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Hey dolls, where are we getting cute matched panties with a wide gusset and bralettes/bras with smaller cup bigger band size these days? I used to swear by Parade but venture capitalists killed it and I haven’t found a good replacement brand yet.

Im the kind of autistic that once I find something that works i buy mostly that until I can’t - like 75% of my bras and panties are Parade lmfao.

While we at it, got recs for places to get cute size 13+ shoes that aren’t Pleasers and don’t fall apart instantly? How about queer and/or Black clothing shops in general?

If you got recs, put em in reblog or replies! If you don’t, reblog this so others might contribute!

greens-your-color

I swear by TomboyX for bralettes and undies. All I’ve bought for years n years.

Kizik for sneakers (their styles/colors are completely unisex even though they divide their website into women’s/mens—it’s quite literally the same shoe)

Only Maker big size for heels.

fuckthisshit-ugh

please read this even if you're not indian. especially if you're not indian.

you've seen the jokes. india is "dirty", indians are "everywhere", why don't they fix their own country. ok. let me tell you why, and what's happening right now while nobody's watching.

first, the history you skipped: britain ruled india for two centuries and drained it. economist utsa patnaik's research estimates around $45 trillion in today's money was taken. the india that got independence in 1947 was one of the poorest countries on earth. every "why is india like this" question starts there. you don't get to profit off a robbery and then mock the crime scene.

now, what's happening RIGHT NOW:

in may the question paper for NEET leaked. that's the national medical entrance exam. over 2.2 million students took it. cancelled. years of studying, families' savings poured into coaching, gone overnight because someone sold the paper. students died by suicide after. these were kids who wanted to be doctors.

and out of that came a protest movement. a gen z group called the cockroach janta party, started by a 30 year old named abhijeet dipke, got 22 million instagram followers within DAYS. they've been doing a sit-in at jantar mantar in delhi demanding education minister dharmendra pradhan resign.

and then there's sonam wangchuk. if you've watched 3 idiots, he's the real engineer the character was based on. built solar schools in ladakh. invented ice stupas so himalayan villages have water. spent his whole life on education. he's 59 and he's been on hunger strike for 17+ days now. reporters went to see him this week and he was too weak to talk. and the troll armies are calling him "anti national" and "foreign funded". a man starving himself for other people's children. that's the thing here, anyone who asks a question is suddenly a traitor.

it's not one incident, it's everywhere you look:

• infrastructure worth thousands of crores failing within months of the ribbon cutting. tunnels collapsing in regions where heavy rain is a guarantee, not a surprise.

• youth unemployment near 10% for ages 15 to 29, 13.6% in cities. in a country of 1.42 billion where more than half the population is young.

• only about the top 3% of indians earn above 10 lakh a year. meanwhile billionaire wealth keeps ballooning and the headlines celebrate it.

• manipur burned for over two years. an ethnic conflict, tens of thousands displaced, and the prime minister barely said the word manipur while it happened.

• journalists raided. critics' houses bulldozed. activists sitting in jail for years without trial under laws like UAPA. our press freedom ranking has cratered.

• even the petrol is a fight now, ethanol blending pushed through while drivers complain about their engines and get no straight answers.

and through all of it, the PM, who came to power on religious polarisation (americans, sound familiar?), travels abroad for photo ops and has not held one single open press conference in over a decade. not one.

what i'm asking:

if you're not indian: share this. our media mostly won't cover any of it because the big outlets are owned by the same billionaires the government serves. the only reason wangchuk's fast is getting any coverage is people refusing to look away.

if you ARE indian: speak up even if you're comfortable. especially if you're comfortable. join the protests. add to this, correct me, translate it. staying quiet is a choice when nothing in this post touches your life.

india is not "dirty". india was robbed, and it's being robbed again, from the inside this time. but it's also the country where a 59 year old will starve for strangers' kids and 22 million young people will rally behind a party literally named after cockroaches, because cockroaches survive everything.

we can still save her. but only loudly.

reblog. share. don't scroll past.

standwithdaanes

The movement, which began as a satirical protest, has evolved into a nationwide challenge to Prime Minister Narendra Modi's government.

