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[shubbabang]

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[catchymemes]

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hope u dont mind me keeping ur tags because ur right:

[calmdowncalmdown]

I’ll reblog this every time I see it.

[spencerreidsmiles]

Bad Blood

Written by: spencerreidsmiles

Hey gang! I got this request from @philspinkyfinger eons ago but since I was on a hiatus when I received it, I just got around to writing it now! The prompt was this - *newbies at a crime scene* Male: “Isn’t that the most blood you’ve seen in your life?” Female: “Dude, I’m a woman, this pales in comparison”. 

A very watered down “synopsis” of this fic is Y/N and her less-than-ideal partner Jake are assigned a quite bloody case. And of course, Dr. Spencer Reid plays an important part too. 

One last thing, I started a Ko-fi account today! For anyone who wants more information about that, here’s my post. 

Anyway, thank you for reading! I hope y’all enjoy <3

Trigger Warnings: mentions of blood, strong language

MASTERLIST

“Jesus Christ. You’d think they’d stop giving us the most sloppy cases now. Haven’t we proven ourselves yet? We did fucking great with the Johnson case.” Jake announced. His voice boomed in the woods, scaring away all of the wildlife. 

I did fucking great with the Johnson case, you thought. Jake, as usual, had done nothing. But telling him wasn’t exactly going to get it through that thick skull of his. 

“Just because we’re the newbies, it doesn’t mean that we have to deal with this… shit,” he grumbled. He pointed at the victim, who was lying in a pool of dark red blood that had partially soaked into the moist dirt around it. 

He was a police officer. What else did he expect? Sunshine and rainbows? Figuring out where the unicorn had galloped away to? Dumbass.

Keep reading

[philspinkyfinger]

This is absolutely amazing, I love it!!

[whitepeopletwitter]

[skull-bearer]

I mean, I could go play in the traffic, doesn’t mean anyone actually should.

[unmooredonasundayevening]

when i say “i wish i could do this again” i mean “i wish i could do this again without putting other people in danger of contracting a potentially fatal disease”

[kyraneko]

Yeah. “I wish it were safe to do this again” and “I wish I were allowed to do this again” are entirely different concepts, and amidst the pandemic people do a lot of conflating the two.

[sterling-jay]

Ok but real talk here, big, important question for everyone:

Why do you like but not reblog?

It feels like the bare minimum in fandom to reblog stuff you like. It’s the easiest way to support artists/writers and guarantee they do more of that same kind of thing.

I thought of some reasons people might not want to reblog and I’m going to debunk them:

Reblog = repost and reposts are evil!!!

Reblogs are different than reposts. As long as the original post came from the artist, the artist gets the credit for it and that’s what they want. REPOSTS are when you find a piece of art you like, save it to your computer, and later make your own post with it, and that’s not cool

Reblogging is too much effort!!

It really, really isn’t. On mobile? Press and hold the reblog button. The post has now been reblogged. On desktop? Hold the alt key and then click the reblog button. Off it goes, letting more people enjoy the beauty of the post you just enjoyed yourself!

I don’t want to tag things though

So then...don’t? Just reblog it with no tags. You want to tag it later, you can. You never want to tag things? Cool, neither do I most times!

I DO want to tag things but I feel like I’m bothering people

I guarantee you, 90% of the time, artists love tags. Even the keyboard smash tags. The ones they don’t love are the ones demanding more art/for the artist to do things in a specific way/to change the art to suit one specific viewer’s preferences.

If I reblog things a lot, it’ll annoy people!

If people are following you, it’s for your content. If it annoys them, they can unfollow you. That’s on them. If you mean it’ll annoy the ARTIST if you go in and reblog their whole art tag...wrong, false, no, definitely not, they might even make more art specifically for you if you do that. Especially if you tag with ‘I love this piece because...’ and then give a reason why you love it, that is the most encouraging thing.

Reblogging doesn’t fit my blog aesthetic.

Idk what to tell you here, you’re in control of your aesthetic. Make a side blog maybe, reblog there and leave your main ‘clean’. Or vice versa. No reblogs = a quickly dwindling supply of art that people are willing to post.

Reblogging is an important part of fandom/tumblr community in general. It encourages more people to make more content which means more things for you to do/see/read.

It’s part of the fandom ecosystem; we have content makers and we have content viewers. Without makers, we have no art. Without viewers, there’s no reason to post it online. If viewers are limited, people start reconsidering whether to bother posting their art online or just share it with their friends they know will give feedback.

