like i genuinely do not think most people fathom how dangerous diabetes is. non-diabetics act like it's a punishment given to people for "not controlling themselves" or whatever eugenicist bullshit when it's a fucking autoimmune endocrine disorder. insulin resistance in type 2 diabetes can be caused by a billion things like medications or sleep patterns or inflammation or even fucking stress. it's not the "you're fat" or "you ate too much sugar" disease. a century ago, it was a death sentence. people die of diabetic complications all the time. people have to get limbs amputated because of diabetes. and insulin is so fucking expensive and diabetic medications like ozempic are being used for cosmetic weight loss and diabetics get made fun of all the time. like hello. fucking hello!!!!!!
imagine you’re so fucking stressed out, you’ve been losing to him which your dad told you not to do and now you have to go to your nightmare home in days, you’re just trying to avoid everyone but he tracks you down, drunk, screams at you, still can’t seem to leave your side, DOES THIS WITH YOU SEE ABOVE, screams at you again, literally comes one centimeter from kissing you again, and storms off. like ok
If you are a white person in a racialized person’s life, especially as a partner or close friend, you should go out of your way to ask regularly “hey is there anything you have been holding on to that I did?” and critically both fix it and NOT DO ANYTHING TO PUNISH THEM FOR TELLING YOU.
As a white person raised in a white supremacist society, you’re gonna fuck up sometimes. That’s just a fact. But racialized people often aren’t able/comfortable speaking up when y’all do some shit because of the power imbalance/not feeling up to educating when you may be resistant/don’t think the “fight” will be Worth It.
Show initiative without making it A Struggle or playing the white guilt card. Show you actually care about them, their struggles, and the way you interact with them BEFORE they have to have a bigger Conversation with you, beyond when they need to yell about someone else being racist.
And for fucks sake if they’re making/showing you something from their culture fucking act like you realize the importance of that, that they’re showing you shows they grew up with or making you food they made with their families, that they’re letting you in and trusting you more than other whites in their life.
This would honestly be life changing for me. The idea came up because I feel so incapable of telling the people in my life when they do racist shit. And like furthermore, actually respond beyond just an I'm sorry. Like for the love of god actually internalize the shit the Black and Brown folks say to you.
I'm seeing a lot of tags from white people saying something along the lines of please tell me if I fuck up and like that really goes against the point of the post. Racialized people have to swallow so much racism on a daily basis and it's impossible to tell who is safe to confront.
Even close friends or partners are not necessarily safe. I have had partners dismiss accusations of racism just off hand, I have had partners treat me like a repository for knowledge on Muslim cultural practices despite the fact that *my family has been Christian since Jesus,* hell I have had a partner say I was overplaying my pain at the genocide to get sympathy.
Racialized people are constantly waiting for the other shoe to job. Constantly waiting for their "antiracist" white friend to decide they have learned all they need to. We need you to ask. We need you to care enough to be proactive literally at all. Stop asking us to trust you without doing any fucking work to prove you are trustworthy.
This goes for stuff that isn't race too. If you are the privileged person in some aspect this is a thing you should be thinking about regularly.
I had a conversation about cis dude privilege with my little brother a couple weeks ago and he's second generation American from Nigeria - told him he's gotta be honest and ask and accept the answer multiple times if he wants to make it up to a person who he considers a friend but who he has been misgendering and who lost their temper about it.
He says they're talking to him again, so I think it might have worked.
Another dimension to Ilya’s emotional avoidance to me personally is Ilya’s idea of what it means to be a dominant sexual partner, and what he believes is his role given that most of what people want from him is his body and what it can do for them.
To Ilya (during the hookup era) what Shane wants from him is Sexy Russian Machine who’ll fold him in half and praise him or call him a slut or whatever the mood is that night- they only see each other a handful of times a year, Shane doesn’t want to see all of the big, ugly emotions he pulls out of Ilya, that’s not what he came for. No one ever comes to Ilya for that.
If Shane sees any crack in the facade it’ll ruin the fantasy of The Perfect Dom Top you can trust to fuck you into oblivion at a moment’s notice. It’s what Shane needs, it’s what he deserves.
They get so little time.
I think it goes hand in hand with Ilya’s complex attitude towards dominance in general and how he was taught that dominance and true emotion were incongruous concepts. Emotion in the moment is different- that can be waved away with the plausible deniability of a fuck that was too good not to crack a little- but when the moment’s over? The shutters need to come back up. Protect the image. Protect himself.
