Sireno

He/it • 21 • 18+ followers only 🇺🇸🇨🇷🇨🇺 • 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ Pro Palestine

[sirenito-speaks]

Hi, call me Sireno! I’m a trans man, I go by he/it.

This is a sideblog I’m making to voice my thoughts/opinions, share personal experiences, maybe vent, and generally yap about whatever’s on my mind. I’m working on a longer, more in-depth and organized, intro but that might take me a while.

I’ll likely be posting a lot about stuff related to being trans (including anti-transmasculity) or otherwise queer, disabilities/ableism, and more. I might also talk about my experiences as a mixed Latino. In general though, I don’t want to limit what I post about, there’s endless things that might end up being on my mind and on this blog.

I might discuss things related to sex/sexuality and kink as well, which is why I’d be more comfortable with 18+ followers only, but I’m not gonna be straight up horny posting here. In other words this isn’t an NSFW blog, but I will probably talk about ‘mature’ topics at some point or another.

I have both mental and physical disabilities. I’m not going to list them all here but I will specifically mention that I am autistic, since that broadly affects how I communicate and process information.

Disclaimer: I am not an academic or any kind of advanced theorist. In fact, I struggle a lot to access academics/higher learning due to mental disabilities and other factors. I’m just a person trying to speak on my personal experiences and perspectives to the best of my ability.

[sirenito-speaks]

“Plain food is a universal safe food for autistic people!” Dawg I just had a literal meltdown cuz my food was underseasoned </3

[keepyourmom]

an epstein associate said that having vaginas makes trans men "the worst of both worlds," that trans men are "[particularly sexually] unhappy and lonely" (a rearticulated misogynistic and lesbophobic idea), and genuinely typed, "once you have reached manhood, even castration does not prevent the sensation of orgasm" (implying that a penis completes a person, and being born with a vagina prevents you from this inborn personhood and subsequent sexual agency), and transmasculine people are being attacked for... calling this misogynistic and anti-transmasculine?

what are we doing actually doing? are we actually feminists? have we actually ever read any feminist works?

are we implying that "sexual disposability" actually prevents exploitation, sexual and otherwise? are we implying that "more masculine women" [sic] don't face violence for this? sexual and otherwise?

we're actually fried lmao.

[gayygambler]

as a trans man who is also a survivor of sex trafficking, peoples' reactions to that latest Epstein thing is so fucking sickening.

yes. it was disgusting on both sides of the spectrum. fetishizing trans women while being disgusted with trans men is horrible and disgusting for both sides.

but saying that trans men don't have it as bad because it wasn't fetishization just isn't true. i'm going to be a bit explicit here about my own experiences, so please keep that in mind if you continue to read

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being a trans man did not save me while being sex trafficked. being a trans man WAS used as a commodity and was commercialized like any other part of me. why? because that's what sex trafficking does. just because those emails were some sex traffickers who thought trans men were too disgusting to be trafficked or raped doesn't mean that's the fucking truth in the industry.

and i'll be honest with you. my experience as a trans man is part of my sex trafficking experience. being a child who was able to perform in androgyny enough to satisfy anyone's sexuality wasn't a fucking privilege. and you're absolutely sick if you think that.

being trans while in an active trafficking situation is so, SO confusing and absolutely horrible in a way that i don't think you can fully comprehend without experiencing it. my identity wasn't my own. i was a male survivor as much as i was a female survivor. i was used as a boy as much as i was a girl.

so don't you DARE act like trans men are somehow less affected or less fetishized. don't use those documents to form your opinions on the intersection of being trans while being sex trafficked.

[librarychair]

As much as I want to support ethical farming practices I will be buying the cheapest bag of frozen chicken thighs as much as the next frugal/poor person which is why animal welfare needs to be legislated, not left up to the invisible hand of the free market or some bullshit. Invisible hand of the free market finds itself around a lot of throats.

[niamhermind]

"Invisible hand of the free market finds itself around a lot of throats."

That is such a line.

[miinobobeano]

It bothers me so much that the healthcare system relies so much on the patient's ability to advocate for themselves, organize their history, and be so persistent against every medical “professional” who says there’s nothing wrong/they can do. But so many struggle with fatigue, brain fog, and face such ingrained systemic barriers, that the people who need and deserve help and support can’t access it.

I saw something recently that resonated with me: “Access shouldn't depend on who has the energy to fight for it.” And I’ve never agreed with anything more.

[naga-noia]

trans men shouldn’t have to feel “guilty” for putting one more man into the world and shouldn’t have to bend over backwards trying to apologize for having their own journey of self-discovery. making them feel ashamed for “becoming the bad gender” is how trans men end up repressed, depressed, and/or dead. aaaaaaaaaaand hit post

[hellyeahsickaf]

I found an extremely dope disability survival guide for those who are homebound, bedbound, in need of disability accommodations, or would otherwise like resources for how to manage your life as a disabled person. (Link is safe)

How to Get On

How to have a great, disabled life.

It has some great articles and resources and while written by people with ME/CFS, it keeps all disabilities in mind. A lot of it is specific to the USA but even if you're from somewhere else, there are many guides that can still help you. Some really good ones are:

How to live a great disabled life- A guide full of resources to make your life easier and probably the best place to start (including links to some of the below resources). Everything from applying for good quality affordable housing to getting free transportation, affordable medication, how to get enough food stamps, how to get a free phone that doesn't suck, how to find housemates and caregivers, how to be homebound, support groups and Facebook pages (including for specific illnesses), how to help with social change from home, and so many more.

Turning a "no" into a "yes"- A guide on what to say when denied for disability aid/accommodations of many types, particularly over the phone. "Never take no for an answer over the phone. If you have not been turned down in writing, you have not been turned down. Period."

