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Me after hearing that Gooseworx had to delete her Tumblr due to everything she's been put through:

Y'all will never guess who BL Twitter is trying to cancel for "not caring at all" about their partner.

No really, you won't be able to guess because it's so stupid.

#twitter is a cesspool #bl fandom #toxic fans

No bcuz entering the fandom after completing the show as a Saiteru shipper and seeing a part of the fandom hate on this ship while the other half defends it with their life is so funny to me.

Why? Bcuz it's literally like the gay ships in anime where 2 male leads have more chemistry and good enemies to lovers plot, half of the fandom is screaming that the mc is not in love with the other male character just bcuz they have so many literal confession moments.

Then the other half is like, let us fucking ship them you blind miserable bitches. It's literally the same case with Saiteru only difference is that they are straight. While the fandom is also crazy for Kaido x Aren and they have 4 scenes of interaction (which I also ship these 2 idiots so I am one of them too . But I don't attack other ships cuz of my own headcanons regarding a character).

#saiteru #saiki x teruhashi #teruhashi kokomi #saiki k #the disastrous life of saiki k.#shun kaidou #aren kuboyasu #kubokai #I love both ships actually #but it is just really funny how someone gave me a long ass essay on why saiteru is not a ship cuz saiki is ace & teruhashi is a narcissist #which rude you fucking dumbass #you don't get to shove your hc on me if I don't want it #shipping #toxic fans

Massive fan of Joe and his music and acting but holy fuck, people are downright obsessed??? Like parasocial??? And borderline stalking??? I’m scared lowkey

I think we can all agree that Joe is amazing. He's handsome, humble and talented. A lethal combination.

I believe most of the obsession and parasocial behavior is due to the fact that he used to be so accessible. Which, I suppose he still is to an extent but not so much since his fame has gained so much momentum over the last couple of years.

As I have said and will continue to say, people should log off and touch grass from time to time. It's not that deep.

#lulu answers #joe keery gossip #toxic fans #toxic behavior

Celebrities don't Own you Access to their Private Lives

I very much enjoyed reading and watching "Heated Rivalry". However, as is the case in most fandoms, some fans take their love for this too far. This blog post is not only about "Heated Rivalry", just take it as an example for any fandom. I have written here about how people shouldn't speculate on the sexual orientations of real people, with regards to Connor Storrie and also remembering what happened to Kit Connor. Lately I heard rumors are running wild that Connor Storrie and François Arnaud are dating (just because they were seen travelling together somewhere, likely for professional reasons). I heard fans saying that Connor should be dating his co-star Hudson. I read how François Arnaud was thinking about closing his social media accounts because of online harassment. I read again and again how stars stopped being on social media altogether because online harassment, hate from "fans" or unhinged DMs by strangers became unbearable. I know we live in times where anything anywhere can get recorded by anybody with a cellphone. So celebrities not only have to hide from paparazzi, but basically from anyone with a cellphone. I know we live in times where couples or parent influencers (or other influencers as well) give their audience access to their private lives, including the ones of their children, and they make a living of that. (I could write a whole blog about how unethical that part about the children is, but I won't start that topic now here). We also live in times where everybody can share their opinions online 24/7, for good or worse. And some people can get really toxic, and obsessive, when it comes to their fandoms. Here is some word of advice. Think for a moment about your favorite celebrity - an actor, a musician, a singer-songwriter or somebody else. With their art, be it acting, or music, or artworks, novels or something else, these people bring you joy, don't they? And many of them also show up for interviews, for meet & greets and photo ops or other events. For most fans, that is enough. And it should be.

Let these people have their privacy. Let them live their life free from the public eye, as much as they choose to do. And also free from wild speculations about them as a person, about their friends, their relationships, who they date and so on. Most of them will enjoy their life more if they have their privacy, and they will also enjoy making art for you, for their fans, more. And that is why you started admiring them in the first place, remember? For their art. Because in the end, you don't know them personally. All you might have is a more or less one-sided parasocial relationship. Remember: You are not entitled to know every detail about the private lives of your favorite celebrity.

Also, if you are open to some more advice - you shouldn't make your whole personality about being a fan. Because what if the fandom breaks apart, because of a controversy, or something else? I have written about that topic here.

