[roycohn]

men will do literally anything other than engaging in pro-social community-oriented behavior and then get online and complain about how masculinity is vilified and men aren't allowed to be heroes anymore

[roycohn]

"all men really want is to feel like the hero" okay then volunteer at a food bank. get narcan training. step in when a woman is being harassed on the street. help out an elderly neighbor with shopping or home repairs. learn how to safely de-escalate fights. help your friends move. join or start your workplace union. become a big brother or volunteer coach for kids' sports. clean up your local park or get involved in some local conservation campaign. do your own damn dishes. notice what needs to be done and then do it. the world doesn't need heroes, it needs helpers. there are literally so many paths to finding a sense of self-respect and worth through pro-social behaviors that improve your immediate local community and help build your network of close personal connections. but these guys don't give a shit about actually contributing anything to the world. they just want to whine and fantasize.

[roycohn]

their inherent lack of self-respect is belied not only by the fact that they can't imagine doing anything that contributes to building a better, more resilient society, but how they can't imagine that doing so might involve a lot of small acts and choices and not one big act of heroism that gets them on the news as Big Man Of The Year.

[girlfishes]

What girls and women are taught about God directly sets them up for abuse from men. We were told that God is our father and is all loving, but that he punishes disobedience by sending us to be tortured forever. Furthermore, this punishment is not a contradiction, but a sign of his love for us.

When women are taught that the model for a father, god himself, is violent and vindictive, she is taught to expect that from male authorities in her life. When a husband or father hurts her, that is a sign of his love. He is only mirroring God.

When women are taught they if they don’t serve God, she will be sent to hell, that models her service to the men in her life. She must serve her husband like she serves God, and if she doesn’t she deserves what she gets, because the punishment is from her husband, her model of God.

When women are taught that even thinking ill of God is a sin, we are therefore taught that thinking of husbands, fathers, and pastors, in any negative way is a sin.

This is a psychological trap that functions to keep women in service to men. The contradiction of an all loving and violent god isn’t a mistake. It’s to teach women that violence is love.

[winged-thinged]

I think a lot of people (my past self included) cling to Jesus/God mostly because they're lonely and they need a friend. I see it in those tiktok girlies who go on "dates" with Jesus, I see it in my past self who called God my father and took comfort in the fact that, even if my real parents hated me, at least I wasn't totally alone, I see it in the people whose entire testimony consists of weeping about how God just loves you so much, sooo so much guys, like you can't even imagine the vast oceans of his love!

I think the injunction to turn Christianity into a relationship (not a religion) encourages people to make God into their idealized fictional boyfriend, their volleyball with a face painted on the side, their imaginary friend. It takes people who are very lonely and desperate for connection and promises them unconditional love, support, care, and acceptance if only they give themselves over to Jesus. It sounds so comforting. But Christianity can't make good on those promises. A pretend boyfriend who makes you feel like the most important person in the world and who will always love you no matter what you do is a mirage. He can't make you laugh, or take you to go get ice cream when you're sad, or think any new thoughts, or hold you, or be there for you. He can't do the dishes for you when you're sick, or challenge you when you're wrong. He only ever exists as a pale reflection of you.

Encouraging people who are desperately in need human connection to eshew that in favor of an imaginary friend, doesn't help them, it isolates them and keeps them trapped in that isolation by hiding it behind a pretty illusion. Which is why it makes me furious when people say "God loves you!!!" Because there is no real love there. It's a soft covering over a cold, wire, monkey-shaped frame. It's empty. It's a lie.

[dogpuppy]

[dapperprincess]

[wexler]

saw this clip on twitter and girl i miss you so much

[scientologisabethmoss]

people talk about girlboss feminism in the most deranged ways. god, i WISH girlboss feminism was as dominant a cultural force right now as it is in the delusional way some of you people talk about it. please read the room and look around you. where is sophia amoruso? what’s sheryl sandberg up to?? i don’t know because it isn’t fucking 2014 anymore! instead, we have a rapist as the united states president, a disturbing proliferation of tradwife propaganda around every fucking corner, and forced birth in the united states because a woman’s right to choose is no longer a federally protected right. if ONLY my biggest concern was rich women telling younger women and girls that they too can aspire to earn money, become professionally powerful, and be independent because we live in a global society where access to money equals power, independence, and self-autonomy. god forBID.

[persianmom-deactivated20260602]

honestly + unfortunately I am never surprised by men laughing at a woman’s expense

[persianmom-deactivated20260602]

like marilyn frye said: “to say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). all or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. the people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire… those are, overwhelmingly, other men. in their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. from women they want devotion, service and sex. heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving.”

