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lesbian feminist • really epic I guess • russian + american

[patodeweloper]

do not eat pussy like this !

[limp-wristed-pagan]

[friendlymathematician]

where's that post about how males don't believe women and girls are thinking, feeling human beings capable of making jokes? so an obvious joke is met with either taking it at face value and calling us stupid, or amazement that we accidentally made a joke?

[icedoatmilkmatcha-deactivated20]

@limeade-l3sbian 😭😭 girl i'm dead

[cherrylimeade-l3sbian]

Is eating pussy not exactly like peeling and eating a big ass orange??????? I had no idea 😔

[doingitatmybirthdaydinner]

even a virgin lesbian still has her pussy with her at all times and therefore is more of a pussy expert than a male who watches lesbian porn and occasionally has heterosexual sex so like maybe males can just shut the fuck up about lesbian sex since they never have had it, and never will have it. the concept of a male lecturing lesbians about how they don't know how to have lesbian sex, unlike HIM. that idea would have been laughed at like 15 years ago and now males are genuinely dead serious completely earnestly saying they know lesbian sex better than lesbians.....where are we??

[chromaticabrasions]

"oh yeah you should watch this show! its on-" it doesnt matter. it is on the little site in my computer. for free

[doingitatmybirthdaydinner]

Check out this artist I stumbled across. She proudly identifies as a tomboy female homosexual lesbian and posts gender critical lgb without the t stuff. She’s Ukrainian-Norwegian. Her music is like electronic-y and is all about actual lesbian relationships between two female women. It seems like she loses a few followers every time she posts something gender-critical, so please go follow and support her even if her music isn’t your thing. You can find her spotify and different ways to listen to her music in the link in her instagram bio. go support her!!!!!

[gokusclit]

“Lesbians have the highest divorce rates” ur mad that… lesbians actively choose to have the autonomy to end a relationship when it’s not working for them? Yea i guess you would be lady who’s been with her bf/husband for years even tho ur clearly unhappy

[pillarsalts]

sometimes where I work, there'll be brief times when it's only women on shift and only women customers inside, and for a couple minutes, I can do a nice little mental exercise where I imagine I'm living in a world with only other women. it's a peaceful happy feeling, but unfortunately you also can't ever really completely let go of the vigilance.

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

That happened to me on the bus a couple months ago. A woman was trying to get another lady's attention so I got it and it turned out the first woman thought the second lady dropped a bag of potatoes but it wasn't hers. So us and a fourth woman were having a chuckle about it when I realized it was just us and another woman on the bus. There were no men. And I realized a tension I always hold when out and about just wasn't there, as if my body had realized it before I did. lol

[nansheonearth]

By day 2 of my first women's festival (Michfest) I realized that my body had let go of a tension I didn't even realize I had. I felt like a fish noticing the water for the first time. I realized that a lot of my anxiety was related to living in man's land.

[uvb76fan]

trans women are multiple times more likely to be sex offenders than cis men btw

[radical-song]

I LOVE BISEXUAL AND HOMOSEXUAL WOMEN!!! HAPPY PRIDE!!! MAY YOU EAT ONE BILLIONS PUSSIES THIS MONTH!!!

[kitchenalia]

occasionally, we all need to do some internal reality checks. step back from ideals and activism for a few minutes to actually see and understand the women in the world – the housewives who will never leave their husbands, the lesbians who don’t have a single activist bone in their bodies, the women who can’t understand the point of separatism, the women who swear that they’re happy doing what they do, the old women who spent their entire lives with a man and are therefore too boring for you, the women who never want to work a job, the women who will never have time for activism because they do nothing but work a job, the women who are “stuck in their ways,” the women who have distanced and isolated themselves from any of the other women in their lives…

the world isn’t made up of ideologically pure women or noble, flawless victims of the patriarchy who are damaged but do no damage themselves. the world isn’t split into good, interesting, politically active women & bad women who you can ignore (unless you feel like making fun of them). the world is primarily composed of women who do not already agree with you. and they’re still worthwhile women who deserve to be liberated as much as the ones who do agree with you.

[charitydingle]

Kedi 2016, dir. Ceyda Torun

[dykemind]

How to Write your Will so men don’t Touch your fucking Body after Death

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[poodletrain]

It is really sad to read replies saying they’re taking themselves off organ donation lists.

[dykemind]

women overwhelmingly donate their bodies more than men and are overwhelmingly the victims of postmortem rape and defilement. If someone wants me to donate my body they need to create female-only donation tracks where I am legally guaranteed no male will come in contact with my corpse. Get moving on that.

