[bipolarkyloren-deactivated20170]

please respect people who are mentally ill and disabled who cannot work. please respect people who look like they’re just relaxing all day when really they’re waging an internal war just to stay alive or fight their pain. please respect people who could not finish school, people who had big plans and could not see them through because of disability. people who look from the outside like they’ve “given up” or “aren’t doing anything.” people who are hospitalized repeatedly or permanently, and people who are grown adults who are still dependent on others. please respect disabled and mentally ill people. 

this is not a polite suggestion, by the way. it’s an angry demand. we are people, and we deserve the same respect as anyone else.

[britp0p-deactivated20210628]

reminders:

youre worth loving

you deserve to love yourself

you deserve to be able to look in a mirror without hating what you see

you deserve to not spend hours agonizing over a little thing you said wrong

you deserve to be confident when you say you’re good at something

you deserve to get things without feeling guilty

you deserve to know your worth

you’re allowed to say no

you’re allowed to say yes

you don’t have to say sorry for existing

you’re allowed to take up space

you’re going to be okay

you’re loved

[jillraggett]

[lumberjackloverboy-moved]

being straight while trans is nothing like being straight while cis; straight trans people face as much discrimination as lgb people and pretending they have privilege over us is ignorant and transphobic. we must stand by our straight trans siblings

[titleknown]

Blogging this tweet because this explains SO MUCH about the mindset of pretty much all the folks I’ve known who’re against single-payer, it’s not even funny…

[hopesterling]

This….

This never occurred to me. Not once. That Americans are against Health Care because they think it actually costs tens of thousands of dollars for a broken arm, hundreds of thousands for a complicated birth, millions for cancer treatment.

Because they’ve never known anything different. The idea that a broken arm is only a couple hundred bucks; a complicated birth a couple thousand; cancer treatment only tens of thousands; all easily covered by existing tax structures.

[withasmoothroundstone]

This explains a lot.  And it’s a good example of what I was talking about in my post on scarcity being used to prop up ableism – always question the idea that a resource is genuinely scarce.  Even if it seems obvious that it is, quite often that’s the result of careful manipulation and misconceptions that you’re not even aware of.  

And never think you’re too smart to be fooled by that kind of thing, it doesn’t work like that.  Similarly, don’t think people who are fooled by something are stupid.  Nobody can have all the information about everything, and nobody has the time and energy to investigate and put together conscious conclusions about every piece of information they’re given.  It doesn’t take being stupid, or even just gullible, to believe something like this.

[lizardtitties]

I currently live in a country without free medical care and still, it’s enormously cheap compared to the USA. An American expat wrote a piece for our English language paper about how she paid more for parking at the hospital than giving birth to her baby that’s pretty interesting:

https://grapevine.is/mag/articles/2016/01/06/healthcare-in-iceland-vs-the-us-weve-got-it-so-good/

[thebibliosphere]

Yesterday I had to go to the hospital cause I injured my eye, I’m frankly dreading what the bill is going to be, but what made me balk was being told in the pharmacy that my insurance was denied for the antibiotic eye drops and it’d be over $100 out of pocket. So I didn’t get my eyedrops.

I’ve had these same drops before living in the UK. They cost me seven GBP.

It’s the exact same drug, same steroid, same strain of antibiotic. But somehow the US gets away with charging $100 for a generic non brand version of a drug which is easy to create and widely used. It’s downright robbery, but also a form of eugenics through poverty and class warfare. You keep the poor poor by making sure basic necessities remain unattainable and then you make it seem like the norm so no one fights it.

The rest of the world is not like this.

Eat the rich. Resist.

[flyingfishtailoutpost1]

It’s downright robbery, but also a form of eugenics through poverty and class warfare.

THIS. THISTHISTHIS. THIS IS WHAT I KEEP TRYING TO TELL PEOPLE.

[carolxdanvers]

for the record: 

The US is expected to spend about $3.8 Trillion on health care this year. The UK paid £129B, total, for healthcare costs in 2018/2019, which is roughly $170B. The UK’s population is 66.4 million; the US’s population is 327 million. That’s a little less than five times the population of the UK. $170B times 5 — rounding UP at every stage — is $855B. Less than health care spending as it currently stands. In fact, we’re currently paying 440% more than that, out of pocket, and that’s with 20% of us currently going WITHOUT health care. 

[socialistexan]

Here’s what’s even more wild, conservatives and centrist Democrats love to talk about how Medicare for All would cost $34 trillion over 10 years (assuming costs don’t go down and that we’re still charged hyper-inflated prices), but what they fail to mention is that if we keep our private for-profit system Americans will spend $52 trillion over that same time period.

