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“Many people seem to think it foolish, even superstitious, to believe that the world could still change for the better. And it is true that in winter it is sometimes so bitingly cold that one is tempted to say, ‘What do I care if there is a summer; its warmth is no help to me now.’ Yes, evil often seems to surpass good. But then, in spite of us, and without our permission, there comes at last an end to the bitter frosts. One morning the wind turns, and there is a thaw. And so I must still have hope.”
— Vincent Van Gogh
“If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now. For wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning.”
- Vincent van Gogh
What art classes don’t teach you is that Vincent Van Gogh was a Dutch Reformed minister before he became a Painter. He was a minister to poor coal miners and loved them dearly, he was referred to as, “The Christ in The Coal Mines,” because he would be with them everywhere, and he preached the gospel with firy passion. He was amazing servant to Christ.
Unpopular opinion, but you can acknowledge that certain events are tragic and feel compassionate sympathy for those involved while simultaneously knowing that unless there is something you can do that will directly, tangibly help the victims, it’s really not your business and there is no point in you worrying about it, letting it effect your mental health and arguing about it with strangers on the internet. The attitude of “don’t worry about it and mind your own business” might seem callous in today’s culture, but we were never meant to carry the weight of all of the world’s myriad tragedies.
If there is something I can do, I want to do it. I will always pray for the victims of tragedy. But if there’s nothing else I can physically do aside from be outraged across the globe, that’s not helping. That’s performing.
Seriously, I think this is a big hole in a secular society. If you take away prayer - an opportunity to acknowledge pain you can't do anything about, and give it to Someone who can, then release your emotional attachment, knowing it's in the hands of the infinitely compassionate and righteous Almighty - then what are you filling that space with? Hollow fury and endless anxiety over what's far beyond your control? Performative activism that boils down to "whoever's more emotionally wrung out over the greatest variety of injustice and tragedy is the better person"? Or callous ignorance and a fruitless attempt to not let the sharp edges of this world touch you at all?
Your time is almost always better spent serving the people around then doom scrolling the world's tragedies. Your kids, your parents, volunteering at your local soup kitchen. You cannot save the whole world, but you can help the people around you in a deeper way.
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i was going to say ‘i have no idea what to do with this information’ but then i realized its a handy guide to generate fake words that sound english
I’m confused, aren’t those switched? I thought entropy was going from chaotic life to orderly death, from hot and moving to cold and still.
I think the confusion is the point this piece is trying to make.
No, the whole point is that your default reaction is to go “but the bottom one is ordered!” because it looks neat and human. Ignoring the order of nature, where things may look strange to us but have their place.
Chaos is a city block, with straight lines on a landscape, regardless of what was there before. Order is a beautiful fractal of streams turning into rivers, turning into the sea
Order is functional, Chaos is when nothing connects to what it needs to.
When women make up more than 25% of graduate students in a discipline, men—and to a lesser extent women—become less interested in pursuing that discipline, and salaries tend to go down.
One factor that influences the use of the labels “soft science” or “hard science” is gender bias, according to recent research my colleagues and I conducted.
Women’s participation varies across STEM disciplines. While women have nearly reached gender parity in biomedical sciences, they still make up only about 18% of students receiving undergraduate degrees in computer science, for instance.
In a series of experiments, we varied the information study participants read about women’s representation in fields like chemistry, sociology and biomedical sciences. We then asked them to categorize these fields as either a “soft science” or a “hard science.”
Across studies, participants were consistently more likely to describe a discipline as a “soft science” when they’d been led to believe that proportionally more women worked in the field. Moreover, the “soft science” label led people to devalue these fields—describing them as less rigorous, less trustworthy and less deserving of federal research funding.
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the world hates women so much 🤗
This has happened to every single profession that women have entered, and the reverse is also true. When a previously female-dominated field like computer coding becomes popular with men, it gets more presitigious and higher-paid.
The world hates women so much that when we excel in a career that men previously dominated, it doesn’t make people think better of women…it makes people think less of the career.
healing is when you have an intrusive thought and instead of having a meltdown you go “girl what?? shut up” and move on
making a compilation of text posts that knocked sense straight into me
Abrams launches a direct attack on Johnson’s narrative with a big, fat obnoxious Well, Actually – it does matter where you come from. See, this silly orphan girl couldn’t just become a Jedi. She had to inherit it, have it handed to her by some old white patriarch. The key difference between Abrams and Johnson’s films, then, is an understanding of the Jedi. For Johnson, a Jedi is a hero and everyone has the potential to be heroic – it does not erase their flaws; in fact, overcoming the binary thinking of good and evil and embracing one’s flaws is crucial to a hero’s journey.
