-unambiguously-evil totally misanthropic death-row convicts, who's scheduled to be execute the very next day and just wants to sow chaos and watch the outside world burn however they can... what's the worst they could do, vote republican?

Taking people's rights away isn't bad because it might happen to someone you like, it's because taking people's rights away is bad.

[heartspocky]

do people think that convicted serial killers are going to vote to legalize serial killing

[queeranarchism]

A lot of the satellite footage of Gaza and Lebanon that you see in the media looks like this

And while that is obviously horrifying to me, I think people ho are still in deep denial can sort of pretend to themselves that there must have been a very big battle there, or a massive fire, or one really big bomb. The 'oh we were fighting Hamas/Hezbollah' bullshit can somehow be wielded to stay in that deep denial.

So I think they should be showing more shit like this:

Like, this makes it pretty clear that it's every house. Systematically. Can you convince yourself that Hezbollah was in EVERY house? For real? Or is it time to start facing that the IDF is deliberately going from house to house destroying a civilization?

[ellebolle]

[ID: Areal before and after photos. In the first we see a small city center, before and after it being destroyed. In the second we see a more spread out network of roads and houses, before and after the houses where destroyed, including some houses far away from everything else. End ID]

[jucomx]

Additionally you can see that basically none of the vegetation between the houses was destroyed. This was a targetted destruction of houses, not a clearing of obstacles in a warzone.

[hyperlexichypatia]

Epstein files discourse has me more convinced than ever that we need to be talking a lot less about "pedophiles" and talking a lot more about child sexual abuse.

I talked about how conservative authoritarians define "pedophilia" as "youth autonomy," but even among less overtly authoritarian communities, the spectre of The Pedophile is, at best, a distraction from the reality of CSA.

"Pedophiles" are a distinct, discrete type of person. They're Not Like Us, but also, they Could Be Anywhere. They're hiding in plain sight among us, lurking and sabotaging. Anyone could secretly one of them. They're queer, they're Jewish, they're vaguely foreign. They conspire. They're a cabal. They have secret signals. They're rich and powerful and secretly control governments, but they're also poor and dirty and hide in alleyways. They're sexually deviant. They're everywhere and nowhere, and you should constantly be on guard against anyone who might be one.

Child sexual abuse, on the other hand, is abuse. It's an action, not a type of person. Anyone can commit it, because it's an abuse of power, and all adults and many other children have power over all children. Any adult has the ability to sexually abuse a child, because every adult has the ability to wield power over any child. Child sexual abuse is part of the continuum of child abuse, which in turn is part of the continuum of abuse, which can be committed by anyone who has the power to commit it.

The Epstein clients are the most prosaic phenomenon in the world. Rich, powerful people trafficked powerless people to force the powerless people to serve them. Rich, powerful people got away with breaking laws. Rich, powerful people uses people as objects -- in this case, as sex objects, but by the same structural mechanisms by which they use people to clean their houses, pick their crops, and assemble widgets in their factories.

It's not A Secret Cabal Of Pedophiles Conspiratorially Running The Government. It's just kyriarchy working as intended. Absolutely, keep up the pressure to release the Epstein files and prove what we already know, but if you're using "pedophiles" in a sentence where "illuminati" would make sense, put down the conspiracy juice and pick up the youthlib juice instead.

[senatortedcruz]

[segamascott]

i would get out and VOTE

[so-much-for-subtlety]

create a safe space for queer voices

[renslice]

engage in peaceful protest and boycott labubu for 1 day

[milf--adjacent]

I'm getting a job inside the labubu asteroid to help make change from within

[freyjasrage]

I'm going to place all my hopes into one politician and make them my deity!

[hotvampireadjacent]

[michaelwaev]

I really think we should stop saying "kid-friendly" and start saying "ad-friendly". We shouldn't indulge these companies and their excuses anymore. I also think that continuing to pretend that this is about "protecting the children" pushes a lot of the blame onto kids and teens, who don't have the political power to push through any of this censorship legislature. Corporations and governments are to blame.

[a-rebellious-waffle]

oh cool the UK government covered up a spike in trans youth suicides after they restricted trans care.

prosecute everyone in that fucking government for murder.

[humanfist]

Trans Youth Suicides Skyrocketed In UK After Care Drawdown; Government Covers It Up

A Freedom of Information request to the National Child Mortality Database reveals that 22 trans children under 18 died by suicide in England

[queeranarchism]

tl;dr: In December 2020, access to trans care for minors in the UK was almost completely halted. Before this decision, the number of suicides of trans minors in the UK averaged 4 to 5 per year. Trans kids were about 5% of all suicides among British minors. In the first measurement period after this decision (April 1, 2021, to March 31, 2022), the number of suicides of trans minors in the UK was 22. Trans kids were 21% of all suicides among British minors that year. Since then, the number of trans suicides appears to be declining somewhat, but the effect of denying care is incredibly clear. The decision to halt trans care for minors killed at least 17 kids that we now of.

[nonbinary-jakey]

guy finding out about the field of pschiatry for the first time

[cheruib]

that comment about how you should not borrow grief from the future has saved me multiple times from spiraling into an inescapable state of anxiety. like every time i find myself thinking about how something in the future could go wrong i remember that comment and i think to myself: well i never know, it might get better. it might not even happen the way i think it will and if it does happen and it is sad and bad ill be sad about it then, when it happens. and it’s somehow soo freeing

[1dietcokeinacan]

[freyjasrage]

Or you could like, acknowledge what could go wrong and try and prepare for it in some way?

If you go to a club look for exit signs, protect your drink, have a friend look out for you.

If you go to an amusement park or wherever bring some food with you.

Etc

I don't think choosing to not worry is the answer here.

This is also kind of funny to see because the ntsb report came out of tnflygirl who crashed her plane because she was terrible at flying. And you can watch her YouTube videos where she really does have a c'est le vie attitude and just doesn't worry about a goddamn thing. And now she and her dad are dead. So like, I dunno man. Some amount of worry is necessary.

Maybe the real lesson is having some control in your life so you don't have to worry spiral.

[thepplprty]

When I was young, I was told about the men who died for my freedom, but I was confused because as far as I was aware from everything I was learning about our history; the United States Military has never once fought for the freedoms of the American people.

In a sense, though, they're right, just not about the US military. The people who died for my freedom were never a part of the military. They weren't white men in uniform planting a flag on land that isn't theirs. The people who died for my freedoms did it here, and they did it in the streets. In our neighborhoods. In our schools.

The POC who have fought—and still are fighting—to be treated like equals both in the eyes of the government and in the eyes of those around them. The women who have fought—and are still fighting—for freedom from the patriarchy and bodily autonomy. The queer people who have fought—and are still fighting—for the freedom to simply exist and be who they are without scrutiny from the government. The Native Americans who have fought since the beginning for the right to preserve their own culture and land. Our freedom fighters aren't white men in green vests halfway across the world, they're marginalized groups in our own front yard.

"Freedom" doesn't look like this:

"Freedom" looks like this:

And they're dying today. Every day is another news story. Every day another person dissapears into a detention center never to be seen again. Every week another innocent person is shot and killed in the streets. Most of these people didn't even sign up to fight. They are mothers, trying to get home. Innocent Americans trying to get to work. Now, an ICU nurse who tried to help a women who got pepper sprayed was executed in broad daylight. They didn't sign up to have their life on the line, but I will always remember them. I will always remember. We cannot forget their names. THESE are the people who died for our freedoms.

And now, Alex Pretti. Trust me, more have died then are on this list, as well.

We cannot remain silent. We cannot allow these deaths to be for nothing. We need to be LOUD. We need freedom now more than ever.