But since the it’s not called taxes, it’s automatically better.

[thegoodvybe]

[psych-book-quotes-blog]

People who grew up emotionally neglected tend to carry some false beliefs about emotions in relationships. (By Jonice Webb)

Here’s a good, but not exhaustive, sampling:

1. Sharing your feelings or troubles with others will make them feel burdened.

2. Sharing your feelings or troubles with others will chase them away.

3. If you let other people see how you feel, they will use it against you.

4. Sharing your feelings with others will make you look weak.

5. Letting others see your weaknesses puts you at a disadvantage.

6. It’s best not to fight if you want to have a good relationship.

7. Talking about a problem isn’t helpful. Only action solves a problem.

Fortunately, not one of these beliefs is true. In fact, they are each and every one dead wrong. (The only exception is if you share your feelings with another emotionally neglected person, who may not have any idea how to respond). When you grow up receiving consistent direct or indirect messages that you should keep your feelings to yourself, it is natural to assume that those feelings are burdensome and undesirable to others.

[rosesandbruises20-blog]

Terrifyingly accurate

[sparrowskitten]

Wow 🐾

[thefoxof86-deactivated20220707]

Boost for awareness.

[miiriya]

[insiggious]

People have this weird belief that if you're critical of a system or tradition, then it must be because you failed to live up to that system or tradition. The idea of having a principled stance, regardless of whether or not *you* personally benefit from society accepting that stance, is foreign to so many people. And this belief is really fucking important for and beneficial to the elites of this country. If you can get the masses to equate criticizing you and the institutions you control with abject personal failure, congratulations, you've just made yourself immune to accountability

[left-reminders]

Critical of the system and not doing well? "You're just jealous 😏"

Critical of the system and doing well enough? "You're a hypocrite 😏"

[sadallthedamntime-blog]

[screambirdscreaming]

I’m still trying to write this damn essay on food systems but I’m very tired and at this point I mostly just feel like screaming about how fucked up and bizarre and unethical it is to treat food as an economic commodity??

It’s bad for farmers, whose livelihood rests on a knife’s edge that is unlikely to survive as little as two years of bad luck Which then also forces farmers to make decisions about land use, crop rotation, pesticide and fertilizer use, etc. which are motivated by an economic bottom line, rather than by what’s good for the land or the environment

It’s bad for grocery stores, which run on a likewise terrible profit margin because they have to waste a massive amount of food as a consequence of having everything avaliable all the time (eg, the only way to guarantee always having apples is to always have more apples than you can sell, so you never sell out, which means some will go bad and be wasted) Which is Also bad for the environment, bc it means production must be accelerated even more than the actual need for food would demand

It’s bad for people who eat food, aka everyone, because being able to eat well becomes a cost-based luxury and people’s ability to take care of themselves food-wise becomes subject to a whole crapfuck of market forces that are beyond their control

It’s bad not just locally, but globally, as the stability of local food systems everywhere is destabilized by what happens to be cheap on the global market

And what’s cheap on the global market is grains subsidized by the US government, which in theory gives farm subsidies to try and protect farmers from the issues in point 1, but the subsidies are so badly structured that the vast bulk of the money goes to the people who own corporate megafarms in the midwest, and produce massive quantities of grain which floods the global market and undercuts all other food prices, and actually further destabilizes the farmers even within the US who are most as risk

It’s honestly astonishing we’ve gotten this far down this godforsaken rabbithole but how do we get out

[screambirdscreaming]

like. The fact that food production - what gets grown, and how much of it - depends on the whims of the fucking market and not what people actually need to eat 

is just. so fucked.

[screambirdscreaming]

It’s difficult to coherently express why the whims of the market are so far diverged from what people actually need, but they really really are.

Basically the whole supply/demand principle only works as advertised if: -people could do without the commodity in question if it becomes too expensive (thus providing incentive to lower prices so people start buying again) -every consumer has roughly the same amount of money (otherwise the market responds only to the demands of the wealthy) -every producer is on roughly equal footing, in terms of the resources they invest in their production (otherwise a wealthy producer can undercut the market to drive others out of business, then raise prices once they control the market) -things which are being bought and sold retain intrinsic value over time (that is, commodities may devalue but never become worthless) and… none of those things are true of farming. The first few are probably intuitive, but to the last one:  Food is in general perishable, so it must be sold while it’s good - there’s no holding out until the market is better. There’s no real-time adjusting to market values either, what’s on the market is however much you grew this year, so any market prediction involved in deciding supply is running at least a year in advance, and in general the factors most strongly effecting the product supply are like. the fucking weather. and not demand at all. Also, there is an amount of food which is the Necessary amount, and any amount over is waste and worthless - because people can only eat so much - while any less is a catastrophe. 

