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Let’s remember, Jesus was a Jewish man of color, born homeless to an unwed teenager, who spent his formative years as an illegal immigrant before returning to his home country to hang out with twelve men, prostitutes, and socially untouchable tax collectors while he taught a radical social doctrine of equality, love, and forgiveness that included paying taxes, free healthcare, and the sharing of resources within a community.
Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)
Real shit
How to make a joke involving rape
mock rape culture (aka bring awareness), NOT the victim
good stuff
if "i was scared of him and standing my ground" is actually a legitimate defense then it must now be permitted for every woman to shoot several people per day
thoughts on the Senate passage of HB2 in Texas
as i've reiterated many times, abortion is a tough issue for me. it is my general belief that the moral right to an abortion is quite limited - absolutely a mother whose life is in danger should have an abortion; but even when it comes to rape, i generally believe that it would be better both for the child and that mother that the life created by that heinous act would have a chance at being raised in a family that loves it and cares for it, be that its mother's family or an adoptive one.
i have to admit that it's not as clear cut as some on both sides would like it to seem. were i raped and became pregnant as a result, i have no clue what i would actually decide to do with that child. and if i were a teenager with strict religious parents, and the revelation of a pregnancy to them would result in a SIGNIFICANTLY lowered quality of life for myself (say, being kicked out of the house, or abused, or disowned...), even if i placed the child for adoption, i think it's clear why abortion would be the most attractive choice. it really pains me to think that i would ever choose an abortion for any reason other than that my life was in danger, especially given my thoughts in the above paragraph; but knowing the situations that a lot of women who seek abortions are in also makes it hard for me to say that abortion is ALWAYS wrong, in EVERY case.
but despite my thoughts on the moral right (or lack thereof) to an abortion, what it comes down to is that in the US, women have a right to an abortion up to the 24th week of pregnancy (and beyond in special situations).
despite my thoughts on the moral right to terminate the life of a gestating child, i cannot ignore that countries with tougher abortion restrictions have EQUAL rates of abortion but HIGHER maternal death rates than countries with less restrictive rules. only this past year a woman in Ireland died after being denied an abortion, despite the fact that she was miscarrying and had blood poisoning. now, Ireland is on track to legalize abortions in the case where a mother's life is endangered by the continuation of the pregnancy...and "pro-life" supporters protest the passage of the law.
despite my thoughts on the moral right to legalize what i think is murder, it's hard to deny information from the Guttmacher institute that shows how dramatically maternal deaths have dropped from botched abortions in the 40 years since Roe v Wade paved the way for abortion to be legal in every state.
despite my thoughts on the moral right to take a child out of this world before she has drawn her first breath, there are currently hundreds of thousands of children of all ages awaiting adoption in the country at this moment, and none of my outspoken pro-life friends seem to be banging down the doors to offer them homes.
i've gone in to more depth in previous entries, but what it comes down to is this - despite my thoughts on the moral right to abortion, i cannot ignore that equal and affordable access to abortion up to a certain point generally leads to healthier and happier societies - societies where women become mothers when they truly want to, not when fate or a rapist decides.
societies where more children are born into families that truly want them, and accept them with open arms and unconditional love instead of resentment and fear.
societies where women would not rather risk their lives in unsafe and unregulated abortion procedures than be faced with the prospect of nine months of potentially permanent body changes as well as a child that needs both financial and emotional support for at least 18 years.
and when i think about how wrong it is that over three thousand lives are snuffed out every day (according to pro-life websites), i think about how much more wrong would be done if abortion were not to be available and safe.
tl;dr:
it's hard to believe that these pro-life politicians actually have the the best interests of women and babies at heart when they make jokes like this:
even while remembering this:
Texas is a pro-fetus state, but not a good place to be a child or other non-corporate, non-male, non-white entity. Texas has one of the highest maternal mortality rates in the United States along with the fourth highest teenage pregnancy rate in the nation and the number of low-birth weight babies and children born bereft of any prenatal care has been rising steadily since the 1990s. Texas infant mortality rate among some groups looks like something out of the 19th century and a child under the age of one dies every three hours. 25% of Texas children live in poverty (10% in “extreme" poverty,
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all i did was post this like 7 times on rick perry's facebook page and it took about 30 seconds for someone to flag it as spam.
