at this point, asking gnc women their pronouns is a microaggression
I’m not joking when I say this, I mean it. Asking a gender non-conforming woman her pronouns is sexist and I say as much when I’m asked. It’s the implicit message it sends: “I see you, and you are female, but you are not feminine enough to fit societal standards and therefore you must not be a woman”.
Automatically using gender neutral or male pronouns for gnc women sends a message. Constantly asking (harassing) a gnc woman for her pronouns sends a message. Liberal parents, teachers, and classmates going out of their way to tell gay, gnc, and/or tomboyish girls its ok to be trans or introducing them to genderism sends a fucking message. That shit is noticed and gets internalized along with all the other misogynistic crap thats spewed at us on a daily basis. Its evil.
It happened a few years ago, but I vividly remember when I first got a buzzcut. When my ex-therapist first saw my new haircut, she immediately started asking if I’m a lesbian, after assuming I am trans. Of course. Because there is no valid reason for a woman to not want this long hair, which will clog up your drain, fall down everywhere, and require a lot of maintenance.
They will tell you “beauty is pain” and act surprised when you say you’re not a masochist.
They will tell you “beauty is pain” and act surprised when you say you’re not a masochist.




