There’s a strong pressure to err on the side of producing too much - so you have a safety net if the yield is bad, and so there isn’t mass starvation - but that in itself floods the market with excess and devalues the product (at least from the farmer’s perspective, but the number of price markups that happen throughout processing, distribution, and retail sale bring the price up to the point where food is still often unaffordable even while farmers are going out of business)

It’s all just… shit. Just a total shitshow. Economics just does not work on food production! It just doesn’t!

[pancakeke]

I don't know if any of you had the same experience as me, but I tried therapy when I was a teenager living in an abusive household and thought it was a waste of time. Ultimately my biggest problems (dad) were beyond my control and no amount of coping would make them better. Now that I'm an adult with actual control over my life and don't live with my dad anymore therapy is MUCH more helpful.

If any of you had bad experiences with therapy when you were younger it may be worth it to try again now.

[pancakeke]

THE SAME GOES FOR MEDICATION!! I tried meds as a teenager and they were powerless to help much due to my living situation being horrible. I thought that meant medication didn't work for me. Now that I'm out of that situation and trying agajn I can really see a difference.

[cheaphalloweencostume]

Protip for men: if marriage is a horrifying concept for you and you think it is an evil trap, do not buy a ring and ask a woman to marry you

[curtis-ballard]

I’m way over seeing radical feminist bullshit on my dash. This isn’t even social justice or a real issue.

[cheaphalloweencostume]

sorry that not marrying someone you dont loathe is radical feminism i guess?

[celestial--fawn]

women: don’t propose or get married if u don’t like the thought of marriage

men: what kind of sjw fuckery

[lemonsharks]

the other bit that this implies is: If you like your wife, act like it. Even around your friends. Be open and honest about liking your wife, liking spending time with her, and not being resentful of the shared work of building a household. Let your buddies know you can’t hang out with them because you’d rather be home with your wife, whom you like, because she is your legit bff, even though you know your buddies are gonna mock you for it. Stand up to your buddies. Tell them mocking isn’t cool and you don’t want them to do it anymore. Challenge the other men in your life to be better men. That is what “don’t get married if you think marriage is an evil trap” implies to men who are married. And while it’s all completely reasonable I imagine that it’s scary as fuck when it’s just so much easier to har de har har the little woman’s such a nag, ain’t she, don’t we all hate being married so much? with other men. In that context, “don’t get married if you think marriage is an evil trap” is kindof a radical statement.

[goshawke]

The number of guys I work with who are engaged who started pulling the “uh oh, life over soon, har har” shit that I have completely shut down with a simple “well if you don’t want to get married, then don’t”…*sigh* And they’re just like, hem, haw, welllll if I don’t then she might not stay with meee, which I respond to with “well, sounds like you need to have a pretty serious and honest conversation with your fiancee about your feelings then” and then the *panic!* look…When you remove that easy “hah hah ball-and-chain” narrative, watch the reaction. Some of them (to a female friend) will mumblingly admit that they love their fiancee and are excited to be married. Others…all you get is fear.

That’s the disservice we do men by refusing to teach boys how to explore their emotional needs. It hurts everyone. I watched three male friends walk into marriages I can tell they weren’t ready for and didn’t want, just because it was expected and they had no tools for emotional self-examination. Two of those marriages are (shockingly) in crisis, a couple years later. One has kids involved now. It’s more than a little heartbreaking. The marriages I see that are working? Are the guys with the emotional maturity to talk to their wives and who don’t care if everyone knows they’re in love with them.

[violent-darts]

SERIOUSLY. 

[lesbianspaceprincess]

My friend is getting married this summer and when I congratulated her fiance on their engagement he said to me “Yeah well you know, women. This is what they want so you have to bite the bullet.” and my other friend’s husband who was sitting next to him laughed and agreed. If this is how you feel, don’t get married. Don’t propose. Just…. Don’t. Do it. Any of it.

[scottish-fool-deactivated201705]

Straight people think that doing things you really don’t want to do - like marriage and having kids - is normal cos they’re still stuck in a fucking 19th century mindset.

[hexmaniacciaran]

It’s why I know my best friend got a good one, he’s open about how much he loves her and he’s excited to be getting married and regularly contributes ideas and has his own input, it’s nice to see

[sodomymcscurvylegs]

It filters through as well. Even being gay, a lot of my straight friends don’t understand why I spend so much time with my husband. Because I love him? Because I enjoy his company? Because he’s my best friend? I can’t count the amount of straight people that have told me that they think it’s “weird” that my husband and I spend so much quality time together. The only person who understood was my mom, whose response was: “If you love someone and genuinely enjoy their company, why WOULDN’T you want to spend your free time with them?!”

