#missunderstanding

[essie-exe]

Peak neurodivergent misunderstanding.

An old friend reached out, told me he used to have a crush on me. I invited him to talk over coffee to re-connect and once there he says “you chose a nice spot for today.”

Shit—did I invite this man out on a date?

I tried to overcompensate by being like “I hang out with my friends in coffee shops all the time,” but then he answered with “I’d do that more often if I had someone…”

Huh. Maybe he is really lonely? But he told me he has tons of friends.

This is flirty but at the same time unwarranted. I’ve been calling this man “dude” and “bro” since he entered the shop.

This is on me. I should’ve known better than to ask a guy for coffee and not send mix-signals—I guess.

I tried fixing my mistake.

I talked about my friends. A lot. Until the point it felt unnatural.

Then to end it all, thinking this was the nail in the coffin, I told him “maybe you should join me and my friends sometimes, we are on a challenge to try every coffee shop in town.”

Get it? You are friend material. Haha, friends. Friends. Friends. Friends. I try leaving no chance for romantic tension acting as nonchalant as possible. If we hang out again at a coffee shop It’ll be with my friends hahaha, cuz you are my friend. Right? Friend.

He looked uncomfortable. Good. Then he looked flustered. Good? He looked down then looked up shyly, as if I had said something in appropriate. (?!?!?!). “I’d rather go alone with you first.”

I said I had to leave.

Ok. Maybe he was shy, and didn’t feel like meeting new people, especially when we are reconnecting.

Maybe he told me he was nervous about meeting me because we haven’t talked in a year or two.

Maybe I misunderstood all the flirty comments, and the “full disclosure” warning he gave me when telling me he used to have a girlfriend. (You are 25 dude, yes—I’d assume you had a girlfriend. No need to treat me like I expected you not to.)

Maybe it’s all in my head?

He texted me after, asking me if I got “friendly vibes or something else too”

SOMETHING ELSE?!

TOO?!?!

I don’t want to come out to every man I meet and tell them I’m not sexual or interested. What a weird position to put me in.

Anyways. This is the end of my rant. I’ll figure out how to be more clear next time.

[th3oldcathag]

I’m horrified. My mom thought Batman and robin were dating. And when I was trying to explain that there was multiple robins she said “Okay, so what? Batman’s a slut then” right as I said they were basically his children. And both me and her just stared at each other. Wide eyes. And my jaw in the floor

[beardedmrbean]

[vifshi]

i'm green, did i get it right?

[navalaa]

Hyper masculinity pushes men to be overly focused on being strong, controlling, and hiding their feelings. This idea of manhood forces men to live up to impossible standards, making them feel like they have to be tough all the time, even when it hurts them inside.

It stops them from being able to grow and be themselves, and can make their relationships with others hard and distant. This mindset not only hurts men, but also encourages gender inequality and creates a world where aggression is more common.

By looking down on traits like kindness or vulnerability, which are seen as "feminine," it leads to damaging actions, from men bottling up emotions to becoming physically violent. To create a better, more accepting world, we need to understand and push back against these harmful ideas, allowing men to express themselves in more ways and build healthier connections with others.

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Voting ended onSep 14, 2024

[rajanilefreak]

So, someone reminded me of the time when I was just beggining to read fanfics on AO3 and didn't understand certain LGBT tags because I was ignorant of most terms back then and when I read AFAB in the tags my thoughts were A+ Fabulous and not what it actually means XD

which... it's still right?

You can't tell me that you don't look at pictures of trans men, radiant over being able to manifest the right gender after being born with the wrong one and you don't find their happiness fabulous as fuck.

[realifezompire]

sometimes you see a post about a fandom you're only casually into, but the terminology & lore requires you to be a hardcore nerd about it, so you just come to the wildest wrong conclusion about what the post is talking about.

this could be about anything, but mainly it's about me seeing this:

on a post & my thought process was why would people make meta about a recurring massacre of kinnies (and who's killing kinnies in the 1st place??)

only to read the tags and see:

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[brichan87]

Missed Connection - Chapter 1 (on Wattpad) https://www.wattpad.com/1289737419-missed-connection-chapter-1?utm_source=web&utm_medium=tumblr&utm_content=share_reading&wp_uname=brittik&wp_originator=DesSulu6QXXUufK250JuSo7TG%2BNAJYAcXNU0ksRdxPBUFcecmX3f5NuwoYMxhdHsJK0JMtpDYWiMzexRcxoS4zPPYidJGigkj179xukvhzorn7OJisCIz5iH1R0WNx7B When Luna is invited to Japan for her best friend's wedding, she is conflicted. On the one hand, she loves the country and now has a Kpop idol look-alike who has made it his mission to make sure she has a good time. On the other hand, the relationship with her friend is not as solid as she had hoped. To make matters worse, the best man at the wedding is the guy that Luna swore was the love of her life. Maybe she should have just stayed home.