I can share an experience of my own. No, I am not a celebrity. I am an indie author, but a few years ago, I was cyberbullied by a book club whose members started to tear apart several of my novels in reviews, all with one star ratings. Of course, everybody is entitled to their opinion and I am always open to critique about my work. However, this book club also started to wildly speculate about me as a person in their reviews and degraded me, though none of them knew me personally. This took a toll on my mental health. For a while I questioned if I even wanted to be a writer any more. Fortunately, I got over this issue after a while (and with support from others) and continued writing. This is just one example of online harassment and what it can do to an artist. Now imagine how celebrities who might have thousands or millions of followers aka fans might get harassed online on a daily basis.

Please don't do this. Don't start speculating. Don't start rumours. Don't tell celebrities whom they should date. Don't tell them what kind of art they should do, or what they shouldn't do. Do not slide into their DMs. Don't harass them. Enjoy their art, but leave them alone.

#fandom #fandoms #heated rivalry #this is not only about heated rivalry but fandoms in general #connor storrie #francois arnaud #hudson williams #toxic fans #obsessive fans #parasocial relationships #Leave them alone

Grishaverse fandom - hate, and the danger of dehumanisation

I want to reflect on something I keep encountering again and again in this fandom. Remarks like these are sadly common within the so-called tolerant Grishaverse. What stands out is that they are not ordinary criticisms of a character, they reveal something much darker. One person scoffs at the idea that Aleksandercould ever be described as morally grey, and another states that they would like to read three hundred pages of him being tortured and that even such an amount of suffering would not be enough.

This goes far beyond disagreeing over fiction. This is not a debate about narrative choices or literary archetypes. This is sadistic satisfaction expressed openly and proudly, and it exposes a worrying mindset that cannot be brushed aside as harmless fan banter.

Aleksander Morozova is the perfect definition of a morally grey character. He fought for the survival of the Grisha for centuries, a people who faced systemic persecution, oppression, and extermination. Without him, their survival as a group would likely not have been possible. His entire existence was a shield against annihilation. Yet he also relied on methods that were firm and relentless. This duality is precisely what defines him as morally grey: he is both savior and leader, both guardian and ruler, both a man shaped by suffering and a figure who carried immense responsibility.

To deny this complexity and insist that Aleksander is simply a villain is to ignore the essence of his role in the narrative. But it is easier for some people to flatten him into a caricature than to grapple with the discomfort of a character who resists simple classification. Complexity requires empathy, critical thought, and the ability to hold contradictions in mind. Not everyone is willing to make that effort.

But the hatred directed toward him goes beyond simplification. When someone writes that they want three hundred pages of him being tortured, they are no longer analyzing a story. They are indulging in violent fantasy. This reveals what I would call sadistic satisfaction, the psychological enjoyment of imagining another’s suffering. This matters, even if the target is a fictional character. Because it shows how some people respond to discomfort. Aleksander unsettles them. He is too powerful, too ambiguous, too resistant to easy labels. Rather than sit with that tension, they resolve it by destroying him in their imagination — not once, not briefly, but endlessly. They envision prolonged, humiliating suffering and then declare that even this would not be sufficient.

This is not criticism. This is cruelty. And cruelty, even when disguised as “just fandom,” is never harmless.

Why I think young people react this way?

Much of this extreme hostility comes from younger fans. There are psychological reasons for that.

Discomfort with ambiguity – Many younger people are raised on stories that divide the world neatly into heroes and villains. A character like Aleksander Morozova aka The Darkling, who cannot be neatly categorized, destabilizes that worldview. Sadistic fantasies become a way of pushing him back into the “villain box.”

Projection – Aleksander embodies traits that make people uneasy: power, control, charisma, and determination. Instead of reflecting on why those traits evoke discomfort, they project their hostility onto him. He becomes a safe vessel for hatred.

Illusion of power – Heis immensely powerful within the story. Fantasizing about his humiliation and torture provides a false sense of power over him. For someone who feels powerless in life, this reversal of roles can be intoxicating.

Group bonding through cruelty (found family...) – Online fandoms often create micro-communities built not around love for something but around shared hate. Within those groups, people compete to express more extreme disgust, more creative violence, and more vicious mockery. Saying you want three hundred pages of torture is not just about Aleksander Morozova — it is also a signal to the group: “Look how much I despise him. I belong here, please, like me!”

Normalization of exaggerated speech – internet culture thrives on hyperbole. Everything is the best or the worst, every opinion is exaggerated for effect. But when exaggeration becomes “I want endless torture,” the line between ironic exaggeration and genuine sadism is blurred.