Reblogs are how you contribute to the fandom. Try it.

[sterling-jay]

NO I MEAN REBLOG THIS TOO

[merchantarthurn]

Literally, it's very important to share things. If you see someone going through and liking everything but not sharing it (which happens to me a lot) it genuinely gets you wondering what's wrong with your work that they don't wanna share it publically. It makes you feel like an art-robot.

[philspinkyfinger]

I didn’t because I was lazy, I’m glad I know I can hold the button now!

[willforeverbemine]

Black people do not have to be exceptional for their right to life!!!!

Repeat after me:

Black people do not have to be exceptional for their right to life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[willforeverbemine]

This hardly has any notes but can I just say that non black people and white people you can in fact reblog this, thanks x

[hucowgoddess]

I’d encourage non black people and white people to reblog this so we at least know ya’ll understand and that we’re on the same page.Thanks.

[bralemons]

“george floyd wasn’t a saint!” perhaps he wasn’t, bitch!!! he still did not deserve to die!!!! 

[novice-heartbreaker-deactivated]

Remember to take care of yourself everyday! 💕

[h0rny-forever]

🌻

[xuf00x]

Mhm!! This should be on everyone’s wall. 💜

[prokopetz]

IT experts are often described as “computer wizards”, but that’s not particularly accurate. IT experts are clearly priests.

Considered the resident authority on systems you have no first-hand experience with owing to the fact that you’re the only person who understands the documentation (interpretation of sacred texts)

Responsible for communication with vendors and service providers because you know how to phrase requests to get the desired results (intercession with higher powers)

Performance of rote procedures that anyone could carry out, but which are believed to have special power when it’s you specifically performing them (observance of rituals)

Credited with the proper functioning of critical devices even though all you did was poke it a couple of times and shrug, your touch or presence being treated as apotropaic (purification and exorcism)

Devising technical explanations for human error so you high-profile clients don’t sue your dumb asses (absolution of sins)

[mochiigo-deactivated20190709]

Things NOT To Do/Say When Dating Someone With Anxiety

Also some things to keep in mind when dating someone with anxiety.

- “Just chill.” - “Calm down.” - “There’s nothing to be anxious about.”* - “Why do you need so much attention?” - Don’t point out how often we do things. (Like apologizing, asking the same questions over and over, etc.) It makes some people feel worse about things they don’t necessarily mean to do. - “Why didn’t you just say something? ” (In nearly any situation. It’s not like we don’t want to. ) - “Why do you always ______?” - Do NOT sigh when you have to do something like ask a question, pay/order food. Sometimes it’s hard doing what should be trivial things. - You will hear the phrase “I’m sorry.” A lot. Though it may feel frustrated, just reassure them it is okay. They will feel so much better. - N E V E R SAY “It’s so cute how you get nervous.”

These are just a few things. Please keep them in mind. Asking about why they do things the way they do isn’t a good idea, despite good intentions.

[saffelinastuffs]

- You will hear the phrase “I’m sorry.” A lot. 🙈

[xxxamorexxx-deactivated20221208]

Ditto! I also HATE being told to chill out 😭

[defiantslv]

On point!

[goodgirlsdoresearch-deactivated]

Things you can say that might help (every one is different, but these help me.)

“I’m here.”

“It’s gonna be okay.”

“You’re safe.”

“You’ll get through this.”

“It will pass.”

“You are okay, even if it doesn’t feel like it, it will soon.”

“I love you.”

Nothing. For my partner, just hold me. For my friends and family just give me space and give me a hug after it passes.

What helped the most was that my partner learned what helped me, both things for in the moment (medititation, breathing, grounding) and for proactive prevention (sleep, yoga, keto, salt floats, etc…). So he knows what to say and do when I am panicked.

But it can be overwhelming for him sometimes, and that is okay.

Remember no one is perfect, it is okay to say the wrong thing or not know what to say occassionally. Just talk to them about how you can be supportive and learn from it.

Ultimately just remind the people you love who have anxiety that you’re there, they they matter to you, and that you love them.

[kendrajk]

YOU ONLY KEEP ONE BULL 

(Originally published in Comics For Choice)

[thehornedwitch-deactivated20211]

And the rest, my darlings, are meat.

