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Tbh one of my great fears is when people on the internet genuinely think they have a good enough sense of who you are in your personal life from your niche interest blog to think they can provide unsolicited feedback, what enneagram is this
its the they can suck my dickeagram
MBTI types as texts I’ve sent/received, part 2
part 1
INFJ that pic he just posted on ig is so... menacing. like something you would see outside your window on a foggy night and screech
ENFJ had lunch with this guy who was nice except his general vibe just had a very strong likeness to Elliot Rodger
INTJ passed this girl coughing her lungs out in the hallway, first thought was “spew germs in your own fucking dorm, jillian” then as an afterthought “damn is she ok”
ENTJ children’s screams resounding through the house and no one bats an eye. happy thanksgiving
ISTJ guess who’s stressed and poorly dressed? whose life’s a mess
ESTJ prob just flunked my calc test, I had the Fanboy & Chum Chum theme song stuck in my head the whole time
ISFJ remembering those episodes of Avatar where Appa was missing is seriously enough to ruin my entire day.
ESFJ waiting for people to leave the kitchen so I can take the aluminum foil off my ugly spanish flan & be faced with my failures
ISFP I am sick and tired of living like this. I need enrique iglesias to release a spanish christmas album.
ESFP Idc if it’s fake, that season was still the peak of reality television. I nearly astral projected that time gloria went after shaun with a fucking kitchen knife
INFP I’m reading a Spider-Man fanfic and I keep accidentally imagining Tony Stark as Joe Mantegna instead of RDJ and I don’t know what to do
ENFP somehow my dad told me to bring him his stethoscope instead of his phone by mistake, but I didn’t question it so we basically ended up recreating the “why the fuck would I say printer?” vine
INTP naruto: becomes the strongest ninja in his village at 16 me, age 19: cannot complete the one (1) essay I wanted to finish this weekend despite it already being 90% done
ENTP urgent matter - someone help me find that song about the icky peanut butter womb
ISTP yeah he’d been sitting in the sun for like 2 hours, that stuff directly correlates with how photogenic the cat is. it’s like how iphones can charge wirelessly now he was just rly juiced up
ESTP look at that EXQUISITE mop top
Ne/Ni Writing Technique
I’m always getting submissions to highlight the differences between Ne and Ni; I accept some of them and reject others for being too vague / generalizing.
One of the easiest ways I’ve found to distinguish Ne and Ni in yourself is to look at your writing technique and how you structure articles (or school assignments) and/or stories or novels.
Without exception, every “confirmed” high Ni in my life writes it all in their head. That’s where all the pieces come together; that’s where they decide on the tone and wording and style and structure; that’s where a huge amount of pre-thinking comes in. One INFJ in my life told me she may not write a word on a story for 6 months, or even a year – she lets the entire thing build in her mind, slot into space, then she writes it down and she’s done. There’s no external editing or restructuring, since it all happened in her mind. All of them say that: no major edits, no renaming of characters, no changing of professions, no reorganizing of chapters. Just a basic line edit. Done.
Without exception, every “confirmed” high Ne in my life revises as they go. They just start writing. They let the characters write the story, and create their own subplots, and take them wherever they need to go. Many of them start out with a basic idea of their plot, but abandon it if a better idea comes along. Some of them (myself included) have a specific scene they are working toward (or a plot twist or a big reveal) and let the plot weave itself while they’re writing it, but others have no specific ending in mind; the story writes itself. All of them easily revise, rewrite, take characters out, blend them into one person, move chapters around and/or go back and add something in later to support a stronger plot thread. All their revision is external because it’s Ne.
(Second gif: example of a Ne-driven narrative… keep reading.)
Speaking from personal experience, the process of “starting” a new novel is always more frustrating than exciting… because I am basically just writing. A lot of different things. Trying out different ideas. I know if it’s not the right one, because the writing is a chore and I don’t want to do it, vs when I do find the right plot – and then I’m excited to find out what’s going to happen next, because I don’t know. I have a basic idea of what I want in my current WIP, but I had no idea there would be an attempted strangulation or suspicions about a woman’s husband… these are things the characters brought to me. And it’s exciting to open up my Word file each day and have one or two things I want to include in that chapter, but total freedom to see what the characters give me.
