#nonbinary dysphoria

[nonbinarynow]

Reminder that you don't have to call yourself AMAB or AFAB. You don't have to say "I'm AFAB nonbinary." Saying "I'm nonbinary" is enough. You don't need to identify with what you were assigned as by some doctor however many years ago. Mentioning your ASAB is scarcely relevant to most conversations, even those about medical transitioning.

Nonbinary is enough, you don't have to supplement it with a binary system of any kind. It doesn't matter how many people want to know your "transition direction." It doesn't matter how many people want to know what your genitals are (which wouldn't be alluded to by your assigned sex anyway). It doesn't matter how many people want to binarise you. It doesn't matter how many binary people you confuse. No one needs to binarise you. Nonbinary. Is. Enough.

[mybitakes]

we need to hear more non-binary people talk about their experiences with dysphoria and the different ways our dysphoria can manifest. Because we do not have cis counterparts (please do not say intersex people, thats ignorant), I find the dysphoria does not really manifest in being able to “pass” in the ways people talk about. Especially when most of society is so desperate to put you in a binary box, being seen as a cis man or woman is the last of my desires. This is also because most androgyny makes us visibly queer instead of passing into binary cis society.

I think a lot of the reason some non-binary people do not believe they have dysphoria is because they believe it has to be extremes or aligning with binary trans peoples experiences. 😭 I feel like a lot of dysphoria can also be surrounded around being called cis or even if your transness is validated, it would be being put into either a man or woman box. Like I’ve been going back and forth with myself for years about whether I’m just faking it and then I postpone transitioning again and again. Each time I go back to being a cis person I always feel unsatisfied with my identity.

also the main reason why I hate theygab terminology so much. I’ve been censoring certain parts of myself just to avoid having that be flung at me. all the confidence I had in my gender has depleted bc I was not this scared or confused about myself when I was younger. I miss the confident “I’m non-binary because I say so and it doesn’t matter what people say to me” attitude I had, I want it back so badly.

[lgbtqiatext]

[enbycrip]

A whole bunch of friends have told me that I’m genuinely presenting much more androgynously at various points this year.

I know it’s not necessary to present androgynously to be nonbinary - there’s literally no single way to be nonbinary - but, absolutely honestly, androgyny is a thing I’ve been wanting my entire life. I kept presenting much more traditionally femme for literally decades because I was small curvy and round in the face and just assumed I’d never remotely manage it because I wasn’t the tall slender elven waif I always dreamed of being. I just assumed I’d look terrible if I tried to present as androgynous.

Then I got sick, and found out more and more about gender, and about *my* gender, and thought “fuck it”.

And it turned out short hair looked much better on me than I ever guessed.

And it turns out there’s more ways to present androgynously than being built like Tilda Swindon.

And it turned out that a *fuck* of a lot of the nearly-eating-disorder that has plagued me since I was about 12 was actually dysphoria, and changing my presentation did a *surprising* amount to fix it.

But hearing from other people in the wild that I’m genuinely managing this, that it’s not just something that *I *see in myself - that’s still pretty special to me.

I’m 40. The fact that I’m still finding a new way to be authentically myself that is genuinely making me happier

[0-ya-su-mi]

Me when I'm not transgender correctly

But like rlly. Most trans people have the story that they've always known. Always felt smth was wrong. Never connected right with their name, gendered clothes, stereotypically gender toys. They change their name to something and it feels like it fits who they are. They transition with hormones and surgery and are sure in themselves and come out

Im none of that. I mean I never super liked my name but that was about it. I used to love dresses. I still do, if I can dress it up enough to not look entirely like a girl. No name I've tried fits. I don't want to be the opposite gender in a "correct" type of way. I want to be a boy who wants to be a girl. I'm both masculine and feminine and nothing all at once. I've considered getting top surgery bc I like the thought of being shirtless but there's a low chance I'd actually do it bc I'm scared of surgery. I feel absolutely fine not coming out bc I don't want things to change and any dysphoria isn't that bad. Every name I try never fits right so I just keep changing it. Gender is one of the 2 mysteries I'll never figure out. I'm so envious of ppl who just Know they're trans( especially from a young age to start transitioning early but yk) bc I'm so unsure in my own identity

Or maybe I'm actually just scared. Maybe I'm too scared to admit I rlly want to be a man. But then I think that I might not be a man, since I don't super like he/him pronouns (not that I like they/them better, rlly) and no name is ever right. And then I have to think how to condense down all these weird bad gender feels in order to explain it to come out. Transgender is the easiest for "normal people" to understand but there's so much more to my fucked up gender than that. I'm not 'man who was once girl'. I don't know if I ever rlly had a gender at all. It's just a scary dark swirl of void.

My transgender-ness could probably be blamed on mental illness if someone rlly wanted to. I'm autistic and unstable enough for someone to say that. Maybe it rlly is just the autism and I'm a fucked up girl that can be fixed, nevermind the fact being called a girl kinda makes me wanna scream

Anyway I hate gender and figuring myself out and I get way too introspective late at night when my meds have kicked in

Let's close this angsty rant with wise words from an excellent commenter on tiktok: "Gender is NOT the same as sex. Gender is what you identify as, while sex is what i'll be having with Albert Wesker tonight."

[neometrocosmopolitan]

Enben with dysphoria, you're not alone. I feel it too.

[genderqueercultureis]

genderqueer culture is feeling uncomfortable will the restrictions of binary labels but not being able to articulate why

May 8, 2025.

[moonjay-the-forest-spirit]

Sometimes I really hate being nonbinary. I'm never going to be fully seen I'm always going to be shoved in some stupid box and not taken seriously. I can never just be. The world around me seems to only see in binaries, which means they'll never ever see me, not the real me . And I hate it. Oh god I hate it.