— KNIVES OUT Has Something Important To Say About THE RISE OF SKYWALKER, Britt Hayes for Birth.Movies.Death
Spicy-brained friends, I would like to propose an update to the very useful ‘if you hate everyone, eat, if everyone hates you, sleep, and if you hate yourself, shower’ mantra to live by
Have you suddenly become a petty, hateful little gremlin who thinks people should face the firing squad for (checks notes) leaving teabags on the counter, breathing loudly, or daring to exist in the same space as you? Perhaps mundane and reasonable requests like ‘hey, we agreed to hang out now, let’s hang out’ make you want to scream and move to a yurt in the woods.
You. Are. Overstimulated.
People talk a lot about being overstimulated, and the physical/mental effects of it. What I haven’t seen is people talking about what it does emotionally, and it took me an embarassingly long time to link up those nitpicky, resentful emotions with the state of overstimulation/meltdown/shutdown.
These feelings do not mean that you’re a bad person! They probably aren’t how you actually feel about the people around you. They probably do mean that your nervous system is at its absolute limit and any request/demand/stimulus is Too Much and taking you into fight or flight territory.
Go lie down in a dark room for an hour, or find somewhere safe and familiar to stim for a bit. If it’s happening a lot, schedule yourself regular low-stimulation shutdown time
Signed: someone who moved in with their nearest and dearest only to have a massive crisis of faith about Suddenly Hating All of Them. I don’t hate them, it’s just overstimulating living with people. If I can spare anyone else a similar 9 months of suspecting that they may actually be a bit of a shit person, then this post is worth it!
you might especially feel this way if someone picks up on your bad mood, but all their kind suggestions make you want to bite and scream. in my experience that’s not because you hate them or even the suggestion, it’s probably because *any* new information or ideas, no matter how gentle, is just Too Many Thoughts. this is when it helps a lot to have a plan in advance, even if the plan is just “take medication” or “go to hidey-hole,” because trying to think of a solution in the moment might be beyond you.
(also if ur overstimulated, it’s often worth checking if you need to eat/sleep/shower as well, because that might be part of what’s overstimulating you!)
chronic pain is also a source of overstimulation
Silk is so beautiful. Thank you worms
u know they boil them alive for silk right
They’re worms…
ok im not gonna argue with a sociopath
Thank god
As I've already said on another post:
A: you don't have to kill them for the silk
B: silk moths spend BASICALLY THEIR WHOLE LIVES AS CATERPILLARS and only wrap themselves in silk after they've lived all their life because
C: when they turn into moths, THEY DO NOT HAVE MOUTHS. this is a very common feature for moths. They turn into moths to have sex and then starve to death.
D: in the wild, maybe thirty out of a hundred eggs survive to be caterpillars. Maybe one out of a hundred survives to become a moth. A moth who has a few days, at most, to live. They have no way to defend themselves. Many die before they even get to mate. Some never find mates. If they don't starve to death, they get eaten by a predator. And this isn't even counting the ones who get eaten in the cocoon by parasitic wasps.
E: the lifecycle of a wild silkworm is to struggle, struggle, maybe get sex, then starve to death.
F: domestic silkworms are literally flightless. They cannot survive in the wild. But we take care of them. Nearly one hundred percent of silkworms survive to metamorphosis- and every single one of them lives a safe, warm, long life, where their favourite food is literally handed to them, where they want for nothing. And even THEN, MORE OF THEM SURVIVE TO BECOME MOTHS THAN THEY DO IN THE WILD. The ones who die do so painlessly, and 100% of them gets used- they're literally edible. They get eaten, like they would in the wild, but infitesimally less painfully because they're already dead when they get eaten. Even the cocoons from the moths who chewed through their silk get used! And the moths? The many more who survive than in the wild? They have gigantic orgies, lay eggs that they know will live the same long, idyllic lives they did, and then die.
The life of a domestic silkworm moth is the kindest, most perfect life they could ever live.