Supporters of India's youth-led Cockroach movement said Tuesday they will continue their protest in New Delhi, refusing to leave their sit-in site a day after police used tear gas and batons to disperse thousands of them as they tried to march toward Parliament. Hundreds of protesters camped at Jantar Mantar, a designated protest site, under heavy police presence, saying they would stay until Education Minister Dharmendra Pradhan resigns over alleged failures in India's examination system. "We are going to continue our protest," said Abhijeet Dipke, founder of the Cockroach Janta Party, which emerged just two months ago. The movement, drawing students, professionals and families, marks a rare public challenge to Prime Minister Narendra Modi 's government in its third term, reviving criticism over its handling of dissent and its use of force to respond to protests. [...] Sona Bisht, a 20-year-old student who was part of the protest, said the confrontation strengthened her resolve. "If the government thinks that doing this with Gen Z, they can stop us, then that won't happen. We are here talking about education, talking about securing our future. And till the time our demands are not met, we will not move from here," she said.

"Definitions developed thus far about youth, like the Gen Z narrative, have largely been linked to roles attributed by the dominant system. The rulers have invented a whole range of terms — rebellious, irresponsible, apolitical, extremist, consumerist — not to understand youth, but to neutralize it. They know as well as we do that whoever wins over the youth wins over society. [...] Thus the question is not whether youth is powerful, but in whose interest this power is directed. Today’s uprisings — such as those in Nepal, Bangladesh, Madagascar, Indonesia, Kenya, Morocco, and beyond — demonstrate that youth continues to emerge as a decisive actor. Young women like Deniz Ciya have proven this with their lives. These uprisings are not expressions of generational temperament. These „Gen Z uprisings“ are expressions of a social force confronting structural crisis inherent in the current system. [...] Recent youth uprisings — whether in the form of environmental justice protests, labor movements, or uprisings against authoritarian governments — are proof that youth worldwide are not only responding to a set of circumstances; they are consciously and collectively rejecting the narratives that seek to define them. Thus, it is crucial to analyze what transpired, and draw lessons from these uprisings, particularly in the context of building a global youth democratic confederalism. For the power of youth movements is interconnected, despite being geographically distant." — "Beyond "Gen Z": Defending Revolutionary Youth Spirit" by Lêgerîn

"The youth in general, and especially the young women, are the spark of every revolution.We can’t look at the history and found a revolution without the youth. We are a fundamental factor. We should be aware of this reality, we should take conscience of our historical role. By doing this we will provide ourselves with a plan that will allow us the unity of action and objectives. The Youth should not be condemned to be a slave of the capitalist system. [...] If we reject the labels and mentalities imposed by the system, taking consciousness as Internationalist Youth in a global level and organizing ourselves, is there someone who can stop us?" — "The youth is the spark of every revolution" by Lêgerîn.

keplercryptids

I spent the afternoon arranging our books by size and color (and it’s so satisfying and looks amazing) and my partner came home and stared in shock at the bookcase and then said “i’m a librarian, you can’t do this.”

keplercryptids

him: you split up all the song of ice and fire books

me: yeah i know, they’re all primary colors, it’s perfect

him: [self-destructs]

operativesurprise

You’re a monster

thetumblrofrassilon

As a former bookstore employee, this hurts my soul. I mean, sure it looks nice, but how do you find anything?

keplercryptids

it has occurred me during this process that apparently not everyone thinks about books by what color they are? like, literally when i’m looking for a book, i picture it in my mind. i have a very…tactile experience with the books i read and idk! i thought everyone did that lol.

my partner was like “how will i find [this book] for instance” and i replied “easy, it’s purple” and he looked at me like i was a witch.

holdmecloseandfast

OP your brain is neat and I love you for it you funky little color-coded cupcake. But you’re still a monster.

krsonmar

This actually is interesting in terms of information-seeking behavior, which is a thing librarians think about a lot and often actually study (some library jobs require you to publish, and academic librarians, for instance, will often use the students at the college they work at to study how they search for information in order to figure out how to best provide them services).

