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It’s Fourth of July Eve so make sure to leave some milk and cookies out for Captain America
I THOUGHT AFTER FOUR YEARS YOU PEOPLE WOULD LET THIS DIE AND YET AGAIN I OPEN THIS CURSED APP TO FIND MORE NOTES ON THIS POST
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June 15 is the anniversary of both the Night Vale and Gravity Falls pilots, as well as Vanessa Doofenshmirtz’s birthday and “give it up for day 15” day
happy birthday to the only things ever
And love händel reunion day and Linda and Lawrence’s anniversary
Hey.
The most day ever
There’s a lot of excellent examples of the difference between a million and a billion, but here’s my new personal favorite from a conversation I had today:
A million minutes ago was April 2021, the height of the COVID pandemic.
A billion minutes ago was November 121 CE, the height of the Roman Empire.
as of today (6/30/2025) this post was made over 1.2 million minutes ago. a billion minutes ago was still the height of the roman empire
In an effort to avoid supporting megacorporations, I shall now be posing questions directly to tumblr that I would otherwise have googled.
If Mayonnaise is just eggs and oil, why it creamy?
Because it's also evil
Thanks!
Have scientists figured out what dark matter is yet?
Yup! It’s anything that takes up space, has mass, and is goth.
Wow!
What happens if you eat 23 packages of peeps?
You meet god
Thank goodness!
What's the correct way to eat a banana?
Whole, in one gulp.
Delicious!
Who is the Muffin Man?
Father of the Muffin Boy
Makes sense!
Why is my car making a ker-klunk noise?
Car's haunted
Uh Oh
How to fix a haunted car?
Slam into a priest in a crosswalk going at least forty miles an hour
It worked!
Where does the wax in scented candles go?
into the sky, where it turns into stars
Cool!
Why are weddings so damn expensive?
priest has to pay for medical bills related to haunted car crashing into him
....Ah
ChatGPT WISHES it was this coherent and creative
To be clear, this person has blocked the equivalent of the entire population of Minneapolis, plus an extra 119 folks. This persons block list would be the 46th largest city in the united states.
Not criticizing, i'm just impressed.
So till death do us part just dropped and I already love it because I can put pookie in the most ugly vile fits god had ever seen
I have no words for how disappointed I am with the new Obey Me app so far lmfao
The animation art is better but the movement is jarring…
This is just annoying as well. Considering how difficult it has always been to keep your dp stocked. Unless they’ve changed and there are easier ways to farm, I’m kind of shocked.
I’m looking around still so my opinion is subject to change. I just hope Solmare is open to criticism. Lucifer looks like a block with twisty arms.
Edit: Just made 10 wishes and I got a bunch of ugly ass clothes. Good grief… not a single card.
Can’t comment but the DP is actually the reward not the cost. I also thought that at first but it seems that they made it easier for to f2p the game and still pull
the fact that we only have “herculean task” and “sisyphean task” feels so limiting. so here’s a few more tasks for your repertoire
icarian task: when you have a task you know you’re going to fail at anyways, so why not have some fun with it before it all comes crashing down
cassandrean task: when you have to deal with people you KNOW won’t listen to you, despite having accurate information, and having to watch them fumble about when you told them the solution from the start (most often witnessed in customer service)
feel free to chime in i ran out of ideas much faster than i anticipated
Promethean task: opposite of a Cassandraean task. You have the right information, and SOMEONE has to share it. But it's all in the delivery and if you're the person to identify the problem you WILL be hated forever.
Oedipal Task: (1) Attempting to avoid an unspeakably awful outcome and in doing so creating the circumstances that will bring it about. (2) Trying to solve an problem and discovering that you are in fact the problem you are trying to solve.
Odyssean task: you’ll complete it but it’ll take 20 times longer than it should and involve multiple side quests and mini-adventures
Ah feel 'sif an Odyssian task is basically a poor sod mid ADHD
A Pandorean task - just the act of starting it unleashes all manner of disasters.
