That’s not being pretentious though. That’s literally not what the word means.
Pretentiousness is not about Actually Being Enthusiastic about stuff. It’s about PRETENDING to find and appreciate Depths in something so as to make yourself look Intelligent and Deep.
That’s where the gatekeeping bit comes in. Because people who are being pretentious about something value being smarter than other people about the thing. That’s different to valuing the thing itself.
(Sometimes people can do both. That’s when you get things like gatekeepy fan communities that are also genuinely passionate about their fandom. But the two things aren’t the same and each can exist independently of the other. People can be pretentious without any true passion, cultivating an appearance of Liking Something without actually liking it much or at all-or they can be deeply passionate without any pretence at all.)
To illustrate my point, here’s a hypothetical example:
Ann, Beth, and Cathy all say they are into classical music. But each of them means something different by that
Ann’s interest in classical music is motivated primarily by the fact that she feels that classical music is elegant high-class, intellectual, refined. Therefore being a fan of it reflects well on her. She isn’t really interested in it for its own sake, so her knowledge about may stay fairly shallow no matter how much time passes, if she can get the same social benefit from only an beginner-level amount of knowledge about the subject.
Beth genuinely enjoys classical music; she has Opinions about conposers and pieces, and has over the years amassed a LOT of knowledge on the subject. However, she also feels that loving classical is a sign that she’s more intelligent and cultured than most. She likes conversing with other classical music nerds, but she’s invested in that group remaining a walled garden for people she feels are as intelligent and cultured as she is. She is often shocked and suspicious when someone she’d stereotyped as not on her level turns out to actually also appreciate and understand classical music.
Cathy, like Beth, genuinely loves classical music, has Opinions and can happily talk about it all day….but unlike Beth, she doesn’t think of her interest as a Smart People Thing or a High Class Thing. It’s just her particular interest thst she finds endlessly fascinating and beautiful. Cathy will actively try to get people into classical, or at least try to explain to them in ways they can understand why she loves it so much. She wants to share the joy classical music gives to her, and will probably become upset or demoralised if the general feeling in her community is that classical is ‘not worth their time, especially if they opine that it is only for boring snobs.
Ann is pretentious. Beth is passionate but also pretentious. Cathy is just passionate.
This kind of misuse of terminology is rife on tumblr and twitter, and in my opinion it really needs to stop. It makes it harder to communicate, and associates positive or neutral things with strictly negative ones. We all remember that tweet Grimes made where she claimed to love being mansplained to; that’s the kind of misunderstanding that this can produce. She used the word as if it meant ‘being infodumped to by a man about his interests’ when the actual meaning is ‘being condescended to by a man about things you know perfectly well already’. And don’t even get me started on widespread misuse of the word ‘codependent’….
Words are important. You’re not being pretentious by having a deep interest, no matter how nerdy or unusual that interest is. You’re being passionate. Don’t insult yourself by claiming the love you feel is a character flaw.