That’s Ne. It’s Ne when I realize at the last minute that I haven’t decided on a topic for an article on Sherlock Holmes, so I sit down and just start writing about Holmes… and it flows from this idea to that idea, and then I notice a pattern and start correcting and writing to focus on that theme. And then I’m done.
Something else I have noticed about the writing style of Ne vs Ni writers in my life is… Ni’s seem to have fewer characters than Ne’s. Ne’s always run the risk of starting out with two characters and then they meet four more, and then there’s twelve somehow and all of them have such interesting stories, we ought to focus on them. And unless they have either a damn good editor or a strong Te, their stories can quickly get enormous with too many characters. (*cough* George R.R. Martin *cough*) But a lot of my NJ friends tell me they prefer to have a smaller, more developed bunch of characters and a tighter plot.
So, what does this mean if you’re not a writer?
Take this principle and apply it to life. NJs do the same thing with life as they do their stories. The same goes for NPs. NJs visualize and lay out in their head and then move into action with that specific outcome in mind. NPs just… leap into life and figure it out as they go along, revising all their philosophies, beliefs, and approaches along the way.
Happy writing, my friends. I have a dark, sinister castle for my captain of the guard to investigate and no idea of what’ll happen other than it’ll be exciting, because my characters hate to bore me and love a good adventure story.
- ENFP Mod
As an INTJ writer, I would say the Ni writing description is accurate, but extreme. I did about 3 months of “simmering” my idea, and have been writing for 2 years. A lot has been added and refined, but not a lot of drastic change: the original idea is very much intact. If my standards were lower, this book would already be done. But, my Ni sees a really great version of the story, so here we are.
I would compare Ni writing to brick-laying. Every piece builds upon another, every new piece must be laid precisely and all the pieces must lay together. I carely paste mortar between each piece.
Whereas Ne writing is like gardening. You plant some seeds that may or may not be what you thought, they grow sort of independent of you, and other stuff may grow without you planting anything.
ESFJ and Fe vs. Fi
Hi there! I’m currently dating an Fe Dom man, and I’m fairly certain he is an ESFJ, though my question may not have anything to do with that in particular. In the recent ESFJ post about what it’s like to be an ESFJ, I read about the author’s Fe emotional response where she takes on other people’s emotions (i.e. if someone is sad, she will become sad as well). My boyfriend is the same way being Fe-dom and I have Fi as my second function in my stack being an ENFP. Recently, I told him that he needed to try and stop taking on my emotions when I’m upset because then I notice he’s upset and I will want to comfort him instead of processing my own negative emotions like I need to do. Eventually if he continues to do so, I will begin to force myself to not show any negative emotions with him to avoid me feeling like I need to deal with his negative emotions instead of mine and I see that going down a bad path of my Fi not being true to myself anymore. Do you have any tips on how either he can train his Fe to stop taking on my negative emotions or how I can help myself not feel like I need to comfort him when he’s upset that I’m upset? Or both? Hopefully this makes sense. It’s challenging to date someone with Fe when you have Fi, but I believe any types can make a relationship work without having to hide who they are if they are both mature enough. Thanks!
(Melodramatic gif for the win.)
Does your significant other know anything about MBTI? If not, this may be the time to do a brief once-over and talk about the difference between how Fe and Fi process emotions. (Fe feels better through communication, Fi feels better with time alone.) If so, remind him that you are Fi, and handle feelings differently than he does.
He needs to respect your boundaries, and you need to establish some basic rules. I realize that for a lot of high Fi’s, the world grinds to a halt when something stirs your emotions, and you cannot fake anything to save your life, but unless society absolutely demands you be “present” when this happens (you cannot walk out of a job, a meeting, etc), you can find ways to retreat and process.
For the Fi-user:
Allow yourself to withdraw, when you need to process your emotions. Leave the room. Go for a walk. Sit in the backyard alone. Get out a pencil and paper, and write down what’s going through your head. Process it, then if you need to discuss it with Fe, do so. If not, do not. Proximity is the problem. Fe cannot be upset alongside you, if you are not next to them radiating feelings. Be honest. Say, “I’m going to be alone with my thoughts for awhile. I’ll come back when I’m in a better mood.” Then go and do it, and take however long you need.