Rebloggable by Request. The bodily autonomy argument was what convinced me to go from extremely pro-life to pro-choice in a matter of days. You’d have to find a way to convince me that it’s OK to use someone’s body parts without their consent to convince me to be pro-life again.
I can’t find it right now, but there’s a court case establishing that a father does not have an obligation to donate—I think it was bone marrow—to save his child’s life.
And yet we’re supposed to put up with what amounts to forcible donation of our uteruses? Something’s not right there.
I’ve been pro-choice pretty much my whole life, but it wasn’t until maybe five years ago that I heard this particular argument; since then I’ve felt a lot more confident in my stance and have even used this argument against pro-life people who have tried to convince me.
I’m not going to argue with you about your stance on abortion, but I’m going to point out that if you agree with the OP’s belief that an unwanted pregnancy constitutes an attack on the bodily autonomy of the mother by the child you are (perhaps unintentionally) implying two things.
1) That the punishment of someone who infringes on another’s bodily integrity should be decided without consideration of the offender’s intent or ability to understand what he did. 2) That the death penalty is an acceptable punishment for infringement upon bodily integrity.
I thought about not responding because I dislike controversy but this bothers me a lot so here I am
I don’t mind controversy, so I’ll address this no problem. You’re trying to frame this in the context of punishment, which is a straw-man argument (and yeah, you’re absolutely arguing with my stance on abortion). This isn’t about punishment.
What we’re saying is that human beings have a right to decide what happens to their own bodies, even if that decision results in the death of someone or something else. For example, by law, you cannot be forced to donate one of your kidneys or part of your liver to someone who needs it. You cannot be forced to give blood. Even if you are the only person with a certain blood type and your refusal will mean the death of someone else - maybe a family member, maybe your child - if you refuse, that is your right as a human being and no court can prosecute you for murder. You, and only you, are the final arbiter of what happens to your body, and if you decide the risks are too great, the right to refuse to help is absolute.
What you are implying is that bodily autonomy ought to be less important than saving someone’s life; that a fetus, or a human being, should be given the opportunity to live at the expense of other people’s bodily autonomy.
So put it into context. You have a kidney that’s a perfect match to someone in the hospital - let’s call him Fred - who will die in the next week if he doesn’t get it. For your own personal reasons, you do not wish to have your kidney removed. Your reasons aren’t material to this particular argument, but they can range anywhere from your phobia of hospitals to your allergy to most kinds of anesthesia, to a history of kidney disease in your family that may mean you will need that extra kidney one day or to the simple fact that you do not wish to give this kidney at this time. The point is: you do not consent.
If life is considered more important than bodily autonomy, then the law can force you to be taken to the hospital against your will, be sedated against your will, cut open against your will, and have your organ removed against your will. You may be tied down to the bed; you may be locked in a room and not allowed to leave until you agree to the operation. You may be shown tapes of Fred and his family over and over and over again. But however it happens, it happens without your continuous consent. This isn’t Fred’s fault - he doesn’t even know you exist, he has no idea that this is happening, and maybe he would be horrified if he knew and would ask them to stop. But it’s happening because life, in this universe, is more important than bodily autonomy. Namely, Fred’s life is more important than your bodily autonomy.
Now put yourself back in the world we live in - you still have that kidney that’s perfect for good ol’ Fred in the hospital who needs it within a week, otherwise he’ll die. If you refuse, for whatever reason, the result is that Fred does, in fact, die. But Fred has not been punished, Fred wasn’t given a death sentence. The decision you made had nothing to do with punishing Fred; it was about your health, your body, your life. Certainly people might be angry that you didn’t give Fred the kidney that he needed, but just because he needed it to survive did not mean he had a right to it that trumped yours. No matter what reason you had, your bodily autonomy was more important than his need.
Now, if you think that the world where life should be more important than bodily autonomy is the one we ought to live in, then we’re going to have to just agree to disagree, because I find that a fucking Orwellian nightmare of the highest order.
