Mariendall

She/They

[slavery]

[macbethz]

Fuck I’m at a fencing tournament and literally a minute after I reblogged this my dad told me that he talked to the point people and I’m probably going to win a medal.

[seananmcguire]

BURN BAGEL BURN

[gothiccharmschool]

OH WHY NOT?

[harukami]

I need to follow up to say I reblogged this last night, and this morning I got some of the best news of my life, like, a life dream come true news thing.

Bagel what are your powers

[acabosetotal]

FUCK, I though it was just another lucky meme but LISTEN. Since a week ago I was waiting a phone call to confirm me if I got a job or not in my university. I reblogged this yesterday’s night “just for fun and because I don’t want any bagel to be mad with me”, and today’s afternoon, while I was losing my time as always, the professor I was supposed to work with called me and asked me for my personal information to start working with her.

THE BAGEL POWERS ARE WAY TOO MUCH FOR THIS WORLD

[token-white-friend]

I GOT A JOB THE DAY AFTER MY QUEUE POSTED THIS THE FIRST TIME AND I JUST REALIZED IT WHEN I SAW IT AGAIN HOLY GOD

[noodle-dragon]

The bagel hasn’t let me down yet!

[tentacles-and-coffee]

Let’s see what you can do bagel

[emositecc]

I need your luck, bagel

[danineedshelp]

….. Bagel?

[sunsetsandsunshine]

Bagel.

[doodlemeariver]

Roasted bagel

[themunflower]

Why the Hell not, Bagel, please help, my package is late.

[jtranageder1]

it’s here so why not see if it’ll do anything

[arorea]

[genericpuff]

was literally thinking the other day that i could really use one of those lucky golden potato posts right about now

this is obviously a burning bagel and not a golden potato but i suppose it’ll do LOL

[liongrl321]

lol yes

[the-real-ecosia]

Well I can’t really retweet is because this is tumblr 🙃

[realsafari]

kinda need this rn.

[totallycirclek]

please bagel

[ravewing]

hi bagel please help me out with #rares on #animal jam thanks

[angst-is-yumyumm]

Pls babel

[alatariel-gildaen]

Don’t let me down, bagel

[celestial-fang]

Sure, I need something nice in my life too

[vaspider]

Sorry. Any tips youve learned over the years on how to efficiently make the most use of not being online/avoid getting sucked back online shortly after logging off?

Oh!

Well. I set up a Shabbat/Vacation routine on my phone that prevents me from opening or getting notifications from my work apps.

Do New Things. Go somewhere you haven't been before. There are probably a million free events near you. When you do new things, your brain registers them differently than doing the same things over and over. It's part of why time seemed to move slower when you were a kid.

Talk to people. Small talk is social glue, and in appropriate doses, it gives you dopamine. People are communal animals. You need community and online only goes so far.

Eat with people. Eating is an important communal human activity. It matters.

Engage your senses. Take a bath with things that smell good. Wear clothing with pleasing textures.

Make art. It doesn't have to be good. It just has to be art. Draw, paint, sing, dance.

You have the ability to make your life An Experience. It doesn't have to be expensive. Put your cheese, bread, and olives on a cutting board and look up online how to fasten a chiton and use sheets to have a Fancy Roman Emperor feast with your friends. Make tea every night with your partner. Get books out from the library and set yourself a reading goal using one of the 2025 reading bingo cards out there.

The more that you engage different parts of your brain when you're offline, the more your brain remembers those events.

If nothing else, remember that you are, at the end of the day, a mammal. Treat yourself like you're a beloved pet or a priceless and rare zoo animal if it helps you get over the way our society shames us for meeting our animal needs. You need enrichment in your enclosure. You need proper medical care. You need appropriate food and enough rest. You need socialization. You are your own zookeeper. If it helps, you can trade Keeper Responsibilities with a friend and take care of each other.

Good luck!

[katerinaaqu]

When people read the scenes of the Iliad where Achilles is singing THIS is what I have in mind! You can never convince me otherwise!

As @achillesisnotcomingdown and @h0bg0blin-meat have pointed out before or we discussed before I so think Achilles would be a contra tenor! And this guy Jacub Józef Orlińsky gives me so many Achilles vibes that is almost uncanny! And as we discussed with @smokey07 on the fact that Achilles would definitely look like Michelangelo's "David" and this guy looks like it in a way that is not even a joke anymore is like fantastic! And as per @hermesmoly discussion on emotions and Achilles and @deadbaguette

Last but not least my beloved friend's amazing comments @yararts and our development of our stories using inspirations from everywhere for our project (GO CHECK IT OUT GUYS IS AWESOME!)