If you don’t live together, and something happens to upset you before you are going to meet him in the evening, be honest with him. Say, “I’d love to see you tonight, but something came up at work that annoyed me, so I think I should stay home tonight. Can we do something tomorrow instead when I’m feeling better?” If you do live together, you just need some “space” in the house that is yours. It should be the place he does not disturb you, even to comfort you. Your “angry closet,” or a long shower, anyplace you can be alone and undisturbed.
Tell yourself, this is not about Fe, this is about me. It is natural for you to want to bring your loved one “up” when he is “down,” but this is your emotions, they belong to you, and you should not have to ignore them when someone else takes them on. Maybe if you see him getting upset, remind him (nicely) that these are your feelings, and he does not have to feel them with you. That the best thing he can do for you right now is to either leave you alone to process them, or lift you up and reassure you that everything is going to be fine.
For the Fe-user:
Fi appreciates that you love her/him very much, but what Fi needs from you is space. Your natural instinct will be to get upset with them, to feel what they are feeling, but you need to learn to step back and let them process things before you comment, get involved, or try and talk them through it. Remind yourself that you cannot help them, if you are upset also.
Leave them alone. This is totally against your nature. You want to comfort them. It will feel like you are a bad person, to go to the other end of the house, or to go watch a movie while they brood, but this is what they need from you. If they want you to talk them through it, they will come and ask. They will bring up whatever is the matter. If they go in another room and shut the door, respect it. They will come out when they are in a better emotional place.
Do not force or push them to talk about whatever is wrong. Until they are ready, they will not want to discuss what happened or what is bothering them. It may kill you with curiosity, but know that them confiding in you is the sign of ultimate trust. Please give them the space to collect their thoughts, sort out their feelings, and approach you.
For both of you:
Be honest in your needs and wants. Do not expect the other one to just “know.”
This is essential for any relationship to succeed; many people do not communicate their wants, needs, and expectations from a significant other (or even just a friend) and find themselves upset or disappointed when their expectations are not met. For example, if either one of you retreats because you are upset, but secretly hopes the other one will come ask you what is wrong, or knock on the door, and they do not … it does not mean they do not love you. It means they do not know what you want, and took your retreat as a sign that you need to be alone. If you want comfort, reassurance, or affirmation, don’t retreat, or sidestep the issue: ask for it.
Unless you specify what you want, people have to guess – and they will default to whatever they think is most helpful. Sometimes what you want is advice; ask for advice. Sometimes what you want is someone to empathize; be honest about that at the start (“I need to complain and have you be on my side, is that okay?”). If you want empathy and reassurance, say that’s what you want: “I had a hard day, I’m really upset, I feel like no one appreciates me, I just need you to tell me I’m a good person and that tomorrow will be better.”
The secret to any excellent relationship, between any combination of types, is good communication – because it is in the silence between the lines where assumptions are made and feelings get hurt.
- ENFP Mod
extroverted feeling
me: *does something* me: *receives no approval for it* me: this is fine. i’m fine. this is fine. i’m fine with this. it’s fine. this is fine. i’m fine. it’s fine.
Acknowledge the mbti fact that intuition is more about reflection and conclusions based on interpretation than it is about being “just knowing things”.
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MBTI & Youtubers (x) Simone Giertz: ENTP
“I got interested in building robots, and I wanted to teach myself about hardware.
But building things with hardware, especially if you’re teaching yourself, is something that’s really difficult to do.
It has a high likelihood of failure and moreover, it has a high likelihood of making you feel stupid.
And that was my biggest fear at the time. So I came up with a setup that would guarantee success 100% of the time.
With my setup, it would be nearly impossible to fail. And that was that instead of trying to succeed, I was going to try to build things that would fail.
And even though I didn’t realize it at the time, building stupid things was actually quite smart.
Because as I kept on learning about hardware, for the first time in my life, I did not have to deal with my performance anxiety.