This is like if aliens said "hey you get to eat your favourite food forever, live longer than you ever would, and never be in any danger, and your children and their children and their children will also have this, but when you die peacefully in your sleep after living a full life (because you are ssfe from all diseases also) we get your clothes and also your bodies?" and also imagine YOU DON'T HAVE A CONCEPT OF A SOUL OR BURYING A BODY OR CREMATING A BODY OR DOING ANYTHING WITH A BODY. OR THAT THE BODY OF SOMEONE WHO DIED HAS ANY VALUE TO YOU WHATSOEVER. Assume dead humans like. Just lie there and get eaten by dogs.
Literally, to them, all we get out of this is like... instead of something else eating the bodies, we eat them? It's literally just "hey instead of getting eaten by birds, would you like to have lives sweeter than you could imagine but like. You get eaten by monkeys and also less of you get eaten and you're already dead when they eat you."
If you're going to judge someone for liking the byproduct of a process, maybe educate yourself on the process first.
Imagine making a film series like Star Wars and framing the triumphant romantic kiss as 'goodbye'... I still can't believe they made that film. Obvs that's probably how Daisy Ridley interprets it, not necessarily how it was framed (which was lacking narrative altogether), but it's still miserable. It's not even Romeo & Juliet vaunted romantic tragedy. It just sucks.
I do pity the poor anons who are waiting for some sort of different outcome with a new ST film. Studio executives will never look at the critical failure of TROS (it was a commercial success though) and think the takeaway was 'maybe we shouldn't have fractured the SW myth', it's 'oh, okay, let's never deviate ever again, damn that blasted TLJ' - just look at how JJ and co. tried to retroject TROS' failures onto the previous film. Course correction, course correction. Rey Film, if it gets made, will be DO YOU REMEMBER THIS? self-flagellating apology. Ben Solo will never return.
Yeah, anyone trying to come up with any positive spin on it, including desperate attempts to see it as effective tragedy, are doomed to failure. Only by completely ignoring the context and taking the moment by itself carried only on the actors' performances as continuity from TLJ without any of the terrible fucking tros script in the way can the kiss actually mean something.
As soon as you try to make tros into any kind of story or draw any kind of sincere message from it, you immediately run into the brick wall of what a soulless, nonsensical piece of trash it is.
I had a whole rant about how it's not Romeo and Juliet and I am still so annoyed how often people draw the comparison, both utterly missing the point of R&J and giving tros credit which it does not deserve by imagining it assigns any meaning to Ben's death whatsoever.
Yep. We've seen them do nothing but triple down. They have no idea why the movie was such an embarrassing wet fart. Rey the sexless eternal child will never be challenged again, she'll go on a worship tour of references, places, and objects to do reverence as the Brand Avatar. She's not a character any more and she's never going to be again.
Ben's never coming back. Adam himself verified it.
I recently read an interview with Daisy, and she said the 'kiss' scene was actually part of a last minute reshoot. Which once again makes us wonder: was Ben's original fate really to just disappear down that hole, never to be seen again?
It wouldn't surprise me one bit considering how truly appalling TROS is. 'Somehow, Palptatine has returned'; Chewie's 'dead for five minutes, hooray he was on another ship that came out of nowhere', Threepio getting his memories back after a reboot, Hux the rebel sympathiser, fleets appearing out of nowhere, Rey developing magical healing powers never mentioned before...
The film smacked of a movie quickly rushed out so Disney could get rid of the Skywalkers and concentrate on their new stuff, like Mando, Ahsoka and The Acolyte. What is so ironic is Anakin will be showing up again in the new series of Ahsoka, which shows that Disney aren't above occasionally bringing in a Skywalker cameo to make more money.
All except Ben. Probably because they still resent that he was the most popular character in the ST, and not Rey or Finn.
I've said it before but after tros and Terrio's subsequent comments, I 100% believe the 'never to be seen again' leak was true. Everything we've learned has supported it. That was their original ending for him. JJ is just smart enough to know he absolutely had to be redeemed, but that limp noodle was never going to go any further than that advocating for actual story beats and left it to Terrio to do whatever bullshit he wanted.
His death has no meaning and I hate when fans try to give it one or pretend this is some beautiful tragic story moment. It exists to get rid of him. They want nostalgia and the Brand Avatar, the new MCU style serial hero, and he was in the way of that so they deleted him. That's why he isn't part of the terrible ending shot that's 'about the Skywalkers'. He's been deleted from his own family.
