Turtlefrog

[dogpuppy]

[sodomit]

A lot of "egg" discourse can be improved by making it clear that it's less "you are gravely insulting a cisgender millionaire youtuber John Johnson by assuming being gnc makes him a woman" and more "you're assuming performing femininity is tied to womanhood around a lot of queer/trans/gnc people who have their own experiences with these things".

[porblematic]

[butch-king-frankenstein]

grabbing like 80 percent of the lesbians I know by the shoulders and saying listen. listen. you have to stop categorizing everyone and everything into Women (Good) and Men (Bad). you might not think you’re doing it, but you are. it’s very clear from the ways in which you talk about trans men and bi women and your experience with gender and your difficulties in the dating scene that on some subconscious level, you think that moral purity is directly proportional to how much Man Stuff somebody has in their life. that contact with men and male-associated cultural byproducts will give you Boy Cooties. it won’t. but I can tell you think it does, and so do all of your trans friends, and it makes us all uncomfortable. so cut it out

[butch-king-frankenstein]

hey and also–no, bro, listen. listen. stop associating Women (Passive) and Men (Aggressive). I can tell you’re doing that too. and then these two categorization modes get stuck together, and you wind up with Women/Passive/Good and Men/Aggressive/Bad, and that’s why you believe there’s such a thing as a “top shortage” and why you can’t quite convince yourself to try going on T and why you’re too scared to initiate sex with your girlfriend of four months. please be normal

[thecolorblockcurator]

100%

& In the art history world this is so common. & So easy to find yourself believing things like men artists only objectify models while women artists are pure and good.

So many past professors & professionals I’ve worked with in the field have either had like full classes on this or said things like this in passing

It’s so easy to fall for gender essentialism and that is a very slippery slope.

[kitt-the-werefox]

Also, listen y’all. Listen. Everyone. Everything mentioned in this post ties to racism as well.

Women/passive/good associations with lighter skin and man/aggressive/bad associations with darker skin are STILL unconsciously (sometimes consciously!) perpetuated TO THIS DAY.

Stop it.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

used to live in a college town that was huge on sports. 80% of small talk was sportsball and so i developed an Evil Habit: whenever the conversation inevitably turned to the upcoming Big Game i would act excited and then confused. I would earnestly insist they had the details wrong. "the game next Saturday? don't you mean the Thursday after? playing against the [predator species]? no we're playing against the [other predator species]." And so on. i would draw this argument out for as long as feasibly possible, until eventually someone would pull out their phone to prove to me my wrongness. At which point I would squint exaggerated at the screen, slap my forehead in an eureka moment, and exclaim "oh you meant the MEN'S team!!! are they doing a game? that's nice."

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

oh good tags:

#i have the rare joy of living in an area where the college team people care most about is women #but that also makes interacting with anyone not from here on the subject feel very odd #like wdym you only watch the men’s version of the sport. wdym you treat that as the default?? we root for our girls here

[tilthat]

TIL “Yankee Doodle” was written by the British to mock americans. “Doodle” is thought to come from the German “dödel”, meaning “fool” or “simpleton” and “macaroni,” a flamboyantly stylish type of dress, painting the Yankees as morons who thought placing a feather in one’s cap made them a “dandy.”

via reddit.com

[toastpotent-deactivated20250619]

so you’re telling me that “stuck a feather in his hat and called it macaroni” would be like saying “wrote a G on his belt and called it gucci”

[beggars-opera]

that’s…a pretty good analogy actually

[ti-bae-rius]

US moron came to town

Hunting for some coochie

Wrote a G up on his belt

And this bitch called it Gucci

[ti-bae-rius]

Seeing my notifications get flooded with this every July 4th is the only thing I respect about America

[walmart-the-official]

Happy fourth to those who celebrate

[bwooomscratches]

[notahorseindisguise]

do you ever say something and then think "wow this isnt even a bit. im just like this"

[post-uwuifier]

do yoo evew say someting and den tink “wow dis isn’t even a bit!! im just wike dis UwU”

This post has been UwU-ified!

[notahorseindisguise]

i feel dirty after reading that

[post-uwuifier]

do yoo need a scwubby wubby? OwO

[notahorseindisguise]

i think i do need a scwubby wubby to be honest but not from you

[post-uwuifier]

When is it my turn to be happy.

[depsidase]

[normal-with-adhd-is-a-joke]

Conservative beauty standards are back with a vengeance which means it's especially important to go out this summer with bellies out and bodies unshaved. Also be unapologetically disabled with mobility aids and wearable medical devices and stim toys and ear defenders and all that stuff. You need it. People need to see it. Everyone needs to be reminded that life is unquestioningly more enjoyable when you're not living inside an arbitrary set of rules created by people who are offended by all the wrong things.