And the passion man! And the expression! Yup! You can't change my mind!

[h0bg0blin-meat]

LMFAOOO this image is so funny because I imagined like everyone fighting and then Achilles starts singing loudly out of nowhere everyone else is like O.O

XDD

[katerinaaqu]

Hahahahahahahahahaha! Right?! Hahahahahaha! I mean it COULD happen! Hahahaha

[fluffyartbl0g]

we cant hug in person but weve hugged a million times in my head ; u ;!!!!!

[jarondont]

@luthi3n @tunguszka20 @lyculuscaelus and like literally all my moots/everyone from the writing server

[mydnyteraven]

@mircsy @reinanova @fangirlofallthefanthings @prompted-wordsmith @prompted-wordsmith

[mircsy]

@abandoned-raccoon @ardenzia777 @lunaedulce @smoolio @tagzpite @anniflamma @owinous @elianzis @simoondraws @julsunart

[aropride]

u used to be able to put a dvd in your computer. and then u could watch it

[aropride]

i know about external disc drives. i want it built into my computer. i want to be able to put a dvd directly into my computer and watch it

[mariendall]

I want to be able to feed my computer without the need of life support machines.

[brightlotusmoon]

[siryouarebeingmocked]

Pretty sure those last two are normal.

[himmelheim-deactivated20260210]

Also there’s no time specification — it isn’t the same when a friend doesn’t speak to you at all for 5 months or 3 years.

[leviathangourmet]

What makes these symptoms different in ADHD people is the severity. While a neurotypical person may experience these symptoms occasionally, an ADHD person will suffer them continuously to the point where it interferes with their ability to function.

It’s not that they sometimes forget they put things away, they’re always forgetting they put things away. 

They don’t sometimes lose touch with a friend, they continuously forget to check in and communicate with people who are not a part of their daily routines. Hell, half the time I forget I even have a brother because we barely ever see or talk to each other. (Even though I mean to talk to him but then, y’know, the procrastination…)

[brightlotusmoon]

Thank you, @leviathangourmet for wording it in a way I was too tired to. This is what people don’t realize about the disorder and dysfunction part of ADHD. It’s chronic. It’s constant. It’s consistent. It’s every day. It’s all the time. Literally, it impedes every day life. It’s only normal within its own very particular parameters. It has no time specification, because time blindness, aka time agnosia, aka dysautochromia, is literally a symptom of ADHD. If a trait happens so often that it impacts your life and makes living difficult, it’s a problem.

Saying things like “oh, that’s normal, everyone does that, you’re not special” genuinely undermines, devalues, destabilizes, and minimizes actual experiences that aren’t necessarily fun. Don’t do that. Don’t claim something is ordinary and normal just because your experience is occasional. The point is that we are divergent, we are out of the ordinary, we are not part of everyone.

Maybe this is my autistic bluntness, but why do neurotypicals and allistics (ADHD is exempt) really think that “everyone does this” is reassuring?

[brightlotusmoon]

A long overdue correction: dysautochronia. With an an N.

[jenroses]

There is a huge element of “out of sight, out of mind”. I don’t ask for bins or closets, I ask for shelves and hooks so I remember things exist. The best way for me to stay close with people is to live with them.

My best friend from school and I are very similar in that we have always been able to go months without speaking and then pick up as if we never stopped. We’ve been friends for over 40 years and there have been actual years between conversations but when I needed her she was there, every day, for several months. And when she needed me I was, too, 20 years earlier.

Social media has been helpful in keeping people closer than my innate hermitism would allow, but algorithms are evil because they let people fall by the wayside.

[shadowbends]

If this sounds familiar to you but you don’t have ADHD, poor object permanence is an issue that affects people with Autism as well.

[what-even-is-thiss]

I hate I when I get an idea for a novel. Like oh no here starts the slow sad slip n’ slide to dissapointment again.

[what-even-is-thiss]

You ever been 30,000 words and hundreds of research hours into a project when you realize hey wait a minute. I don’t like this. This is bad.

[fassina]

Ok adding to this though that even though it is extremely relatable, this is a KNOWN thing with professional writing. 10k is often referred to as "having a pot boiling" or "having a stew" - it's the point where you often see an idea coming together and it's exciting! But THEN... 30k-50k is the point where that fun has to start coming together. In theatre, it's usually week 3 of a 5 week rehearsal period where you have to stop talking about the play and really get it all up on its feet and cohesive. In art, it's committing to what are going to be the final visible layers of colour and texture, in sculpture the moment where you're truly at the point of no return with carving out the shape.