There will be some attempts to milk him for money because they're aware he's the most popular ST character and the only one who is memorable or iconic besides BB8, but they do not want him back. he represents the myth, the themes of SW, the uncompromising storytelling, the humanity and flaws of the OT heroes, and that's totally counterproductive to what they want out of the IP.
Replacing physical buttons and controls with touchscreens also means removing accessibility features. Physical buttons can be textured or have Braille and can be located by touch and don't need to be pressed with a bare finger. Touchscreens usually require precise taps and hand-eye coordination for the same task.
Many point-of-sale machines now are essentially just a smartphone with a card reader attached and the interface. The control layout can change at a moment's notice and there are no physical boundaries between buttons. With a keypad-style machine, the buttons are always in the same place and can be located by touch, especially since the middle button has a raised ridge on it.
Buttons can also be located by touch without activating them, which enables a "locate then press" style of interaction which is not possible on touchscreens, where even light touches will register as presses and the buttons must be located visually rather than by touch.
When elevator or door controls are replaced by touch screens, will existing accessibility features be preserved, or will some people no longer be able to use those controls?
Who is allowed to control the physical world, and who is making that decision?
I feel like the increasing predominance of touchscreens is an inverse curb cut effect
Like, yes it's most bad for the disabled, but it's also wildly inconvenient for abled people, too
My car has literally got physical buttons or dials for EVERYTHING. I can do anything from turning the radio up to changing the aircon entirely by feel, in the dark, without looking
The electric car my dad leases has a huge incredibly bright touchscreen where the radio would be in a normal car. You HAVE to look at it to use it, and even though the car also has physical dials for the aircon, using them wakes up the touchscreen to display the changed settings. This is actively dangerous at night, because it's INCREDIBLY BRIGHT and fucks with your night vision. It also means you can't see the satnav for like a minute, which can be a long time in some circumstances.
My old MP3 player had a lil display I could choose playlists and tracks and stuff with but also physical buttons, so I could pause or skip or whatever without looking and without waking the screen, a godsend when I'm in bed trying to sleep or suddenly need to hear the real world. My phone doesn't have that, so in order to pause a song I have to wake the phone up, unlock the screen, and (if I'd remembered to lock the screen while on Spotify) pause the track. This both takes longer and, if I'm in bed trying to sleep - WHICH IS MY PRIMARY MUSIC TIME - stabs me in the eyeballs with bright light.
I tried to use a ticket machine a couple of weeks ago, because the touchscreen wouldn't register any inputs in an invisible area directly over the 'pay now' and 'cancel' buttons. I had to change to the only remaining 'old style' machine, which had buttons next to the screen like an ATM.
My friend has a camera with a touch sensitive display screen and keeps accidentally changing settings with her nose when she looks through the viewfinder.
Touchscreens add $$ to the price of any object, are incredibly fragile and prone to failure, often make the object harder to use, and these days tend to come bundled with a whole host of other 'conveniences' most people would rather NOT have.
It's not limited to touchscreens, either!
Internet connectivity and Automatic Sensing are a plague growing ever more everywhere.
'Smart' fridges that need a WiFi connection to keep your food cold! Washing machines stopping mid-cycle because of a forced software update! Someone hacking your household WiFi by exploiting a security gap in your smart microwave's internet connection!
Public toilet 'more hygienic' sensor taps that regularly fail to sense Black hands or small hands or glitch and run all the time so they turn off the water so 'oops! No running water to wash your hands with at all!'
That one rented car that just Stopped in the middle of the mountains because it lost signal!
Automatic doors that don't register wheelchair users or children!
Car parks that require you to download a proprietary app to pay for! Concert venues you need a smartphone to enter because they use dynamic barcodes! Local mobile apps that require an internet connection to function even though they shouldn't!
The world is filling up with inconvenient 'conveniences' nobody actually wants, but has no choice but to use
My father was house sitting for some friends who had a samsung smart stove (why?!?). He turned on the broiler setting to use it for heating something up - and the setting that is built into it was enough to destroy the touchscreen. Clearly shows it wasn't fully product tested. The contracted repair man for the area (its a rural area) said he's making bank off of samsung stove users warranties.