[user87262893]

Hi, i need your advice. Last year i spend a lot of time interacting with radfems online, reading and practicing radical feminism. But i'm feeling disappointed with myself right now bc i feel like my change was superficial and not so radical. I met a man online, and to impress him i started wearing makeup again / shaving again / i started dating him and giving up to his desires even tho i promised myself i wouldn't date men again or at least not giving up my boundaries for men (1/2)

i'm too embarrassed to send this. And i'm not looking for pity or anything, just advice on how to get back to the changes i was making and to truly change so i don't keep falling for male validation. I want to be like all those other radfems who truly don't care about what men think and stay true to their boundaries.

Hi! Listen - being an involved, active feminist who lives the ideology means that there are going to be setbacks. You're human! There is no such thing as political purity, we can only strive to make decisions that align with our values as often as possible.

I think the best thing you can do right now is to step back from interacting romantically with men. To be frank, I don't think you're ready or prepared to stand your ground against the societal pressure of a heterosexual relationship or the power imbalance that comes with it. And the goal, if I'm being honest, isn't to be "ready" for it, because its an awful thing to experience, I'm just saying if pursuing men is something you're going to be doing, there is a level of fortitude necessary to not be swept along by their bullshit. The ability to hold strong boundaries against immense pressure, to step away at the first red flag, to not put your self-worth in their hands, and to be able to cut them loose even if you love them deeply.

If I was a doctor, I might prescribed a year of singleness just to get your head on your shoulders and live again in your boundaries without having them tested.

Focus on yourself and your female friends. Maybe journal about your values and how you want to live within them. And don't worry about this slip up, it happens, it sucks, but the amazing thing about ideology is that there is not a huge barrier to entry or a test to get back in. You just get to come back in, welcomed as you were before.

We're happy to have you here! If you want to talk to someone about this stuff (which we've all experienced!!) don't hesitate to reach out.

[radicalising-you]

Reading this, I feel incredibly heard. This is a topic not too often discussed on here - at least not that I've seen - which made me feel a bit stupid when this same exact thing happened to me.

A few months ago, I'd stopped going on Tumblr as often and while I still considered myself febfem and a radical feminist, the only practice I did was some non-action and minimal organising with libfems. Then suddenly a guy started complimenting me a lot and asking me to meet up and stuff and, despite myself, I felt so enamoured with the concept of being desired by a man, that I ignored all the red flags and ended up being sexually assaulted.

These past few weeks I've been spending more time on radblr, trying to heal, but when a different guy showed interest in me the other day, again my instincts acted for me and I responded with excitement (and fear, though only in the back of my mind). When I recognised this, I felt so incredibly stupid. I know it's not my fault necessarily, but because it's a concept so seldomly discussed, I felt like I was the only radfem on here too "weak" to actually push past her instincts.

Thank you for sharing your story. It made me realise I'm not alone in this fight, and that I don't have to be perfect. I hope the both of us can find the strength to withstand the temptation of male validation. :)

[littlewildmother]

Genuinely stop talking to that man. Stop arguing with him. Stop engaging with him. It’s so easy and simple. Block him, don’t reblog him, and move on. Stop making me see him.

[thentheysaidburnher]

At some point one must away from what does not like and orient oneself toward what one loves to the exclusion of all else.

[cabbagefem]

I think one of the most insidious things about our current era of patriarchy is how much we are bombarded with women who appear to choose their own objectification, enjoying their own objectification and selling it as confidence and fun. The message being that any discomfort with patriarchy is prudish and unfeminine and underconfident. That this discomfort must come from our own ugliness and shame, something to hide and be insecure about, and that criticism of objectification is criticism of women ourselves. That we’re jealous and mean. Men are almost completely taken out of the picture- as executives, as photographers, as directors and consumers of our bodies and sexuality. The objectification of women is done by women, to women, and any repercussions will fall onto women. We are entirely self contained whilst men are free to watch from outside and consume our sexuality regardless.