If, however, you agree that it’s better that we live in a world where someone else doesn’t get to make the decision about what happens to you based on the need of some third person, then I’d like to welcome you to the pro-choice movement, because congratulations - you’re pro-choice.
i like point #1 in the OP, because we hear a lot that choosing an abortion places more value on one life than the other. but by removing that choice, you're doing the same thing.
An Open Letter to John Kasich
You have made me absolutely sick with fear at the measures you have just approved. In the name of "life," you have endangered women who may have a complication from an abortion by limiting their access to emergency services. In the name of "life," you have commanded physicians to give scientifically inaccurate information to women. In the name of "life," you have proven that the pro-life movement does not actually care one bit about protecting babies, but only shaming and scaring women into letting someone else make choices about their bodies.
Small government should not be involved in the goings on of a woman's uterus, post-assualt counseling, or family planning.
Shame on you, John Kasich.
If you read the bill it actually has an entire section called exceptions... And it has exceptions for cases when the mothers life is in danger or it is certain that the baby will be still born.
whoops, that's my mistake. at least this gives me a legitimate excuse to send him another letter.
Okay, here is my two cents.
I am against abortion, not because I think women shouldn’t have control over their own body, but because I believe it is murder. You are killing a person inside of you. The Bible tells us that while we were in our Mother’s womb, God knew us, and had a...
An Open Letter To Rick Perry
Governor Perry,
I understand the desire to protect life. I understand the difficult issues of rights that abortion raises. But this bill you are trying to force onto Texas women is a horrible way to address those desires and issues. How can a bill be called "pro-life" if it does not make exceptions for when the life of the mother is in danger? I have been told often that the problem with the pro-choice movement is that it places more value on one life than the other; however, the bill you are attempting to pass does just that - it places the life of the unborn child over the life of the woman. A woman who has a family, hopes, dreams, and aspirations. And despite proven studies that show that denying women access to abortion doesn't actually help to curb abortion rates, you are still attempting to pass laws that do just that - even flying in the face of constitutional rights. Whether or not women have a moral "right" to abortion is not the issue. The right to an abortion until viability is protected in this country, and these attempts at limiting that right are pushing to the side valuable time that could be used to greatly improve the lives of your constituents in a much less divisive way.
Perhaps what scares me the most about the possibility of the passage of this bill is the possibility - indeed, the very high likelihood - that clinics with practices that mimic those of Kermit Gosnell's will begin to appear all over Texas. This "doctor's" clinic was able to operate because women were unable to obtain safe, legal abortions in their area. And if you further limit Texas women's access to abortion, I fear they will resort to the same desperate tactics that we saw in Pennsylvania.
Truly, I do not feel this bill is actually "pro-life" in the least.
How can someone stand behind abortion, when you have a life inside of you that God created for you? How can you say that this life isn’t worth it? If you can’t take care of the baby for whatever circumstances than there is always adoption available to couples who can’t conceive, but still want the joy of being parents. OPEN YOUR EYES! God has bigger plans for us all that we don’t even realize the picture.
Excuse me but it appears your baby is actually upside down Did you take Sex Ed freshman year because babies come out headfirst
Hi, OP! As someone who was given up for adoption, allow me to call bullshit on your little post there! You see, when I was adopted, I was a white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical infant, which basically put me at the top of the list, right underneath white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical MALE infants! There’s only one kind of infant people wanted to adopt more than me! I was SOOO lucky! But if you actually bothered to look at the information readily available on the interwebs, you would be aware that the majority of people who are forced to rely on abortion for family planning are poor people and people of color. Of course, those two demographics intersect, thanks to the institutionalized racism of our society! Neat huh?!
Of course, even babies of color are not in high demand with couples looking to adopt. Many who do want to adopt outside their race choose to go outside the country, where laws are less strict and the process is often less expensive. Of course, most of the infants adopted this way are obtained in unscrupulous fashion, but who cares about that when you’re saving a little Korean or African baby from the horrible fate of growing up in Korea or Africa??? And all those children who have birth defects, are born with diseases or disabilities, or have other issues… WELL. Who wants to invest that kind of expense and time? Why would you adopt someone broken, LOLOL?!
