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I'm not perfectionistic, I just want everything I create to have a certain level of quality that is impossible to reach with my current skill & energy levels, but I know perfection is impossible, so I don't aim for that

⋆˚࿔glowettee hotline 6: finding peace after studying.ᐟ

hey lovelies! 🤍i'm finally back with glowettee hotline

abbey sent in the sweetest question to the glowettee hotline about something i think so many of us struggle with. that persistent anxiety that whispers "you could do more" even after you've literally been studying for hours and hours? yeah, i know that voice all too well.

i was literally up until 3am last night reorganizing my color-coded study guides even though i'd already finished them, so trust me when i say i understand that perfectionist energy. there's something about academics that brings out that need for control in all of us, right?

first, i want you to know that what you're experiencing is actually super common among high-achievers. that anxiety isn't a sign that you're doing something wrong - it's actually your brain being a little too good at wanting to succeed. your brain has basically created this false equation that anxiety = productivity, when actually they're totally different things.

when i was in my worst perfectionist spiral last semester (we don't talk about the great midterm meltdown of 2024), my academic counselor shared something that literally changed everything for me. she called it "productive completion" versus "perfectionist completion" and the difference is everything.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ why your brain keeps doing this ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

your brain has been rewarded for being anxious in the past. every time you've pushed yourself to do "just one more thing" because of anxiety, your brain logged that as a win. it doesn't realize how exhausted and burnt out you're becoming.

also? uncertainty is literally uncomfortable for our brains on a neurological level. your organized nature (which is actually a superpower when balanced!) means your brain craves that feeling of "doneness" - but perfectionism keeps moving the goalpost so you never actually reach it.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ practical things that actually help ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

create a "done list" instead of just a to-do list. physically write down everything you've accomplished in a study session. when anxiety says "you've done nothing," you have literal evidence to the contrary.

implement a physical "closing ritual" to signal to your brain that work time is over. i close my laptop, put my books in my bag, and light this little vanilla candle that's only for post-study relaxation. your brain needs these concrete transitions.

use time-based boundaries rather than task-based ones. "i will study for 2 focused hours" is better than "i will study until i feel done" because perfectionism ensures you'll never feel done.

try the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique when anxiety spirals hit. name 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. it literally interrupts the anxiety pathway in your brain.

create a "worry hour" where you give yourself permission to stress about academics - but only during that designated time. when anxious thoughts come outside that hour, tell them "not now, i'll think about you at 4pm."

practice self-compassion statements that feel authentic to you. mine is "being imperfect doesn't mean i'm ineffective." find yours and repeat it when that voice starts up.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ the deeper work ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

here's the thing about perfectionism that took me forever to understand - it's often a protection mechanism. somewhere along the way, you learned that being perfect kept you safe from criticism or failure or whatever scary thing your brain is trying to avoid.

the real question to gently ask yourself is: what would happen if you did "just enough" instead of everything possible? what are you afraid would occur? usually when we dig into this, we find some core beliefs that need updating.

for me, i realized i had this weird belief that if i wasn't constantly anxious about academics, it meant i didn't care enough. which is obviously not true! you can care deeply about your studies while still having boundaries and rest.

abbey, i want you to know that your worth isn't measured by how exhausted you are at the end of a study session. your organized nature is a gift - but it should serve you, not control you.

sending you the warmest thoughts and a reminder that you're doing so much better than you think you are. your anxiety is lying to you about how much is "enough."

