former trad now kinda mad with a dash of rad

dv survivor and honestly very moderate

[oneheadtoanother]

[leaningawayfromyou]

my dream person is what i call a tri-bi-uni

it means a bisexual, bilingual and biracial person who is a unicorn because i will never be able to meet them because they don't exist

[leaningawayfromyou]

My grandmother scrolling through Facebook shorts, using her Alexa machine and giggling at ten year old cat memes.

Listening to someone else engage in short form video content is so incredibly overstimulating

Cheers, to videos of ducks waddling around to the chicken dance song

[randomfriendlyloser]

I wish the concept of "sexy" in media leaned more into being sensual rather than vulgar

[bruntalism]

[bitter-wolfsbane]

[uququ]

the pagan origins of the fourth of july

[leaningawayfromyou]

a reading from a book in my grandmother's collection -- New French Feminisms An Anthology (1981) Edited and compiled by Elaine Marks and Isabelle de Courtivron. Translated and selected to introduce french feminist writers to American readers.

translated by Isabelle de Courtivron, originally published in Le Quotidien des femmes (1975)

[sicilyfart]

Pedophiles Are So Gross And Horrible And If You Have Raped Or Sexually Abused Someone I Believe You Should Be Dead

[kal-elkorner]

I agree. I do think you should replace the word pedophiles with predators. Predators can be pedophiles but not all pedophiles are predators.

[iamanewvagina101]

You people have empathy for the wrong groups of people 😭 It is only on this app where you’ll find someone has a problem with the statement “Pedophilia is bad”

[leaningawayfromyou]

I truly thought they were going to say like “child rapists aren’t always pedophiles therefore we should use the term predators” but nope.

[gnomebutch]

why do so many males sincerely value their cock briefly feeling nice over the wellbeing of women. how are people not constantly upset over this it’s sooo fucking normalized.

[sprinkledsalt]

I’m simply tired of people’s unwillingness to hold more than one thought in their heads at a time. Trump being an asshole to Italy’s PM doesn’t mean she, herself, isn’t a huge right-wing asshole. Trump launching an illegal war against Iran doesn’t mean its government isn’t an oppressive theocracy that has brutalized women, murdered its own people, and funded terrorist groups like Hezbollah and Hamas to oppress and kill other groups of people in the Middle East. The Israeli government being really terrible doesn’t mean Hezbollah and Hamas aren’t terrorist groups and that terrorism isn’t bad. You really don’t have to repost le epic memes supporting any of these people or entities. I would say that the average user on here has the mind of a child, but that’s an insult to children.

[leaningawayfromyou]

hi. i’m also a DV survivor. have you ever had TIMs downplay/mock your abuse? i wasn’t even abused by a TIM, just a run of the mill stupid man, but when i made some friends in university after breaking up with him, these two “nonbinary” dudes genuinely laughed at some of my abuse anecdotes. as if the hell i went through was just some sort of fairytale or standup bit. i can’t keep pretending to be in community with people like this. people who benefit from belittling women and can’t empathise with our pain. when i called them out for their misogyny they started calling me names (foid, actually. just foid. of all names. not even bitch. fucking foid) and thought i’d laugh along with them. i did. it hurt. in order to be seen as human by them i had to be “one of the boyz”. one of them genuinely admitted he does not see me as female. but these are my allies, right? non-men, right???? right???? we can’t have anything. seriously wouldn’t have peaked at all if not for this

First of all, I'm sorry that others have mocked your pain and trauma; that's never acceptable behavior.

I have never experienced the sort of harassment that you are describing. It's not super clear to me whether you are still in university and still around these men, but that is a legitimate reason to complain to a higher-up, whether that be a club organizer or a resident assistant. Even if they don't do much of anything, that is the sort of behavior that even non-radfem women would find heinous and cause them to avoid people like those you reference.

I keep my abuse and trauma close to my chest. I told my immediate friends and family, and I mentioned it to college officials when I returned to campus to complete my degree because my abuser was still trying to find ways to get in contact with me. A big reason is that it's such a sensitive part of myself that I don't want to be vulnerable with just anyone. I also don't think the majority of people can really wrap their minds around domestic abuse.

