I am so tired of the idea that you need other people's consent to literally just exist in their presence, or to exist at all if you have a 'contradictory' queer identity. I'm sick of the idea that someone with a "normal" label is more qualified than you are to determine whether or not you belong.
If someone is not pushing boundaries, hurting people, saying insensitive shit, being offensive, etc, you have literally no right to exclude them from that space. And if they are doing those things? You exclude them for the harm they cause as an individual, not because they used the wrong words to explain how they feel about their gender/orientation.
If you see someone with a "confusing" identity, you assume good intentions until proven otherwise. It's better to show initial undeserved kindness to a cishet troll/chaser than vitriolic hostility towards an actual queer person looking for community.
If you are "uncomfortable" just because you don't agree with a person's labels/identity, you can kindly fuck off and hang out with the cishets who make a face when they see a visibly trans person in public.
