I'm a fucking unicorn

She/her | Omni under the bi umbrella | Sometimes I have experiences that make me believe that some people don't believe in the existence of bisexuals (don't get me started on omnisexuals). Or are just queerphobic. But, you know, there will be other queer experiences here too. A bit of positivity.

[autiebiographical]

One issue I have with autism being called a superpower is that people will take that and use it as a reason to not accommodate us.

If you see your autism as a superpower that's awesome! I don't want you to change just because other people misuse your views.

[wayneradiotv]

my time on bluesky has been so fucking funny to me. having an existing base + my dog seems like an algorithmic cheatcode and anytime i post him, regardless of the caption, the algorithm starts serving it to anyone's discover feed and i get a slew of replies from 45-70 y/o's that just see a dog

[wayneradiotv]

live well william

[depsidase]

[thecarvingwitch]

Stay safe, guys

[gendernewtral]

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it’s three taps anywhere on the screen on a smartphone!

[our-trans-punk-experience]

This is important punks. Deadly important.

[hazey-magnolia]

I’ve texted their hotline before. It was super helpful and even if it hadn’t been the amount of time you’re there can be enough to let your urges fade and stay safe.

[bloomshroomz-deactivated2026041]

I want to talk a little bit about the use of the word "preference" in bisexual (and broader m-spec) spaces. I think that the word is used in a lot of different ways to mean a lot of different things, and sometimes it unintentionally conveys the wrong thing.

Plenty of people who identify as bisexual, or omnisexual, or polysexual, etc. are attracted to certain genders more frequently or more intensely than others. They might also be attracted to different genders in different ways.

For example, if someone is attracted to many types of women, but only very specific types of men, they're attracted to men and women differently. This difference also probably results in them finding women attractive more often than they find men attractive.

A lot of people would describe this as a "preference" for women, but as a bisexual/omnisexual person who experiences attraction in this way, I don't thinks that's necessarily the right word for this. It might be for some people, but while my attraction trends towards women, I wouldn't say that I prefer my partners be women.

Because that's all it is for me: a trend in my attraction. Not a preference. It's much easier for me to find an attractive woman than an attractive man (according to my own tastes, of course), but at the end of the day, if I find you attractive, I find you attractive, regardless of your gender.

I wouldn't prefer that the men I'm attracted be women instead, because I don't prefer women; they just tend to be more attractive to me than men are. But there are some seriously cute guys out there, and my predominant attraction to women doesn't erase that, nor does it make my attraction to men feel less important than my attraction to women. It's just less frequent.

I noticed this problem with the word "preference" after I started dating my boyfriend, when he said "I'm not what you prefer."

It made me realize that... No, I don't have a "preference" for women. I wouldn't prefer that he be a woman, and I wouldn't prefer to date a woman over him. I'm attracted to women more frequently than men, but my attraction to him is not trumped or lessened by my general trend of attraction to women. I find him so fucking attractive.

You can also have a preference which goes in a different direction than the trends of your attraction. For some time, despite my attraction trending towards women, I preferred to date men. That where my boyfriend is currently at as well. So, clearly, there is a distinction between the trends in one's attraction and the preferences one may hold.

Are there any other bi/m-spec people who feel this way about the use of "preference" in discussions of attraction?

[imafckingunicorn]

Omni here, I hate the word preference. I'm attracted to all genders but it feels different depending on the gender, I'm not blind for gender, that's why I use omni instead of pan. But I don't have a preference.

I've seen a lot of "ugh, why do I have to be attracted to men too" memes and I hate them. Either is fine and I don't prefer one over the others.

[ktae]

you will never beat the biphobia allegations until you radically accept bisexuals who are stereotypical. you must accept the sluts, the polyamorous, the girls with straight boyfriends, the questioning, the confused, the ones who want to be another couple's unicorn, the ones who are in a phase and will eventually identify differently, and even the ones you suspect aren't truly bisexual but just want attention. take people at their word when they tell you who they are. let them live and express their identity as they see fit. happy bi visibility day

[elodieunderglass]

Also how many types of people do the stereotypes cover. I mean. By the time you list all the top ten most Insufferable Bisexuals you’ve listed a whole village of perfectly normal people

[foone]

You really gotta admire Sappho. She loved women SO MUCH that not only is her own name used to mean "likes other girls", but her whole island got it.

