Rebloggy bloggy

Don't use AI Chatbots, trust me it's too addicting and I hate that it is. Try not to fall into the same pit I'm trying to dig out of

[arebloggerboi]

Important info for this blog:

☆About Me:

Age: Above 18

Pronouns: Any

Doesn't Support: Bigotry (including all forms of transphobia, intersexism and exorsexism), Abuse, Incest and Non-con (fictional and otherwise)

☆Common tags used

Reblog/post vibes

#Positive reblog or #Positive post = Good vibes

#Negative reblog or #Negative post = Bad/sad vibes or talk about Bad/sad vibes

#Important reblog or #Important post = Important stuff

#Funny reblog or #Funny post = funny stuff

#Reblog bait, #tw reblog bait, and/or #cw reblog bait =Possible Moral OCD triggers

Long Post/Reblog chains

#Long reblog chain - Many reblogs making reblog big

#Big reblog - One reblog/post making reblog big

Misc.

#Not A Reblog - Nonreblogs, personal posts

☆Extra Blog Lore

Still working on beating my C.AI addiction (tagged with #C.AI addiction)

Used to post CoD fanart, but now I post it to my alt @ucsecretblr (which has an alt NSFW blog, @evenmoresecretblr and a roleplay blog, @pvtspelunker )

For Alone reblogs/posts I use: alone call of duty, alone cod, cod alone, call of duty alone, call of duty series, call of duty modern warfare series, cod mw series

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

[dovahbeat]

Adding my 2 cents worth that I learned from my time in DBT.

Guilt and shame are NOT the same emotion!

Theyre very similar, but theres a key difference. Guilt comes from an internal source and shame external.

What do I mean? Well, when you feel guilt, its because you've betrayed your own morals. Youve done something you view as bad, and you feel guilty for defying your own moral code.

Shame, however, is external and comes from our individual societies, and has nothing to do with moral codes (in the way guilt does). Shame comes from how OTHERS perceive you. You go to school, and wet yourself, you feel shame because the other kids point and laugh, they think less of you now. You may know it was an accident, and accidents happen, and thats okay! But because other people now think less of you for it, you feel bad.

Not taking away the points of OP, i still agree, just think it might be useful to distinguish between the two emotions because they are not the same.

[renthony]

I was 12 when the first of my siblings was born, so I have very vivid memories of the way my mother was excluded from a lot of spaces because people find children annoying.

If you think "children should not be allowed in this space," you HAVE TO reckon with the fact that you are now excluding parents (and very often women specifically) who don't have access to childcare. You are isolating people who are poor, or rural, or single parents, or any number of other factors that might prevent someone from having on-demand childcare. You are cutting them off from being able to exist in public. You are denying parents and children the ability to fully participate in society.

My mom spent several years only leaving the house to buy groceries or take me to school, and even then, people would still come up to her to complain TO HER FACE about how she shouldn't bring a crying toddler to Walmart. Entitled strangers would literally try and demand that my mom leave and come back without the kids.

"Why can't your husband watch them?" Because he was at work, usually working extreme amounts of overtime so we didn't get evicted, because landlords don't like it when you stop paying rent.

"Why can't you send them to daycare?" Because that costs money.

"Why can't your teenager stay home with them and babysit?" Because I also deserved to be able to leave the house for something other than school, and taking me to the grocery store was how my mom taught me to manage a household budget, shop sales, and meal plan.

"Don't bring your kid in public if you can't CONTROL them and make them stop crying!" Kids cry when they're upset, and being dragged around a store is upsetting! Don't be an asshole! Children are human beings who are still learning how the world works, and they don't have a lot of agency. You'd cry, too.

"Spank them until they learn to stop crying!" That's just straight-up child abuse, Jesus Christ.

What the fuck was our family supposed to do? Never go to the grocery store? Starve because strangers couldn't handle a toddler existing in public?