I am begging you. Please learn about stress/discomfort tolerance. Practice raising it. You need this to survive. If someone online can ruin your day with a throwaway comment, you desperately need to understand discomfort tolerance and consciously, systematically build that shit.
Also! Stress tolerance is such an important skill that having a learning disability in that area is a major symptom of a whole lot of other disabilities/mental illnesses! Struggling with it is a huge part of life! It sucks!
Am I saying everyone with misophonia needs to listen to chewing noises all day? No. But you need to find ways to tolerate it enough that you don't treat others like shit if they make a mouth noise near you.
No, you don't have to read the fic with your trigger tags. But you do need to be able to handle scrolling past the tags without being upset.
It is hard! But not having it also makes you so so so easy to manipulate. That grandma is racist AF because her mom raised her to be uncomfortable around black people and she never fought that discomfort. Trans people make so many cis people uncomfortable and that discomfort turns into bigotry real fast.
Letting your discomfort dictate your actions and beliefs about things is a great way to become a terrible person. Learn. Discomfort. Tolerance.
know your history.
i worry we are losing touch with the True Meaning Of Halloween (avoiding the fairies)
celebrate a good old-fashioned Halloween with the very important traditions of:
lighting candles in jack o'lanterns (to keep away the fairies)
roasting s'mores on bonfires (to keep away the fairies)
bobbing for apples, fortunetelling, ouija boards, and other assorted divination rituals (to forewarn those doomed to be kidnapped by fairies)
haunted houses (to preach against the dangers that lurk across the veil in the otherworld, home of the fairies)
community effort to stuff kids full of candy (that if whisked away (by the fairies) they might resist the temptation (of strange fae foods) long enough to escape)
disguising your face and identity in elaborate costumes (to keep away the FUCKING FAIRIES)
ways NOT to celebrate Halloween: sneaking into graveyards aka the modern day successor of burial mounds aka portals to the otherworld aka home of the FUCKING FAIRIES
you think i jest (and i do jest) but Keeping Away The Motherfucking Fae was the original motivation for a lot of Samhain practices that later got incorporated into Halloween. (with the "fae" in this case being the aos sí, a supernatural race that dwell in ancient burial/fairy mounds, and the spirits of the Otherworld in general)
during Samhain (pronounced sow-win), a liminal festival, the boundary between here and the Otherworld gets fucked with, so you best watch yourself by celebrating with:
fire. lots of fire. cleansing and protective fire. communal bonfires, fires inside jack-o-lanterns, torch fire, need-fires summoned ritualistically, lots of fire. it's getting cold and dark out, fire makes a lot of sense right now. oh and hey you know what goes well with fire aka loves to be warm and roasted?
food. lots of food. gotta appease the spirits with food and drink. gotta ward away bad luck (hunger, starvation) in the coming winter by keeping everyone fed. feed everyone! feed the spirits. feed the kids. feed the people going door-to-door. feed the people going door-to-door in case they're spirits. which brings us to:
disguises. every decent festival needs disguises. costumes. whatever. put on a mask or disguise and go door-to-door to receive food and coins (guising). dress up in costumes and perform folk plays (mumming), perhaps taking the opportunity to warn about otherworldly dangers. and hey! if impersonating the spirits of the dead means spooks can't recognize you and whisk you away? so much the better
divination. lots of divination. involving fire, and apples, and nuts (and sometimes stones and bones). yes, this is where apple bobbing comes in! (with origins dating back to roman times.) interestingly divination at Samhain wasn't just to foretell death and misfortune (let's guess which of us won't survive the winter!) but also focused on luck and marriage (who will i marry! how many children will i have! will i be rich! will i be happy!)
also i'm so serious, keep away from the mounds, the (burial) mounds are portals to the Otherworld, those portals are especially open at Samhain, keep away from the motherfucking (fairy) mounds.
in conclusion, winter has arrived and the world is about to get cold, dark, hungry, and scary. so stay warm, put on some lights, eat a bunch of food, dream about the future, and tell spooky stories to entertain each other and keep the ghosts in the flickering shadows where they belong!
