#noromo

queer as a three eyed deer

[hands2muyself]

[hometoursandotherstuff]

Corvid Christmas tree. Simple, but beautiful.

[thebeautifulsoup]

[beholdingslut]

this from the guy who wrote the sting pain index, a scale he constructed after letting himself be stung by insects

[beholdingslut]

“why did i start this list” pleaseeeeeee this is so funny

[caracalliope]

his descriptions were extremely on-point, and frankly inspiring when writing a hurt/comfort scene

Instagram poets could never!

[lobautumny]

For those who want it, here is the entire list:

Anyways, dude's 1,000% a huge masochist. Nobody just describes pain like this unless they're enjoying it.

[babeluda]

This guy reads like 'was made to write Fragantica comments but unfortunately does not enjoy perfume'. He found another niche, good for him

[bogleech]

I can see why it's tempting to think there's a kink thing going on when someone is this vivid, but that's also just what expressive writing is supposed to look like. Documenting how different stings feel has scientific value, so someone has to do it, and venoms can all feel very very different from one another; not a simple matter of "this burns a little" vs. "this burns a lot." There really are all these other odd sensations. Some pain can feel "smooth" and some can feel "sharp" or it can be "textured." I don't have any masochism, I don't even like being a little too warm, but this is exactly how I would try to describe these kinds of things and I understand precisely how most of these feel from his wording. If you're trying to communicate a feeling or experience the reader might have no familiarity with you've just gotta write it like you're a wine taster.

[blackwatersinkingship]

Whale Shark Lamp Whale Shark Lamp Whale Shark Lamp

Cardboard and glue era

String era

[blackwatersinkingship]

Shape and paint era

Light!

Didn't take any pictures of wiring all the test bottles, rest assured it was boring as hell and no i dont know how many there are. There's also glass beads!

Yay yippey wihooo

Whale shark lamp Whale shark lamp whaleeee shaaaaark laaaaaamp

[felixjoyful]

@queerlyloud

[bitchesgetriches]

Everything Is Becoming a Bank

Most major corporations — from airlines to social media platforms — now aspire to become unregulated banks. Bankification today accounts for

[apatosaurus]

This is a long read, but worth it. Some takeaways:

-Don’t use “buy now pay later.” The fine print isn’t what it seems.

-The fine print on medical financing, store credit cards, and contactless payment is also not what it seems.

-Payday loans are still predatory, even when offered by your employer

-Rewards programs are an income stream for the companies that run them. The points systems are manipulated so that the house always wins. They depend on people leaving money in rewards accounts and not in interest-bearing traditional bank accounts.

-Electronic payment apps like VenMo are not banks. You don’t earn interest. Your money is not protected.

-Your financial information is not private if your money is not kept in a regulated bank.

-None of this is regulated by the FDIC. Your money is not protected if it is held by a non-bank doing banking business. Our economy is not protected from the collapse of financial institutions that are not banks.

-The Biden administration was making progress in increasing accountability for non-banks operating as predatory financial services providers. The current administration is reversing those protections to favor corporations.

[mierac]

Oh boy.

 A third of younger Americans hold their savings on nonbank tech platforms like Venmo

PEOPLE! DO NOT LEAVE YOUR MONEY IN VENMO OR APPLE PAY OR ANY OF THIS SHIT. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD GO FIND A REAL BANK OR A CREDIT UNION.

If Venmo were to close tomorrow all your money would vanish. There's no insurance or guarantee on any of these things. I know banks aren't great but legit banks will have the "FDIC insured" logo on their doors and websites, which means if my bank goes under tomorrow I still get my money back. Also I guarantee you there is a credit union somewhere in your town, go find it.

You can leave some money in Venmo or Apple pay or whatever, but NOT ALL OF IT for the love of God.

[jenniferdub]

FYI this is what the logo looks like and Apple Cash is FDIC insured.

[idroolinmysleep]

No, it's misleading. Go to Green Dot's T&Cs, search for "FDIC," and you'll come across this:

your funds are insured up to $250,000 by the FDIC in the event Green Dot Bank fails

In the event Green Dot Bank fails. Meaning the only time your money is protected is if Green Dot goes under. Not if Apple goes under (unlikely, granted). Or if Apple changes its terms (entirely possible). Or if you got scammed. Or if Apple freezes your account because they think you're the one scamming. Or any of the other countless mishaps your money could suffer. Green Dot is insured, but Apple Cash is not.