And as soon as I removed all pressure and expectations from myself, that pressure quickly got replaced by enthusiasm, and it allowed me to just play.”
Idk if this is something everyone already knows about, but this group Sleeping At Last is coming out with songs inspired by the enneagram. they’re just called “One,” “Two,” and so forth. as far as I know he’s released up to type 5, but the collection is still ongoing. they’re pretty interesting interpreations, so it’s definitely worth a listen if you’re interested!
returning to this post because the song for type 6 was recently released and I’m just excited about it and want to share, lmao.
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Introduction to Enneagram Instincts
Instincts: Self-Preservation, Social, Sexual.
These three instincts are built into our bestial nature, which resides at an unconscious level helping to ensure our survival, both of ourselves and our species. From the perspective of the enneagram, we want to know how these drives appear and function, both within personality and as distinct patterns, as defined by each instinct alone or the alignment of two or three (stacking).
Sexuals attract others without really trying. They also repel others in the same way, like an anti-pheromone. This works like a screening function in the mating process. People typically have a strong reaction one way or another towards SX’s, and vice versa.
Self-Preservation people instinctively avoid certain foods and environments, and are likewise drawn to those things that nourish and sustain them. SP’s have a strong reaction against things that threaten to harm their comfort or health.
Social is driven towards gaining protection and empowerment within larger entities. SO’s typically react strongly against things which would jeopardize or displace their position or reputation.
The instinct is always trying to work for our survival, whether we know it or not. Personality can only get in the way. Animals, as more or less fully instinctual beings, don’t have this problem. But integrating our personality with instinct requires that each side of ourselves is fully aware of the other side. Otherwise we are automated, automatic, and on autopilot.
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INFJ here and I agree that we can't read emotions accurately. I just seemed to be of the minority that admits that my assumptions of people can be wrong and likely will be proven wrong while so many other INFJs claim to always read a person accurately thus avoid certain situations. I previously thought I was mistyped but as I researched on your blog and your recommended blogs, it seems to be the other way around. Do you think it is this stereotype that leads to so many mistyped INFJs?
the problem with Ni + Ti in combination is that they slip easily into self-affirming loops without reality check and thereby are amazing at convincing themselves of something illogical. so when tert Ti comes to the conclusion “i’m good at x” then Ni offers a highly filtered explanation/affirmation and ignores reality.
if INFJs were as good with people as some of them are convinced they wouldn’t need to resort to their cowardly doorslamming and ghosting. if you are good with something there is no need in avoiding it.
Introduction to Enneagram Instincts
Instincts: Self-Preservation, Social, Sexual.
These three instincts are built into our bestial nature, which resides at an unconscious level helping to ensure our survival, both of ourselves and our species. From the perspective of the enneagram, we want to know how these drives appear and function, both within personality and as distinct patterns, as defined by each instinct alone or the alignment of two or three (stacking).
Sexuals attract others without really trying. They also repel others in the same way, like an anti-pheromone. This works like a screening function in the mating process. People typically have a strong reaction one way or another towards SX’s, and vice versa.
Self-Preservation people instinctively avoid certain foods and environments, and are likewise drawn to those things that nourish and sustain them. SP’s have a strong reaction against things that threaten to harm their comfort or health.
Social is driven towards gaining protection and empowerment within larger entities. SO’s typically react strongly against things which would jeopardize or displace their position or reputation.
The instinct is always trying to work for our survival, whether we know it or not. Personality can only get in the way. Animals, as more or less fully instinctual beings, don’t have this problem. But integrating our personality with instinct requires that each side of ourselves is fully aware of the other side. Otherwise we are automated, automatic, and on autopilot.
This article is long, so the rest of it is under the cut.
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Type Spotting: Fe v. Fi
Feeling functions describe the way that we deal with people and social life. It is important to remember that just because a person is a Feeler, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are skilled or good at handling people, it just means that they pay more attention to people and tend to have more interest in the nuances of human life. We can say that Feelers have more opportunity to build up their people skills simply because they are more focused on that aspect of reality.
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What is this shit and how is it somehow dead-on accurate?????