[glitterandrocketfuel]

Never punched reblog so fast in my life

[unpretty]

The Outbursts of Everett True was a comic strip that ran in papers from 1905 to 1927, wherein the aforementioned Everett True regularly beat the everliving shit out of rude people as a warning to anyone else who might consider being rude. Men have not only been taking up too much room on public transport for about as long as public transport has existed, but the people around them have been irritated about it for at least a hundred years. The next time someone tries to claim that manspreading is a false phenomenon, please direct them to this strip so that Everett True can correct their misconceptions with an umbrella upside the head.

[guyalice]

I have never before heard of Everett True, but if he “regularly beat the everliving shit out of rude people as a warning to anyone else who might consider being rude,” I have a strong spiritual connection with him.

[froginakettle]

[hotcocoachia]

I fucking love him

[jaynavajasso]

i can imagine this guy’s voice very clearly in my head but i couldn’t put a name to it 

[iamtypinglike98madmen-deactivat]

He also jabs racists in the eye!

[tumblunni]

I love the justice grandpa of fists

[cursedcharley]

I’m very lucky to own a book that’s a collection of most of these comics (sadly not all of them) and would highly recommend hunting these down if you can. Sorry for the lack of a scanner but phone photos will just have to do.

He was a enjoyable cuss who didn’t care for war mongering.

Especially profitable war mongering and excuses for it!

He certainly didn’t like selfish husbands and fathers!

Politicians who turned on their words once they got theirs weren’t safe.

He said fuck the police!

He absolutely didn’t like people ruining little things for kids.

He stood up for foreigners. Especially those doing their best to communicate with limited second language knowledge.

He was not having any tomfoolery when it came to gun safety and laws. Especially with youth involved.

You had better not abuse a animal with him nearby. He’d right that wrong real quick!

And best of all him and his wife were both prickly cusses together. Relationship goals.

[biglawbear]

I have a new role model

[briarchubnj]

😍

[runcibility]

“justice grandpa of fists”

[arquus-malvaceae-deactivated202]

It’s nice to see a fat dude in a political cartoon that’s NOT being used as shorthand for greed and corruption.

[thehugwizard]

JUSTICE GRANDPA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[pblomgr1]

These are the solutions we need to policing right now. Remember: the problem cannot be solved by technocratic solutions (i.e. body cams, further trainings, etc.) The problem is policing itself.

[remceit]

Janus: my boyfriend needs to be graceful, brave, and ambitious-

Remy, ignoring Thomas as he wanders through the streets at ungodly hours: I have like,,, no idea?

Remy, on his fourth cup of coffee: pumpkin spice seasonal depression!

Remy, totally not planning on leaving Thomas late in the night so he can avoid doing his job: bitch you know rain is my jam-

Remy, pouring a gallon of water on Thomas’ face at three AM: drink up slut!!!

Janus:

Janus: I want that one

[wroammin]

Patton’s Falsehood

[jessibbb]

🥺🥺🥺

[snek-boii]

@deodoranteating-boii AAAAAAA

[greeneggsandsam05]

NDUWAGAHSBWHBDJSIZJJSJSJDHDBSJZBSHSGSHDHSJXBSJHXBSUWHCJDJEBD

[5am-the-foxing-hour]

Okay so we have a Patton falsehood, a Remus falsehood, a Roman gran falsehood and a Janus falsehood, have Virgil done one?

[chronicdharma]

Shared on the “spoon shortage” Facebook page

[cervinelich]

this is why its depressing to work in a pharmacy.

[iatrogenic]

I was definitely a profit killer when I worked in a pharmacy (which honestly was my favorite job in the entire world, but it was short-lived and nowadays you can’t work at a pharmacy like that, it’s all tied in with corporate retail and no one should ever trust me with a cash register ever). It was not, however, actually a profit killer for the pharmacy, just for the drug companies, so no one cared. These days I do medical billing, which means I actually bill OUT from hospitals so I’m mostly spending my professional time taking money away from insurance companies. 

I will now impart all of my profit killing resources onto you, in case you don’t know them. I think most of you know them, now. But just in case you don’t.

THIS IS US-CENTRIC. I’M SORRY. 

1. GoodRx - this thing has an app now, so you can look up the best places to get your expensive medicines at the lowest possible prices without insurance on the go, and you no longer have to print coupons because you can just hand over your phone or tablet. Times have changed for the better with GoodRx. Definitely use it before trying to fill your scrip, because it will tell you the best place to go. (You can do that on the website, too.)

2. NeedyMeds - Needymeds is basically the clearinghouse of drug payment assistance. They have their own discount cards, but also connections to many patient assistance programs run by drug companies themselves. They are good assistance programs, too.