Another thing☝️
Do NOT fuck the fairies
thank you. "I want to have sex with a grain thresher, I want to have sex with an annoyed gorilla" that's you, that's what you people sound like
i was honestly expecting the gorilla to be the frontrunner here
I wish age gap discourse hadn't spiraled the way it has because I want there to be a safe space to say "Men in their 40s who date 25 year olds aren't predators, they're just fucking losers"
... honey you just described a predator LOL
No, I said what I said. But thank you for providing an example of how this topic has become insufferable on the internet.
i am honestly burningly curious about how a 40 year old man who fucks around with college grads is not a predator
"College grad" is not a developmental stage, nor is it what I would describe a 25 year old as. I was 4 years out of college at 25. My mother had two children at 25. You can be a fucking congressman at 25.
There's a difference between a man who is immature and buys into misogynistic views of beauty and aging and one who is a predator. Also, many actual predators? Not losers and able to move through society pretty freely being seen as cool and the ideal, so conflating the two isn't helpful.
This is going to be my final response to any attempt at discourse. You're welcome to continue amongst yourselves.
also sometimes a 40 year old and a 25 year old just weirdly find each and it's a perfectly normal relationship - like all human relationships are complex and situational, it's so rarely an either/or thing let alone just one thing only
if a 40 year old dude only dates 25 year olds, DiCaprio style or something adjacent to it, then yeah he's a loser
if a 40 year old dude meets a 25 year old through social event or friends or whatever and they happen to hit it off and make a go of it, and this isn't some sort of reoccurring pattern for the guy, that's just a relationship with an age difference
being predatory means something specific, and man I agree w/ OP and really wish people just stopped ascribing it to any and all relationship dynamics they personally might not like
predator and groomer - two words that need to go up on the "can't use till you learn their meaning" shelf
Something I find really stressful is this seemingly endless creep of infantilisation and removal of autonomy from young people. Like, not to be all “in my dayyyy” about it, but… at 16, my friends and I were expected to be broadly responsible for our presence in the world. Most of us had jobs, we navigated public transport, looked after younger siblings. We were expected to make informed decisions about our future careers and our sexual partners. We were allowed to leave education and work full time (this was not necessarily good thing - I think increasing the school leaving age to 18 was broadly for the best). Most of us were smoking, or drinking, or both - again, not good things, but just facts - and many of us were sexually active. Many of the AFAB people I knew were on the pill. Legally, we could live independently, or get married with adult consent.
Legally (I live in the UK) we were not minors, although we inhabited an odd legal limbo until we turned 18, and we were certainly not “children”. Intellectually, socially, though, we were considered (young) adults, or at the most “older teenagers.” We were expected to read mostly adult books (rather than middle grade or YA), watch the news/read papers, watch mostly adult television.
And I do think we a bit under-protected, under-supported, and in some cases - neglected and financially exploited - and I’m not necessarily advocating that. But it did make us feel, I think, in charge of our own lives, capable and competent to make decisions.
At 16-17 my parents knew they could leave me alone overnight/for a couple of nights, and I wouldn’t starve or burn the house down. I felt comfortable getting cross country trains on my own, or booking and staying at a hotel (yes, with my boyfriend.)
Then there was this… creeping of sentiments that we were all Too Young to trouble our heads about certain things. A lot of it was good - more stringent licensing laws, raising the school leaving age, raising the minimum smoking age(!) - but some of the broader cultural stuff was… a bit patronising? Eg, the introduction of “New Adult” as a category of books aimed at 18-25 year olds, the way cartoons and books written for the 9-12 age group were being marketed as for the 12-15 age group, referring to late teens as “children,” etc etc.
Then, in 2008, there was the big financial crash and suddenly my generation were (broadly) robbed of all the usual markers of adulthood and success, meaning that we got ‘stuck’ in the lifestyles and modes our late teens/early 20s. And suddenly, all the emphasis shifted from social and legal protections for late teens/ younger adults, to legal restrictions on their freedoms/rights, and strange philosophical protections on the emotional states.
