Tip: this struggle is often related to either a history of emotional abuse (i.e. a parent, authority figure, or other key person in someone's life would react angrily or with other disproportionate negative reactions to expression of disagreement or conflict) OR to a person exaggerating the degree to which others are upset with them (this exaggeration or overreaction is common in neurodivergent people, especially those of us like me who have a high sensory processing sensitivity which can have effects like making it feel like someone is raising their voice or even yelling when they are only trying to convey mild emphasis. And thus we wrongly conclude that they are more upset than they are.)
Processing your emotional trauma, and learning about differences in communication style across different types of neurodivergence including degrees of empathy and sensory processing sensitivity, can both make it easier to navigate this stuff and to learn how to comfortably accept conflict and handle it constructively instead of just running from it.
