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#megg talk

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#SUPER CUTE ART!!!#also i love these games sm thank you op <3 #such a dynamic composition too :3c

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i was training a young person at work, and she referred to sexual assault as "SA" out loud, and i immediately was like, "no, it's sexual assault, call it what it is," bc idgaf if the algorithm overlords have taught y'all that you should fear direct language, how tf do any of you expect to ever address real issues with any amount of seriousness if you can't even say the words? imagine an advocate looking a sexual assault survivor in the eyes and asking "did he grape you?" it's absolutely fucking absurd, but these young interns and new hires are coming into an environment where we deal with survivors of all different kinds of abuse, and they're coming with the mindset that the words are as bad as the actions, and that makes them shitty at the job and look juvenile af

i HATE self-censorship for a lot of reasons, but being in crisis work makes it even more frustrating. who are you censoring for? like i am being so fr, WHO are you censoring for? have you even thought it through? people who have been raped know that they have been raped. if someone attempts suicide or is grieving someone who did, saying "sewer slide" isn't going to protect them from any of the feelings. a murder victim's family isn't going to feel better bc you said "unalived" instead of murdered. if anything, it's just extremely invalidating and othering. it's saying "what happened to you is so bad that i won't even say the word," which is NOT trauma-informed care. you are not protecting survivors/victims when you self-censor. the ONLY things you protect when you self-censor are the puritanical ideologies that are being encouraged by rich fascists who want your money and obedience

say the fucking words, guys. just say the goddamn words before i go insane!!!

fall-out-girlboy

I want to expand on one instance you brought up OP. I was able to do a suicide intervention (ASIST) training and it really emphasized the importance of directness. our unwillingness to discuss or even say suicide risks lives, and one of the first things youll be asked to practice in mental health first aid work and those sorts of things is saying the word suicide. practicing asking your classmate about suicidality, being asked to share your own experiences if you're comfortable. just talking frankly about suicide and being reminded that its the attitude you need to show people who feel this way. if you're tiptoeing around it that's only going to add to their own shame or other discomfort about suicidality. you have to demonstrate that it's something that can be talked about with you.