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::gasp:: @voidbat !!!!!!!
i need to make a billion of these!
Also, please do not listen to how people talk about cover letters on this site. Cover letters are important, and in many industries you can be damn sure they'll be read. And no, they're not 'fanfic about working in your office', or just re-stating the resume contents in a fancier guise. If you treat them like that, then of course they're not doing much for you. That makes you sound like a syncophantic windbag, and it's not doing anything else to help.
I was trained in the dark arts of the cover letter by my mother, who is a hiring manager. And her training has paid off: I've been consistently told my cover letters are excellent. Let me pass on the wisdom.
The job of a cover letter is to give a prospective employer strictly more information than is on the resume. This is where you take the resume contents and put them into context. You look at the job requirements (you are looking at the job requirements before applying, right?) and look at your resume and ask the question (in your head) "why would a person think this candidate would be good for this job?" and your cover letter is the answer to that question. If you don't answer that question, the hiring manager is going to have to do it themselves, and you have way more information to work with than they do.
This is especially important if you're moving from one industry to another, because then the relevant connections aren't obvious. It's also very important if you're overqualified, because then you can use the letter to say "I know it looks like this job would be too entry-level for me, but I'm interested to pursue it for reasons x, y, and z". You can also use this space to explain away something that might otherwise be disqualifying, like job-hopping or a long break in employment. The tone to strike here is always matter-of-fact and constrained to topic - don't go into detail about health stuff or personal tragedy, just tell them what they need to hear: that this period of your resume was affected by [bad thing] but that it's now in the past and you're looking forward to the next chapter. Remember, one of the things they're trying to learn is whether you'd be content in this role, or whether you'd be miserable and leave after 2 months, which would force them to do all the work of hiring again. You're trying to establish that you will fit right in and not cause problems. Knowing what drew you to this job in particular (and don't just say 'money', that's true for everyone) helps with that.
And the other mistake? Everyone writes cover letters that are too long. One page is fine. Two is the absolute maximum, and that's if you have a lot of specific things to say. It's a waste of your time and theirs to pad it out with fluff. Of my two most recent successful cover letters (i.e. jobs for which I was interviewed) one was 390 words and the other was 550. That's the length of this post. How long did it take me to write this post? About 15 minutes to write, 5 to proof and edit. That's how long you should be spending on a cover letter, maximum.
Also, please do not listen to how people talk about cover letters on this site. Cover letters are important, and in many industries you can be damn sure they'll be read. And no, they're not 'fanfic about working in your office', or just re-stating the resume contents in a fancier guise. If you treat them like that, then of course they're not doing much for you. That makes you sound like a syncophantic windbag, and it's not doing anything else to help.
I was trained in the dark arts of the cover letter by my mother, who is a hiring manager. And her training has paid off: I've been consistently told my cover letters are excellent. Let me pass on the wisdom.
The job of a cover letter is to give a prospective employer strictly more information than is on the resume. This is where you take the resume contents and put them into context. You look at the job requirements (you are looking at the job requirements before applying, right?) and look at your resume and ask the question (in your head) "why would a person think this candidate would be good for this job?" and your cover letter is the answer to that question. If you don't answer that question, the hiring manager is going to have to do it themselves, and you have way more information to work with than they do.
This is especially important if you're moving from one industry to another, because then the relevant connections aren't obvious. It's also very important if you're overqualified, because then you can use the letter to say "I know it looks like this job would be too entry-level for me, but I'm interested to pursue it for reasons x, y, and z". You can also use this space to explain away something that might otherwise be disqualifying, like job-hopping or a long break in employment. The tone to strike here is always matter-of-fact and constrained to topic - don't go into detail about health stuff or personal tragedy, just tell them what they need to hear: that this period of your resume was affected by [bad thing] but that it's now in the past and you're looking forward to the next chapter. Remember, one of the things they're trying to learn is whether you'd be content in this role, or whether you'd be miserable and leave after 2 months, which would force them to do all the work of hiring again. You're trying to establish that you will fit right in and not cause problems. Knowing what drew you to this job in particular (and don't just say 'money', that's true for everyone) helps with that.