This is the disclaimer (highlighted) you see before you set up Apple Cash:

[heywriters]

I really need my followers, especially younger ones, to read this.

And DO NOT get store credit cards, they are money sucks and difficult to cancel.

[mihai-florescu]

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Except, critically, at bedtime.

[findersfeeders]

Ravings and urges get miscoded over time. Let’s say you’re thirsty, and you live in a strawberry field. Strawberries contain some water and a bunch of sugar so, over time, you may start to crave strawberries when you are thirsty because you get a reward and some relief in shorter time from the need starting than the trek to the stream. This can happen for every need: sleep, food, whatever.

Trevor Noah has a great tip, that when he craves ice cream at night he breaks it down into parts: I want something cold, I want something sweet. He drinks a glass of cold water then waits to see if he still has the ice cream craving. Usually he doesn’t.

So listening to your body isn’t “follow every urge” but “decompose the urge to discover the underlying need.”

If you always feel like getting cozy in bed you may be: cold, dehydrated, and/or malnourished (maybe a need for high calories that are bioaccessible…not processed).

If you do not feel tired at bedtime you may: need to eat dinner earlier because your body is still digesting, need to exercise or go outside more during the day, get the fuck off your screen for an hour so your brain can enter sleep mode.

Hope this helps someone.

P.S. notice i said nothing about neurodivergence. Not that it’s not a likelihood but the over-pathologization of behaviors prevents us from taking simple actions to improve our wellbeing. Also, these tips are pretty accessible and applicable to most brain variations.

[brightlotusmoon]

[sergeantsporks]

"Aro/Ace person gets given a love potion" story but instead of them being immune or whatever, it DOES work, and they realize IMMEDIATELY that they've been fed a love potion because this feeling is so wrong and foreign but everyone keeps laughing off the idea of it being a love potion because "they were probably just a late bloomer" or "no, you just finally found the right person!" and it's just a horror story about how no one believes them even though they know, they KNOW this isn't right and they can't stand it.

[strictlyquadrilateral]

the first time i experienced sexual attraction, it came on so suddenly and unexpectedly that i thought i was going insane. like, full on "what did you do to me" levels of Like Nothing I Had Ever Felt Before. i think i said "what did you do to me" verbatim several times before i finally got a handle on myself a few days later.

if you regularly experience sexual attraction, you probably don't see the big deal. if you've never experienced it before, you're probably picturing something like "really wanting to have sex with someone". but at least in my experience, sexual attraction should probably be classified as a (situational, thank goodness) cognitive impairment. i could tell my decision making skills were being affected, though to what degree they were being affected i didn't realize until much later.

the sensation itself is (and was) kind of pleasant, even while i was going "hang on, this isn't right, this isn't how i normally act, this isn't how i normally think". there was a huge part of me that wanted to just go with it, to just do whatever felt good in the moment; the more i thought about how weird and new it felt, the more distressed i became, but the more i just felt what i was feeling, the better it felt and the less i wanted to care about my brain being hijacked.

a few days later i finally felt like i was properly in control of myself again, and luckily nothing had horribly exploded in the meantime. and i, personally, did in fact just find the right person or what have you, but the fact remains that those few days did feel terrifyingly like being drugged or under some sort of a spell, even without anyone making claims about what i was experiencing. there's absolutely some great horror potential there--it's just that while the external denial of internal experience is for sure a massive part of it, i feel like you're underselling the horror of your mind itself betraying you to the love potion's effects even as you're watching it do so.

[kineticpenguin]

At the risk of sounding anti-intellectual, I think that college should be free and also not a requirement for employment outside of highly specialized career fields

[kineticpenguin]

At the risk of sounding like an effete intellectual, I do actually think you should be allowed to just take college courses indefinitely

[yourunderwaterskies]

technically you can, if you don't care about degrees.

Free Harvard courses. Free Courses from Stanford. Free Courses from MIT. Free courses from Yale. Free courses from Princeton.

Free courses on Coursera.

Free Courses on EDx Free Courses on Alison

For paid, there's The Great Courses+/Wonderium. 20$ a month for unlimited courses.

