Went onto Twitter, first person I saw on the tag was anti feminist, another posted this:
There was also racism about home economic being more useful than learning about indigenous women and then a bunch of stuff in French and then I went into Tumblr and it was about how feminism ruins womenās hands because they should be soft, but sure, cherry picking.
Stay at home mumās have always been a thing, inventing a label and pretending that society punishes you for doing the thing it would prefer you to do is super common even in the small sections I have seen. And there is a great deal of shaming other women, not simply valuing those traits but putting them above other traits and narrowly defining femininity.
If you want to raise children and keep a house and wear makeup and cook meals then go ahead, but if you donāt even want to investigate why that version of femininity, that was forced on women, is the one you think is ideal then youāre probably not interested in anything but blind defense.
What tradition? Starting when? How far back? Because women used to continue the most caloric value to a family, gathered most of the food, made most of the decisions about where the family lived and that was tradition.
You have chosen a very specific type of femininity to put on a pedestal, the same pedestal that women fought and screamed and died to get off of, then you want to label it as ātraditionalā without any regards to how incredibly painful, limiting and damaging it was to women to be forced to exist that way.
You have chosen something that many queer women or women of colour cannot live up to because these apparent traditions were often not afforded to them.
But what really gets me is that you really wanted to label it, as though it isnāt still incredibly common and accepted. As though is it not still the default mode that women still have to struggle to get out of.
Iām not stupid, I looked at a lot of posts, a lot of these traditions come with nostalgic aesthetics of very specific periods of time where women were not allowed to be anything else. You took these years and decided that you needed a banner and a hashtag instead of just living your lives and calling yourselves full time mums or house wives or whatever other label. Not for no reason, but to send a message about what femininity is and, by contrast, what it is not.
Mumās and dedicated house wives have always had a place in society, a huge presence on the internet and plenty of representation.
But they wanted to draw more attention to it and I looked, and it is littered with racism, misogyny, anti-feminism and all sorts of assorted bigotry that forms when you push a myopic view of a broad subject.
Just to be fucking women the way you want to be and stop being so obnoxious about it, no one cared.
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