So, OF COURSE a 23 year old can’t buy a beer without carrying an ID card, and a 17 year old can’t have a crush on a 16 year old, but also, because you’re *children* you don’t need to live like adults. So the UK government got to save money by saying “18 isn’t a proper adult,” then “20 isn’t a proper adult,” and “25 isn’t a proper adult” because it meant they could refuse to give single occupancy housing benefit rates to people of those ages (I think they’ve raised it over 30 now.) Or by refusing to clamp down on exploitative temporary/zero hours contracts - because they’re just “temp jobs for young people!”, or by raising the retirement age because “60 is far too young to retire. You’re not a real adult until 35.”
And it means the discursive environment is such that you can claim that a 21 year old trans person is too young to make their own medical decisions, or a 15 year old is too young to consent to the contraceptive pill.
Meanwhile, they are not offering additional *protections* to these newly infantilised adults. 18 year olds are still encouraged to saddle themselves with enormous educational debt, or allowed to have credit cards, or expected to pay rent, or no longer receive child benefits. You still have to *work*. In fact, in the States, they’re looking to removed child employment restrictions - but that’s fine, because 20 year olds are being protected from making their own medical decisions, and adults get to say which books their teen kids are reading in school, and kids aren’t allowed to change their name or what they wear without parental consent.
We can see what these people are doing to the rights of children - so why are we being so complacent in expanding the definition of ‘child’?
Regardless - 25 is VERY CLEARLY an adult. At 25 I was married, had two kids, an overdraft, rent to pay, and experience of living in the world for 6 years. I had more in common with someone of 40 than I did with someone of 15. Hell, at*20* I had more in common with someone of 40 than someone of 15. Any sexual or relationship decisions you make at 25 are your own to make.
Of course there are likely to be power imbalances in a 15 year age gap - which is why most 25 year olds don’t date 40somethings - but not actually necessarily. And yeah, a 40 year old who only dates 20somethings is a skeeze - just like a 30 year old who routinely ingratiates themselves with rich 80 year olds is a skeeze.
But if any young people are reading this (doubt it)… your rights are much, much more important than your protections.
Yes, young people should be protected, but if someone claims they’re protecting you while denying you access to personal autonomy, financial stability, intellectual curiosity, or sexual self-determination because you’re “too young” to need, or understand those things… be very suspicious of their motives.
And if you’re legally an adult, ask yourself why you don’t feel comfortable defining yourself in those terms.
This thread is from 2023, and now with the Cass report we have seen the real, tangible danger that comes from infantilizing adults in their 20s.
the long reply above mentiones this, but I want to emphasize this: many western societies have lost their "rituals of maturity". Young adults don't get to buy a house, starting a family is a lot of stress if all adults in the household have to work fulltime, and it's almost impossible to find a job above minimum wage that offers career options. All of which are things which previous generations enjoyed more broadly, and which were seen as steps into adulthood.
Only a few decades ago, 90% of the people in the region where I live owned their own houses. Granted, they were often shitty ones, but they were their own. Today, not even 50% own the place they live in.
We've removed the milestones of adulthood, it's no wonder we increasingly infantilize adults. And the worst is, this does nothing to prevent real predators from preying on under-protected people! With the removal of the milestones of adulthood, we also removed a lot of the safety net previous generations could rely on.