I don’t understand how people say Finn was shortchanged by TLJ. He has character development and story arcs and everything TFA-TLJ. Even though Poe got a whole developed arc in TLJ too, it didn’t shortchange Finn. You know where Poe’s arc did weirdly shortchange Finn was in TROS, where he had a whole actually coherent arc but Finn was just kinda…there…chasing Rey…why?…we’ll never know…but the shortchanging wasn’t done because he didn’t get the force
If none of them married, how desperate would the Bennett girls actually have been?
Well the only dowry they have is £50 apiece from their mother’s small inheritance, per year; so that’s a total of £250 generated by Mrs. Bennet’s inherited investments per annum.
The Dashwoods (four women) are living on £500 a year when they are forced to live in Barton Cottage (with good-will making the rent presumably ridiculously low thanks to Sir John Middleton’s good nature, to say nothing of all the dinners and outings he invites the ladies to, which will help them economize on housekeeping costs for heavier meals.)
So there would be six Bennet women left to live on half as much as the Dashwoods are barely scraping by on. £250 is roughly considered enough to keep ONE gentleman at a barely-genteel level of leisure (presuming he does not keep a horse or estate or have any major expenses beyond securing his own lodgings/clothes/meals at a level becoming of a gentleman.)
None of the Bennet girls have been educated well enough for them to be governesses to support themselves, so…yes, their situation would heavily rely on mega-charity from others to just help them survive, much less maintain them in the lifestyle they’ve been accustomed to. The Dashwood women have NO social life beyond the outings provided by Sir John and the offer of Mrs. Jennings to host the older girls in London–otherwise they’d be stuck in their cottage, meeting absolutely no eligible men, creating a cycle of being poor and unmarried and too poor to meet anyone with money they could marry.
If the Bennet girls don’t at least have ONE of them marry well enough to help the rest before their father dies, they are really, truly, deeply fucked.
They may joke about beautiful Jane being the saviour of the family, but…it’s true. Mr. Bennet failed his daughters several times over in A) presuming he’d have a son, B) not saving money independently from his income to support his family after his death when it became clear he wasn’t going to have a son, C) not educating them well enough to enable them to support themselves in even in the disagreeable way of being a governess, D) not making any effort to escort his daughters to London or even local assemblies to help their matrimonial chances because he just doesn’t feel like it, E) throwing up his hands and shrugging when faced with the crises of Mr. Collins and Wickham.
Much as we are relieved on a romantic level that Mr. Bennet’s support of Elizabeth saves her from parental pressure to accept Mr. Collins, Mrs. Bennet is NOT A DICK for pushing for the match, because on a material level it very much means they get to KEEP THEIR HOUSE and gain a connection to the powerful patron Lady Catherine de Bourgh, which could be VERY advantageous for the other unmarried girls.
And the scandal of Wickham very nearly scuppers the chances of ANY of the other girls, and Wickham is a further DRAIN on the family finances, not a man who is going to substantially be able to support them. It is SUCH a disaster, and of course there’s not much Mr. Bennet can do until they are found, but he’s away in London and doing…what, exactly? Mr. Gardiner takes over and manages everything and Mr. Bennet seems happy to just let him.
Mr. Bennet does the ABSOLUTE LEAST, and actively damages his children’s futures by his inaction AND by his one action to support Lizzie’s individual needs being prioritized over the collective gain, which…I mean, Lizzie is going to be JUST as homeless and destitute as her sisters when he dies, so much good being Dad’s Favourite is going to do her. :/
£50 is around £4200 now, so about £21,000 for 6 women to live on today for the Bennets.
The Dashwoods at £500/year are at about £42,000 for 4 women to live on today.
Mr bennet definitely messed up, and mrs b deserves way more respect for the immense amount of pressure she’s under
I wrote an entire essay about this my last year of school, and my teacher thought I had lost the plot. He was my most hated teacher for other reasons, and this did not help his case.
I am Here for the Mrs. Bennet Defense Squad. Yes, she can be unsubtle in a major way, but she is also terrified of the alternative outcome. However, for all her lack of tact, she is also hella strategic, as demonstrated by setting up an “oh no I’m stuck in your house” romance trope situation for Jane and Bingley. She’s a clever lady, and she sees exactly what kind of shitty situation they’re in, and she can’t get her husband to do anything.
