nonbinary and trans positivity

Please do not tag me. I do my best to help people learn things, but please remember that I'm only one person and not the voice of all trans people. I post mental health related content, trans/nonbinary positivity, and I occassionally answer questions when I have the energy to do so.

[softnbpositivity]

I know I have not answered asks in a long time but given that I have a history of educating others on non-binary matters, I feel obligated to disclose this;

I no longer identify as non-binary. I am a transgender man.

This is something I've more recently learned about myself and I felt it necessary to say because while I love spreading positivity, I do not want to accidentally give the false image that my knowledge is coming from a non-binary person. While I have always been adamant that I am not the sole voice of all non-binary people, or even trans people - I felt it was necessary for everyone to know as knowing who you're getting your information from is important. Also, quite a lot of my answered asks are old. I was younger then. I may go through some of them to see if anything requires clarification or revision, as I am older and wiser, haha.

Honestly, I have identified as non-binary for nearly a decade, in many different labels under the umbrella ‐ but was so focused on fleeing from dysphoria that I never truly felt euphoria until I admitted to myself that I am a man. I had always felt neutral at best. However, I was called a man recently, and that hit my soul in such a way that I couldn't deny it any longer. In all my years of being trans, it was the first time I felt genuine gender euphoria, and I nearly cried. The only thing holding me back was feeling like I couldn't do it. Let me tell you, and myself, you can.

You're not wrong for changing, or for using a new label. The time I spent identifying as non-binary is important to me and valid. I will never say I was wrong for it. In fact, who knows - down the line, I may consider myself a masculine gender under the non-binary umbrella instead of a binary trans man. I will still not have been "wrong". Exploration is never wrong, only informative. Keep being adventurous, do not let your doubts hold you down from finding yourself like they did for me for so long.

Long story short; I am a gay trans man but I will continue to support all of you as my non-binary family. You are all so extremely loved and valid. I see no reason to stop spreading love for my non-binary siblings out there, I just wanted to inform.

Keep going. ♡

[get-more-transfem]

to all transfems and trans women: you deserve a break! go take a nap! eat your favorite comfort food! go play that new game you wanted to play or start up the new hobby you were looking at! you deserve all the downtime and rest you need! your happiness matters too :)

[decompose1]

neovaginas can get wet naturally

a neophallus can get erect with an implant (this will either be a bendable rod or a device that inflates with saline at the press of a button, usually in the testicles)

both can feel sexual pleasure and experience orgasm

most neovaginas will be able to tolerate larger insertions with enough dilating/training

the nerves in neophalluses take a while to regrow but it is incredibly rare to experience no sexual nerve growth

both can look and feel "normal" if that's what you want, just take good care of your scars and look at your surgeons' results portfolio (and don't be afraid to be picky! its your genitals, you get to decide!)

in fact it's possible for many people to stealth and for their sexual partners to never know. even for phallo, some people with natal penises have erectile implants too, ED is common. neocaginas are often indistinguishable from natal vaginas

many surgeons are starting to offer preservation options for patients who want a more mixed look/don't want to lose what they have

YOU HAVE OPTIONS! demystify bottom surgery

[druidshollow]

i thimk trans women and trans men and nonbinary people and everyone whos not cis should all love eachother forever and embrace eachother and listen to eachother and protect eachother. we should all be eachothers' shield

[crabussy]

trans women and trans men and nonbinary people and everyone else being friends and holding each other close and falling in love and thinking of each other. I'm making this my future. let's all be okay together

[paper-mario-wiki]

do not forget the patron saint of these weeks that we celebrate ourselves proudly and openly in the streets

her name was Marsha P Johnson, and we have her to thank for so much.

remember, the first Pride was a riot, and she was one of the brave souls who endured it to help carve the path which so many of us walk today. she helped found several activist groups regarding LGBT safety and wellbeing. and she was absolutely radiant, too.

thank you, Marsha. we remember you.

[leighlew3]

[sunshineofthe-night]

🩷💜💙

[softnbpositivity]

Our pain is not what defines us. Despite all of the dysphoria and bigotry, being trans can also be full of so much love and joy!

The acceptance from and for others, the community we build, the joy from gender euphoria when we're able to live as our true selves - there is so much joy to be found in being trans!

Never let anyone convince you that ours must be a miserable existence, or that you must be defined by your pain.

I love you all.

[liberaljane]

[trans-solidarity-forever]

Trans women make the world a better place!

Trans men make the world a better place!

Nonbinary people make the world a better place!

Genderqueer people make the world a better place!

Multigender people make the world a better place!

Agender people make the world a better place!

Genderfluid people make the world a better place!

Gender non-conforming people make the world a better place!

Gender diversity is part of the beautiful tapestry of life. I'm grateful to share a community and world with you.

[gaelahanlon]

For anyone unaware, this week Scotland elected our first ever trans members of parliament

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

💛🤍💜🖤

[softnbpositivity]

In case you haven't heard it today;

Trans men exist and are wonderful!

Trans women exist and are wonderful!

Nonbinary people exist and are wonderful!

Intersex people exist and are wonderful!

It doesn't matter if you're on HRT, have had any surgeries, or even pass. You are still wonderful, because you exist.

I love all of you, always and forever. Never stop fighting to be who you are, and never let anything divide us.

[rainecats]

Shout out to non-binary people who do identify as a third gender, who don’t have a gender at all, who have a mix, who’s gender changes, who’s gender fluctuates, who’s gender can’t be described by traditional “masculine” or “feminine” terminology, and who’s gender went mysteriously missing in the war

[champmorado]

i love you trans women with big noses, i love you trans women with hooked noses, i love you trans women with wide/flat/broad noses, you are so unbelievably loved!!!!

your natural features are NOT "manly" or "masculine" or "ugly" or whatever the hell else society says!!!!

this goes double for Black, Indigenous, Arab, and South Asian trans women and other trans women of color btw <3

[do not derail. make your own post if you feel inspired]

[this-is-trans-joy]

I feel like spreading some positivity and also some cool facts, so here you go!

When people say that there are only two sexes, know that they’re lying on a scientific level.

White-throated sparrows have four different sexes. The Schizophyllum commune fungus has over 23,000. Male clownfish are known to change their sex in the absence of a breeding female. There are many recorded cases of intersex animals (go look up Gynandromorphism if you want to see some absolutely amazing looking animals). The New Mexico whiptail is a type of lizard that can only be female. And that’s only a small handful of examples.

Nature is wonderful, and it will always prove that being intersex, trans, or any other gender under the sun is normal and natural. There isn’t anything wrong with you, you’re simply a living organism. And that’s amazing.

This is trans and intersex joy!!!

[translovedaily]

Every time a trans man comes out, the world becomes brighter.

[starryhoundbloo]

Shout out to my mom who explains my transition as "Having a daughterpillar turn into a Boyterfly". It doesn't erase the fact I was an adorable little girl, and also affirms my gender now. I love my mother.