All of these additions are absolutely spot on, but there's one more thing I want to add, and that is to point out how the "a 40yo dating a 25yo is inherently predatory" type of age gap discourse increasingly treats predation, not as a conscious, specific behaviour, but as an ambient effect of being in proximity to someone younger. Because if, as it's so frequently argued, it's impossible for people of different ages to have anything meaningful in common, such that there's no legitimate grounds even for friendship between (say) a 25yo and a 40yo, let alone something romantic or sexual, then what's being implied is that either that everyone is at all times only a single interaction away from natively turning predator, or that predation is somehow natural, automatic, reflexive - neither of which is true. But believing that it is is incredibly fucking dangerous. Because if there's no good or safe or reasonable way for someone older to interact with someone younger outside of a strict workplace or familial relationship (and sometimes not even then), then what we're doing is saying that it's inherently unsafe or wrong for younger people to learn from older people, or for older people to mentor them, or for (say) twentysomethings and fiftysomethings to exist in the same spaces as equal adults. We're saying that an eighteen-year-old should feel bad and weird about hanging out with a two-years-younger friend they've known since infancy because it's inappropriate for minors and legal adults to be friends. (I truly wish this was a hypothetical example, but no, it's not: I have legitimately seen multiple accounts of teenagers getting stressed out about exactly this type of thing because of this discourse.) And by acting as if the age gap power imbalance can only ever go one way, we're also completely ignoring the reality of things like elder abuse or older people being scammed or exploited by younger people.
But beyond all this, if you assume all older people are inherently dangerous to younger people, you're leaving yourself horrifically vulnerable, not only because you're not putting any effort into learning what actual predatory behaviour looks like, but because age gaps are not the only fucking vector for predation or abuse. If you can't distinguish between a safe adult/older person and a suspicious adult/older person or between trustworthy behaviour and manipulative behaviour because you've trained yourself to screen categories rather than actions, not only will you miss out on many cool friendships, but you'll be vulnerable to exploitation if and when someone, be they older or not, eventually sneaks past your guard, because you won't know to recognise what they're doing. Yes, there are absolutely times when an age gap is, in and of itself, a massive red flag, but if you can't distinguish between "45yo man marrying 18yo girl he's known since she was 12 the very moment she's legal" and, say, "35yo divorcee marrying 50yo widower she met at an art show," or "19yo dating a 17yo from the next school over after meeting at a mutual friend's party," or even "22yo has an extremely fun consensual one night stand with the 38yo they met at the bar," then you're going to be very poorly placed to recognise any abusive dynamics that don't perfectly align with the optics you've internalised as being indistinguishable from abuse, because the optics and the abuse are two different things. The one might indicate the presence of the other, but it doesn't guarantee it, and you can certainly have the abuse without the optics. And particularly in the context of conservatives increasingly insisting that just existing as a queer or trans person around children is an inherently predatory act, it makes me feel absolutely insane, how quickly so many people have conceded to the exact same type of logic (that an older person just existing around a younger person for non-familial, non-work reasons is inherently suspicious), argued for the exact same reasons (think of the children!) without stopping to question it at all.
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT, PLEASE DON'T SKIP!!
TW: CSA
Another addition is that I have know an actual predator in real life (went to jail for raping three children) and he was literally the popular cute boy in high school who many girls had a crush on. Like he wasn’t some creepy old dude, nor was he even a gross incel dude. Predators are able to get away with being predators because of people’s preconceived notions of what a predator looks like.
Btw: platforms like TikTok and YouTube have made it normalized to substitute words that advertisers don’t like when we should. If it is rape then it’s needs to be said. A person isn’t unalived, they have died. Do not filter you words because companies don’t like them
man we gotta get regular porn back on this website
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Holy crap.
WELP, that ends my account.
Qobuz is the most ethical alternative to spotify and even tidal (tidal is just pandora radio in a different font; you can't curate playlists, which i absolutely fucking hate, but you can curate playlists on qobuz, and the royalties they pay to their artists are far larger than spotify) that i've been able to find, thanks to this post on instagram by singer-songwriter laura burhenn. the post also lists other alternatives, including tidal, but qobuz is by far the best of the lot. they even have a free feature called soundiiz where you can transfer all of your playlists from spotify to qobuz!
Worth a reblog for this great info.
Been using Qobuz for a couple of years now. Mostly for the fact that you can actually buy and download the music you like and it’s DRM-free. I do recommend it. The free experience is pretty good if you just want to try it out.
The one thing it lacks is integration with other apps and services, which makes sharing a playlist outside of Qobuz itself a little more difficult.
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