It’s really easy to read Mrs. Bennet’s inability to be subtle about anything as a sign of stupidity or inability to understand “society” (and the Bingley sisters are inclined to do this and link it to her very middle-class family because of classism) but she is literally panicking at all times about a very real concern, and everyone is just rolling their eyes. No compassion for her poor nerves indeed!
Ok so I started to scroll by. But the problem with the Mrs. Bennet discourse is that it can too quickly swing too far in the wrong direction. Yes, everything about this is (mostly) true. The Bennet women are in a really delicate position. Their safety and continued financial security hangs on Mr. Bennet’s faintest breath. It is in fact a conversation point several times that the girls are not educated enough to serve as governesses, but are of too high a social status to expect marriage to a tradesman.
The problem is that while Mrs. Bennet is certainly the only one in the Bennet household taking this issue seriously, she’s also gone too far in the opposite direction. The point of the Bennet marriage is that it’s bad for both of them. Mr. Bennet married a beautiful, foolish woman and then didn’t live according to the economy he would have had to in order to leave her a tidy sum once he died. Mrs. Bennet held herself safe under the happy expectation that she would produce a son, who would inherit the estate and provide for her in her own age.
Once it became clear that wouldn’t happen (and remember Lydia is only fifteen when the book opens, so Mrs. Bennet might only have given up the idea that she would have a son possibly a decade before, when Jane was about twelve) Mrs. Bennet had to focus on her daughters’ marriages in order to ensure the family’s well-being. The problem is that she overcompensated beyond what the society she lives in found good form.
Mrs. Bennet is a foolish, vain, nervous woman who is often called out in the narrative as an older woman with Lydia’s naturally foolish and selfish character. Her husband long ago realized he’d someone for looks who he was incompatible with personality-wise. The readers (especially modern readers) see his neglect of family affairs readily, and his gentle (and at times less than gentle) mockery of his family (particularly his wife and his three youngest daughters). But importantly, Mrs. Bennet also is meant to come across as a lesson to the reader. A silly woman who married above her station (it’s mentioned several times she secured the better marriage compared to her own sister) Mrs. Bennet doesn’t have the social graces she should have been expected to, as her husband’s wife.
This is an important plot point. Raising Mrs. Bennet up as the only Bennet aware of their impending doom as Mr. Bennet ages is important and adds depth to her matrimonial scheming on her daughters’ behalves. But vitally the way she goes about her work causes Mr. Darcy to hold the greatest of disdain for her and her family. It’s that disdain that helps induce him to persuade Mr. Bingley to leave Netherfield Park. This isn’t truly questioned by Elizabeth, who understands that her mother’s over-eager grasping immediately raised Mr. Darcy’s concerns. Remember, at this time there was an abundance of women who were deliberately setting out to marry men of good fortune, and desperate to make themselves amiable enough to secure that marriage, regardless of their true feelings. Mr. Darcy (and honestly Mr. Bingley too should have known better) would have spent his entire later youth and then adulthood on the alert for women whose intentions were only for his wealth, and not for his happiness. That’s important, especially after we see the great care Mr. Darcy takes with Pemberly and his dependents.
Mrs. Bennet’s desperation is understandable. Her character (grasping, foolish, too needy and nervous to understand the social graces she must display to appear acceptable to men of the station she wants her daughters to marry) isn’t virtuous. Mr. and Mrs. Bennet are intended by the narrative to stand as examples for what happens when people who are not of similar or compatible characters marry. Mr. Bennet grew so disillusioned with his wife that his reaction to his family’s financial insecurity is to make jokes and wave his wife’s concerns away as foolishness. He’s not really concerned with the future of his female family members. Mrs. Bennet on the other hand, doted on for her beauty then ignored and trivialized after that beauty lost it’s attraction, is left to indulge her worst impulses as she tries to snap up eligible young men for her daughters. Importantly, Mr. Wickham easily fools her as to his true character, even after he runs off with her daughter.
While we look at Mrs. Bennet’s desperation and find it both pitiable and understandable, that doesn’t mean that she’s the better person in the marriage. These two people could have been better than who they became as they aged. The problem is that in their youth they found a spouse who wasn’t compatible with them, and their own character deficiencies were magnified in the marriage. Mr. and Mrs. Bennet are intended as a warning to the reader over marrying for shallow reasons (beauty for him, money for her). Character matters in a marriage, as does mutual compatibility.