Granted, there are some wonderful people who understand the system a little better, and make it a point to try and give POC and disabled children a good home. But they make up a very small fraction of potential adopters! This difference in supply and demand leaves a lot of children stuck in the foster system, where their chances of being adopted diminish with every passing year, and their chances of being physically or sexually abused INCREASE! Isn’t that wonderful?
And of course, we haven’t even talked about the person who is giving birth to the baby! I know you probably think pregnancy is a wonderful, happy time, and for some people it is, but it is also one of the greatest health risks a person can take. I love my son very much, and from the day I found out I was pregnant with him, I wanted him! But I also nearly died giving birth to him. You see, I had pre-eclampsia, the most commonly fatal birth complication in the world. My blood pressure was 180 over 130! At twenty-two years old, I was actually headed for a stroke, hah hah! How funny is that? And all it took was missing a single pre-natal appointment during which my blood pressure rose to dangerous levels and my body tried to kill both me and my son. Those seizures sure were fun, as was the emergency c-section performed without anesthetic! And being chained down while the operation was performed, because I was delirious and wouldn’t stop trying to fight off the doctors, that was a BLAST! It was great for my husband too, since he almost lost his wife and child in just forty-five minutes. You can imagine how thrilled he is at the prospect of me ever getting pregnant again. Babies are certainly cute, but pregnancy can have massive health complications, and I know it’s such a bummer, but they are PERMANENT. :( My abdominal muscles never recovered from being hacked through with a scalpel, and the flood of hormones caused by late pregnancy have changed things from heartburn (never used to have it, now, all the time!) to my emotional reactions (I cry when I see pictures of kittens now. I used to be tough). These are changes I did not ask for, cannot control, and cannot fix! And many people go through worse! I know, right? Unbelievable, but go look up the word ‘episiotomy’ and then look up ‘birth rape’ and I’m afraid you’ll find some stuff that just isn’t very shiny. Plus, the studies actually show that people who carry a baby to term, give birth, then give it up for adoption suffer HIGHER rates of post-pregnancy complications like post-partum depression and post-partum psychosis, general depression, and other mental health issues. Adoption actually isn’t good for the person giving birth at all!
I’m afraid the picture you chose to use there is also pretty disingenuous. I know, I know, it seems like nitpicking. I’m not trying to be mean! :( But that picture shows a fully developed, viable infant, and most abortions are performed when the fetus isn’t even a fetus - it’s a blastocyst. That’s just a clump of cells. Seriously! You can totally find pictures on the interwebs and they’re not even gross, LOLOL! Later-term abortions are usually performed because of health complications, though some of our intrepid state legislators are trying to change all that! They care so much about people who are pregnant, you see, that they want to force them to carry dead or dying fetuses inside them until their body either becomes infected while it rots in their tummies (this is called sepsis, and it makes people very sick, and can even kill them!), or forces it out naturally in a gush of blood and fluids! Isn’t that so caring of them? I’m so glad they’re around to make those decisions for me! And if a pregnant person is not allowed to terminate an unviable fetus, in some states, they have to carry the child to term, give birth to it, and then watch it die in their arms because its lungs weren’t developed, or its brain formed outside its skull, or any of a million possible birth defects that will kill you just as quick as lickity-split! Isn’t that wild?! Of course, these people go through terrible grief, and as I mentioned, some of them may get sick and die from not being able to abort dead or dying fetuses. But I guess that’s just A-okay with you, huh?
Basically, I think before you suggest adoption as a universal alternative, you should actually go do some research on adoption. And before you condemn abortion, you should do some research on abortions - not the stuff your church is giving you, the stuff the real doctors are saying. Go to Planned Parenthood (if they haven’t all been closed down, ROFLMAO!) and request whatever information they have on the process, the statistics of who has abortions and why… and actually, all of that is on the interwebs! Isn’t technology AMAZING?