We say people are lesbians, because they're "from Lesbos". You know, the women-loving-women island.

Why is that what people think of when they think of Lesbos? Oh, because one woman was so gay that we're still feeling it two and a half millennia later.

That's pretty fucking gay. Good for her.

[same-pic-rick-roll]

@sapphosdickandballs

What is your opinion on this?

[hereliestimothydrake]

asexuality is not just a “white people” thing

aromanticism is not just a “white people” thing

to all the aro/ace poc out there: you are not faking it, you are not “self hating”. you are just as real and valid as any other aro/ace and any other poc.

- signed, your fellow aro/ace poc

[certifiedsexed]

Certified Sex Ed Post.

[imafckingunicorn]

Sometimes being LGBTQIA+ means cheering, shouting, showing up covered in rainbows, protesting, proudly living as ourselves.

But sometimes it means prioritizing your own safety. Removing pins, changing shoelaces. Not putting your pronouns on your public insta. Not talking about who you like or who you don't like. I hate it. I want to be free to be myself without having to be scared but I can't. I can't.

[victusinveritas]

All of these are by @mattxiv on Instagram.

Here's to all the shockingly single bachelor uncles or the two very close friends who just happened to be girls and are only living together until one of them finds a man (they lived together for forty two years).

[another-exclus]

Everything is like “QUEER history” and “List of QUEER young adult books” or “Top 10 QUEER movies” and queer this and queer that and for the love of god please just say LGBT.

But queer is more inclusive

[a-tired-humanist]

And faster to pronounce if you are talking instead of writing.

[another-exclus]

It’s not more inclusive, and if your excuse of using a slur as a blanket term is “it’s faster to say”, GENUINELY what is wrong with you

[a-tired-humanist]

It’s called economía del lenguaje.

It’s also the respected academic term?? The acronym isn’t static and it’s usage is varied by things like generational difference, location, and knowledge of the community. Even just in the U.S. in the last few decades the common usage gone from GLBT to LGBT to LGBTQ, to LGBTQA/LGBTQIA/LGBTQIAP/etc (Which, let me tell you as someone who has given presentations in the past using these updated acronyms, are all real mouthfulls), to LGBT+.

Also yes, queer is more inclusive! Especially coming at it from an academic standpoint, people didn’t always use or identify with the terms we use now and you can’t always try to cram them into our modern perceptions of sexuality. We can argue for years about whether a famous historical figure was gay or bisexual or straight and trans or whatever, but if we can all agree that they were somehow queer then using that term allows us to move past the debate and into productive discussion. And not everybody everywhere shares the same terms for sexual and gender identity, or even the same concepts of those things, so queer really is a more inclusive term in a lot of cases.

Like yeah if you’re talking specifically about gay or trans people you can just say gay or transgender, but if you’re talking about more than one identity or someone who doesn’t conform to our perceptions of ‘LGBT,’ or a person or people whose identity you don’t know, queer is just the better word.

[jabberwockypie]

“That’s SO gay”, “Oh my god, you’re not a LESBIAN, are you?”

Your words are slurs, too. Why do you get your words, but I don’t get mine? What makes you so special?

I’m here, I’m queer, go fuck yourself.

[levynite]

queer is not a slur, stop drinking the TERF koolaid

[darthsuki]

[matronofthevoid]

every time one of you fools spout about ‘queer is a slur’ a terf laughs because their fucking plan to make that word ‘taboo’ is fucking working you dipshit.

[letmetellyouaboutmyfeels]

I did not get my degree in queer literature for you all to keep pulling this bullshit.

