The amount of violence against women committed in the name of protecting women from violence is insane.
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The amount of violence against women committed in the name of protecting women from violence is insane.
Trans Man: *presents himself in a way that does not 100.00% conform to repressed heterosexual cis male norms
Person: Youâre not really trans! You want to be a femme! Youâre a confused woman!
Trans Man: *presents himself in a way that renders himself indistinguishable from a repressed heterosexual cis male
Person: Youâre not really trans! You want to be a butch! Youâre a confused woman!
PENIS
The following imagined dialogue is inspired by real experiencesâŠ
Me: *is in a small group setting
Person: Ha ha. We are so neurodivergent.
Other people: Ha ha. Yes, we all of us present are so neurodivergent indeed.
Me: Thatâs cool. Iâm not actually neurodivergent, though. That said, Iâm glad to to hear that Iâm not harshing the vibes.
Person: But you donât dress cool? You make corny jokes? You have nerdy interests? You get, like, really excited about things sometimes? You sometimes donât adhere to gender norms?
Me: Yes. That doesnât make me neurodivergent, though. Maybe what youâre picking up on is my chill vibes? Iâve looked up to quite a few neurodivergent role models. Iâd like to think that their influence has helped me be less neurotypical-normative in my worldview.
Group: UhâŠBut you if you vibe with us, that means you must be neurodivergent.
Me: Contrary to popular belief, neurodivergent people are not inherently inscrutable or burdensome to neurotypicals. Some neurotypicals are just unwilling to accept that friendships take work.
Person: Neurotypicals donât use big words or philosophical concepts like you just did!
Me: Okay, so some very much do. That said, I understand that some people may think Iâm odd for doing or saying certain things. This experience is common to most people. The alternative is not having a sense of self outside of how one is perceived, which is not mentally healthy or sustainable for anyone.
Person: That worldview is inherently neurodivergent! You must be thus.
Me: Being disproportionately disadvantaged by neurotypical-oriented systems as a minority group decently defines the neurodivergent experience. Neurotypicals, however, may still find societal systems suboptimal for themselves and oppose them. Neurotypicals may also care about neurodivergent people and oppose neurotypical-oriented systems for that reason.
Person: A strong sense of Justice is a neurodivergent thing! Youâre in denial.
Me: Neurotypicals can have lots of empathy. Neurotypicals can have passionate and/or uncommon interests. They can be in academia. They can be anti-capitalist. They can even be on tumblr or ao3.
Person: Why wonât you just accept that youâre neurodivergent. You clearly lack insight into your own experiences.
Me: *Sigh
Me: I relate to many experiences of both neurotypical and neurodivergent people. I can relate to experiences of both these groups of people because they are people and I too am a person. I also donât relate to many experiences of both neurotypical and neurodivergent people. This is again for the same reason.
Group: ???
Me: I am not neurodivergent because I have never needed that language for myself. I have never required such a word to receive the things I needed to participate in society on par with other people. I have never required such a word to understand and love myself.
Donât get me wrong. I have suffered. I have experienced hardships. I understand that neurodivergence is a bunch of interwoven spectrums. I understand and find merit in the social model of disability. Further, I donât find anything negative in someone wondering if I might be neurodivergent.
What I donât like is being told what I am and what my experiences are. When I assert what my experiences are, it sucks to be told that I lack self-awareness, am repressed, and am just generally stupid.
Imagine telling a self-actualized straight man who likes musical theatre and regularly washes his hands that he is gay. You can tell how unhelpful that is, right? All I want is to be respected, understood, andâŠbelieved. Disregarding what I say about my experiences undermines that.
Person: Well, I havenât been evaluated for [neurodivergence], but I really think I have it. If you donât have it, I canât have it. Iâm really struggling and hearing you say that you donât have [neurodivergence] invalidates my self-diagnosis.
Me: OOOOHHHH.
Me: *Finally understands whatâs going on
Me: Some masked neurodivergent people can come off as less âweirdâ than some neurotypical people. Internal experience is not the same as external expression. Your self-diagnosis is valid! Your ability to hide your needs from others in no way invalidates those needs!
Person: *Is processing
Me: You know how most bi people are raised to believe that theyâre straight?
Person: ?
Me: Bi people can grow up believing that their bi experiences are hetero experiences. So when a hetero person says to them that they themselves are having a hetero experienceâŠthe bi person imagines them as having a bi experience.
Person: OOOOHHHH
Me: Yeah. Neurodivergent people whoâve been raised to believe that theyâre neurotypical can grow up assuming that neurotypical people are having neurodivergent experiences in much the same way. After realizing that they are neurodivergent, it can be a challenge to sort out what actual neurotypical people might be experiencing.
