letβs talk about something yβall are not ready to talk about.
1. a pedophile is not an inherently bad person.
2. a pedophile can be a woman.
3. a pedophile is a diagnosis, not a synonym to βevilβ, βrapistβ, βmurdererβ.
hell, i bet you probably know someone who is a pedophile, but you have no idea because the only pedophiles you hear about are those in news and media who did something terrible.
and thatβs the thing - being a pedophile is not inherently a bad thing. acting upon those urges is a very bad thing. but as someone who has fallen through the sift of psychiatric/psychological care for years (iβm not a pedophile, just to make things clear, iβve got other problems), i can guarantee that majority of them just donβt get the care they need to keep things under control.
a number of confessions show that being a pedophile is actually a scary fucking thing if youβre a decent human being and suddenly you realize something is THIS terribly wrong with you. and you know itβs wrong and you feel like human garbage and you canβt tell anyone because how hard is it to come out as someone queer? jesus fuck βcoming outβ as a pedophile will likely get you killed on the spot.
you search the internet for help, but all you find is newspaper clips of the word βpedophileβ used insted of the word βpredatorβ or βrapistβ, for people who did some unspeakable things and, mind you, often even arenβt really pedophiles. everything you read and hear tells you to just curl up in a ball and die. youβre a worthless piece of shit because your brain is wired like that and thereβs nothing you can do.
and we all just imagine this sleazy 50+ balding guy who collects pics of kids on his dirty computer, but you know who can also be a pedophile?
a 14yo girl realizing she has a crush on her friendβs 6yo brother. a grown up woman with a family, who canβt stop thinking about a kid she saw in the store. a 20yo man in his first real relationship, unable to tell his girlfriend whatβs wrong. a heavily suicidal teenager who realizes too well whatβs going on and canβt live with the burden because thereβs no one to tell.
majority of pedophiles never act upon the urges. some get over it, live happy lives with families, go to work and pay taxes. some find help and work on it their whole lives through extensive therapy. some get together as couples to not fight the fight alone. and some commit suicide because they canβt live with themselves because they never found the help they needed.
iβm writing all this because this morning i came across a Slovak post on IG titled βwhy does our country protect pedophiles?β and Iβm just too tired. too tired to explain to every single person that no, our countries (a reminder that Slovakia and Czechia work similarly) donβt give a flying fucking SHIT about pedophiles. if they did, we would have medical care for them, we wouldnβt use the word βpedophileβ as a synonym for rapists and murderers and we would make our lives and THEIR lives better by giving them at least something to grasp on when their minds are about to break.
our countries protect (often rich and powerful) white men. and those men happen to use the most vulnerable of our society for the most vile shit you can think of because kids unfortunately canβt defend themselves and their parents are often brainwashed into sucking these rich, powerful white mensβ dicks.
a pedophile deserves a dignifying and happy life. a pedophile deserves love. a pedophile deserves professional medical help. but thatβs something youβre not ready to accept.