It usually feels really bad. Because this is the point it becomes real craft. It's so, so difficult to really be able to identify if it's truly not going to be anything or you're just in the hardest part of the process, and really the only way to know is to... write through it. Write it badly. Or, if you really can't, put it in a drawer and come back to it after a few months of breathing space. Remember, you can fix so much in the edit, but you can't fix nothing!

(I say, fully looking at my latest draft of my book and considering throwing it in the bin. But my editor said exactly this to me, so I'm passing it along.)

[tjalexandernyc]

this is 100% true. I've written 6 complete novels at this point and every single time around the 40k mark I feel lost in the woods. Nothing seems to be working. I feel awful; I can't sleep. I keep going even though I'm convinced I'm going to fail. And then... It's like leaving a tunnel and getting back out in the sunshine. Stuff starts coalescing. Things that weren't working have obvious fixes. I "can write" again, except I was writing the whole time. It just felt hopeless in the moment. It's not. You just gotta get out of the woods.

[ariaste]

Ah yes the Slough of Desponds. Professional author with 13 books, and this is normal for me as well. (Checking for tension issues usually helps!)

[mushyooms]

buying him time

[notsolonedesert]

OH THIS IS SO BEAUTIFUL I'M ABOUT TO FAINT

[dankmemeuniversity]

[nitocrisss]

dont get me wrong this is #mood but just try eating a piece of bread with salt. please, seriously. ok? at least a tiny bit. salt helps with nausea, bread calms the stomach acid. if you really can’t face eating anything, just lick some salt like a damn elk, then wait and see if you can manage the bread. make some broth if you’re into that kind of thing. no spices, yes salt. if you’re feeling too weak and shaky to do much, just have a cup of tea with sugar (energy) and lemon (again, good against nausea). nibble on the lemon first, it will feel good, but don’t overdo - citric acid on an empty stomach is a majorly bad idea. take care of yourself, you’re the only you we’ve got

[owlinadayswork]

“You’re the only you we’ve got”

[i-say-ok]

ok!!! ♥️

[yeahokayillreblogthat]

Yeah okay ill reblog that!!

[vegetascock]

This is so damn sweet and also good to know. I regularly have this struggle

[bisexualbaker]

Tips for baking with arthritis and other hand-related chronic pain

With some changes to techniques, a careful selection of kitchen tools, and tips from fellow bakers, the joy of baking can live on.

I luckily haven't had to deal with much chronic pain or hand pain yet, especially with regards to baking (crochet is another story). That said, these look like some pretty solid tips! There's also some in the comments section.

[bisexualbaker]

As this link nears five hundred notes, I'm just... very quietly touched at how many people are sharing it. Whether they need it themselves (or think they will someday), or know someone else who might need it, the fact that all of them are sharing the sentiment of "I want the people who love doing this thing to be able to keep doing the thing that they love" is... yeah. It makes me happy.

[tlirsgender]

Throwback thursday to when I was like 12 and I was putting out new writing DAILY...... Like entire Chapters of my then-current wips just, over an afternoon. What the fuck was I on

[tlirsgender]

Nobody:

Me, age 12, just started drinking coffee:

[tlirsgender]

[bagh0st-deactivated20240223]

I drew 14 pictures during the day, and wrote 32 pages a night. Now I can’t do shit.

[audliminal]

A huge part of this is because you've gotten better! And now, when you're drawing/writing/doing whatever creative task, you're not just mindlessly throwing thoughts at your paper, you're thinking as you do it. Children can churn out a lot more work because it's not yet refined, but when you're older and have more practice, you work with all these thoughts running through your head about form and shape, color palettes or word choice. Now, you're making a dozen decisions with every moment of work, and you're also questioning the decisions you've just made, wondering if you can do it better. Don't beat yourself up about producing less work now than you did back then, because every sentence or shape involves a lot more effort for you now, than it did when you were ten and brand new to this hobby.

[deathcomes4u]

Also you have a job now and the never-ending bullshit that is laundry and dishes and feeding yourself.