[goddessrevolt]

You teed him up: Sabrina Carpenter and the grooming of young girls

How one of the current biggest pop stars normalizes erosion of sexual boundaries

This article really sums up my feelings about Sabrina Carpenter

[partialbirthabortion]

The fact that a wealthy, white mother-of-two in California with access to excellent prenatal and birth care, acting as a surrogate for another family in the safest, cleanest, least coercive of all possible surrogacy arrangements, died this week while giving birth really underscores the surrogacy thoughts I've been having recently. Should you be ethically willing or legally able to compel another woman to risk death at worst and major lifetime health consequences at best just so you can have a child that is biologically related to you?

[heringstuff]

Here’s an article about it.

She died of an amniotic fluid embolism, which is rare but very deadly.

This post gives another example of a surrogate dying and includes this disturbing information:

An article online incorrectly states “the risks of being a surrogate mother are the same as for every pregnancy.” This is not true. Recent studies have shown that surrogate pregnancies are different and are high-risk. Studies show that women pregnant with donor eggs (as in gestational surrogacy) have a more than three-fold risk of developing pregnancy induced hypertension and pre-eclampsia.  

[dasfeministmermaid]

W/ the greater risk of hypertension/pre-eclampsia, why? Or rather, is it known why?

[goblinous]

Because in a normal pregnancy the baby is >50% related to the mother. In surrogacy, an unrelated egg is used, which means entirely foreign biological material in the woman's body.

[theradicalbutch]

Pregnancy is basically a 9 month-long battle between the woman and the embryo; a "healthy" full-term pregnancy can only happen if, essentially, the women's body doesn't realize that the embryo is there, because if it does it will attack it with the woman's immune system as a "foreign body." This is the main reason the placenta exists, to shield the embryo from the woman's immune system (along with nutrient absorption obviously).

The closer the embryo is to the woman, the less likely an immune response will be triggered; this applies to gestational surrogacy, but also relates to things like the sex of the embryo and the embryo's blood type. So, the more genetically different an embryo is from its mother, the higher the overall risk of triggering an immune response, which then increases the likelihood of a smorgasbord of complications given the strain that an immune response causes both the mother and the embryo.

[karington]

this is just personal observation, but all the people I know who had surrogates (which is only 3 so who really knows), their babies are so so sick all the time. Like months premature, weeks in NICU, multiple hospital stays in infancy, now constantly sick as toddlers, can’t keep weight on, lowest percentiles of height / weight, etc etc. Literally every one of them.

and maybe it’s just a coincidence but maybe you aren’t supposed to implant your eggs in another woman and assume her body will grow a healthy baby for you? not to even talk about what it does to an infant to be forcibly removed from their mother at birth….

[bittermarching]

This should be obvious to anyone who knows anything about pregnancy/women's healthcare. But because even doctors seem to think that pregnancy is when a woman just incubates a man's offspring for a few months, providing nothing but a chamber in which the baby can grow, they treat it as if it makes no difference where the embryo came from.

Surrogacy is this horrible intersection between modern medicine + capitalism and an almost medieval understanding of pregnancy. Worst of both worlds.

[femanthropy]

she’s so real for this. she dgaf 😭

[femanthropy]

the idiot dumbfuck brigade are not happy

[femmesandhoney]

jkrs tweet is so sad, but so firm and exactly what i expected her to have thought tbh

[coachtfd]

You’re right, women’s sports are different from the men’s. The men don’t have to flee their country to represent it. The men don’t have to leave their country just to be able to play at all.

[perfectterf]

[ultra-radfem]

I am so sick and tired of this LIE about how apparently tomboys and unfeminine women are somehow privileged and conceited while the poor girly girls and feminine women are somehow oppressed for being feminine. It’s a fucking lie. It only serves to take GNC women down a peg and prevent us from getting too comfortable (because heaven forfend we actually feel confident about ourselves in a world that constantly tells us to conform) while also convincing young women that femininity is hated and misunderstood, and that what they should really do is ~reclaim~ and ~embrace~ it. It’s all a fucking lie and almost everyone believes it

[vintage-bentley]

Source: @/horriblemeanbadwoman on Instagram

[lavenderfeminist]

Reading one star reviews of Invisible Women talking about “casual cissexism” and “no mention of non-binary people” and I’ve never felt more strongly than some people are actually stupid. Like did you miss the memo where this is a compilation of the ways in which the data gap affects the FEMALE POPULATION? Would you rather her call the fucking book “Invisible Females” as if that’s not insane and dehumanizing? Sorry you’re not oppressed enough that you deserve a special place in this book, tragic.

[capricorn-season]