And the other mistake? Everyone writes cover letters that are too long. One page is fine. Two is the absolute maximum, and that's if you have a lot of specific things to say. It's a waste of your time and theirs to pad it out with fluff. Of my two most recent successful cover letters (i.e. jobs for which I was interviewed) one was 390 words and the other was 550. That's the length of this post. How long did it take me to write this post? About 15 minutes to write, 5 to proof and edit. That's how long you should be spending on a cover letter, maximum.
It's almost like something happened in 2020-now that is causing these problems.
ignoring everything the pandemic response specialists were saying was good for the economy tho. State governors and federal agencies with no medical experience and no economics education told us so
"no reliable data" What A Curious Coincidence. I Wonder What Might Have Been Happening In That Period To Cause Such a Thing
My partner and I are dating and talking about marriage Someday™️, but neither of us are ready right now. Currently my partner and I split housing costs that he pays the rent and I pay utilities because he has a higher income than me.
I just unexpectedly inherited a house. The mortgage is less than our rent so we are going to move there. However it is very much my house, but I can’t afford the mortgage on my own even though it’s way less… do you have any advice on how to split finances? I’m not sure how to proceed here.
First off: condragulations! This is all very exciting.
I'll link to our advice on splitting finances below. But the basic advice amounts to this: have him pay you rent as a tenant. And that rent should be proportional to y'all's income. So for example, if your income is $100/month and his is $300/month, then his rent should be 2/3 of the monthly mortgage (nice round numbers for ease of mathing). Then just put his rent toward the mortgage.
When and if you get married, keep the monthly payments proportional with your income, but consider adding his name to the deed of the house. That way he'll have partial ownership. In the event of a divorce, he'll be entitled to a portion of the equity in the house. Or don't! You could keep it as an asset in your name alone. Just know that for the sake of fairness, a judge might require you to pay him out of the home equity if you ever get divorced.
Anyway, that's our advice! Here's more:
Season 4, Episode 2: “We’re Moving in Together but Don’t Plan To Get Married. How Can We Split Finances Fairly?”
A Guide to Sharing Finances with Someone Other Than a Romantic Partner
How Dafuq Do Couples Share Their Money?
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Honestly, knowing that you need a Plan(tm) is a good start.
I'd also recommend having an official document about rent, leases, etc. That way if something happens you have your ass covered in case things go south in your relationship. Better to work out the details now while you still like each other than have to do that on top of a messy breakup.
On a general note, I'd recommend keeping the house in your name, at least until you and your partner are talking marriage. It's again a question of ass-covering.
An official document will help in the event of a non-messy breakup, too. Obviously I'm rooting for any couple in this/a similar situation, but if a breakup does happen, having an actual rental agreement in place will help with future rental approval.
Source: in another life I worked at a company that reviewed and advised on rental agreements. Someone with an actual lease (even if it's with a relative) is generally seen as a better bet than someone with a verbal agreement. It's not fair, but here we are...
Movement nudge, for hands and wrists!
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posting this with every artist tag i can think of, even if you dont do crochet, PLEASE TAKE RESTS FOR YOUR HANDS!!! no matter what medium artist you are, take care of your articulations
I was so captivated by the effort this must've taken that I just completely missed it TWICE
You can tell we're getting into the desperate months of zucchini excess by the way the New York times just sent out a list of 107 zucchini recipes.
#I must locate the list of 107 zucchini recipes#I'm not even growing zucchini this year I just like it lol YOU ARE IN LUCK (assuming you're able to read these)!
Zucchini is summer's gift. Embrace it with simple grilled zucchini, crunchy fried zucchini, ever-popular zucchini bread and all the options
Apparently this is just the best zucchini recipes. They aren't even including their bad and mediocre options.
