what even is a gender

sup, I'm Tam dutch | 30's | total nerd | aro ace | they/he

[taminacan]

it’s 2:30 AM

[kitschke]

i kinda love this response. just try reading my comment in a nicer voice and you'll feel better

[stealingpotatoes]

i don't know what older adults were on about when they said being a teenager was good <3

[despazito]

It's actually super unethical to keep a peeve as a pet

[puppygirllaika]

yes!!! thank you!!! I hate when people do this, it's one of my uh... one of my... oh no...

[arowitharrows]

The duality of "If you even imply that being aro or ace condemns someone to a sad and lonely life I will fucking fight you"

and

"being aro and ace is the most isolating thing I will ever experience"

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

i think the tags are important

[myheadisfullofholes]

This.

[shutyourmoustache]

When my mother forgets a word, she is the queen of coming up with new words. Words that would take a third National Treasure movie to fully decipher. I was talking to her yesterday, and she said this: “You know the time for los jibbities is coming up. You must be so excited!” Oh, is it time for los jibbities already? I must have missed it on my calendar. Are we celebrating something? “Of course! We should all be celebrating, shouldn’t we?” OK, so los jibbities is a happy thing. It’s not like something is giving you the heebie-jeebies, which would have been my one and only guess. “Los heebie-jeebies? Now you’re making things up...and this is my show.” You’re right. The time for los jibbities is coming up. Is this a season? “Yes, the season for love. The season for pride.” OK, los jibbities. “Yeah, sound it out.” Los…jibbities. LGBTs! “Sí, mira cuz you’re gay!” “You couldn’t just say pride season? You couldn’t just… *laughs*

[party-gilmore]

HAPPY LOS JIBBITIES EVERYBODY!!!

[greatmountainfloofsquatch]

The time for Los Jibbities has arrived!

[trickstertime]

Huh? What's this?? Something is on this 5c coin???

ENHANCE

[biocrafthero]

perceived skill

[ahotknife]

YOU don’t have to be perfect to be loved. but I do

[tredekim]

[bluehawk54]

Guess what turns 10 today

[bluehawk54]

Happy 20th Birthday John Freeman

[hawfstuff]

[prokopetz]

You are an unreliable narrator because your coping mechanisms for your deep-seated trauma forbid you from acknowledging the reality of the situation. I am an unreliable narrator because I sincerely have no idea what the fuck is going on.

[decepticonsensual]

[lawnchairz]

happy 4/13 to those who celebrate

[aitze]

commissions are open! you can request them at https://vgen.co/aitze. shares appreciated

[aitze]

Running a sale for the month of May! Until June 1st all my commissions will be 20% off (:

[website-com]

you never know what someone is going through. for instance i didnt know i was going through anything until about 2 years later. i thought i was just chilling

[moniquill]

Hot take: there is no valid reason that official government ID should have either a sec or gender marker on it. First name, last name, dob + up to date image will suffice. Address, if relevant.

[11thfempachi]

Y'all know it's crucial to paramedics, right?

[moniquill]

Any of my followers who are paramedics/first responders/emergency room staff want to attest that no, it isn't.

What do you think happens in dire medical emergencies where an unconscious person presents and doesn't have ID on their person at the time?

[hollowedskin]

I'm always confused by why people seem to think that there is some sort of Penis Emergency that will kill you if paramedics perform the Vagina Procedure on your fully clothed body.

[moniquill]

Hospital spoilers btw: blood isn't sorted by sex, it's sorted by type. The sex of the blood donor doesn't factor in at all when receiving a transfusion, and you will not be harmed by receiving blood from a donor whose sex is different than yours. Saying this because it's another misconception that I've heard.

[fetus-cakes]

if you're unconscious at the hospital and they need to operate and insert a catheter in your urethra, don't worry! they'll figure out if you have a penis or a vagina without having to look at a laminated card in your wallet

[moniquill]

And if you have ambiguous or surgically modified genitals, they'll find your urethra anyway!

[blackcandlesinwinter]

I think this is one of those things where folks are so used to it that they just sort of assume there must be a good reason for it. But the only reason for your sex to be on your ID is if your legal rights differ based on your sex. Like, it would be important for your ID to say F or M if, for instance, one of those categories was allowed to open a bank account but the other one wasn't. But as far as I can tell, we have mostly decided that legal rights should pertain to everyone. Which means that sex documentation really is just a throwback to a time when women were not considered full legal persons and therefore their legal status had to be officially displayed on their ID in order to maintain that distinction.

Honestly, the only major thing I can think of that still strictly legally requires sex distinction is the military draft. Which, A) still doesn't require sex be recorded on your drivers license, B) could be made sex-neutral, or C) could be abolished instead.

[ot3]

the nasty trick is that making friends is pretty easy but managing to keep in touch with everyone is next to impossible

[devinellekurtz]

My very first tiger drawing and my latest