Hogwarts Psychoanalysis by House and Typology : #002 Hufflepuff
If you do not know what typology is, or you do not know your own typology, please go here before continuing on below.
ENFP
These folks are some of the more social you will meet of Hufflepuffs, as well as some of the kindest. They are nice to just about everyone, and will rarely snap or say something rude without copious amounts of provoking first. Even then these Badgers are very spiritual, and great believers in karma. They try to be cordial even to those who are horrible to them, because they believe they will have good fortune in return. They are also very emotional, but rarely show it, instead only showing the brighter sides of their personality. They would be most likely to show only their deeper aspects around their closest friends, which they can make many of.
INFP
This is a common type for a Hufflepuff, because it is the type that is known as the Healer, and Hufflepuffs as well, are somewhat natural healers. These people are a bit more shy and reserved, but with large amounts of empathy. They want to help others the best they can, and usually they are best at opening up out of their shell through this, their true colours showing when a person is in need. They have a good sense of the emotions of others, detecting what a person truly means even when it is not said aloud. They are good at keeping secrets, and tend to feel their emotions through others rather than through themselves.
ENFJ
These people are expressive and full of life, every interest and opinion they have being fully expressed through them. Despite this they are not overbearing, but rather they have a sort of comfortable aura around them that pulls others in, making you want them to teach you what they know. They are social creatures, too, and are happy to do his. ENFJ is the Teacher, and this shines thoroughly through these Hufflepuffs. They want to share everything they know with the world, and allow others to see what beauty they see.
INFJ
INFJ Hufflepuffs are very similar to ENFJ Hufflepuffs in their ideas, but they are a bit less strongly expressed. Instead they are more drawn into themselves, and what they know is a part of them. They actually have very many Ravenclaw aspects to them as well, but what makes them Hufflepuffs is how patiently they work out each of their goals, and how their hardworking traits cause them to succeed at everything to the best of their ability. They generally have only a few close friends, because they like to be friends with those they feel enlighten them further, and they have a strong judging criteria for this.
ESTJ
ESTJ Hufflepuffs and INFP Hufflepuffs, despite their completely opposite types, have some similarities. They are both very people oriented, and willing to help out in anyway they can. The main difference here is the tactics they use. ESTJs are much more blunt in their ways, and more traditional. They think before they act, and they look into how a person would react before they help them. If they think they will react badly, they are hesitant to help, because conflict is to them a dirty word. They just want to be social, happy, and enjoy their life.
ISTJ
The main talent of these Hufflepuffs is their attention to detail. They are great at observation, but they also have the ability to observe and analyze at the same time, almost in a psychological manner. They do this to people around them, rarely speaking up about it but taking note of it for later. They have strong minds in every sense of the word, and are deeply logical. They can at times be extremely grounded into reality, as they just can’t get enough of trying to figure out the universe around them. Their down-to-earth personality can also make them very responsible and reliable if need be, and they thrive in this fact.
ESFJ
This is the most emotional of all types for Hufflepuff, as well as one of their common signs. They have deep individual emotions as well as strongly feeling the emotions of those who are around them. They are social creatures but they can also have deep highs and lows due to this aspect, and when they start to feel in the latter of these moods they will often find some place to be secluded and alone. They feel the need to have the company of others most of the time, though, as being completely and entirely alone is one of their worst fears.
ISFJ
Deeply into the needs of others, ISFJ Hufflepuffs are very intrinsically motivated, feeling the need to always do what is best, simply because it is the right thing to do. They are also deeply into nostalgia, and like to make sure their decision is always the best in order to have good memories to reflect back on later in life. They do the same with relationships, judging people thoroughly before getting close to them. They are terrified of being hurt, so they want to make sure they will not have bad thoughts to look back on with friends or lovers.
ENTP
These Hufflepuffs are incredibly creative and eccentric, seeing the world in ways others usually do not. ENTP is called the Inventor, and this is very much shown within the Hufflepuff house. They are hardworkers who come up with unique projects, and are tedious in making sure everything is right in accomplishing their ideas. They are also patient and level-headed, giving them the ability to make many mistakes and keep on going. They haven’t failed, they have only found 10,000 ways that it doesn’t work. They don’t ever allow the thoughts of others get them down.
