autistic people are in no way related, nor should ever be lumped in with "kinksters" or whatever word you wana use for people who care more about sex than other people's well being. Its insulting and hurtful that you would compare people with a mental disability to nasty people who only care about sex. You should really consider everything that lead you to this point. It also brings about some questionable implications that you think autism is something to be fetishized. Theres my tea, now sip.
I love that every seething self-unaware reactionary mad about my criticisms regarding the fascism behind a culture that worships normalcy can’t come up with a single retort besides this idea of “lumping in”, with the implication I shouldn’t “lump in”, “the good, pitiable autistics” with “the sex freaks”, when the reality is, my dear stupid bastard friend, it is not me who does this lumping in, it is each and every single one of you who have decided that conforming to normalcy is some manner of virtue, you absolutely awful people who constantly shriek about how people should be more normal, and it is extremely self-evident in the enormous overlap between “kink criticals” and people who advocate for “bullying the freaks”, to the point there was specifically an extremely popular post advocating for harassing and enacting violence against “weirdo” children to stop them from turning into “greasy kink freaks” or whatever, which makes sense! the worship of normalcy is inherently about ensuring nobody deviates from what society tells you people should do and should be, and this becomes all-encompassing because there’s no other logical endpoint, you can’t advocate for normalcy as the only moral good and then pretend its still okay to be abnormal sometimes. If you don’t like reading criticisms of the society you yourself help create with your ridiculous, seething moralism about “nasty people who only care about sex”, then that’s too fucking bad, you can go off and be a detestable reactionary somewhere I don’t have to see it. You have nothing of any interest to add to this conversation whatsoever, which should’ve been entirely clear you started crying about the nasty people who only care about sex in reference specifically to gay men, which we all know was what I was referring to in the post that made you so mad.
Consider: i am autistic. And i am kinky BECAUSE i am autistic.
I am not one of the autistics who gets sensory overload easily. Instead, i am pretty much constantly understimulated.
One of the most fun sensations to me is pain. Pain can flood my senses, bringing me to the point where for once i really feel something. There is a certain kind of high that i can get from pain that i cant get from anything else. When i am playing with pain in a controlled environment, where i have another person helping me manage what i am feeling... Its an incredible feeling.
I could keep going, talk about my other kinks, see if i can derive the kink from my being autistic. If not autism, im sure i could link them to one of my other mental disorders.
To deny my being kinky is to deny my experience with being autistic, reject the way i work to make my autistic life better.
I'm kinky in an autistic way too, but a different one! For me, my kinks are a seamless extension of my special interests. That hyperfocus thing where a minute detail of the world becomes endlessly, gorgeously, intricately fascinating? That's what my sexuality is like.
I'm more into doing sensory things to other people than to myself, because my own body literally responds more strongly to the narrative and scenario of that than to my own sensory experiences (like, I'm mostly stone, but it's not primarily driven by an aversion to being touched, it's a positive interest in guiding someone else's responses.)
There are as many ways to be autistic/neurodivergent as there are autistic and neurodivergent people. And there are as many ways to be kinky as there are people who turned out neurodivergent in ways that affect their sexuality.
And it's not possible to seek social justice for us as a demographic while trying to cut us off from the wholeness of our own bodily experience.
