podcast That turns you bi/ace

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[disorientation]

Having a "stupider people have done this" attitude about the things you want to do can open so many doors

[just-shower-thoughts]

Being an adult is realizing that $5,000 is a lot of money to owe and very little money to own.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

holding yourself accountable and tearing yourself down are two different things

[taeriminal]

how to do it (asking seriously)

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

be aware of what you’ve done wrong. forgive yourself and learn from it rather than beating yourself up over it and thinking it’s just a part of you that can’t be changed. know that you can’t go back and undo it but also that in the future you can do better and not repeat the same regret. self hatred stemming from regret is hard to control, but it can be managed with patience and practice.

[lierdumoa]

DON'T focus on:

how guilty you feel

how much punishment you deserve

DO focus on:

how to prevent it from happening again

how to make amends

[sillygoose-xp]

comic that appeared to me as I was waking up from a dream

Edit: this got more attention then I thought lol if you wanna redraw this just reblog this with your redraw to credit me or put my @ (idk how tumblr works ngl)

[imanwithoutbowie-deactivated202]

Continue✨ Keep going✨

[shezarrs]

[lewds-for-the-soul]

[kosmogrl]

[psshaw]

The main problem with "artist" as a career is that it produces an outsized number of books about writers, failed screenplays about failed screenwriters, films about acting, and cartoons about animation or chilling coolstyle with your pals in not-San Francisco. This isn't even on the artists-- if you drag a guy out of a welding workshop and make him write a book, he'll still think he's supposed to write the next Dr. Seuss but he'll wimp out and call it "Mr. Puppy Learns A Lesson". Consumerism eradicated the uncontacted tribes

[psshaw]

I do think that "art has the power to change things" stops applying when your raison d'etre is "I really loved Ghibli films growing up" or "I want to share my kinky power fantasy". To fulfill that phrase, the art should be used as a tool to say important things and make them spread wider. If visual artists are a class who say largely the same things--identity navelgazing, cool things they saw on a screen, safe regurgitated opinions--then the opportunity for change becomes inert. If a bit of world news or history would spice the scene up significantly, things are dire.

That said. Every time someone with no affection for these spaces uses this criticism to paint genAI as harmless, I get one neuron closer to being able to explode people with my mind

[rudeposting]

This is why I’ve been very critical of going to art or writing school if you want to make ‘good’ art. Not saying it can’t be valuable, especially if you already have a point of view and you’re struggling to find the skills to articulate it. But theres a reason why “40 year old writer getting a divorce,” is such an archetype in pretentious books.

If your whole identity is just Artist then 1. Your ego and personal narrative might get in the way of taking actual risks, and you might get too caught up in emulating what success as an Artiste is expected to look like and end up enmeshing yourself and your voice in an already incredibly inbred scene. Ooor 2. Your artistic narrative becomes the struggles of being an Artist, which roughly 99 percent of artists have some type of opinion on, of which half of them have already made into their own thesis.

I have weird-life-story-privilege, but in general ive always been a proponent of the idea that if you have a creative bone in your body you should just go out and experience a bunch of random ass shit. Become the guy at the welding workshop, delete social media, get really into a specific field that is in no way at all associated with creativity. Make mistakes, take risks and feel the consequences under your skin.

That life changing book you read is that way because the author had their own truth to share. Instead of copying their ideas you need to live your own life until youre left with a question or epiphany that just about forces you to pick up a pencil if only to get it out of your own head. You’re a human being, not a xerox.

[psshaw]

YEAH and more practically— dedicating yourself to the study of art as a shut-in online westerner is 1) very fun and 2) priming you to have more skills in production than in having ideas worth producing. But I suppose that’s true of most education these days.

I say this as someone who hasn’t exactly been on a lot of adventures: we unfortunately have no shortage of art by people who don’t go on any adventures. Do a second thing!

[chiquilines]

Can you tell i'm obsessed with them

Scruffier doodles under the cut :P

[n0th1ngsp3ci4l]

HAPPY NEW YURI 🎉

[creekfiend]

even if your nervous system is shot to hell and you're a reactive dog on a chain all the time you can spend several years retraining your nervous system (with the help of friends to practice Disagreeing With) and one day you can reach a point where getting Disagreed With doesn't cause your whole entire bodybrain situation to implode messily. it's super great. I recommend it

[spirit-of-science]

Like with real dog training, rewards >>>> punishments, and you learn best when you are well cared for

[creekfiend]

this is why I think it is so crucial to be able to Practice Disagreeing about relatively trivial subjects with safe and trusted friends and loved ones where you both know that's what you're doing and you are both actively and continually affirming that you love each other the whole time it's like training wheels. I truly cannot recommend finding friends to Practice Disagreeing with enough.

[kosmogrl]

[loveridden1999]

[desinteresse]

Challenging gender roles by having the kind of dogshit personality traits usually reserved for straight men only

[thecheatinghomunculus]

new reaction image

[rural-panoptes]

[saintjosie]

[damnpharos]

[captain-price-unofficially]

[deerkibble]

[sneakyspades]

[neraiutsuze]

[dustsculptures]

“no one’s ever mad at me unless they tell me so” is the best assumption i’ve ever made

[dustsculptures]

sorry for tagwatching but you still have to act like they aren’t mad at you imo! bc it’s the mad person’s duty to make it known if they want anything changed. it is never anyone’s duty to be a mind reader.

[nooblord9001]

If I am mad at someone and am remaining Quiet about it, it is because I Do Not Want them to know that I’m mad.

Please respect my boundaries and assume that I am Not mad.

If you’re worried that I am mad, consider the possibility that I am mad for reasons I know are stupid and do not want to make it your problem.

[blazing-butterfly-inactive]

Ohhh that last addition opens my eyes in a big way, thank you.