Person: So, Iâm rawdogging life in a way that youâre not and not even giving myself credit for it.
Me: Yeah
Are mixed honorifics/pronouns a thing?
Like, Iâve heard of he/him lesbians (immaculate), but are Mr. she/hers happening yet? I just think it would be neat.
Concept:
Superman being impeded by getting shot, but not because of the impact of the bullet on his body.
Superman being impeded by getting shot because guns and superhearing donât mix.
Baby shall not live on wire mother alone, but on every cuddle that proceeds out of the body of Cloth Mother.
I have a parasocial relationship with my softest blanket. I love it so much, but it doesnât know that I exist. It doesnât know anything. Itâs a blanket.
Management: Iâm improving operational efficiency by removing unnecessary positions and tasks.
Employee: Those positions and tasks are necessary, though.
Management: No, theyâre not. I know what Iâm doing and Iâm helping.
Employee: You clearly do not know what youâre doing, let alone how anything works here, and youâre doing the opposite of helping.
Management: Iâm just streamliningâ
Employee: NO.
Management: Iâm reducing spending!
Employee: So?
Management: So, we have more money.
Employee: *Who* has more money?
Management: Us.
Employee: Who, specifically?
Management: The company.
Employee: Who at the company, specifically?
Management: Some higher-ups in management.
Employee: Where is this âmore moneyâ for âhigher-ups in managementâ coming from?
Management: The removal of unnecessary positions and tasks.
Employee: How does that work, though?
Management: The remaining employees do some of the work that was previously assigned to the unnecessary, removed positions, and the rest of the work, which was unnecessary, just doesnât get done anymore.
Employee: Those positions and tasks are necessary, though. You are adding workload to some employees without giving them more money, laying off other employees, and enshittifying the companyâs product all to give âmore moneyâ to âhigher-ups in management.â
Management: We only removed positions and tasks that were unnecessary. See, the company hasnât collapsed. If those positions were necessary the company would have collapsed.
Employee: âŠ
Management: âŠ
Employee: So thatâs Jenga. You are playing Jenga with the company. You are playing Jenga and the company and all those impacted by it are the tower of blocks.
I like Spider-Man because:
I like red.
I like blue
I like comic books.
I like superheroes.
I like macrofauna such as arachnids.
I like acrobatics.
I like witty one-liners.
I like looking at men in body-hugging spandex.
I like science.
I too hide hided facets of myself from my loved ones.
I too have budget constraints.
I too struggle with the burden of responsibility to both those close to me and to my wider community.
I too inevitably fall short of what is asked of me and am crushed by the disappointment this brings.
I too find purpose in doing good, even when my intentions or work ethic are misconstrued, even when I feel scared, even when I feel alone, even when I feel overwhelmed, and even when I feel woefully inadequate.
HARM to people WITHOUT pre-existing health conditions = HARM.
HARM to people WITH pre-existing health conditions = HARM.
HARM to people = HARM.
Please, call me opossum.
Possum was my father.
Straight-passing tenor this, straight-passing tenor thatâŠ
Nah.
Gimme fruity baritone.
I want the high-key queers and the ambiguous are-they arenât theys.
I want the baritenors and the bass-baritones.
I want the bisexuals who are assumed to be gay by some people and straight by others but somehow still donât get read as they are.
I want the guys with rich, supported tone who actually arenât going to opt-up, thank you.
Gimme fruity baritone, PLEASE.
Thank you.
Footnote: There are many kind, hard-working, and talented straight-passing tenors out there. This post just isnât about them.
What was with all the âsociopathicâ and âincapable-of-feeling emotionâ characters on TV who very clearly just had autism and/or high-functioning depression?
they're always bringing experts or activists on the news to agitate about porn and there's a standard script for this that's like "I think sex education is important, I'm not anti-sex, but so much of this porn is violent and misogynistic if not outright illegal, and it's far too accessible to our children"
I want to see someone finally be brave enough to say that the government should just make its own porn for teenagers that accords with community values, so they don't have to go to these shady places to get it. I think the government porn would probably be pretty bad but I would be so eager to hear about the process of designing it. there would be so many stakeholders and consultations. in canada it would have to be bilingual
no-one would find it at all sexy at first but then in 20 years there'd be a thriving fetish scene where people develop elaborate codes and practices around culturally-embedded tropes from government porn
guy who can only get off when his dom pretends to be badly dubbed into quebecois french
Not quite the same as government-produced porn, but there is a Canadian tax-subsided smut television programme!