#ptsd problems

[bipolarmango]

Wild things I have learnt in therapy:

When a child cries, parents are supposed to comfort them, not punish them

Parents are, in fact, supposed to want to spend time with their children

Children too have a right to privacy, meaning parents are not allowed to read their diaries etc and then punish them for the thoughts they found about

Children are allowed to be upset and cry

Children don't have to earn the love and attention from their parents by performing various things

Children are not supposed to be scared of going home and/or their parents

Children are not supposed to be physically abused and even a little bit of hitting is actually physical abuse

Parents are not supposed to expect that children are mentally as mature as other adults

Children are not supposed to be told that they're an accident, a burden, or something the parents regret

Children are not supposed to be scared and ashamed of themselves or feel like failures because of their parents

[actually-n0thing]

[psychocitysblog]

I wake up everyday just waiting to go back to bed.

[cryingtomycats]

Reclaiming your room as a safe space

If you, like me, have had a traumatic experience occur in your room, it can make it really hard to feel safe and comfortable living there. Unfortunately, changing where you live and your room entirely can be really hard, so here's some stuff that's helped me be more comfortable in my room (this won't work for everyone, but it has helped me a LOT)

Rearranging the room- Even just somewhat shifting the layout can be helpful in making it feel different which for me makes memories less frequent

Using smells- I know I talk about this a LOT, but smell has a really strong connection to memory, so using candles or incense or a diffuser or changing the detergent your wash your clothes and sheets with can REALLY help make the place feel different and help you associate the smell of your room with home instead of with trauma. Plus, you get to pick what it is.

Changing the lighting- If you usually open your blinds or curtains, keeping them closed more or visa versa, changing the kind of bulb in your lamp/lights, or, what I've done, using colorful fairy lights. That way, no matter the time of day or what else is going on lighting wise, the room is bathed in a pinkish glow and it will never look exactly the same

Repainting the walls- If you have more time and money, repainting the walls of a room can make it feel entirely different

Replacing/removing a big piece of furniture- if something happened at a desk, or in your bed, or in a chair, or on your rug, while it is the most potentially expensive thing on this list, replacing that can help a lot, because it'll get rid of the part of the room strongest tied to the trauma.

That's all I have right now. I'm not an expert on anything and I'm not trying to tell anyone what to do, but I wanted to share this because firstly, it's helped me a lot, so maybe it could help someone else, and secondly, some shit went down this weekend and posting about stuff that's helped me in my recovery is making me feel a little better.

I really hope someone finds this helpful and if not that's okay too. Hope you have a good day either way <3

[liberate-te]

The truth about fireworks

[nuninho2000]

Harry: It's alright, Ginny . It's over . It's just a memory .

Ginny: Yes , that's what PTSD is .

This dialogue would fit their relationship 🤣🤣

Source: Making every Harry Potter line a meme ( Facebook)

[idk-maybe-i-did-it]

This is for the survivors

TW: PTSD, sexual assault and trauma

nobody talks about the rougher side of PTSD.

like how your trauma could be ‘not as bad as someone elses’ even though everyone’s trauma is different and nobody needs to compare because it’s unhealthy even though a lot of survivors do anyways (me) and that’s not the rougher side im talking about

im talking about how maybe it wasn’t as bad and maybe ‘nothing actually happened’ because its ’not as bad’, im talking about how that’s what we tell ourselves and that’s why we pretend we don’t feel any symptoms and that’s why we mask

im talking about how, yeah no penetration actually happened, but the physical memories still exist all over my body. im talking about how even though ‘nothing actually happened’ and i dont get nightmares about the actual event, i get the physical memories.

I am talking about how nobody talks about the fact that when assholes are invalidating us, they fail to notice that even though ‘nothing actually happened’ we can still feel EVERYTHING, we can still remember EVERYTHING THROUGH OUR BODIES, we might forget in our brains but the PHYSICAL PAIN AND THE PHYSICAL TOUCH IS STILL LIKE A WHISPER ON MY SKIN

I am talking about the rougher side of PTSD where it’s the most invisible side ever that you can’t explain, where even though ‘nothing actually happened’ it doesn’t stop my mind from imagining everything actually happening with random ass people in my life.

nobody talks about the terror, the absolute Terror that grips your heart when you can feel the memories on your skin. Nobody talks about the terror when you think about some random person on the street taking advantage, nobody talks about the unhinged thoughts of Something happening again with Anyone you See.

nobody talks about the pain.

this post is for the people who invalidate themselves and say ‘nothing actually happened’, ‘I don’t get nightmares’, and ‘it’s not that important’ because I want you to know that I fucking see you. I can see through all the lies and all the faking it.

You are hurting.

It is okay.

Please do not downplay your symptoms, maybe not everyone can understand but there will always be someone who wants to help.

please just tell that little person inside you that it is okay to acknowledge how you are feeling. please tell them it is okay.

[bipolarmango]

People need to understand that for those who have gone through trauma experience things differently.

If you went through an abandonment as a child, a breakup others would get over with in months can take years to overcome.

If you went through domestic abuse, even small changes in a loved one's tone can make you anxious.

If you were belittled your whole childhood, being professionally critized at work can feel like the end of the world.

Trauma effects us for a long time after it occurs.