When searching, the phrases you're looking for are Massive Open Online Courses (MOOCs), or you can do a general search of say, "free online college courses." Oh, and so you don't get surprised like I did, have an avoid: Hillsdale College is a conservative Christian site and not a valid MOOC place. Sign up with them and you will get things like THIS IS WHY THE LEFT IS TURNING YOUR KIDS TRANS AND GAY in your inbox.

[aloeverawrites]

@yourunderwaterskies I wanted to say thank you so much for adding these links, seriously, they've been life-changingly helpful to me-

And I also wanted to mention that humanitarian organisations have free courses too, like the Red Cross on international humanitarian law.

Humanity in War

Learn more about the Red Cross International Humanitarian Law (IHL) Program to train policy professionals, government officials, academics,

Kaya

Kaya is a free humanitarian learning platform which offers hundreds of training opportunities across a range of key topics, including the hu

[kingslionheart]

HEARTSTOPPER — 3×01

[raavenb2619]

[ID: At the top, text reads “Aro blogs be like”. Below is the solidarity meme. Five people form a circle by holding on to the wrist of the person in front of them. Each person’s hand is labelled “reblogging from another aro blog”. End ID]

[it-is-only-a-novel-deactivated2]

*perpetuates the problem*

[aromanticofficial]

official aromantic hive mind post

[yeehawpim]

having a ponder about being aromantic and the kinds of friendships or qprs I might want to have

[aromanticaardvark]

[image description: image of an Aardvark with grey, yellow and white in the background. Text says “Parents say they just want you to be happy and get married” at the top and “Oxymoron” at the bottom.]

[heartless-aro]

Here’s an old aro meme from 2011, which was before the rise of the “Ace Discourse” around 2015 (which may have started out as backlash in response to The Trevor Project deciding to include asexual people around that time). This meme format uses an aardvark to represent aromantic people. At the time, axolotls were often used in similar memes to represent asexuals, so the aromantic aardvark was chosen as the aromantic equivalent of the asexual axolotl. Aardvarks were considered to be somewhat of a mascot for the aromantic community for some time, though they have become less popular as a symbol in recent years.

[brionysea]

everyone's all about queer subtext until it's aromantic or asexual

[thearoacefromspace]

With the Percy Jackson show out I want to remind/inform both old and new fans that Artemis and the huntresses are canonically aroace.

Cabin 8 is not “for the lesbians”, it’s for us. Rick stated that NO romantic relationships are allowed, and if two huntresses fall in love (like Emmis and Jo), they have to leave the hunt.

Let us have our representation. We do not and should not need to share when our representation is already extremely limited.

[hands2muyself]

if we’ve got aromantic trending anyways, can we take this moment to remind everyone of our old symbols?

- white ring on left middle finger

- bows and aros

- artemis (see above bows and aros and also her famous lack of interest in relationships)

- yellow roses: theres argument over specific flower languages, but yellow roses are somewhat popularly known as platonic love

- zucchini (slang for platonic crushes aka squishes)

ace-tied

- dragons (general aspec symbol)

- the suit of cards for various placements in the ace spectrum

- ♥️ alloromantic /♦️demiromantic / ♠️ aromantic / ♣️ grayromantic

[sleepy-vix]

"i love you" should be platonic by default and if you want to use the phrase romantically, that's on you to clarify

[that-bastard-with-all-the-bones]

WERE ANY OF YOU GOING TO TELL ME THERE WAS SUPPOSED TO BE A PHYSICAL REACTION TO HOT PEOPLE??? LIKE HEARTRATE RISES AND ALL THAT. THAT’S REAL??

[that-bastard-with-all-the-bones]

I’ve been dramatically exaggerating my reactions to hot people for YEARS because I thought that was what everyone did. For COMEDIC EFFECT. are you telling me all the squealing and people getting flustered and those ‘not to be a lesbian but oh my god’ tags were Not A Joke

[that-bastard-with-all-the-bones]

At least dinosaurs. Are real

[that-bastard-with-all-the-bones]

A small collection. Happy ace week you guys

[mckitterick]

the only person in the world who’s ever made me feel like this is my beloved (and that’s EVERY DAY)

[mckitterick]

Happy Ace Spectrum Week, folks!