xoxo, mindy 🤍

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Uggghhh how many emotions can a sim go through in 24 hours before you have to call a doctor or something?! Everything is so weird. I feel like my brain is just… full. I’m supposed to be happy. I AM super happy and proud. I was nominated for a Starlight! Me! All by myself. Well not all the way by myself because it was the Lemonade recreation video so obvi maximum BK. Hmmm. Nepo baby tings I guess. But it was my idea and work. So that counts? Idk. Whatever. All Mom things are the weirdest right now. She’s trying really hard and I’m basically being the worst daughter ever. She said she loves what we have and we can be real and I literally said nothing. Just like this morning I said nothing was wrong. And a lot is wrong. I’m not being real and I kinda hate it. I don’t know what to do. What am I supposed to say? It’s never a good time. Omg I’m the worst fake daughter in law too. I’m a fast celebrity girl! Zae’s mom calling me a whole heaux when I can count how many times we kissed. Mom would fly over these Pinnacle hills and show her all the fast celebrity hands and feet LOL But that means I have to tell her everything. And then everything would change. I don’t want it to change. I like him. I like us. But I also like where me and Mom are right now. Where we were. She really kept her promises. And I messed up. I should just tell her. I’m gonna tell her. Not tonight. Maybe when she’s back from her show. But then we have the awards. And I know she’s already stressed. But she’s been happy again. I DON'T KNOWWWW!! I’m going to bed. Brain still FULL

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currently writing a book called “the secret of the rose garden,” which I’m so so excited about !!

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I ❦ reading & writing obviii, but I also like...

tv shows & movies: gossip girl, pretty little liars, the vampire diaries, mean girls, spiderman, childhood shows, twilight, old disney, sleeping beauty, h2o, ever after high, high school musical, clueless, charlie’s angels, 10 things I hate about you, a cinderella story, peter pan 2003, lizzie mcguire, legally blonde, cruel intentions, marie antoinette, priscilla, how to lose a guy in 10 days, 13 going on 30, just my luck, young justice, the oc, brooklyn 99, modern family, gilmore girls, miraculous, true beauty, bridgerton, old barbie, strawberry shortcake, the princess diaries ❀

— please feel free to give me recommendations !!

mp3 player: gracie abrams, tate mcrae, the neighbourhood, chase atlantic, lana del rey, britney spears, billie eilish, taylor swift, artemas, sombr, isabel larosa, rihanna, lady gaga, charli xcx, addison rae, the weeknd, new jeans, illit, le sserafim, ariana grande, ethel cain, mazzy star, etc. ♪

(though I listen to a lot of different artists and songs in general, & I like anything party music)

other kind of cool things: lily rose depp, jennie ruby jane, lindsay lohan, paris hilton, michelle trachtenberg, leighton meester, hilary duff, hayden christensen, natalie portman, emma watson, audrey hepburn, selma blair, kirsten dunst, sofia coppola, adriana lima, aaron taylor johnson, young leo, adrien agreste, dick grayson, wally west, louis partridge, miles morales, cardan greenbriar, jake sim, cha eun-woo, all of new jeans, all pll girls, alana b champion, vs angels, elena gilbert, bonnie bennett, caroline forbes, jeremy gilbert, the salvatore brothers, anne hathaway, drew barrymore, cameron diaz, lucy liu, haley dunphy, rory gilmore, chad michael murray, seth cohen, gabriella montez, troy bolton, marinette, fluttershy, hello kitty, cinnamoroll, my sweet piano, sleeping beauty, bella swan, edward cullen, phoebe tonkin, claire holt, cariba heine, gemma ward, hannah dodd, brooke shields, rachel mcadams, amanda seyfried, cher horowitz, brittany murphy, dakota fanning, elle fanning, sylvia plath, virginia woolf, jane austen ♔

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why did i get the procrastination type of perfectionism and not the workaholic overachieving perfectionism??

Am I the only one that finds it rather annoying how PowerPoint's default decagons are NOT regular?

I could somewhat understand the heptagons not quite being regular because constructing a perfect regular heptagon is considered to be impossible without tools that are more advanced than just straight edge and compass [the issue is that cos(360°/7) cannot be expressed using solely addition, subtraction, multiplication, division and square roots] However, the decagon doesn't have this issue since cos(360°/10) is exactly (1 + √5)/4 [also known as half of the golden ratio].