INTP
Hufflepuffs of this type are somewhat similar to ENTPs in the way that they have the greatest amount of patience you could find in a person. They also have very interesting ways of thinking, and their introversion allows them to show this strongly, as they are not affected by the judgments of others. Their opinions and thoughts are their own, and they love to express themselves in a way that shows people this. Though they are more expressive in their thoughts than their feelings, INTPs still can have dramatic highs and lows in their mood, and this is brought on by their own thoughts, which bothers them greatly.
ENTJ
This is a rather rare type for a Hufflepuff, but it can happen. These are the more blunt, somewhat cold of personalities, and they have the same Hufflepuff instinct to help others, but they show it in a completely different way These are the types more likely to go for guardian type pursuits, such as something in law enforcement. They are strong and dedicated but also stubborn with an almost black and white view of the world, seeing everything as either good or bad. They can block their emotions out at times, because they feel they get in the way when they are working.
INTJ
The main goal of an INTJ Hufflepuff is knowledge, and it is through this that they show their personality. They are one of the shy types and rarely choose to talk to others, but the pen is mightier than the sword, and they show their soul through this ideal. They are fantastic writers, philosophers, and thinkers. They want to share their thoughts with the world, they just don’t want their personal life to be noticed as much, so they tend to shy away from the public eye.
ESTP
If you were looking for a good radio personality or talk show host, an ESTP Hufflepuff would be your go-to guy. They are full of life and fun, and they speak their mind to a point where no thought of theirs ever hides from their lips. They are friendly to most, though their spitfire personality can cause others to be sometimes offended by what they have to say. The thought of purposely insulting someone hurts them a bit, as they would never do it, so if you tell them that they’ve hurt your feelings, they will usually apologize as much as they can, and try to make it up to you. All they want out of life is to feel it, and they want the same for others.
ISTP
Virtuosos, ISTP Hufflepuffs know how to work with what they have in their arsenal. They are compassionate above all else, and this reflects their whole life. They are very loyal friends, very committed lovers, and very hard workers. They are the type that many people would want to associate themselves with, because there is just something about the aura around them that inspires you, and makes you feel like you are a better person. They are not the type to let their emotions get the best of them, because they are too grounded into what they want and obtaining it. Stress is not something they very easily know.
ESFP
A bit of an unlikely type for a Hufflepuff, these people are somewhat overly dramatic. They have a strong outer personality, but they also have an active imagination and often make a bit of a personal fable for themselves. They tend to want their lives to be a fairytale, and see themselves as the prince or the princess, waiting for their knight in shining armor. This can bother others at times, but there is no harm meant by it. They often think that others feel this way, and when they realize they do not, they are unsure what to make of it.
ISFP
Hufflepuffs of this type are very observant, noticing all of their surroundings. People, nature, things of the unknown, they take note of all of them and try their best to figure out how they function in the big jigsaw puzzle of life. They are not the most social individuals, but they do enjoy putting themselves in public places, where they can discover new things, as this is their main drive in life.
Rationals flirting
ENTJs:
Approaching: Contrary to popular belief, ENTJs aren’t necessarily that upfront when they’re flirting; instead, when approaching, they often flirt and play koi, allowing their object of affection to reciprocate feelings before they invest the entirety of their energy into the project. This is their Ni at work, working towards a long term goal while still using Te to take action in the present. They may also be inexplicably kinder; they’ll seem unusually empathetic and understanding, or at least withholding in their emotions. Their flirting generally consists of banter, compliments and seductive looks. They’ll suddenly confess their feelings, although you’ll feel it coming; during a good conversation, they’ll make you laugh and then wait for you to settle down as they stare at you. Then, they’ll confess their feelings. This oscillation between states of vulnerability and their normal selves is designed, intentionally or not, to keep you on your toes, giving the ENTJ control in the relationship, and to some extent over your emotions. ENTJs are not manipulative people; they simply enjoy approaching their relationships in a very cat-mouse fashion.