How to be poor in America- A very expansive and helpful guide including things from a directory to find your nearest food bank to resources for getting free home modifications, how to get cheap or free eye and dental care, extremely cheap internet, and financial assistance with vet bills

How to be homebound- This is pretty helpful even if you're not homebound. It includes guides on how to save spoons, getting free and low cost transportation, disability resources in your area, home meals, how to have fun/keep busy while in bed, and a severe bedbound activity master list which includes a link to an audio version of the list on Soundcloud

Master List of Disability Accommodation Letters For Housing- Guides on how to request accommodations and housing as well as your rights, laws, and prewritten sample letters to help you get whatever you need. Includes information on how to request additional bedrooms, stop evictions, request meetings via phone, mail, and email if you can't in person, what you can do if a request is denied, and many other helpful guides

Special Laws to Help Domestic Violence Survivors (Vouchers & Low Income Housing)- Protections, laws, and housing rights for survivors of DV (any gender), and how to get support and protection under the VAWA laws to help you and/or loved ones receive housing and assistance

Dealing With Debt & Disability- Information to assist with debt including student loans, medical debt, how to deal with debt collectors as well as an article with a step by step guide that helped the author cut her overwhelming medical bills by 80%!

There are so many more articles, guides, and tools here that have helped a lot of people. And there are a lot of rights, resources, and protections that people don't know they have and guides that can help you manage your life as a disabled person regardless of income, energy levels, and other factors.

Please boost!

[bebsi-cola]

this is actually where it becomes incredibly difficult for disabled transgender people. if your disability means you cannot live alone, that you must have care, and you rely on other people for survival - transitioning can become a pipe dream. sometimes it's "live with your transphobic family or die". sometimes disabled people aren't given the autonomy to express themselves by their caregivers and have no way on asserting their gender. if someone helps you put on your clothes and they decide you can only wear one kind there's no choice in the matter. if you need disability aids to communicate with people or have a condition that impairs your communication ability then you can't just come out and transition. you don't get to say "i'll ignore you if you call me by the wrong name" because you can't afford for them to ignore you, nevermind the other way around. gender affirming care is often acknowledged as live saving healthcare. and disability support is also life saving healthcare. and transgender disabled people can't afford to just pick one or the other.

[sirenito-speaks]

I hate the internet so much why tf can’t autistic people even mention meeting the BASIC DIAGNOSTIC CRITERIA FOR AUTISM without being flooded with replies like:

“everything is an excuse”

“that has nothing to do with autism”

“you people can’t do anything

“actually you’re just a horrible person/a failure for not knowing how to do this”

“Yeah but you can learn to stop being that way and you should”

And no it’s not just abled/neurotypical people saying crappy things. There’s always some LSN autistic person coming in to be like “Erm actually I’m autistic and I don’t do this/I mask well enough to not do that so therefore that’s how autism must work for everyone.”

The latest thread that inspired this post included someone proclaiming that “actually all autistic people are super socially self-aware and we always make sure to remember social rules so if you’re forgetting to follow them it’s actually because you have ADD, not autism.” I’m not kidding. I’m paraphrasing from memory but I can go get a screenshot if it comes to it. I’m so tired.

Why do I need to remind fellow autistic people that it’s a SPECTRUM. That’s why it’s called autism SPECTRUM disorder. Why are you claiming to have a disorder if you seem to not even know the fucking acronym for it. Like I’m against fakeclaiming and I’m super pro self-dx btw, but holy fuck at least do some basic research on it first before going online and telling other autistic people how their autism is supposed to work.

Like afaik I fall under LSN autism, but these people make me question wether I actually have higher support needs. I mean I have legit reasons in my personal life to question my support needs (I wanna get more into that but it feels like a side tangent) but I don’t feel like I can trust my perspective after seeing so many people warp the meaning of autism into basically not being an actual disability anymore. Cuz I know that’s been an issue with a lot of LSN autistic people lately (thinking they have higher support needs just cuz having any support needs at all is treated as “extreme.”)

[cb-writes-stuff]

every trans man with a chronic illness should get everything for free and be treated like a prince and never have to do anything that would hurt them

[transmaskulinavan]

Black trans men with big loving brown eyes who quit straightening their hair and love themselves and love being Black men. you agree

[translovedaily]

I love transmasc creatives.

I love your art, I love your writing, I love the characters you create. I love the songs you write and the movies you act in.

There can never be enough transmasc creatives and transmasc representation in the world. Every single piece of art made by a trans person makes the world a better, more enjoyable place.

[i-welded-ur-genitals-shut]

I feel like a lot of misogyny gets tossed at trans men and transmascs and it’s excused ignored even encouraged because we are men, it’s a taste of our own medicine it’s just fair play. It’s certainly not just a continuation of how I’ve always been treated.

[sorin-sunchild]

Repeat after me: No kind of transition is misogynistic. All goals are individual, there is no one way to transition. It's fine to be a man, it's fine to be a traditionally feminine woman. Having these results as your transition goal is fine. Preventing/discouraging transition of anyone for any reason is a rat bastard transphobic move.

[sirenito-speaks]

Is there any way to communicate “my chronic illness is so severely flared up today that even getting up for just a second is too much” in a way that the people in my life will actually understand and take seriously?

Besides pushing myself to the point where I literally fall over in front of them or start throwing up.

[venice-1987]

There is a lot of talk about how trans men can be allies to the women in their life. And this is correct.

(There is also a lot of talk to how trans men are "good because we know what its like." I've heard us called "life hacks" for cis women, which is a whole other dehumanizing thing)

But there has been very little talk about how others can be allies to trans men. It seems like conversations start and end at how we can serve other people, and do not extend to how we can be provided with the support we desperately need. It is like people dont view trans men as an actual set of people, much less marginalized people.