[teaboot]

How can anyone look at their impending marriage and think ‘oh no, it’s all over now’ like???? I’ve only felt so close to so many people in my life, but those small few were like?? I’d wake up in the morning excited to be awake just to look forward to SEEING them. I’d catch myself with this stupid idiot grin in broad daylight just THINKING ABOUT BEING AROUND THEM. I’d sleep easy with them in my head, shitty days became perfect once I spoke to them. THAT’s how I imagine feeling again someday. I think about feeling that way for someone again and it’s like the whole future opens up. Marriage is finding your best friend in the whole wide world and wanting to have a sleepover every single day, and to agree to it and then go around groaning like your freedom is being stolen is a HUGE disrespect. If you have the freedom to share your life with anyone you like and you throw it around like baggage you really can’t expect it to grow, can you? You gotta care about yourself a little more than that I think

[shrineart]

All of this.

[zohbugg]

Not to mention this mentality makes it’s way TO THE DAY OF THE WEDDING. How many weddings have we seen with something like this:

Like what kind of toxic mentality do you have to have to say this as the bride is about to walk down the aisle and marry someone who it’s now suggested doesn’t even want to be there?? How is this cute? How is this supposedly charming? This is supposed to be the person you love and want to be with! And not to mention that you send this down the aisle with a small child (the ring bearer or the flower girls)…I have a special loathing for things like this. 

[yamino]

Holy shit I didn’t know that was even a thing. This reminds me of a study I read about years ago with statistics on happiness/stability in relationships of people of various genders/orientations, and straight people were at the very bottom. (And lesbians were at the top! Not a huge surprise, given that women are generally more inclined to communicate and work out emotions and issues.)

[arielenhasarrived-deactivated20]

YOUR SPOUSE SHOULD BE YOUR BEST FRIEND

PERIOD

[lord-kitschener]

#this is seriously creepy

#and the fact that most people accept this as normal makes it even more creepy

[vampirezigzagoon]

[glorious-spoon]

the weirdest thing about a lot of the common criticisms of millennials i see is that they all seem to boil down to:

you are soft. you believe the world should be kind. you expect people to treat you fairly. you think your needs are important, that you deserve to be listened to, that you shouldn’t be hungry and frightened and in pain. 

and people are seriously SO OFFENDED by this. like, how dare you. how dare you believe the world might be a good place, how dare you believe you should be treated well just for existing. life is pain, princess, anyone who tells you different is selling something, now wipe that smile off your face, shut your mouth and go suffer like i did.

and it’s just like… i have a kid. if she grows up expecting better treatment than i experienced as a young woman, i’m doing my job. i know the world isn’t perfect, but random cruelty isn’t something we should just shrug our shoulders and accept, and it’s so fucking weird how angry people get at youngsters who refuse to do just that.

[fuckyeahwomenprotesting]

it’s because they want to hurt and take advantage of you with no repercussions  

[kibumkim]

This “china is stealing our info via tiktok” shit is just red scare 2.0

[kibumkim]

Like America steals ur info everyday via every single app u use and yall worried about china and tiktok

[morningsun-shines]

Y'all they literally confirmed that they were suppressing LGBT tiktoks... American sinophobia is real but c'mon now

[hundondestiny]

You guys are so willfully, loudly, thoroughly ignorant and racist and will be like "yeah racism is real but MY racism isn't actually racism" like wow! It’s truly disgusting.

If you actually read anything, you would know that those decisions were being made on *local* levels. Particularly I believe it was in Turkey where it was becoming a noticeable issue because they were banning LGBT content and any content that criticized their government. It wasn’t global.

YouTube is an American company that has been confirmed to not only actively demonetize and remove videos from LGBT creators while still showing homophobic ads targeted towards people who WATCH LGBT CONTENT but also just hard-coded those types of decisions into their new TOS which are almost definitely going to completely bust small creators while still allowing their big-brand names like PewDiePie and whoever the fuck else to continue on being nazis and shit in public.

but that doesn’t matter, right, because China is oh-so-scary? grow a brain.

[gentle-reminder]

gentle reminder

do something to care for yourself today, please - there are so many people who love you and care about you, but you need to be there for yourself too when you can

[nauticalcores-archive]

Nautical Aesthetics↴

Lighthousecore 

[01sentencereviews]

The Decade Comic Book Nerds Became Our Cultural Overlords

Why do they have to be such sore winners?