the way sexual harassment and assault is normalized sickens me
I saw on modern family (my brother's comfort show he puts on every night) that some young teen forcibly kissed another young teen, a girl from one of the "modern families" (Alex)
her first kiss.
When she went to tell him off later, about how it wasn't right. It wasn't about that you do not fucking kiss people against their will without asking
It was about "my first kiss was supposed to be THIS WAY!!!!" framed as it was something that went against her plans for romance with another boy. Like the base concept behind the misogyny of "why do you want your tubes tied?? LOL what abt ur future husband??"
he kissed her against her will again, right after a snarky quip of "you can have your kiss back!" And it was framed as "he had the guts to do it and she loved it!" Because she quipped back and kissed him again
The way that these narratives normalize this as something that happens to girls as a silly "boys will be boys" thing is disgusting and absolutely immoral. And when it does happen to ppl, they think it's okay it happened (not their fault) and that they should do it back (NOT their fault) because they secretly liked it (NOT THEIR FUCKING FAULT.)
Gaslighting yourself is apart of their narrative. If you're upset it is for a reason. Its not "nothing" and you deserve to speak on it. To be heard. To have the option to say no. To have it be respected NO MATTER WHAT.
This was such a small scene in the whole episode but I am healing from more rape and aexual + relational trauma. INTENSE GASLIGHTING. from those that did that to me all spring. And this fucking homeless shelter where if you ask about the fridge being replaced bc it's leaking on EVERYONE'S FOOD and making the whole fridge smell bad. And that we have to they're out food. "oh it's just other people's food that went bad. So now we're going to to through everyone's food to prevent this ^_^ and we'll just throw out your guys' gross food to fix it" (my jaw hit the floor typing this bc i did not realize how fucking bad the gaslighting and systemic violence has been until i said this. Holy fucking shit. Holy shit)
This makes me want to scream but I'm in bed at the shelter














