#friend issues

[doehdeer]

The issues are issuing, and I just want to be hugged and cuddled right now.

[doritosworshipper]

Anyone feels like their friends doesn't like them or is it just me?

[yumiblaze]

Things are hard

So you may have noticed that I was upset last night and I wanted to explain a little bit of what is going on right now in my life.

So me and my ex share a group of friends, I have been trying to ignore discomfort for the sake of the group so no one had to pick sides. It has been getting harder over time though.

My 'friends' weren't really the best, none of them remembered my birthday, no one really asked if I was okay when we originally broke up but they asked after him.

Last night was super hard for me, we were both at the same party him with a young pretty girl, me alone and sad like usual. Our other friends arrived and started complementing him and all the new changes he's made to better his life since he met this new girl.

And fuck it hurt.

Last night I got home super depressed and just struggling in general. I thought I had shrugged it off after work though, until the group chat started going off.

One of our mutual friends wanted to do a group holiday with everyone and I just sent a message to let them know that if my ex was going I couldn't go because it would make me too uncomfortable.

My ex sent a laughing emoji in response to my comment, a couple of the others continuing the convo like I said nothing.

No one defended me.

No one cared.

So I have left the group chats on whatsapp and discord because this isn't right. I'm in a bad place right now and they are only adding to it. My parents think I am overreacting but I believe I am sticking by my boundaries and people shouldn't be my friends if they treat me with no respect.

This is not the first time something like this has happened; I don't want to even mention the time I outed someone for SAing me and they still invited him to parties with us all....

I guess I'm asking for any encouraging messages. Letting me know others opinions and maybe making me feel not to guilty about my choice.

Things are just hard right now.

[gingerbreadgodofhyperdeath]

It makes me so upset knowing my ex friend who I introduced bunch of friends to is probably watching their vids and wanting to post about it and like I know it shouldn’t be a big deal because one it’s YouTube, two it’s not like they’re really secret anymore, and three it doesn’t really affect me but I just can’t get over the anger and how upset it makes me that it was MY thing and it feels like they’re taking it from me especially by putting it in their bio as one of their interests

[newjekyllandhyde980]

when you was meant to go in a date but it got cancelled because they like someone else more than you and wanting something long term is annoying

I’m always second best lol

[kerokerrrokerroppi]

Am I overreacting?

So I’m very introverted and shy (especially in public situations) and my friend/bsf of 3 years is SIGNIFICANTLY more extroverted than me. And idk if I’m just taking things the wrong way or if she’s just using the wrong tone, but this has happened like 3+ times.

We’ll be in a social situation and I’ll be too shy to do something small like ask for a straw or compliment someone so I’ll have her do it, right? She never seems to mind and I always come with her to do so, etc etc. But then after she’ll always say something like “See? It’s really not that hard.” It feels kinda patronizing idk.

She is a genuinely nice person so I don’t think she means it in a bad way but it always comes across like that to me. Idk- it might just be a poor word choice or tone issue.

I haven’t talked to her about it at all but I never know what to say in the moment. Idk is this an actual issue or am I just overthinking it?

[misty-skyz-after-a-storm]

dude I just realized this is kinda how my last friendships ended

long periods of silence even when I was texting first not seeing each other irl as often and no communication

I’m not going to text first and we’ll see how long it takes for her to text me I mean she dos have dnd on but she alyways does

Plus before we went no communication she was being dryer and texting less than we usually did

it’s probably just a rough patch but still it’s never been like this

I do consider her my bestie but that’s probally not saying much because before her I barely had friends/had no friends at all

I had three other friends technically but I stopped talking to one of them because I didn’t have their number anymore and I stopped talking to the other friend because I don’t have anything to say and stuff

we haven’t talked in years and my third friend is my besties sister so idk but I don’t consider the other two friends because like I said we don’t talk

so without her I would have like one friend and we’re barely even friends tbh

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