[bokettochild]

okay, I actually really needed to hear this

[sapphoshands]

A lot of fiction these days reads as if—as I saw Peter Raleigh put it the other day, and as I’ve discussed it before—the author is trying to describe a video playing in their mind. Often there is little or no interiority. Scenes play out in “real time” without summary. First-person POV stories describe things the character can’t see, but a distant camera could. There’s an overemphasis on characters’ outfits and facial expressions, including my personal pet peeve: the “reaction shot round-up” in which we get a description of every character’s reaction to something as if a camera was cutting between sitcom actors.

When I talk with other creative writing professors, we all seem to agree that interiority is disappearing. Even in first-person POV stories, younger writers often skip describing their character’s hopes, dreams, fears, thoughts, memories, or reactions. This trend is hardly limited to young writers though. I was speaking to an editor yesterday who agreed interiority has largely vanished from commercial fiction, and I think you increasingly notice its absence even in works shelved as “literary fiction.” When interiority does appear on the page, it is often brief and redundant with the dialogue and action. All of this is a great shame. Interiority is perhaps the prime example of an advantage prose as a medium holds over other artforms.

fascinated by this article, "Turning Off the TV in Your Mind," about the influences of visual narratives on writing prose narratives. i def notice the two things i excerpted above in fanfic, which i guess makes even more sense as most of the fic i read is for tv and film. i will also be thinking about its discussion of time in prose - i think that's something i often struggle with and i will try to be more conscious of the differences between screen and page next time i'm writing.

[ginnyzero]

In my limited experience, I've noticed if you try to put "interiority" into your story, you start being accused of "head hopping." And "head hopping" to many writers is a "deadly sin." Especially if you're writing any version of third person.

Mostly because third limited and third omni are so fuzzy around the edges of where they meet, no one can really tell you what it means and it will vary from writer to writer and editor to editor.

So what ends up happening is they strip it all out and it becomes this very, yes, cinematic type of experience, an ultimate 3rd Omni if you will, even if they're doing it in 1st POV. In some cases, this is leading to what I call a lack of "physicality" where the author won't even describe what the character's body is doing emotion wise. "I hate those cliches, they pull me out..." I hear. I respond, "your book is flat and lifeless. I don't feel any weight with these characters. I don't feel anything with them." Interiority and physicality give heft to the writing as much as pretty descriptions and snappy dialog. It's simply a tool in a toolbox that needs to be practiced and learned like any other.

What I love about reading is I get to know what the character is thinking and feeling. This is how I connect to them and empathize with them. In general as a writer, the two most important things I try to come up with for a character is a) what do they have in their pockets (if any) and b) what do they think about before they go to sleep? This has not steered me wrong yet.

Of course I have yet to write a story about a writer who thinks about stories before they go to sleep b/c that would feel way too meta. Anyways, bless, and happy writing.

[shutyourmoustache]

So you don’t have to watch the video every time you need one of these hacks immediately:

1. If you feel nauseated, smell rubbing alcohol.

2. If you feel like throwing up, start humming.

3. If you have a runny nose, put your tongue to the roof of your mouth and press your thumb to your forehead for about 20 seconds.

4. If you have a headache, pinch the webbing between your fingers and rub it back and forth for about 1 minute.

5. If you’re lightheaded from standing up too quickly, clench your butt cheeks.

6. If your arm’s dead/has the pins and needles feeling, rock your head back and forth.

7. If you need to pee badly, think of sex to trick your brain and relieve the pressure.

8. If you have a migraine, stick your hands in ice water.

9. If you wanna calm your racing heart, blow on your thumb.

[natandacat]

If you're lightheaded while standing up, opening and closing your fists is also something to do. Also try stretching before getting up!

(These are vasovagal syncope tricks, to get the blood pumping where it should be)

[shutyourmoustache]

Thanks for adding another hack!

I used the humming one when I randomly started dry heaving today, and that shit worked so fast!👌🏼

[yamino]

A trick I have used often when I stand up too fast/start to see my vision black out is to quickly hold my hands up over my head.  A doctor taught me this, it has always helped!

[evengirlierballs]

welcome to 2023 :) happy out of touch thursday

[transgendercyborg-deactivated20]

[mid-maryland]

[whyenn-reader]

Not to go "if you have ADHD just go for a run" or anything, but I am so serious if you have ADHD you should regularly go outside, no headphones no phone no nothing and just stand and observe for a while until you've had enough. Not until you get bored, until you've had enough. Drink your coffee without watching tiktok. Have a bath without music. Turn down the volume in your headphones. I cannot overstate how much learning to be bored is cruicial with ADHD. Life is not just about pleasure, no matter what your dysregulated dopamine system thinks, and when you teach your brain to be okay with being bored, then boring tasks stop feeling like torture. By letting yourself be bored you are yoinking your system out of the high/low binary and allow for the highs to feel like actual highs and not just anything that isn't low. I am so serious go literally touch grass. Listen to the sounds in your flat. Stimulate your body the way it was designed. It lowers anxiety and makes you feel like you're real and best of all it's completely free

[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

I really wish more ADHD mental health care told you WHY things like this matter to our quality of life.