Oh thank god
WIP Wednesday: week #9 of crochet raven shawl 🐦⬛ aaand FINISHED the second panel (of three)!!! This makes 78 feathers complete to date 🥳🎉
For funsies, placed the second panel on the first for my visual planning:
Just one more smaller panel to make with 24 feathers 🎉 (and then assemble...)
My intro post with details and pattern link here 🐦⬛🐦⬛🐦⬛
Haven’t had a chance to watch the tutorial yet, but I’m seriously considering making this for my gf’s niece
One of the commenters (@halahala3967) transcribed the pattern:
Lizard coaster Pattern
Body - 00:00:45
R1: MR ch2, 10 dc in MR, slst, ch 2 [10] R2: 10 dc inc, slst, ch 2 [20] R3: (dc, dc inc) *10 slst, ch 2 [30] R4: (dc, dc inc, dc) *10 slst, ch 1 [40] R5: Reverse sc in every stitch
Tail - 00:10:30
R1: MR, ch2, 4dc in the magic ring, slst, ch 2 [4] R2: (dc, dc inc)2, slst, ch2 [6] R3: 6 dc, slst, ch2 [6] R4: (2dc, dc inc)2, slst Cut off long tail for sewing [8]
Mouth (red yarn) - 00:16:47
ch 10 R1: skip 1st st, 8 sc, (3 sc in 1 st), 7 sc, inc, slst, ch1 [20] R2: inc, 7 sc, 3 inc, 7 sc, 2 inc, slst ch 1 [26] R3: (sc, inc), 7 sc, (sc, inc)*3, 7sc, (sc, inc)*2 [32] Cut off and weave in yarn
Tongue (pink yarn) - 00:27:52
In the third stitch from the red chain, ch 10 skip 2 st, 8 hdc [8] slst and cut off extra yarn, weave in from behind
Head (green yarn) - 00:31:00
R1: ch 14, slst in the first ch making a circle R2: ch1, hdc2tog, 10 dc, hdc2tog, slst ch 2 [12] R3 dcinc, 2 dc, 6hdc, 2dc, dcinc, slst ch 2 [14] R4: 2 dc, 3 hdc, 4sc, 3 hdc, 2 dc, slst ch 1 [14] Cut off yarn
Upper lip - 00:40:15
At the 5th st from the head, insert green yarn R1: ch2, dcinc, 6dc, dcinc [10] R2: ch2, turn dc2tog, 6dc, dc2tog [8] R3: ch2, turn dc2tog, 4dc, dc2tog [6] R4: ch2, turn dc2tog, 2dc, dc2tog [4] ch1, cut off extra yarn
Lower lip - 00:47:44
R1: ch1, 6 hdc [6] R2: ch1, turn hdc2tog, 2hdcdc, hdc2tog [4] ch 1 turn Attach red mouth piece and tongue by sc in every stitch, slst, Cut off extra yarn and weave in Stuff in
Eyes (white yarn) x2 - 00:53:40
R1: MR, 6sc in MR [6] R2: slst, ch1, 6 sc [6] slst and cut off extra yarn Glue on eyes and heads for pupils Attach head and tail at opposite ends, Put stitch marker 4 st away from each direction for limbs
Legs x4 - 01:01:24
ch7, slst, skip 1 st st, 2 slst, (ch2, skip 1st st , 2 slst) *2, 4 sc, slst Cut off and weave in yarn
Abbreviations + additional links under the cut
Overlock Stitch by @clothes_reetzy
Damn, that's useful
Finally a hand sewing tutorial on a hemline that isn't just the ladder stitch! the ladder stitch disappears when you tighten it, but it's not meant for hemlines because it breaks really easily! The overlock stitch is more stable, so it holds much longer, and it won't pucker or warp the fabric!
tags by @gallusrostromegalus
OH HELL THE FUCK YES
grabbed all of the ebook versions of the folger shakespeare library's annotated versions of shakespeare's plays (+sonnets and poems) and put them all in one place in case anyone is interested
Well, don’t mind if I do!!!