When you go for an MLS (Master’s of Library Science, which is a thing, and which is usually required for “professional-level” library work [which is also a weird and contentious concept that I won’t go into here]), one of the things you study is the organization of information. This deals with how to determine what a book or other material is “about"—a concept we tongue-in-cheek call “aboutness"—and how to convey that to a potential user of the item and make it easy for them to find. Things like keywords and subject headings, do I put this book about how often wild birds attack aerial drones in with books about birds or with books about technology, if its a fictional novel do I put fantasy in it’s own section or mix it in with all of the other fiction, so on and so on.

OP is organizing books by how they would look for them. OP’s partner is thinking in terms of aboutness. This is a system that works for OP because it’s their personal library: they know basically what books they own and they only own books that are relevant to them, and if they know what the book looks like, that can be a quick way to find it.

In a library that assumes the public (or people who do not own that particular collection of books) are using the collection, that doesn’t work. Books are often re-issued in multiple covers, or re-bound in new covers when they get worn out, and if the user doesn’t know what the book looks like or is expecting a different cover, they’re lost. That’s why non-personal libraries used standardized cataloging systems like the Dewey Decimal System or Library of Congress System to organize a book by what it’s “about”, and then put books about the same or similar topics together, marked with labels and signage so a person unfamiliar with the book or collection can find their way to it.

Basically, OP’s system works for their own personal library, because it’s best suited to how the primary user—OP themselves—looks for books. OP’s librarian partner is coming from a background of thinking in terms of a public-facing collection, where aboutness is the key criteria and communicating it to a user unfamiliar with the collection is the priority.

And also, OP is a monster.

therootbeersprite

@official-library-posts

official-library-posts

official library post

#library stuff

vmvmi

Only Entropy Comes Easy - Chapter 14

Fandom: Kpop Demon Hunters Relationship: Polytrix Status: Slow Burn (but reconciliation is on the horizon)

Chapter Summary: We find out why Mira left.

START FROM THE BEGINNING

#polytrix #read later

germesthegenie

“You’re Wearing Black”

Comic based on 29.1

#wormblr #parahumans #worm spoilers #augh my heart

cjsnaake

I fuck with this

viewtiful-kim-deactivated202105

Hamlet adaptation where Hamlet is a vlogger and all his soliloquies are breakdowns he uploads to YouTube

animatedamerican

… I am unironically here for this

oldfilmsflicker

this is the funniest thing I’ve ever seen in my life

kabesattic

This is - legitimately - my favourite delivery of Shakespeare I have EVER seen (and I have seen some good-ass productions yo, in the Globe Theatre itself even). Like seriously, even though the words are unchanged, he’s stripped away ALL of the archaic pretense and assumed grandeur of ~presenting the bard~ that makes even the most wildly talented of actors and innovative of productions inherently inaccessible to a modern audience. Like, they’re still great, they can still communicate the message and (some) of the nuance, but they’re still always a step removed from being identifiable to any viewer’s lived experience. They’re still always reciting 15th century poetry. But this guy? This guy is like, screw iambic pentameter, to hell with being precious about the material, HOW WOULD AN ACTUAL PERSON SAY THIS SHIT?

Like this. And it’s beautiful. It’s beautiful to hear a soliloquy I loved so much already, and have it come to life in a way it never, ever, did before. I feel like I grasp his motivations, his twists and turns, no longer on an academic level but on a visceral, instinctive one. Because he’s presenting his mental and emotional journey in a way that speaks honestly, like a real person.

So yeah, this shit post? I love it. Deeply and sincerely.

spicedtealeaves

A post about this went round recently, and I’m delighted to announce she’s since come out as trans and goes by Jasmine 🏳️‍⚧️

Actor and Writer

There’s a whole series of the Hamlet videos on her YouTube, as well as a bunch of other films she’s made

muirin007

A few weeks back, I used my adult money to commission Ralph Ineson to read this passage from Frankenstein, and his short performance blew my mind. I’m currently working on a little animatic for it, but in the meantime, here’s me playing Creature dress-up with the audio.

tayskitter

Trying to draw faster, use fewer references, and let my drawings stay imperfect (still working on that last one).