Reciprocating: This is similar to when they’re approaching, with the one difference that they’ll often wait for you to initiate the compliments and seductive looks. They might be afraid of rejection, so they might wait and make sure you like them before being too blatant about reciprocating your feelings. Additionally, they won’t share their feelings until they’re sure you feel the same, and you’ve expressed them.
INTJs:
Approaching: INTJs are often most spontaneous when pursuing a crush. Expect gifts and unexpected compliments. When talking to you, you’ll probably feel as though they are trying to study you; they’ll ask you questions about your views on large concepts, such as politics or consumerism, as well as less globally applicable questions, such as weird habits you had when you were a child or your plans for the future. It’s also quite common for them to share their ideas and theories with you; these are probably what they value most, and sharing them with you feels significant to them. They’ll throw around compliments such as ‘you’re one of my favorite people in the world’, and ask you if you like them before admitting that they like you. INTJs are very strategic in the way they obtain their crushes, even if they can be direct. One example was an INTJ spotting someone at their university. They introduced themselves to their object of affection briefly at a party. Then, they ‘accidentally’ bumped into their crush, and while their crush was picking up their belongings, the INTJ pointed out that they had met once, and then asked their crush out on a date. The crush said yes. The INTJ went to pick up the crush, only to hear that they had been stood up for their ice cream date, and that their crush was studying in the library. The INTJ then found out their crush’s favorite flavor of ice cream, purchased two cones in that flavor, and brought them into the library to meet their crush.
Reciprocating: It might initially seem like nothing has changed, but look for the little things; how quickly do they change their opinions for you? Do they reciprocate physical touch? Do they actively attempt to hold the conversation you started with them? That’s more or less how they behave. Additionally, they’ll say yes when asked directly if they like you or not.
ENTPs:
Approaching: ENTPs are generally very direct when approaching. It isn’t uncommon for them to comment on your appearance, often in very sexual ways. Sometimes it seems as though their strategy is to embed themselves into a social group, then make it known that they like you without ever actually saying that they like you. Once you’re actually talking, they’ll be more vulnerable with you than they generally are with others, allowing their external air of coolness dissolve into a fluffier version of themselves. Other ENTPs may approach in slightly less direct ways, flirting with banter and wordplay. An example of the first kind of ENTP would be their crush wearing a swimsuit with the American flag on it, and the ENTP staring at them and saying ‘God bless America’ for everyone to hear, whereas the second kind of ENTP might have approached their crush before making such a comment.
Reciprocating: An ENTP reciprocating is similar to them approaching, although they’ll be more careful and incremental when it comes to revealing their true selves; it may feel as though they’re slowly inoculating you against their personal brand of insanity. They’ll test you, as if you’re applying for a job, but in a very informal way; rather than asking you whether or not you can handle people with their particular sense of humor, they’ll expose you to their sense of humor and gauge your reaction. They might think it’s apparent that the two of you like each other, and begin referring to the two of you as a couple, even if you haven’t officially started dating.
INTPs:
Approaching: When approaching, INTPs will seem more or less like themselves; adorkable and slightly shy people who, although they may feel it, have difficulty expressing affection beyond having a pleasant demeanor and being generally kind. They generally prefer to be approached. When approaching, they’ll often make jokes, and initiate conversations more than usual. They’ll be very nice to you, which might be hard to distinguish since many of them already treat those around them with kindness. They very much fear that their feelings won’t be reciprocated, and as such they’ll make sure that you feel the same way, and they’ll wait for you to express your feelings first, even when approaching. Their approaching methods can seem very strategic; they’ll use their friends for information on you and whether or not you like them, and get their friends to talk to you. When approaching, they often attempt to get you to approach them.
Reciprocating: When reciprocating, INTPs employ similar strategies as when they’re approaching, but won’t actually approach you. That’s your job. Otherwise, they’re basically the same. However, they might have some more difficulties, as being approached often entails being complimented, which can be difficult for INTPs. It’s not that they don’t like or appreciate your compliments; they just don’t know how to react to them, and might feel compelled to run away and hide, as though your complimenting is going to make them behave in an embarrassing way.
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Oh shit I used the wrong coy lmao