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Also, I’d point out that Mrs. Bennet is the one in charge of the girls’ education. Mothers were generally responsible for teaching their children and arranging for governesses, not fathers. The fact that she didn’t really do more than teach them to read and sew relates back to the fact that she’s the daughter of probably a lawyer and would definitely not have had a governess herself, but that doesn’t excuse her from being part of the cause of the consequences. (Lady Catherine even points out that it’s their mother who didn’t get them a governess, I think?)
And I will also point out that both parents are equally deficient in taking care of their children’s emotional needs, though in different ways. For instance, look at how Mr. and Mrs. Bennet deal with Jane being out of sorts by Bingley leaving. Elizabeth and Mrs. Gardiner are actually the ones who act in the role of a loving parent in that situation! Contrast that with how Mrs. Morland notices that Catherine is out of sorts after returning from Northanger Abbey, gives her some time to be in her feelings, and then takes loving but firm steps to try to help her get out of her funk.
TL;DR of this whole thread:
“Anakin…exists relative to the state of the galaxy. He is not Luke, he is not the youth of western literature on a journey; that is Luke’s role. Anakin’s role is that of the demi-god of Greek and Roman origin. When Anakin rises, the galaxy rises with him, when Anakin is in turmoil, the galaxy is in turmoil, when Anakin falls, so falls the galaxy. Anakin is intrinsic to the galaxy because Anakin, like so many other mythological demi-gods, is an avatar for the gods or, in the case of Star Wars, the Force. Regardless of any one person’s views on the Force (which are extremely disparate and widely varied, so we won’t broach that subject here), this fact is indisputable. Anakin, as the Chosen One who will “bring balance to the Force”, is its avatar. When Anakin is claimed by the Dark, the Jedi Order’s zenith is reached, the Balance is tipped, and the Order descends into darkness with Anakin, just as his return also signals theirs. The title ‘Return of the Jedi’ doesn’t just reference Luke becoming a Jedi, but Anakin’s return to the Light, and with it, the ability for the Jedi Order to once more flourish. In this he is much like Beowulf, when the Geatish hero sacrifices himself to defeat the dragon at the end of the epic poem. Failure would spell ultimate destruction for Beowulf’s people and country, just as, had Anakin failed to destroy the Emperor, the Jedi and the galaxy would truly have been wiped out. Anakin himself has to die, however, because he is what tips the scales. Once he dies and becomes one with the Force, only then is balance restored.”
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‘STAR WARS: The Creation of a Modern Myth: Cultural Influence, Fan Response and the Impact of Literary Archetypes on Saga Perception’
(via muldertorture)
This right here is absolutely fundamental to understanding the entire purpose of the Skywalker saga, as Lucas so painstakingly told it. The destruction of the old Jedi Order that had ‘lost its way’ and forgotten its true role in the galaxy, and the founding of the New, heralded by Anakin’s return to the Light, and Luke’s essential role in reminding him—and us all—of what it means to be a True Jedi.
(via the-far-bright-center)
I think people in the Star Wars fandom need to learn the difference between Things the Jedi do Because of the Nature of the Force and Things the Jedi do for Other Worldbuilding Reasons.
Let me explain: the Jedi do not use the Dark Side because the Dark Side, as per Lucas’s worldbuilding, is inherently corrupting and wrong. That’s part of the core worldbuilding of Star Wars, so a group that’s supposed to be the Good Guys cannot use the Dark Side. No, not even a little bit, that’s not how the Force works.
The Jedi forbid romantic relationships not because romantic relationships will bring you to the Dark Side, but because the Jedi Order, as it exists in the Prequels, is an institution that requires absolute commitment. As a Jedi, you have to be 100% committed to the Order, willing to die and sacrifice anything for it, because the Order serves the Republic as peacekeepers and negotiators, and if you half-ass that commitment, people are going to die. Serious romantic/sexual relationships like marriage also require a ton of commitment, and without it, they fall apart. You can’t be 100% committed to both, and trying will destroy the relationship and probably get people killed. That’s why the Prequel-era Jedi forbid romantic relationships, not because they think you can’t serve the Light Side while in a romantic relationship.
In conclusion: no, the Jedi are not ‘wrong’ about romantic relationships because ‘they think romance drives you to the Dark Side’. The Jedi don’t forbid romance for Force reasons, but for practical (and possibly also monk) reasons.