The danger is not limited to fictional discussions. If someone finds joy in endlessly humiliating a fictional character, what prevents them from carrying the same mindset into the real world? Hatred is a habit. It is not easily contained. If a person learns to resolve discomfort through cruelty, they are more likely to apply the same strategy outside of fiction. If they are aggressive toward supporters of Aleksander online, what does that suggest about their tolerance for difference in the real world? If they cannot handle complexity in a books or a TV show, how will they handle the complexity of actual human beings?The truth is that many young people are already being radicalized online. They are drawn into communities where hatred is normalized, where cruelty becomes entertainment, where the destruction of “the enemy” is the central goal. When I see comments wishing endless torture upon Aleksander, I see the same pattern on a smaller scale. Today it is a fictional character. Tomorrow it could be a classmate, a co-worker in adult life, or anyone who represents something they dislike.

So why Aleksander in particular?

Aleksander is an especially effective lightning rod for this kind of sadistic aggression because he embodies qualities that both attract and repel. He is powerful, charismatic, and morally ambiguous. He inspires fascination and discomfort at the same time. For some, this duality is irresistible, they feel drawn to him, but also feel the need to punish him for what he represents. This ambivalence often produces the strongest reactions. A bland villain would not inspire three hundred pages of torture fantasies. A one-dimensional hero would not inspire denial of moral grey-ness. Aleksander provokes these reactions precisely because he is complex, layered, and emotionally challenging. The sadism of his opponents is a twisted acknowledgment of his power as a character.

Why this should not be ignored?

It would be easy to dismiss all of this as “just fandom”. But to do so is to ignore how people rehearse their moral instincts through fiction. If cruelty, sadism, and aggressive exclusion are normalized in the fictional sphere, they do not simply vanish when the book is closed. They shape how people think, how they argue, how they treat others. What I see in these comments is not harmless exaggeration but a symptom of something larger: the erosion of empathy, the glorification of cruelty, and the refusal to tolerate difference. That is really dangerous. It is dangerous in fandom, and it is dangerous in life. What troubles me most is how easily people can be taught to hate when it becomes a collective exercise. It often begins with words: exaggerations, ridicule, fantasies of suffering. Then it grows into a culture where cruelty is normal and where the target is stripped of humanity, reduced to nothing more than an object of blame. In the past, entire groups of people were pushed into this role — neighbours turned into enemies, individuals recast as threats simply for existing. Once the process of dehumanisation had taken root, cruelty was no longer questioned. If anyone knows the history of Europe in the 1930s and 1940s even a little, they know what I'm talking about.

Aleksander deserves to be discussed as the morally grey, tragic, and compelling character that he is. Those who deny this complexity and call for his endless suffering reveal far more about themselves than about him. They reveal a pattern of thought that thrives on cruelty, fears ambiguity, and seeks control through destruction. And I will say it plainly: such patterns are not confined to fiction. They are seeds of something that, left unchecked, can grow into real-world aggression and radicalization. That is why I find these voices not just unpleasant but deeply concerning.

Hi everyone, I recently came across this blog (@lanasbrooklyngrl) that made a post about BTS Jungkook claiming that he is a sub in bed after they read his vedic chart about him and did not provide any context as to why and how they came to that conclusion. I also saw they claim to be a tarot reader and astrology "reader". When I looked into their page it was full of sexual posts about the whole BTS and claiming different things about them with no real context behind them. When I asked them to not make such posts without context and to please share how did they came to this conclusion they got aggressive shared very lame placements for jungkook like his mars in libra, cancer rising etc *which he is not he is saggitarous rising* and then blocked me saying I should seek help because my whole blog is about Jungkook dating but it is not. I like to read astro posts about him because he is the only celeb here who's chart has bene read by so many astrologers in depth and I get to learn allot through that.

Anyways, I enjoy learning vedic astrology and I know that to determine someone's taste in bed the least you have to do to even begin making such claims is to look at the yoni of their birth Nakshatra or analyse 8th or 12th house placements.

What I also find out is that whole blog is very explicit and they are black by ethnicity and are projecting their self and their desires on the whole group and particularly Jungkook. Throughout their blog they keep pushing idea that Jungkook is submissive and they are into black women and again gave no context whatsoever.

*by no means I am saying that I don't like black people it's just that they said bts is into black woman and most of them are submissive using astrology. If they stated bts were into white or Asian or Latina women and submissive without giving explanation my response would have been the same*