3. Ask your county - This is not a link. This is a pro tip. Most county social services will have pharmacy discount programs for people with no and/or shitty pharmaceutical coverage. You can often just find them hanging around at social services offices; you can just pick one up and walk off with it. 

4. Ordering online - There are a few safe online pharmacies. I keep a little database in a text file on my computer. Most of them are courtesy of CFS forums, my mother or voidbat, so a lot of that is a hat tip to other people, but if you’re in need of a place to get a drug without a prescription … first I’ll make sure you 100% know what you’re doing for safety reasons and then I’m happy to turn over a link. 

5. Healthfinder - A government resource that helps find patient assistance programs in your area. This might also point out the convenient county card thing. RxHope is something a lot of people get pointed to via Healthfinder that’s a good program.

6. Mental Health America - Keeps a list of their best PAPs for psychiatric medications, which can be some of the most expensive and a lot of pharmacy plans don’t cover them at all. 

[forevrdreamingofbetterthings]

This is so important ppl.

Signal boost the shit out of it!

[queercomicsconnection]

You can also see more of cartoonist Dan Piraro’s work on his website!

[midnight-spectrum-again]

Important

[illogicallyinclined]

you try drinking coffee ONE TIME, and this is what happens

[did-he-just-hiss-at-me]

!!!!! my heart is exploding

[everythingbagels]

I just read this super sad post about this girl who’s asexual and married and everyone is basically telling her that she doesn’t deserve her husband/she’s just a prude/she should just do it anyway. So I want to tell you all right now that if people tell you this, or if they tell you you’ll never have a relationship, it is BULLSHIT. My husband is asexual and I’m not. He’s sex repulsed, we don’t have sex, we never have. And it doesn’t matter to me. You know what does? He does. His mental health and wellbeing matter to me. Because he is my best friend and he’s one of the smartest, kindest, funniest people I’ve ever met. And he’s had people tel him that he’s broken and it makes me SO ANGRY because they are WRONG. Being different doesnt mean you’re broken. If you don’t like sex/don’t want it/etc. Do not let anyone tell you that you’re inferior because you’re not. Do not let anyone convice you that you’ll never have a relationship because they’re wrong(if you want one). You are not broken, and it will be okay.

[onyxjuniper]

This made me feel really good. Remember this, for all my ace spectrum friends out there

[auditorycheesecakes]

#it’s really reassuring to hear from the partner #the one who’s not ace #but is totally cool with having no sex #loves her husband anyway #is in a stable and happy relationship #it’s such a relief when you discover that asexuality is a thing #that you’re okay #but then you start to wonder if it means your only chance at not ending up alone is finding someone else who’s also ace #but no #turns out it’s not #that’s really good to hear #so #thanks #so ace #so space

I hope you don’t mind me reblogging your tags but these are my feelings EXACTLY

I’m always a little nervous that I’m not “good enough” for a “real relationship” because sex isn’t on the table. So yeah, these stories are reassuring

[intj-confessions]

The amount of pressure from society to have sex is incredible. We’re told it’s linked to relationship health and if you’re not willing to do every damn thing you’re labeled a prude. It’s incredibly disheartening, especially considering how one’s libido can change over the years even if you’re not ace. Nice to see a supportive piece from a partner.

OK, kids, buckle up it’s story time.

When I got married, I hadn’t had sex yet.  Waiting until marriage was important to me, so that’s what I did.  My wedding night was the first time I had sex.

It sucked.

I figured, ok, this is new for both of us, it’s probably going to take some practice.

A year later?  It still sucked  We tried a lot of different stuff.  A lot  of different stuff.  It sucked so bad, we even bought a copy of “Sex for Dummies”.

(it didn’t help)

I started working late so I didn’t go to bed at the same time as my husband.  Every time he would travel for work, I’d be grateful that I didn’t have to go through the awkwardness of avoiding his advances when I went to bed.

He didn’t think it was healthy for a newlywed couple to have sex less than once a week.  So we scheduled it.  Repeat, scheduled intimacy.  I thought I was putting on a brave face and doing what I needed to do to maintain a good relationship.

Because I had no idea that asexuality was a thing.

I talked to my husband, told him I didn’t like sex.  He didn’t understand.  I lost track of how many times I said: “It’s not that I don’t want to have sex with you.  I don’t want to have sex with anyone.”

So it was established, Amber doesn’t like sex.