Ideal work schedule:
I show up and am given a list of cognitively engaging but achievable tasks
I complete the list
I leave immedietly
btw I’ve found these stretches from the WAK blog very helpful when knitting a lot:
Plus make sure to take breaks regularly - and stop if anything starts to hurt!
especially with gift knitting I know it can be tempting to push through it for a deadline, but it’s really not worth causing long term injury. (And anyone knit-worthy should be understanding of that, imho.) Stay well :)
Also good for artists drawing with pencils/on a tablet/with a pen!
Also good for writers
And crocheters (that word looks wrong)
Say hookers coward
Movement nudge! More hands!
With the Namaste movement, because I climb as well, I like to rotate my hands away from my body, so the steepled fingers are pointing outwards, rotate as far as I can until I feel a gentle stretch down the insides of my forearms. Give it a try!
Memorizing speeches, monologues, and lines
I don’t remember if I learned this method somewhere or started using it spontaneously, but it’s become my favored way to memorize lines for performance, especially long ones.
Without paying attention to the letters themselves, you’ll notice that with each iteration of this written series (left to right) there are fewer edits and highlights — which both indicate mistakes.
When I’m at least passably familiar with a line or speech, I will try to transcribe it from memory using ONLY the first letter of each word (of course you can write it out in its entirety, but it’s MUCH more time consuming and not notably more effective). Then, I go back over my work and compare it to the script, notating all my mistakes. I repeat, leaving a few minutes between attempts, until I’m happy with the result — as I go I’ll stop copying over sections that I’m confident I have memorized, so you’ll notice the passage above loses a small portion at the beginning with each attempt, which was perfect in the previous attempt.
Hello! Do you have any recommendations for two or more player games to be played as play-by-post/ suitable for long-distance play?
THEME: 2+ Long Distance
Hello there friend! I sure do! I also have some extra recommendations at the bottom, in case your fiending for choice.
Strange Days My Love, by Honest Charlie Harris.
This world is our world. A world where your dreams come out of your head and join you in walking on the ground for a time. A world where the non-sense and fantastical abound in every corner of the planet including, but most definitely not limited to, the strange land one of you will be traveling to. You’ll define home for yourselves but you will find your home just as weird and wonderful as the distant land.
Strange Days, My Love is an epistolary role-playing game for two players who are madly in love with one another. You’ll first work together to create yourselves and define your relationship before one of your characters leaves on a trip to a mysterious land. You’ll be writing letters and back and forth, inspired by tables of strange occurrences, until you feel the game has run its course. Then you’ll end the game, just like you started it, together.
This game has you play two characters in a long distance relationship. The game is made fantastical by giving the departing partner a mysterious land to travel to, making the events that affect them there a little bit separated from real life. You'll need a set of polyhedral dice to play, to generate everything from your pet names, relationship dynamics, and events that will show up as time passes.
I like that this game provides you with really strong questions that make very bold statements about your relationship from the start. It's a great way to inspire creativity, and the fact that the ending is potentially positive, negative or ambitious; leaves you playing the game with a continual sense of anticipation. You decide to stop writing when one character has decided to stop. This might be because they are coming home, or because they've decided that this relationship is no longer working. How exactly everything ends can be left up to chance, or it can be a decision the two of you make.
Big Bad Evil Rant, by Studio Trinket Mx.
Be a Villain. Fail. Rant about it.
Being evil is not easy. Between incompetent minions, annoying superheroes, and the randomness of destiny, the work of a supervillain is hard and underappreciated. But nothing like ranting about your problems to someone who understands your struggles. Someone evil, just like you. And who knows? Maybe they can help you achieve your evil schemes. Or at least try.
Big Bad Evil Rant is an epistolary role-playing game for two players where you’ll play villains and rant about your failed plans.
In this game, you and your friend are villains whose plans are constantly foiled by a group of heroes, incompetent minions or fate. You will write each other letters where you’ll rant about the misfortunes of your lives, as you look for ways to make your evil plans succeed.