[moki-dokie]

baby gays,,,, i beg of you to learn your queer history and stop listening to terf bullshit

every single one of our labels has been used as a slur against us.

terfs and -phobes are always going to try and hurt us with what we identify as. but the fact remains these are OUR labels and always have been.

we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it.

[hyperactivehedgehog]

I don’t know if this is just because I’m not American but I’ve never heard queer used as a slur. Ever. Meanwhile gay was the insult in the 2000s here. Everything you didn’t like was ‘soo gay’. Queer wasn’t even a word most of us knew back then.

It just baffled me that people would think an identifier is automatically a slur just because someone uses it to mock someone. If we did that gay would be a slur. Stupid would be a slur. Autistic would be a slur.

The reason people are upset about the word queer is that it’s a unifying term. You can say you’re queer and all people will know is that you’re part of the community. But you can’t say you’re LGBT, you have to say you’re gay or trans or ace. They don’t want you to be ambiguously queer. They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.

[tapacamino]

yeah in the 90s and early 2000s kids would call each other “gay” as an insult. But no one ties themselves in knots over whether “gay” is a slur. So yeah, please ffs learn your history.

[anarchistmemedistro]

[rabidchild67]

They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.

[realgoogleclassroom]

no, no, so they can decide which kind of undesirable you are

[our-queer-experience]

hello!! i hope it’s okay asking this here, but what’s the difference between bisexual, pansexual, and omnisexual? i don’t mean this in a bad way!! i mean this in a “i’m confused about my own sexuality and i don’t know which i am” way. i remember reading a few years back that bisexual meant you liked two or more genders, sometimes with a preference, pansexual meant you liked the personality and didn’t have a preference for gender, and omnisexual was like pan except you did have a preference. but i also remember that i read a few years back that the identities are really similar and it’s up to you to choose which label you are more comfortable with! i think i might be bi but i don’t really know, and it’s harder for me to figure this out since i don’t really know the difference between the identities. i am very nervous to ask this, i hope you are okay with me asking this! again i don’t mean this in a bad way i am just confused about my own sexuality!

there isn’t really? i mean, theres differences in the labeling- bisexual is attraction to all genders with preference, pansexual is genderblind, omni is… something in between. while you can identify however you want i do think this is an example of how labels are just words we put on things we are already feeling and experiencing and those labels give us language to describe that. the difference is up to each person ig

[imafckingunicorn]

Hey op, omnisexual here! It's really personal preference and the definitions are pretty individual, so depending on who you ask, they might all mean exactly the same!

For me I feel like I'm into all genders, but my attraction feels different depending on the gender of the person. I'm not blind for gender and I'm attracted to gendered attributes, but I don't have a preference. Other omnis might have preferences or describe their sexuality as omni because of the preference and that is a completely valid definition as well! I still see myself as bi and I see omni as a microlabel under the big bi umbrella. Others don't see it that way and that is again completely okay. It's up to you what you feel fits for you and what doesn't.

That's what it all comes down to, really. Use the label or labels you feel most comfortable with at the moment, change them whenever you want and don't stress out too much about it.

Hope I could help you a little :)

[imafckingunicorn]

"Wait, you're nonbinary and bisexual? But bi means two."

The friend that this was about and me simultaneously shaked our heads very violently. The others that were with us seemed quite perplexed.

The guy who said it understood when I explained it as: "Two: My own gender and not my own gender."

So hey, that's a victory

[vampyrluver]

If anyones interested in learning about the first black vampire short story, published in 1819, heres a link to the wiki, its called The Black Vampyre, and its about a former slave turned vampire who seeks revenge on his slave master. Its actually a first in many categories!

[structureoflove]

you can read the story itself here

[ineachretelling]

Not only is it the first Black vampire story, it's the first comedic vampire story, the first story to include a mixed race vampire, the first vampire story by an American author, and probably the first anti-slavery short story. Some scholars believe that the text was written in response to John William Polidori's The Vampyre.