[renthony]

I am incredibly fucking disturbed at the way this post has brought people out of the woodwork who really want to tell me all about how hitting kids isn't actually abuse, how they think babies are the spawn of Satan, and how being confined to the home is an acceptable punishment for women who dare to have children. People have told me all about how they think children should be banned from airplanes, that I'm being inconsiderate to childfree people, that allowing crying babies in public is ableist against people with sensory issues (I have those, too, and so do many children, which is often WHY THEY ARE CRYING, jackass), and that people who have children are "irresponsible" and "selfish."

I have blocked multiple people who went on tirades about how I'm a "horrible breeder" who is "contributing to overpopulation" and how I and my "spawn" deserve to be trapped at home. (I am infertile and my foster kid is an adult now, so I don't know what breeding and spawn they think they're talking about.)

One person asked if I was posting ragebait for fun because "this isn't a real issue." Several have asked if this "really happens" and told me that my "experience isn't universal." (There are multiple parents in the comments who have agreed with me and talked about how hard it is to navigate the world with their kids.)

Children are an oppressed class who are treated like absolute vermin. Parents are given absolutely no support in caring for them. Good parents are set at a disadvantage even when they have all the best intentions, struggling parents aren't given resources to improve their situation or get community assistance, and blatantly abusive parents don't get caught because hitting and screaming and controlling are considered perfectly normal ways to treat a child. Communities would rather shut kids away where they can be ignored and forgotten and mistreated, all for the sin of "being annoying in public."

Youth liberation is vital, regardless of whether you, personally, like kids. You cannot ban children from public. You cannot shut children away in isolation and expect them to grow into happy, healthy, well-adjusted adults who can function in our society. You do not get to demand children be removed from every corner of public life all for your personal comfort.

Children are people.

[ocean-isopod-offical]

Make your decisions very carefully…

[arebloggerboi]

This is an example of reblog bait

[werewiire]

my therapist: “you need to unlearn the belief that failing to completely explain every statement you make will cause people to misinterpret and hate you. that’s generally not how people think, and it’s just your OCD talking.”

tumblr when you word a post slightly vaguely/poorly:

[have-you-been-here]

Bland, NSW, Australia

Have you been here?

I have been here

I have not been here

Voting ended onJun 7

[elvis-shrimpley]

Woah mama I hate reblog bait that's triggering for people with OCD. Hummina hummina you don't have to reblog a post to be supportive of people, mama

[arebloggerboi]

Update: I might start adding #reblog bait to posts that bait reblogs. Especially ones that may trigger moral OCD.

This will likely include reblogs about donations and other stuff that asks for people to reblog

Idk how many reblog bait posts I reblogged so be warned that there might be some older ones that aren't tagged, sorry in advance

Plain text: Update: I might start adding #reblog bait to posts that bait reblogs. Especially ones that may trigger moral OCD. This will likely include reblogs about donations and other stuff that asks for people to reblog. I don't know how many reblog bait posts I reblogged so be warned that there might be some older ones that aren't tagged, sorry in advance

[puppythingnoms]

I want everyone to just universally know more nonbinary attraction terms, I need it so bad dawg.

Trixic, toric, enbian, diamoric, I just want enben love to be recognized, PLEASE!!!

At this point, I just feel like it’s my duty to use these terms as much as I can in my own life, I just need to expose as many people as I can to these terms, more people need to know.

Because, let me tell you, I die inside every time people use exclusively yuri or yaoi to describe relationships with a nonbinary person in it, or when people imply that being specifically attracted to a nonbinary person makes you a chaser, like, oh god no

[shakespeareofficialaccount]

make a salad but your contribution is the object nearest to you

tag people if u want idk

i'll start:

UNO CARDS

@post-unuwuifer @yes-im-youtube-kids @microsoft-edge-real @the-red-planet-mars @bingle-official

@wordswordsorswordswords @india-reblogs

[the-blood-son-robin]

Bucket 😭

Atleast we got smth to put the stuff in

And this is open, literally anyone is free to join

But here are my recent favourites

@blackbat-batgirl @thegirlblunder-spoiler @redhoodisalive @raedhood @xxdickiebirdxx @nightwing-xoxo-again @reality-of-prime @the-revenantknight @glitterweirdo

[reality-of-prime]

Shoe rack. WOW

@dapotatoking277 @the-thunderstar-heir @formerglory25 @silverpenguin13 @polockski

[polockski]

Car door

@nyx-is-the-blank-canvas uhhh whoever else

[nyx-is-the-blank-canvas]

My younger brother???????