The Hyperactivity in Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is NOT about being physically hyperactive, it's about having a "hyperactive central nervous system" because it's a form of inheritable dysautonomia. The problem with disautonomia, especially the ADHD kind, is that it makes boredom flag to your nervous system as a THREAT, triggering hyperactive and maladaptive central nervous system processes like fight or flight.

But dysautonomia kills you that way. Literally, part of the reason our average life spand increase on stimulents is that it helps manage risk-taking impulsivity that can get us killed by accident, but the other part is that stimulents can regulate a hyperactive CNS such that it is functionally (while impacted by the stimulent) NOT dysregulated anymore. And PHYSIOLOGICALLY that is essential because the physical outcomes of dysautonomia can reduce your life span by YEARS if not decades through self-perpetuating hypervigelence, endocrine disruption, and adrenal fatigue.

So when the ADHD brain goes stimulation-seeking and a doctor tells you to practice mindfulness, it feels like being told "hey go stand in a functioning boiler until you can stop thinking" rather than WHAT IT IS which is the process of re-teaching your body what is and isn't safe.

Standing outside making mindful, non-interpretive/moralized observation of the world helps your brain and body re-acclimate to the idea that absence of that frantic "busy" feeling isn't a threat or a risk to your safety, and gradually reduces the level of distress that just hanging out somewhere triggers for you.

Learning WHY this stuff was being suggested and understanding what it was actually supposed to do went a long way towards changing my relationship with my ADHD. I am FAR more functional now, far less prone to shame spirals and rejection sensitivity, hell, I can **sit physically still for near on an hour at a time** now without feeling like I'm going to crawl out of my skin.

So yeah. Go outside. Let the world narrow around you and take deep breaths until it stops feeling claustrophobic or like you need to climb walls. Learn how to let little sensations become big ones like the way the heat of the sun on your skin starts as a gentle warming and be omes a unique collection of sensory moments depending on how it lands on you. Listen for sounds under sounds and let them fade in and out as you move your focus from one sound to the next. Enjoy. Move on. Rinse and repeat.

When you no longer feel like the world is actively killing you, it's a lot easier to navigate it.

[whyenn-reader]

S++ tier addition to the post, thank you tumblr user butts bouncing on the beltway

[jwasontodd]

[mslockheart]

I always have to start the New Years with this picture.

[mokeonn]

I think at some point in time we need to sit down and start explaining to artist who want to make a career out of art that there are FAR more options than just "living off of commissions" and "posting my art online and praying I get paid for it".

[mokeonn]

There's also far more options than joining a specific, difficult to get into industry.

[mokeonn]

I don't know where this idea that the only way to make a living off of your art online is to simply do commission work, become a social media star, or join an industry comes from. I've fallen into this pitfall before as well, but I don't understand how it came to be.

I broke out of this mindset, though after I started helping a working artist. She had been an artist for over 40 years and started at a young age, and her main source of income? Doing local craft and garden shows. She had owned a gallery, done gallery work, done charity work, and now mainly works in using upcycled materials to create all sorts of products.

I used to think that my only options as an artist were to become popular enough that people would commission me or just give me money via patreon, but that's not the case. You can sell at craft fairs and conventions, you can provide a specific service, you can create assets and asset packs people can pay for, and you can create all sorts of physical or digital products to sell... and that's just the tip of the iceberg!

If you are constantly turning art into a numbers game to see how you can make enough money by posting the right™ stuff online at the right time, you're only going to make yourself miserable.

The best way to make a living off your art has NOTHING to do with popularity, getting lots of engagement online, or besting an algorithm, it's all networking. It's all about finding the right people who want what you make. If all you focus on is your follower count and post engagement, you're just going to end up hating art.

"Having fun doesn't pay the bills", who told you that? Why did you believe them?

[mokeonn]

I'm seeing people reblog the original post without the addition and I think yall should reblog this version instead

Also I made a mistake, the artist I work for has been working for over 50 years, not 40.