[fan-art-ic]

Here is the actual pdf from the site since you have to click around from the above link to actually get to it

[our-queer-experience]

you, blogger posting about biphobia and bi erasure. your challenge is to talk about the real life issues bisexuals face without watering them down to fandom problems. if you fail the saw trap goes off and saws you to death idk i didnt see the movie

[imafckingunicorn]

I'm very lucky to have experienced very little real life biphobia and bi erasure.

Sure, a "psychic" told me that they can feel that I'm not really bi. Sure, I had to explain what my pride bracelet is more than once. Sure, my openly bi friend with longer haur was asked if he's "still gay or a woman now" when he never came out as gay, only as bi.

But in comparison to what could be I was very, very lucky.

[alvodra]

Me: "Yeah no, I don't have any (internalized) biphobia

*watching a video featuring all kinds of queer identities, including a bi person*

Me: "Wait, they somehow don't belong there as much as the oth- oh shit"

I apparently see myself as less queer than "fully" gay peeps. Yay. Let me work through this for the next weeks? Months? Years?

Yeah anyways, I know I'm not less queer. But I guess it's better to recognize it and work on it than to be kicked in the butt by it later.

[feywildwest]

employees should be allowed to steal, actually

[feywildwest]

idk. yesterday was a slow day and at the end of it, I still stared into a cash drawer, one of three, that had more than my rent in it, even if you only count the 20s. I spent a lot of that day trying to calculate in my head how many hours of work equal one pair of pants, let alone how many hours of work equals the fun thing I want to do next month.

I feel a cough coming on, because I work in a drug store, and all of my customers are sick. I always feel a little bit sick, now. I can't afford to eat well enough to keep my body healthy. Cough medicine is worth two hours and 20 minutes of work. Our store probably bought a case of cough medicine for they price we're selling one box. If this cough gets worse, I might have to call out, which will cost me more than the medicine in the long run- but that doesn't give me the money to buy the medicine right now. I stock a case onto the shelf. I don't buy any.

A mom wrangling three crying, sick kids enters my line and sets two types of children's medicine down, says they're both on sale and thank god for that. I ring her up, and she gets very quiet, because she misread the sign, and her total is twice as high as she was expecting. Her youngest screams in the cart, because she's burning up with fever. Her mother very quietly asks, please, she's so sorry, if I could please take the more expensive one off her total.

I agree, I move the box below the counter, and when she's not looking, I slip it into her bag. I pray as hard as I can that if she notices the "mistake" she says nothing, because I so desperately want her to have that medicine. The store has lost profit at the cost of a child's health. I don't bat an eye. This is a terminable offense. If I'm presented with the same situation tonight, I'll do it in a heartbeat.

The myth of evil employees stealing from the company falls apart the second you realize the company would shoot you dead to make a profit. This isn't two equal players, one of whom is stealing from the other. This is someone fighting for survival versus someone fighting to make an extra million. It's not equal.

Employees should be able to steal, actually.

[koicifer]

Bro I teared up oh my god bro

[gothicprep]

why is your cat green?

She’s built different 😌

[gothicprep]

Look i tried to laugh it off, but I haven’t stopped thinking about this message because… my cat literally isn’t green

like where is the green

[gothicprep]

Oh Christ

[sapropel]

This is the color your cat is

[lazygravez]

colors i eyedropped directly from op's cat

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

I drew a tree using only colours eyedropped from OP's cat.

[karakats]

every time i see this post all i see is some green alien kitty with antennae so i had to draw it

[bogleech]

I originally thought those were supposed to be mushrooms, implying that this cat is moldy

[tanuki-pyon]

Moldy forest cat

[gothicprep]

i'm happy y'all made fan art of my cat. i tried to show her and she just rubbed her face on my phone

[kob131]

Pet your cat OP, 50% shot it helps.

[headspace-hotel]

the first time I reblogged this, like a few weeks ago, it had like 4,000 notes. why do people keep insisting tumblr is dead

[headspace-hotel]

i had a DREAM about the green cat last night. not sure what she was up to but. nice to meet her :)

[sumi-sprite]

GREEN CAT IS BACK ON MY DAAAAAASH

[druid-priest-nikephoros]

We Love Green Cat