But we still did it.  Because I wanted my husband to be happy.  Sometimes halfway through, I’d start crying.

And he’d always be supportive, and apologize.

After he finished.

So when I found out about asexuality, and told him how I felt, he suggested I go to a doctor.  Because obviously there was something wrong with me.

So I went to a doctor.

(surprise, surprise, I’m perfectly healthy)

Then I told my mom.  When she suggested meds to improve my sex drive, I broke down in tears.  I told her there was nothing wrong with me.  And my mom has been 100% supportive of my orientation ever since.  When people ask if I’m a lesbian, she teaches them about asexuality.  

But anyway back to my journey of self-discovery

So I tell my husband, I’m asexual, I don’t want to have sex.  You are not asexual, you do want to have sex.  One of us is going to be miserable in this relationship, and I’m tired of it being me.  I love you too much to make you miserable for the rest of your life, but I love myself too much to be miserable for the rest of my life.  We might have to face the fact that we’re not right for each other.

So his immediate response is “no, I can change, I’ll do anything, divorce is not an option, etc”

But I can’t exactly ask him to stop wanting to have sex.  Because that’s not how allosexual people work.  And he can’t seduce me into wanting to have sex, because that’s not how asexual people work.

Anyway.  He cries, I cry, we decide on marriage counseling to help our comunication.

Because we’d been married for almost 6 years by this point, and had been together for 3 years before that, and we still can’t really talk about what we want (or don’t want) in regards to sex.

So we go to counselling for 6 weeks.  The first 3 sessions individually, and the last 3 together.  During the together sessions, the therapist would prompt us with a question, and we’d talk to each other, being completely honest about things.

During (what turned out to be) our last session, I’d finally had enough.  I’d had enough of being embarrassed about what anyone else would think.  Enough of the gender roles I was being forced into.  Enough of paying someone to watch me talk to my husband.  Enough of pretending to salvage a relationship that I had been increasingly avoiding over the past 2 years, and I said:

“Josh, I love you.  We have communication problems, but we’ve been together almost ten years and I’m willing to work through those if you think we can make it work.  But I am never having sex with you again.”

(At this point, the therapist who’d been trying to get us to communicate put down her notebook and said, ok I think we’re done.)

Then and only then, did he agree to file for divorce.

—————–

I say all that to say this:

Don’t you dare fucking tell me that asexual representation doesn’t matter.  I would have six years of my life back if I had known.

And if you’re in a relationship, talk to each other oh my God.  About everything.  What dream you had last night.  That song from scout camp that randomly gets stuck in your head.  The reason you don’t like sweet potato.  That embarrassing thing you did in third grade that still makes you mad when you think about it.  If you and your partner can share these tiny, intimate details, talking about sex is no big deal.  And it takes practice, so practice.

————–

On a happy note, now, 3 years after the divorce, I am in a happy, stable relationship with another ace.  And if you happen to ask my mom how I’m doing, she’ll tell you “I’ve never seen my baby girl happier.”

It gets better.  But it’s up to you to make it that way.

[handsofmydas]

@theonetheonlyjordanelizabeth please read this ❤️ I may be sex repulsed but I know that I love you and thats what matters ✨

[pansexualfaithlehane]

I know this is already really long and really informative, but I also wanted to add a partner’s perspective. I too, have an ace fiancee. I knew about it before our relationship. I didn’t know it was a thing until I met her, and that was huge to me because I learned something new and also came to understand an old friend a little better.  I, on the other hand, am not ace. I am at the complete opposite end of the spectrum. I am pansexual, and she has a hard time I think coming to terms with the fact that I don’t want to make her have sex. Like, ‘Really?’ you might ask me. Like really is my only reply. I have loved her for a long time now, and being we met over Tumblr and we knew one another before the relationship, sex isn’t a big deal in our relationship. and I can think of at least ten of my friends who would feel the same way right now. 

ASEXUALITY IS A REAL THING, LOVING, SWEET ACE RELATIONSHIPS ARE REAL! Just because your partner wants sex doesn’t make you broken. Just because you don’t want sex doesn’t mean you should have to force yourself to do so. 

Just be honest with one another, love one another. If a relationship can’t survive a healthy, honest conversation, then it wasn’t a very strong relationship to begin with.  TL;DR People who can’t see past sex as a ‘core’ in a relationship with someone ace/sex repulsed is an asshole.

[stele3]

I just want to point to this post whenever anyone ever says that asexual people haven’t suffered from discrimination or oppression.