@m-ozzy @lemedstudent2021 @ihavehomework2dobutimhereinstead and open tags!

[ihavehomework2dobutimhereinstead]

oh uhm

my cat…

@stargazin-on-mars @bugwolfsstuff @literallylink--who-tf-is-ravioli

[bugwolfsstuff]

my earphone

@random-indian-girl @king-of-the-underworld-13

[random-indian-girl]

The tears of Nerakhis musical...

@thatchaoticbookworm , @obsessivebookwormalert

[thatchaoticbookworm]

the song of achilles @obsessivebookwormalert @girl-on-the-subway @shenanigan42 @shaethecrow @miasago @p3rpetual-moti0n

[miasago]

My magnesium lotion

@fancysheepnacho @souperache

[fancysheepnacho]

My notebook

@obsessivebookwormalert @coffee--spill @the-one-and-only-piper-offical

[coffee--spill]

Raccoon plushie 🥹

Open tags

[your-local-blackhole]

cucumbers

snacking on cucumber slices finally paid off :D

@cats-and-space @th3b3autyofth3y3llowflow3rs @the-dragonian @unan-zin @weedleysnumberonefan @yourfavoritecuntist + anyone else who wants to join

[the-dragonian]

an empty magic the gathering commander deck box.

@pukicho @evil-pukicho-real-offical @anonmous-offical @dragon-in-a-fez @teabooteboot @the-grim-reaper-offical @the-randomest-of-usernames

[evil-pukicho-real-offical]

fake plant

im too lazy to tag

[tjthetyrant]

andy capp's cheddar fries

@finnian-night @kingoftheloonybinza @kitty-kat-kal @holybananapants @noepo

[spit-fire-ransom]

Pokemon Cards! @kingoftheloonybinza @kitty-kat-kal @kayninee @wh0rerf4n @imjayyouregay @iamcassian

[wh0rerf4n]

Hot buttered rum candle 😭

@letters-not-opened11 @theweirdqueerthing @bl0odwh0re + others I’m lazy

[theweirdqueerthing]

NOT MY WEIGHTED SLOTH PLUSH

AAAHHHHH T^T

@darkorange00 @darkotorclash @endyark @saph-the-queer and whoever else wants to ^^

[saph-the-queer]

Hehe

a FULL magic the gathering commander deck box

@siffrininstarsandtime @siffrinsonionquiche @im-bad-at-names-okay @14-opossums-in-a-trenchcoat

[im-bad-at-names-okay]

earbuds

@soggysaucepackets-offical @weirdo-offical @killer-offical @do-not-u-dare

[do-not-u-dare]

ruler

[imapuppetqueer]

tv remote

@hes-the-smoke-iamthefire @insertcoolurlhereplease @iamthe-veil-thatyou-pierced

[bisexual-kitkat-offical]

phone

anyone can join im lazy

aslo @grand-immortal-dictator-offical

[sirisiriuslyneedssleep]

Full watermelon

@supersizedmcshizzel @raven-ven

[supersizedmcshizzel]

the roach that terrorised my brothers room last night and is now twitching upside down

@centralperkpoet @yourlocalgrammarfreak @m1dnightdancer @arikakari @moonyisnotonfire

[yourlocalgrammarfreak]

Is anyone allergic

@werepire05 @quantumm76 @atsecretgardensinmymind @29prlsinyourkss @cavepoets @lizdrinkstea @czache78 @morthorns @watered-down-lemonade + open tags!! :]

[atsecretgardensinmymind]

NO I WANT YOUR CAT HES SO CUTE

my bunny stuffed animal snowflake i’ll miss you :((

npt: @mossycereustea @justalunaticfangirl @drpeppercreamsodaa @quantumm76 @bl3lley and open tags!