A girl who's a little lost.

darkshrimpemotions

source

#the second he realises what happened and stops being able to breathe

ivfhnyfubpx

this scene is so fucking funny the english dub of this show is so good

laughconfetti

loud warning

notajerusalemcricketd-deactivat

nunnatheinsanegerbil

teaboot

Rolling on the floor sobbing and crying and losing my mind at “GET INSIDE THE VAAAAAAAAAAN”

its-your-mind

finally. an appropriate name for my ‘time to leave’ alarm.

wakewithgiggli

This explains indirectly why lesbians are the biggest trans allies.

quasi-normalcy

Reading a fringe-scientific essay about prophetic dreams from 1928 that segues into a bizarre theory involving infinite dimensions in time, and I must admit that the author is making some disturbingly good points.

quasi-normalcy

Okay, but if we did live in a universe with multiple time dimensions, what would that even look like? I mean...subjectively. For the observers inside it. Would they even know that there were multiple dimensions in time? It seems a lot harder to measure than there being a fourth dimension in space.

sistersorrow

You can't say all that and not post the link, or at the very least a title

quasi-normalcy

An Experiment with Time, by John W. Dunne. Apparently it was an influence on just about every significant British author of the mid 20th century.

thyl0s

What do you think are some in-universe capefic tropes in worm?

Woobified wards?

Tattletale bashing?

People thinking Assault/Battery is problematic because of the whole them being siblings rumor?

hugintheraven

Discourse:

A whole chain of discourse along the modern lines of antis/proship about shipping villains. Hero-only shippers posting callouts about someone for writing an Enemies-to-lovers villain redemption story. Undersiders fic writers going "look, they're better people than most of the heroes". S9 shippers getting hate from everyone.

Also writing RPF about your hometown capes vs writing about capes from a different city being a whole THING. "Look, it's usually fine, but just don't write about Bay capes unless you're from the Bay." "Oh, it's fine to do to New York but not to you?!" "No, you're just really bad at it."

Also age discourse with the added wrinkle of people guessing that the Wards sometimes lie about their ages but no one being able to agree in which direction.

Non-Discourse:

Powered Romance vs Civilian Identities Romance vs No Powers AU all being distinct genres with very different fanbases. Powered romance writers specifically often argue that it's not RPF because they're focused on the Cape, not the person. Other fans disagree.

Civilian names generally being puns based on the cape name. Usually one BNF uses a name early on and everyone else copies them because it's easier than coming up with a new one. Using a new name for a Cape with an established civilian name isn't a faux pas, exactly, but people usually avoid it without good reason.

Some people care a lot about powers being portrayed accurately and some people care a lot about powers being used in ways that further the story. Fans actually develop a tag/term for which a story is, but no one ever uses it.

Everyone who isn't an artist considers matching team costumes cringe(this is canon per Taylor when meeting the Travelers). Everyone who IS an artist has sent Accord at least one letter thanking him for forcing a team to wear better outfits.

People who are officially dating/married MOSTLY get shipped with their spouse, but there's always a contingent claiming any official relationship is just a smokescreen for whatever reason.

"[City] just got attacked by an Endbringer, everyone I don't like is dead, my faves from a different city have transferred in" is an extremely common premise.

People mostly write about the same cities. All heroes/villains are somewhat famous, but learning enough about a city's cape population to write it well is enough work that people mostly focus on the big names. The big names are NOT necessarily NYC/LA/Chicago. Fandom is at least a little hipster and would avoid the biggest cities being their sole focus. That said, Brockton Bay is only popular with the true nerds until after Leviathan, when the normies learn it exists.

Team-specific:

Every single team gets poly sex fic. Any team with a significant lean towards mostly men or mostly women, there's fic and art excluding or genderbending the outliers.

Brockton Bay Wards are notorious for that, with people finding all sorts of reasons to ignore Vista/Shadow Stalker/Flechette when writing their underage white boy poly pile.

Travelers showing up, having weird powered sex with your faves, and then leaving town with everyone either horny or heartbroken, is 95% of the Travelers tag.

