#aro rage

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

there's something i don't like about using the word 'valid' in conversations about queerness. 'valid' implies that someone or something has to be approved, and that there is someone doing the approving. i don't need approval from society or other queers to be what i am. you can't 'validate' my identity if i don't need to search for approval.

[canonically47]

hot take i guess, but fandoms (and people in general) are so annoying about romance. like genuinely. its so tiring to find a new interest and want to connect with other fans, only for them to be like “look at my ship!!” “look at this ship!!” and ESPECIALLY when the media WASN’T EVEN ABOUT THAT. i just came back from inside out 2 and wanted to find some fun fanart or thoughts of fellow viewers, instead i am bombarded with sadness x embarrassment or disgust x some video game character. ARE YALL OKAY??? THEY’RE EMOTIONS!!!

you people are so annoying and i am tired of sugar coating it. “filter your tags” i have. “let people ship whatever” i do. “do you not have any ships?” i do, but they go deeper than romance. “this is mean” YOU try being aromantic in a world FILLED TO THE BRIM with your tiring, boresome, disgusting romance. you try being aromantic with so many detailed and complex thoughts on relationships while those around you just go “boy and girl stand together = love”. you try being aromantic in a fandom that is meant to be your escape yet all you’re met with is an unaccessible space because everything, everything, ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING, is about something you cannot feel, cannot relate to, cannot understand, something you despise, something that is forced on you, something THE ENTIRE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND.

comfort characters that are canonically aspec? guess what! allos took them too! alastor? “oh well idk he interacts with vox and lucifer once so they must be in love.” georgia from loveless? “aroaces can be in relationships too.” i hate this fan culture and i hate this shipping culture and i hate your romance and i hate your society and i hate you.

you have given me no space to express myself in. you have said the LGBTQ+ community is about love, when i am left feeling none, excluding me, my fellow aspecs, and my trans siblings because god know you put them through hell too. you have told me to seek other fans and all they do is drive me away from what i love. you have called me a broken monster and i just had to fucking take it.

i hate you, and i don’t even want to sugarcoat it anymore. why should i have to specify that i want to spare your feelings? obviously im not all against shipping. obviously im not all against romance. click my profile, you’ll see my all-time favorite ship, you’ll call me a hypocrite. because all you care is the angry words i write and you see on a screen without caring for the complex picture - person - i am behind this account, behind this face.

all you want is your romance and your feelings being spared, and i never have either of those. so excuse me for feeling rage.

[shiutsu]

Yeah..

[alien-ally]

It’s like I’m always chasing some romance. Obsolete romance. Looking for reprieve in dissonant spaces. Aching to be smothered in some sort of tension. Always turning away from my presently bleeding wounds to tend to past and future ones. Always treasuring the idea more than the real thing. Maybe that’s what’s doomed about me. The very emblem of all things I loathe, I am perpetually drawn to being. Hence. Everyone that finds me, will be left behind indiscriminately. Sometimes I end up thinking my kind of romance is where the lovers never unite. Heating up and going near motionless at the briefest slide of skin. More familiar with the memory of each other than the actual thing. In the silence of the night, miles apart, they think to themselves, that maybe a life spent yearning, tracing shapes only half visible is still a life worth living. Perhaps eyes having met only once, they are truly nothing more than ideas in each other’s heads. Phantom sensations. Like me. Maybe one of them dies. Or were never alive. Or belongs to another time. Romance. Love. Fuck all of it. I wish all lovers a well meaning ‘fuck you’. Oh well, your love already does that for you.

[princess-of-morkva]

I HATE HETERONORMATIVITY

AND AMATANORMATIVITY

I'M FUCKING ENRAGED

[yourlocalgaymafia]

Hate how some alloromantics will have the audacity to call aros and arospec people broken for not experiencing romantic attraction, when they are the ones who claim to feel incomplete without their so called “second half”

So apparently aros are supposed to be the broken ones because we’re already complete by ourselves??? Make it make sense.

[transaccordionist]

I wish more media could drop the Sex=Romance and Romance=Sex trope, like it makes me so mad that I can't just have a bit of fun with a character in a game without suddenly being in a monogamous romantic relationship!

"why do you dislike romance so much?"

Maybe because it keeps being

SHOVED

DOWN

MY

THROAT!

[corelliaxdreaming]

God, I am filled with aro rage that as long as the couple gets back together, it's a happy ending. Fuck that fact that at least one of them grew as a character, and that was why they broke up. Fuck the fact that they're extrememly likely to fall apart again because of those same issues they didn't discuss and still haven't discussed. Fuck everything except l o v e.