It’s not the only reason, and it’s not even the most prominent reason, but I do think it’s a factor in how long it takes Ilya to open up emotionally. All these preconceived notions of masculinity and power that needed to be slowly unspooled the more distance he had from Russia, from his father, from Alexei.
By the time we get to the cottage, we have an Ilya who’s (almost) fully reconciled that- able and comfortable to show raw emotion and knowing that it doesn’t make him less sexually dominant or sexually competent/attractive and knowing that to Shane, he means so much more than what his body can do. ‘That’s not what this is- you and me.’
the lotr movies got eowyn wrong. yes the fighting was cool. "i am no man" scene was badass. but the point of eowyn is not "woman wants to fight, isn't allowed to, eventually gets to fight and that's her happy ending."
the point of eowyn is "woman is depressed, wants to be free/respected/seen/known/loved, is put in a (metaphorical) box with the other women, wants to fight bc it will bring her either Respect or Death."
she kills the dang Witch King. she fights and wins and it's awesome and satisfying. but fighting is NOT her happy ending. it's her sad ending. she ends up wounded and broken, like everyone else in this stupid WWI-trauma story. Like Frodo. Like Faramir.
I cannot emphasize enough that Faramir meets her AFTER she is UNABLE to fight (the only thing she thought gave her value and honor) and STILL admires and respects and loves her. Eowyn is more than a fighter. Eowyn is more than what she does. And for someone like me who's disabled from doing a lot of things that society expects of me, that means a lot.
listen to me, this is so so important: you've gotta get used to really giving it your 60% as a default. like don't half-ass it necessarily but try not to go over 70% or so of an ass. you'll feel better and live a happier more fulfilled life, and on the rare occasions where you do need to lock the fuck in you'll be able to pull off bullshit that the sad miserable wretches giving it their 100% can never dream off, because they're busy draining themselves dry and you have energy reserves to spare.
are people talking about the labor conditions at Taylor Farms yet? like the fact they use enslaved prisoners in their facilities?
are we drawing the connection between worker safety and consumer safety & public health yet?
are people demanding to see the conditions in this place that keeps making us sick? why are the enslaved workers not having the time to use the bathroom or to rest when ill? very few people would shit in front of their coworkers given any choice at all.
here is every mention of the companies/products mentioned in the mpr article
Name the chains! At this point in the article it seems like contracting with prisons is the default for meat plants ☹
was it Hillary Clinton who lived in a mansion staffed by prison slaves? somebody please tell me which politician was called out
slavery is so deeply baked the meat and dairy industry & our food chain in general. the scale of it all is baffling. animal agriculture gets billions & billions of taxpayer subsidies while the labor is fucking free. never eat meat in this fuckin country i guess. honestly just never eat
Not getting a ton of reporting in US news, but the Trump administration is going after donors to Palestine, including going as far as international extradition under the guide of "counterterrorism"
This is not an exaggeration. Your download speed would slow down to the point where Windows would make this kind of absurd estimate, and you’d sigh and leave the room for a while (because you couldn’t use the computer while it was doing this for fear it would crash and lose all your progress) and then you’d come back in 40 minutes and maybe it would now say 52 years or maybe it would say 3 minutes, who knew, not Windows.
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ah yes, the false binary of everyone who is a trans woman, and everyone else who is not a trans woman.
just like the evil oppressive binary of gingers vs non gingers. or left handed people vs everyone else. or people from Baltimore vs people who aren't from Baltimore. or Ryan Gosling vs every single other human being on the planet.
you people lost the plot on why the gender binary is bad. you think that its oppressive because there's just two categories. not that its oppressive because its a symptom of the patriarchy to abuse women, promote misogyny, and punish nonconformaty.
you hate the number two, instead of hating oppositional sexism. you have no understanding of basic gender theory, and are identical to the common transmisogynist.
so of course you loose your fucking minds when you are presented with a short hand that means "people primarily affected by transmisogyny, which includes trans women, transfems, nonbinary people, intersex people, genderqueer people, both who have and haven't fully come out yet. VS. cis men. trans men. cis women. nonbinary people. intersex people. genderqueer people. closeted and otherwise. of all orientations. and literally every other person who wasn't identified in the first category"
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