Character-specific:

LOTS of trans!Skitter fics. Trans in either direction depending on writer. Accusations that this is just people wanting a white bad boy to ship with their fave are common. Lots of bondage fics involving spider silk.

Tattletale is a plot device rather than a character. EXCELLENT for getting your blorbos to admit their feelings for each other. "We were fighting the Undersiders and then...well, Tattletale distracted us and they got away *sheepish blush*" is a common trope in longer fics that want to keep the Undersiders around but not see the protagonists lose.

Before Tattletale was on the scene, Dragon was used for forcing similar confessions since Dragon knows everything.

Clockblocker: Tweets "Please don't ship me with my teammates. They're my friends and I've only fucked one of them, so being shipped with anyone else really makes me uncomfortable." (I don't have the original source for this joke.) Half the fans treat this as a serious request, the other half double down on including him since he opened the door.

Everyone assumed Skitter and Grue were like 20 early on because obviously the team leaders are going to be adults even if Regent/Bitch/Tattletale are younger. When Taylor was outed a LOT of people had to do some soul searching about their previous fics. Grue remained "probably 20+ in people's minds" even afterwards.

Legend/Alexandria/Eidolon are all basically unfuckable in people's minds and no one knows why. There's more fics about Endbringer sex than any of those three.

ordinarytalk

Recovering from autistic burnout as a high-masking adult:

To recover, you literally need to manually learn skills that most people learn as a toddler

You need to learn what makes your body uncomfortable, and what to do to fix it

If you are high-masking, that usually means that you have learned to ignore every distress signal your body sends unless it is a distress signal that a neurotypical person would recognize. People have likely been unintentionally gaslighting you about your lived experience your entire life

If you feel bad or panicked for no reason, stop and try to pay attention to your body. Are you tense? You are likely feeling physical pain somewhere. If you've been gaslit about your pain your entire life, you might not be able to identify it.

Go through a sensory checklist.

SIGHT: Try closing and covering your eyes. If this gives you relief, the lights are probably too bright. You may also need differently-colored lights

SOUND: Cover your ears. Does this give you relief? If so, you may need earplugs or noise canceling headphones. You may also benefit from a neutral or pleasant background noise, like soft music or brown noise.

TOUCH: Are your clothes uncomfortable? Your chair? Your body? Do you feel greasy, like you need a shower? Do you need softer, sensory-friendly clothing?

TASTE: Do you need to brush your teeth or tongue? Would chewing on something help?

SMELL: Is there a strong or unpleasant smell in the room? Do you need to clean or empty a trash can? Would an air purifier help? Would a pleasant smell like a candle help?

INTEROCEPTION: Are you hungry? Thirsty? Tired? How is your posture? Are any of your muscles tight or sore? Scan your body slowly from head to feet, tensing and loosening each group of muscles. Going for a walk or doing a series of quick stretches may help a lot.

Learning how to do this stuff is not intuitive, if you've had an entire lifetime of gaslighting telling you that everything hurting you isn't a big deal and you're being dramatic over nothing.

This takes time, it takes work, it's not intuitive, and it's hard. Most people forget how hard it is, because they learned this as toddlers.

If you want to recover, you need to relearn your whole body. And get over your idea of "normal" and just wear the damn sunglasses and put on the headphones. If people stare, fuck em. You're disabled and they can deal with that.

whatbigotspost

What a great post! So helpful.

People often ask me about my unmasking journey and express surprise to hear that such a big part of it has been 1) accepting I must avoid light/the sun and 2) wearing clothes I can stand.

I’ll play it jokey and say it like “well it took me far too long to realize that my former wardrobe made me want to jump off a bridge.” Or “turns out my old underwear was anti-autistic.” Or “for whatever reason when it’s too bright, I can’t think.”

It sounds silly to some people. It’s very hard for the average allistic person to understand how severed I was from what my physical person was feeling. It served me to be disembodied to survive for a long time. Until it didn’t.

headspace-hotel

eliminating all polyester blends from my wardrobe (and polyester in general) changed my fucking life

smallandsundry

when your friends write vampire aus you gotta draw em

#holy shit?!#bishova

artgremlinn

Kate and Yelena🥹🤍

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