For folks who want a light-hearted game, this is the game for you. You create a villain, and simply write to each-other complaining about how your most recent plans have been ruined. I think there's a lot of potential if you want to be silly! This is also a great example of a world-building game that you slowly fill in as you play, which is great for folks who love mutually creating their own lore.
The Other Side, by Chloe Shepherd.
You are an animal. Most things are beyond your comprehension. Chief among them, though, is that big fence. Why is it there? What’s on the other side? And why does it smell so different over there?
The Other Side is an epistolary (letter writing) game for two players. You are animals from different worlds who are separated by a big fence, writing each other letters to find out what things are like on the other side. Roll to find out what your day was like, or invent your own details! This is your story.
In this game, you play as a farm animal and a forest animal, communicating from two different sides of a fence, and learning about each-other's lives. You use roll-tables to determine the weather, special events, and items your animal may have found, and use this to inform the questions your characters ask each-other. At some point, one animal will have to decide whether or not they cross the fence. If you leave your starting habitat, this is likely the end of the game - although, if there's story that you feel has yet to be resolved, you can certainly keep going!
[REDACTED], by corv leary.
Your mail arrives already opened. You knew it would; your letters have been screened for months. You're used to it at this point, the outrage having faded, and it's just another mild inconvenience that you work around. And work you will, because you'd do anything for that shred of contact with the one you love, so far away.
[REDACTED] is a game about writing letters and attempting to communicate. You play as a soldier and their beloved, separated by war, who try to stay in contact despite the constant censoring of their letters by an unknowable system of rules. It requires three players to play.
This game is the one game on this list that requires three players. You have a soldier, the soldiers' beloved, and a government agent, situated between the lovers. The Soldier & Beloved use prompts provided to determine what they are going to write about to each-other. The Agent intercepts their mail and reads it, redacting pieces until the letter is basically unreadable. The reasons why the Agent redacts certain parts are invented by the Agent player, but the author of the game makes it clear that whatever rubric you use, it should be consistent.
I think this is a great game to talk about government surveillance & war. I think it might also be interesting to see whether the Soldier & Beloved find ways to communicate outside the surveillance & redaction the Agent imposes on their attempts to keep in touch.
Together We Write Private Cathedrals, by Weaver Walker.
Together We Write Private Cathedrals is a letter (and other things) writing game for two players. In it you take on the roles of two lovers at some point in history. You are asked to tell the story of your love through bits of writing and despite the fact that you cannot be always be open or explicit.
This is a game that involves creating and unraveling a piece of queer history, inspired by real or invented queer couples. Your characters can't always be honest about their feelings with each-other: they might have to write in metaphor, or dilute how they feel. You also aren't guaranteed that your work will survive history. A bad roll may ensure that the record of your love never survives. This is great place to explore the way queer history may or may not have affected your own knowledge and experience!
Strange Places, by AdventureByMail.
AS A REPORTER for the independent magazine Strange Places, you've covered paranormal events and mysterious figures from small towns across the country. Few things surprise you anymore. But as the end of November draws near, you feel the deadline for your next article closing in.
Desperate for leads, you and your colleague decide to split up and look for stories in different regions of the country. You agree to stay in contact through letters, keeping each other updated on your respective progress as you travel, explore, and investigate the unknown.
Designed specifically to be played through the mail, Strange Places has two players using regular playing cards as prompts as they write and send correspondences as journalists for a paranormal investigative magazine.
This is a great game for folks who like the strange and slightly off-kilter. Use a deck of cards and some dice to create prompts that include plenty of details, that you'll incorporate in the letters you send each-other.
In theory, I think it might be possible to also play this game with three players, if you create a role of an editor, someone who two journalists are both writing two! You'd have to decide what that editor's role is: are they sending tips to each of their journalists? Are they investigating something at home? Do they have the ability to open doors or get clearance for things their agents normally wouldn't have?
If You Want More…
You can also check out my Epistolary game tag, with a number of other letter-writing games, some of which can expand to fit more than just two players!
I also have a Duet Games tag, for two-player specific games. I'm not sure how many would translate to epistolary or play-by-post games, but some of them might work!
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