[bl3lley]

Cream crackers because for some reason I still have that pack in my room (on my nightstand). I'm so neat and tidy, and organized, I know xD

Chose this because I'm not sacrificing any of my stuffed animals. UNLIKE YOU, RAIN—

Tags!!!

@goobermikusstuff @bugginwithsif @actuallyvee @mexagirlish @themostmayonnaise @cyrisinacrisis @nullritual @moondoll6 + open tags!

[goobermikusstuff]

Glass cups. My salad is gonna taste funky

@aneedleandarose @the-beastmodality (sorry, I keep tagging you lol) @bugginwithsif @exiruku

[exiruku]

I'm eating strawberries rn so guess we're making fruit salad, at least it's something edible

@vertigoway @v3r17y-7m @doctorgigglefart uhhhh idk who else to tag

[doctorgigglefart]

the ikea alien

@alpinethefreakster @buck3ttt @askgasterandacquaintances

[alpinethefreakster]

a cat blanket

Open tags

[arebloggerboi]

Several dead flies

open tags

[strawberrylind]

as requested- my zine about fat and plus size body types from instagram!💖 happy drawing everyone!

[transgendercoolcat]

⭐ EMERGENCY FOR BABY GIRL⭐

As many of you know, my cat's name is Baby Girl and she is my world. When Baby Girl came to us, she was already extremely overweight. As of recent, despite following guidelines from our vet about feeding, she continues to steadily gain weight. She deserves help and deserves the support of this lovely community on Tumblr.

She currently needs an X-ray with sedation, a full bloodwork and her anal glands expressed since she gets an extremely irritated bum from not being able to clean it herself. The current goal is $650. Please click here if you want to donate to my Ko-fi to help cover vet bills.

$265/650

[thisis--ableism]

Ableism is tumblr's habit of mocking the reading comprehension of people on the platform. It gets known as "the autism/neurodivergent site" but no tumblr users are really all that normal about reading comprehension. Even the "how dare you say we piss on the poor" is that.

This is ableism.

[arebloggerboi]

Not to derail, but this is why I feel tone indicators are important.

Like I remember I got snippy about an anon that asked someone else "why are you alive", then to find out later they meant it as a genuine question (I did apologize, though I suggested using a tone indicator next time)

Like even a (genuine question) and/or a /genuine question would be good

(All of this is /genuine)

[blogwoofz]

please help an autistic trans man pick up his prescriptions

i ran out of my endo meds, and will have no HRT soon as well. im waiting to get disability, currently im struggling to even just afford to eat and need help

0/50

c*shapp: $frogiess

v*mno: @ finchfrog

https://www.paypal.me/skyve

Pay Katherine Veith using PayPal.Me

Go to paypal.me/skyve and type in the amount. Since it’s PayPal, it's easy and secure. Don’t have a PayPal account? No worries.

[kevytmaitohorsma]

Reblog this photo of a käpylehmä to have a käpylehmä in your blog

It's a trick! If you reblog you get TWO käpylehmäs in your blog!

[heyyoufriendthere]

This new fish species is called Snuffleupagus. You can probably guess why | CBC Radio

S. snuffleupagus, a newly described species of fish, is named after the beloved Sesame Street character, Mr. Snuffleupagus, to which it bear

SNUFFLEUPAGUS REAL

[brightnessrandom]

Fantastic article!! The guys looking for it were fish researchers who saw it one time, knew instantly it was an undescribed species, and then tried for nearly 20 years to find and document it!

It's a type of ghost pipefish, related to seahorses, and it floats around coral reefs looking like a piece of algae and hunting unsuspecting prey

They are, of course, named after Snuffleupagus from Sesame Street!

Later on it the project, they got citizen science involved, and people across the Pacific started reporting sightings of snuffy fish from all over!

Hooray for science and hooray for S. snuffleupagus !

[lgbtqiatext]