[jonah-fagnus]

people really just walk into horror movies and expect them not to deal with uncomfortable things despite the genre being dedicated to discomfort.

i saw so many people complain that lisa frankenstein, a movie where one of the leads is famously a rotting corpse, was too gross for them. when i walked out of nosferatu, i heard people say that the nudity was uncalled for... in a vampire film. nudity? in MY gothic horror?! unheard of!

a LOT of people really need to accept that maybe some genres just aren't to their taste, idk. not every movie needs to be cookie-cutter clean. sexuality is a staple of gothic horror, if not the wider genre horror in General. you don't need to enjoy it, but it doesn't make these things uncalled for.

[onemillionwordsofcrap]

Lowkey fascinated (positive) with your turn of phrase here. "Loadbearing taboo." I am rotating it in my mind

[what-even-is-thiss]

I think a lot of people were raised being told that things are bad with no explanation as to why they’re bad and I don’t think I know enough about psychology to make any big statements about that

but anyways I think a lot of people see cheating on your partner as bad because they were just told that sex outside of your partner is bad or something but really cheating on your partner is bad because you had an agreement based on trust with them and you broke that trust so like why should they trust you with anything else now

[caspercryptid]

I would actually go as far as to say that MOST abuse is unintentional. I think most people will go through their lives without ever experiencing intentional abuse. People are abusive because they're selfish, because they're stressed, because they care more about what society thinks they should do than the impacts of their actions on their children and partners, because they think what they're doing is correct, because they've made it make sense in their own heads, because they think they can fix their victims, they think they can fix their relationships, they think they can stop you from leaving, they think they can make you a better partner to them, they think that means you need to do what they want. We've sort of constructed mental illness in a way that doing this shit to other people counts as a form of mental illness because it is anti social behavior in the literal sense— it is behavior that causes social harm.

I don't say any of this to excuse it. I think everyone needs to be more aware of this because if you think abuse has to be intentional you will never realize you are capable of abusive behavior. You will never realize you are being shitty to the people you love, because YOU know what you mean, YOU know you don't mean any harm. But you're doing harm. You need to pay attention to the impact you have on other people, and you need to do it all the time, Especially when you feel least capable of doing so. Sorry! You live in a society. Get your head out of your ass.

[wolfsteax]

I humbly offer this contribution.

[coyoteguuurl]

i dont know who needs to hear this, but 2mg is not enough. frankly 8mg is not enough. buy your estrogen elsewhere. take anywhere from 50-100% more than the WPATH recommended max dose. stop once your estrogen stays around 300-450 pp/mL. try not to exceed 700 pp/mL (excess estrogen causes the body to purge estrogen, often overreacting and putting your total effective estrogen lower than what is desirable for feminization and stability).

there is no conclusive evidence that the feminizing effects of injectable E are preferable to those of oral E, but injectable is safer long-term (years-long), so eventually switch to injectable. its cheaper also.

use a good anti-androgen. spiro will make you piss and pissed, because it sucks. take bica 50mg or cypro 12.5mg.

take your prog. take 200mg. if youre putting it in your mouth, take more until youre emotional but stable. if youre putting it in your butt - PUTT IT IN YOUR BUTT - take more, but less than you would if it were in your mouth.

work out. work your ass, your thighs, your abs. get sweaty. the more growth hormones you can get through your body, the more effectively your estrogen will feminize you (this includes your tits).

eat more. eat at least 25% more than your maintenance. eat lots of protein, but also lots of fat. your ass and tits will thank you very jiggly.

and most importantly; show me. im a pervert.

[caspercryptid]

The really unfortunate thing about mental health progress is that sometimes you realize you've made it in the form of "wow, I haven't felt this bad in a fucking while"

[caspercryptid]

On the one hand it's a bit of a pick me up in a dark place to know that this will pass because it has passed before on the other hand sometimes it isn't entirely a pleasant thought to go "wow, I used to feel like this all the time. That was pretty fucking bad. It's pretty bad right now too also."

[caspercryptid]

Someday your current baseline will be the sort of thing you consider A Really Bad Day. It does get better.

[transfemininomenon]

the phrase really should be "eat your cake and have it too" im with the unabomber on this one

[utopians]

duuuuuude you have GOT to come out tonight we're enacting cruelty upon those who have transgressed so badly that we can justify any act against them... and you KNOW we're interpreting our delight as moral righteousness... Yeah it's fucking crazyyyyyyy get an Uber

[sawed-on-shotgun]

going on hormones and starting to pass as a man is a mixed bag. obviously that is The Goal. but like

pros: yay! i finally look like a guy! people think im a man!

cons: im only noticing that people perceive me as male because of misogyny 90% of the time

[sawed-on-shotgun]

it's shit i didn't even register before transitioning too. i went out with my friends to a diner yesterday, one is a girl and the other gets clocked as a girl, and when we went in and they asked for the name of the table they asked Me specifically. like looked dead in my eyes and asked Me. i was addressed when it orders and payment first as well. like. Damn. Okay. Shit

[sawed-on-shotgun]

being trans in any direction gives you this but with like a multiplier effect