And in closing, since I’ve been asked this question many times and I know it’s coming? Yes, I realize I am here talking to you because I was not aborted. But the thing is, if my mother had chosen abortion, I wouldn’t know the difference, so it wouldn’t matter to me. And if she decided that choice was best for her, then that choice would have been best for her, and I would never want to take that choice away from her. As it is, since I was given up for adoption, and since I have seen the statistics on how badly people who give their children up for adoption suffer, I have spent much of my adult life worrying about her, whether she’s healthy, whether she’s okay, and feeling that if she did suffer from any of the common post-birth symptoms, it is at least partially my fault, even though she made that decision on her own. Which is silly, I know, but at some point, all children have to stare down the consequences of their parents’ having them. For some, that’s poverty. For others, a life-time of their parents struggling to treat and care for a severe illness or disability. For others, it’s wondering if their mother ever got over giving them away, and wishing you could reach out and assure her that it’s okay, she doesn’t have to be haunted.
May your birth control never fail!
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Sonneillonv deserves a mother fucking standing ovation here.
Slow clap.
this is my favorite post because i think it’s the strongest argument for how abortion isn’t wrong and adoption is not always a solution so people should start researching and not just believing what ever is being shoved down their throats at church. This is not a slow clap this is thunderous boom of people all over the world saying thank you
I clicked on erinsmomma out of curiosity and “Person abandoned their tumblr after losing an argument for abortion. This is now an abortion resource tumblr.”
oh holy molies that last bit right above this
Project for one of my classes @w@;)
a woman’s body is not for you. if she wants to cover it she should feel free and safe in doing so. if she wants to expose it she should feel free and safe in doing so. it is not an indication of her self-respect but an indication of her preferences for whatever reasons she chooses — none of which are your business or concern.
It’s not your body anymore, when there is a baby present. Carry that child to term responsibly, or you’re a murderer.
No, I’m sorry, but that’s idiotic. It’s my body no matter what. If I wanted to get an abortion i’d get a fucking abortion regardless if that made me a murderer in someone who doesn’t have to actually carry a baby’s eyes. Birth control being more widely available is a serious issue. You’re stupid if you think every situation that leads to abortion makes someone a murderer. 11 year old gets raped by her cousin “No girl, you carry that child, you squeeze that out of your currently underdeveloped vagina. It’s the right thing to do. You’re a murderer if you don’t. Who cares that it’ll emotionally scar you for life and you’ll forever be reminded of it every time you look at your child or cousin. It’s the humane thing to do. If you were older you’d understand.” Shit, the same thing happened to a nine year old “Who the fuck cares if you’re only a baby yourself, you’re totally going to go through with this, I don’t care if it’ll nearly kill you or damage your insides. Raise that baby like a good non-murderer.”
Then we go overseas where it’s all “You’re pregnant out of wedlock, let’s stone you to death instead of giving you and others like you birth control or the option to abort. I’m sorry that we live in such a fucked up society that if I force myself on you and get pregnant you’re still the one who is shamed. Wait no I’m not, suck it up and deal with it”, “You’ve been told your baby is dying in the womb, no abortion for you girl, you have to keep it and die of blood poisoning. Too bad we could have avoided it if we were more understanding of a woman and her body”.
Open your eyes for God’s sake. You can’t even get pregnant, you’re a man and I get that you have a right to your unborn child and the potential for mental trauma. But you personally are not at risk of dying from pregnancy complications. You personally are not at risk of being shunned by your community and killed for carrying someone elses child. You personally are not having to carry the mental and physical scars of going through an unwanted pregnancy with your potential rapists child. You personally are not at risk of being considered used, dirty and unwanted because of something you could have avoided if proper health care was available to you. You aren’t personally responsible for raising a child (or person with mental capacity of a child) who also has a child because “Abortion is murder in all circumstances”.
It’s not your body either, and until you have to deal with everything above then you cannot tell a woman what she can and cannot do with her body.
My roommate, laying it the fuck down.
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Further disenfranchising at risk youth by not providing them with comprehensive sex education because of your personal beliefs is irresponsible and selfish. i had no clue how birth control works (well, i thought it caused abortions) until junior or senior year of high school. abstinence only sex ed from 6th through 12th grade, and someone still managed to get pregnant every year at my Catholic school. stop lying to our kids.
hey what if someone invented a machine that allowed women to transfer their pregnancies to men and then the government passed a law that if a woman didn’t want to have a baby the biological father was required to carry it how fast do you think birth control would stop being an issue
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