[normalfixation]

sorry but if you refer to yourself as a mans bitch youre a victim. and if youre a man and you call your girlfriend your bitch you need to have all your limbs ripped off by a machine and have your soul spend eternity being tortured in hell. just my opinion

[iwanttolisten]

In the end MTFs are displaying pretty typical behavior for males who are low on the male hierarchy (see: incels) where instead of allying with females, the ones degraded by the hierarchy the most, they think they suffer uniquely to all other people and form a pack with other males in their same little "caste". They then convince themselves females are actually giving them the most pain and are uniquely responsible/culpable, so they direct all their hatred and bitterness toward them. They do this even if they might have grievances towards males higher up in the hierarchy than them, because in the end some part of their subconscious realizes they share a positionality (see: them recruiting willing cis men, often teenage boys, and pressuring them into transition with forcefem "jokes" and "egg-cracking")

[iwanttolisten]

[female-uncle-deactivated2026071]

Check out this zine I found online that's being sold irl. Some will laugh it off and say it's just a joke, just blowing off steam, whatever. Can you imagine any other demographic getting away with this? Selling something like this in stores? The only reason they can get away with being like this is that they are MEN.

[gender-apostate]

That zine just further validates my growing belief that the motivations behind trans identification for the average trans identified male now is completely different from the motivations behind trans identification for the average trans identified male from, say, the 60's. (Autogynephilia has always existed as a motivator of course, but I am specifically referring to other motivators.)

We have an entire group of males attempting to leverage current discourse and politics to make it impossible (bigoted/evil/"transmisogynistic") to criticize or hold them accountable on anything ever, including when they're rapists, pedophiles, abusers, etc. To the point where many of these men and their supporters believe it is worse to criticize this special class of male rather than the subject of criticism being a rapist/pedophile/abuser in the first place. (1) (2) (3)

And you expect me to believe predatory males wouldn't find such a label beneficial to opt into? Especially when, thanks to the general consensus within the trans community, has little to no barrier to entry aside from merely saying you are [x thing]? Because remember; any barriers to claiming to be [x thing] is "transemdicalist" and transmeds are transphobic!11*

*And to be clear; the point I'm making here is that the argument "no man would pretend to be trans to prey on women it's too difficult/taxing/etc" holds no water. Especially because we have seen predatory males go absurd lengths just to get access to victims, this isn't some unheard of thing like genderists try to pretend.

[a-lesbian-feminist]

"But you can't always tell that a trans woman is actually a male! We're harmless, you can't even tell the difference!"

Yes, sometimes a male imitating a woman is, superficially, indistinguishable from a woman. That doesn't make them the same though.

You also can't tell the difference between meat that's safe to eat, and meat that's infecred with a prion disease. That doesn't make the latter safe to eat.

[finnishrogue]

i have said it before and i will say it again: if i, a human being with perfectly functional, healthy legs and feet, decided to sit down on a wheelchair and move around with it for one entire day just because, i am going to be perceived exactly like all the other wheelchair users out there, and yet that doesn't mean i am one of them or genuinely understand their experiences. let alone get to talk OVER them when trying to decide what accessibility should mean in practice. yes, now i have a faint idea of how many times a day a disabled person might receive a dirty look or a slur. now i have a faint idea of how many places in my neighborhood aren't actually accessible with a wheelchair.

but i can still get up from that chair anytime, anywhere, kick it to the side and forget about its existence. i could still tell my ableist bullies that they should shut up because look, i can stand just fine, this was just an experiment, do you wanna try? "don't be mean to ME, i am not actually one of those!"

and certainly, they might still find me suspicious for even "wanting to sit on such a thing", but i can fucking bet their perception of me will still change. suddenly i am no longer the main target.

and sure, womanhood is not a disability, but just like certain disabilities, it is still a material reality that people can observe with their own eyes. just because you can try to roleplay that look does not mean we should be forced to accept you as one of us.

[docholligay]

Possibly my spiciest take is that it's actually good to have people you respect and like that have some dogshit takes.

I think part of what is making young people lonelier, in discussing why they're increasingly isolated, is that they're so afraid of meeting someone who doesn't hold their same beliefs, and instead of being just core beliefs it is kinda ancillary shit.

It's actually okay to disagree even on social topics! Even on some political ones! But I mean, online you can start with "i love this mutual but they have a really bad/uninformed opinion about x media"

I know this is IMMEDIATELY going to be taken in bad faith, and yes babygirl, you are so right, I DO want you to go make best friends with both the KKK grand wizard AND your nearest nazi leader.

But seriously, as someone who has spent two decades doing community organization: finding ways to connect with different people is so so so important. There are people i follow here who ate 80% smart and their brain falls out of their head 20% of the time and that is GOOD FOR MY MENTAL ECOSYSTEM AND GOOD FOR LEARNING HOW TO BE A PERSON

LET'S ALL GO PISS ON THE POOR