#acemisia

[aspec-antagonism]

Not quite sure if you do asks on microlabels but I just have to get this off my chest.

So awhile back I figured out I was aegoromantic, I thought I wanted romance, but when I got in a relationship, I found out I simply enjoyed the concept (me and my ex are now very comfortable as being just friends now). This all led to me doing deeper research to better understand my general orientation and I just generally saw people saying terrible things about it. I saw someone calling it a "p*rn addiction" and that aego people were basically just pretending to be aroace for validation.

this is aspec antagonism.

im also aego. aegosexual, specifically. ive always felt a little ashamed of my sexuality specifically because of this stigma. saying that aego folks have a porn addiction is amisic and a completely incorrect generalization.

im glad you were able to find out that you're aegoromantic. you aren't pretending, you're a valid member of our community.

[scretladyspider]

Here’s a reminder for anyone who thinks that conservatives accept aces: they think we need to be fixed. They think women and feminine people are inherently asexual but they mean it in a way that agency is removed, not as an orientation.

It’s also not a sudden switch. The churches I grew up in preached that sexuality was reserved for your husband, and that if you had boobs (they didn’t recognize anything but cis existed) that your body was inherently tempting, and men’s attraction to you was your responsibility.

Also — while I went to church camp every summer and did Bible Quizzing (I was really good at that actually) and was in the church pageant and youth groups and all of that — I know many people raised in much stricter churches, and that includes stricter purity culture beliefs.

The idea that men and masculine people wouldn’t want sex? Utterly unthinkable. I even remember having conversations in my Christian college with women who wanted to get married who said that part of their marriage was the duty to be sexually available to their husbands.

The body I was raised with was meant for the service of a future husband, not me. And that bled into secular culture (still does). Claiming my aceness was a huge part of claiming agency over my body and healing from the idea that it could only exist for others.

Here’s the thing: in a nutshell, women and feminine people are seen as not wanting sex, but having bodies inherently sexually tempting to men and masculine people. When the two marry, she must give her body to her husband in every way. And yeah, it’s as gross as it sounds.

Just because conservatives didn’t say “asexual” before doesn’t make this rhetoric new. Purity culture has been against anything not based in some 1950s idealized sexuality in marriage for a very long time. Very cis heteronormative— two things aces are not. The only difference is that conservatives are including the word “asexual” in their sexual ethics now.

Wrote an essay about it here.

But yeah it’s not new. They’re just learning how to use more vocabulary to say what they were already saying.

[vebees]

Miserable lady who seeks to out-do herself daily on how contemptible she can be decides to incite fans to help her obliviously prove themselves wrong with ignorant oppressive sentiments such as:

Asexuality needs to be cured.

(more aphobia under the cut)

Asexual people are just ugly.

Asexual people are just ugly and broken.

Asexuality is just a bad side effect of medication taken by people with mood disorders. (+ Negative tone towards those with mental health disorders and take medication.)

Asexuality is a mental illness. (+ Negative tone towards people with mental illness.)

Asexuality is a medical condition that needs to be checked for.

Asexual people are just trying to trap their unhappy partners in relationships with them.

"You just haven't found the right person yet."

Blaming trans people and framing them as child abusers. Claiming that asexual people are lacking a fundamental part of being human. Othering asexual people from the rest of humanity and implying they will never have a fulfilling life.

Again, blaming trans people and medical transitioning. Asexuality is a conspiracy theory for downplaying medication side effects. Claiming Asexuality is new.

Asexuality is a result of sexual abuse or being closeted. Asexual people are "troubled, unhappy, and unresolved" and need to be corrected with therapy.

Comparing asexual people to pedophiles.

AND MUCH MORE But I'm done with this right now.

*Note, I'm ace and none of those views are mine. I wholly support asexuals, trans people, those with mental health conditions/illness, those who take medication (like SSRIs), and survivors. Much love to you all and sorry we have to deal with people like this.

[pet-shop-of-horror-fan]

People who hate aromantics do not have a healthy understanding of romance or sex.

People who hate asexuals do not have a healthy understanding of romance or sex.

People who hate a-specs do not have a healthy understanding of romance or sex.

[rjalker]

absolutely absurd that people in 2024 are demanding that posts about being aroace not be tagged with aromatic or asexual. And we're supposed to pretend that this is a progressive stance to have.

[inhumanliquid]

"Asexuals are cool" okay puritan

Piss on the poor

[shyjusticewarrior]

There was this really cute nygmobblepot fanart, but I like to search "asexual" on someone's tumblr before reblogging their stuff. I found that she rebloged various posts villainizing asexuals for wanting queer cafes. Ugh. If any of you want to know who it was, feel free to message me to ask for the username.

[eggrolls-and-fandoms]

Haiii!! So like I’ve been seeing the terms “amisia / aromisia / acemisia” floating around but I can’t really find or figure out the meaning? So like. Could anyone explain to me what exactly that is?