Honestly, a big reason for my distaste with TRAs is that they seem to be the sort in my experience who spread myths about mutual abuse or the inaccurate statistics about domestic violence in lesbian relationships - i.e., people who are in lesbian relationships have experienced higher rates of domestic violence. -- It's not just because of that, but again, TRAs aren't at all understanding of explicitly female issues.

[spirulin4]

why do men hate going to the doctor so much

[cyber-junkyard]

we yearn for just crawling into a dark place and dying alone like a dog

[spirulin4]

why don't more of you do it then

[leaningawayfromyou]

when my tumblr title says former trad i need you to know that i was a former trad. former trad in the sense that i was engaged to a man and i was going to convert to his chosen form of Christianity.

a trad in the sense that i decided to drop out of college to be with him because that's what he asked of me.

a trad girlfriend in the sense that i would stay in his apartment all day long, cleaning for him, doing his laundry and being bored out of my mind for him.

a trad in the sense that i truly believed that i would never have children and be home with my children if i was not with a man who made it a priority for his significant other to be home

a trad in the sense that i fell in love with the first man in college who gave me attention and desired my undying loyalty

a trad fiancee in the sense i truly was going to marry this man and i deeply had to be with this man. This man i was planning to be the father of my children, who would not let me sleep in peace, who drank constantly after he finished work.

a trad in the sense that i thought truly that my worth came down to how pretty i seemed to my partner and knew that he took pleasure in how lovely i looked to his family and coworkers. a trad in the sense that if i gained weight, complained like a cunt or looked unattractive that i would be talked down to or worse

a trad in the way i called my dad asking him to come over and help me leave while my fiance was at work.

a woman in the sense that i learned rather late that there's more to my life than my appearance and how men perceive me

[radfemyjasdottir]

This is Emily Willis, an infamous rape on tape actress who suffered a cardiac arrest in a drug rehab facility. She suffered brain damage while unconscious and is now in “locked in syndrome”. She cannot walk or talk and probably never will. She is 26.

Naturally, men are asking if she will keep doing porn in this state. She cannot consent, at all. Her “doing porn” would be her getting raped, having it filmed, and then uploaded for other men to masturbate to. Some are even volunteering themselves to rape her.

Never ask me to ever give a single fuck about men’s rights while they’re saying this shit without shame on the internet. They're admitting they either masturbate to rape or would rape given the chance. This is the demon that the porn industry creates. Women and children, disabled or able bodied, dead or alive, have to suffer from this disgusting and inhumane industry. A porn actress dies, or is left permanently paralyzed, and all men say is “I wish I could fuck/rape her” “I’m going to masturbate to videos of her clearly suffering”. This just proves my theory that the ultimate male sexual fantasy is rape. And I’m supposed to care about Men’s Mental Health?

Emily, who’s actually Litzy, was my friend, though a brief friendship. And I must add that she was ALSO sex trafficked by a John who was involved with Girls Do Porn, which had been investigated and found guilty of human sex trafficking.

[antiporn-activist]

This is what you support when you defend pornography.

[femalegothic]

the thing about misandry is that it isn't real not only in the sense that women do not have structural power as a class over men but also in the sense that women to not have the class consciousness necessary to support any substantial misandrist sentiment beyond some individual women disliking some men

[298320482349204821999]

so much kink shit is just men trying to justify their desire to hurt women and pretend like they can go into a room, hurt someone, get off to hurting someone, and then walk out as if that doesn’t mean anything about who they are as a person

[leaningawayfromyou]

why are men so obsessed with strangling their female partners during sexual intercourse? why do men feel the need to hit women prior or during intercourse? why do they want to see us debase ourselves for their pleasure??? they are obsessed with having to debase someone around them and for the majority of men that's their wives, girlfriends and children. We are accessories to their pleasure and that's it.

[cheaphalloweencostume]

i’ve just seen the craziest image

[cheaphalloweencostume]