I'm a Whatever

Nonbinary transfemme (they/them/their). Shoggoth in a skirt. White. Race is a construct, racism is real. Living with depression. Faith in Chaos. Like a sunrise on the surface of the sea.

[mysteryfleshpit]

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[virginiaisforhaters]

this ones for the girls

the water warriors fighting for access to clean water for all

the teenagers imprisoned for fighting back against oppressive regimes 

those fighting for access to education for all

for the future of the planet 

for gender equality 

for safety and protection from gun violence

for governmental representation and engagement for youths 

for the rights of immigrants 

for syria and the rights of refugees 

for literacy and the representation of WOC in books

for trans and queer rights 

for protection of girls against forced marriage and child slavery

i hope that one day we live in a world where children are allowed to just be children, where they dont have to fight tooth and nail for their rights and their futures, but i could not be prouder of this generation 

(from top to bottom: Autumn Peltier, Amariyanna “Mari” Copeny, Ahed Tamimi, Malala, Greta Thunberg, Melati and Isabel Wijsen, Artemisa Xakriabá, Ridhima Pandey, Jamie Margolin, Rowan Blanchard, Jaclyn Corin and Emma Gonzalez, Shamma bint Suhail Faris Mazrui, Sophie Cruz, Bana al-Abed, Marley Dias, Jazz Jennings, Sonita Alizadeh, Payal Jangid)

[closet-keys]

casual reminder that not all nonbinary folks have the same gender & some nonbinary folks don’t have a gender

[awn-network]

Current diagnostic criteria for autism excludes children who have been raised in supportive and accepting environments, making them undiagnosable.

“That’s right…. my son’s paediatrician says that my autistic way of parenting supports my son too well for him to be traumatised enough for a diagnosis, so we should let school traumatise him and come back later…

…Which brings me to thinking about how we identify autism in the children who are now being raised by autistic parents in a respectful and supportive way. The children who have experienced acceptance of their autistic neurology from birth and who have never been exposed to harmful therapies.

Autistic children raised by accepting parents, often autistic themselves.”

[star-anise]

It’s true. The current clinical model for Autism is based on traumatized Autistic children. The experiences of happy, well-nurtured, thriving Autistic people have been hugely excluded from the clinical literature. That needs to change.

[fucktheevanuris]

ADHD culture is saying “what?” when you heard the question someone asked you but… It didn’t fucking… Register… In the brain? And then you hear the question before they ask again and interrupt them when they’re talking because now you’re An Asshole™ who understands

[mostlyvoidpartlyplants]

Someone: Hey what time is it?

Me: What?

Someone: Wha-

Me: It’s 3:20

[attack0npotato]

This is actually a thing, while visual info takes 0.1 seconds to process, auditory infor can take 3 to 4 seconds to process, which is why you ask, and then actually hear the question because your brains only just processed it

[seashells-and-bookshelves]

My husband has ADHD and does this, and I hate repeating myself constantly. One thing that I feel has saved us from so much stress in our marriage is that I’ve just stopped repeating myself. After a while he caught onto what I was doing and stopped saying “what” over and over when I didn’t respond. Now occasionally he’ll ask me “what?” when I said something because he actually didn’t hear me, and I will happily repeat myself for him, but most of the time I just say silent and let his brain compute what I said. So now our conversations go one of two ways: 

Me: Hey hon, where is the tv remote? Him: What?? Me: *silence* Him: I left it on the couch. 

Or 

Me: Hey hon, where is the tv remote?  Him: What? Me: *silence* Him: Ok, I really didn’t hear you that time, what did you say? Me: *repeats question*

Even if you don’t have ADHD, I mean, auditory delay happens with a lot of people, not just ADHD folk. If you deal with it, try this approach with your friends and loved ones. It has helped us so much. 

[old-songs]

I jokingly suggested something similar to my gf called the “3 second rule”. If i don’t respond in 3s, assume I really didn’t hear you.  Tho Im p good at just masking the processing time with UUhhhhHhHhh

[adhd-informative]

Also pro tip for communicating with ADHD people: say the name of the person you want to talk to before you share your thought and wait for them to acknowledge you. That way if we are distracted or otherwise occupied you know can be sure are listening. We very well may still need to process, but it will greatly cut down on the number of times we genuinely didn’t hear a word you just said.

[dathen]

THAT LAST NOTE

PLEASE

I AM BEGGING

[tis-i-bat-anon]

OH THAT’S WHAT’S HAPPENING? OKAY OKAY, COOL, PHONE CALLS WITH GROUPS SUCK JUST AN FYI CAUSE I CAN’T FOLLOW WHAT’S GOING ON CAUSE THEY TALK LIKE SPEEDY GONZALEZ

[nikibee1]

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[wrangletangle]

That trick of saying the name first also works for folks with hearing impairments who need to supplement with lip-reading. Wait for them to face you before asking the question.

[tofeklund]

Oh, now I understand what it is that my brain’s been doing. The More You Know.™️

[dankmemeuniversity]

[rizaoftheowls]

Yes. Can I identify the snail? Because I will find the snail, pick it up with tongs and gloves, put it in a box, get on a boat, and drop it into the Pacific Ocean. It may not die, but if it gets back to me from there, it sure as hell deserves its reward.

[halsinsbiggernaturals]

the text says the snail’s goal is to find you, not touch/kill you. can you just, like. put the snail in a nice terrarium and enjoy life with an immortal pet snail and $10 million?

[awaiting-my-escape]

Put the snail in a hamster ball

[wecanthavethat]

Snorn snenemies to snriends (snail sworn enemies to snail friends).

[tofeklund]

Snriemds forever!

[profeminist]

Comic by Kasia Babis 

Artist’s Tumblr

[artfulkindoforder]

petition to start using “suffering sappho” as an interjection irl

[conan-doyles-carnations]

Gosh that’s suddenly making its way into my vocabulary

[lilyvonpseudonym]

[guiding-light-deactivated201902]

Ahem

[antibutch-deactivated20180507]

Gay as FUCK

[xenaskywalker]

“Is she, you know, *makes vague gesture with hands* quite familiar with Sappho’s surviving poetry?”

[puttingcursesondonaldjtrump]

[ayellowbirds]

Further note: the OP/artist originally posted this February 15, 2018. 

[flospughsadadad-deactivated2021]

Terminator 2: Judgment Day (1991) | Captain Marvel (2019)

[fostertheory]

It had been long enough since I had seen the former that I hadn’t picked up on the similarities. Even the exit from the parking lot!

[jackironsides]

“But Carol’s a villlaaaaaiinnnn thoooooouuugh”

[tienriu]

You know, that scene in Captain Marvel and how some men are reacting to it? Is the first time I’ve ever seen so clearly a part of the population who are so far from the target audience that they have no clue what’s going on.

Putting aside the obvious call backs to Terminator 2, what that scene was set up to be is so clearly obviously that you’d be hard pressed to find a woman who doesn’t understand exactly what type of fantasy was being expressed.

That entire scene? It’s a power fantasy.  It’s aimed directly at women who get often targeted by men who choose victims that they know won’t make them face consequences for their obnoxious behaviour and actions.  Carol, in that scene, looks exactly like an easy target for that man, it’s why he chooses to behave that way.  It’s a scenario that many, many women have had to live through - have had to smile and pretend we’re okay with through.  And so Carol flipping the script on that man, forcing him down, forcing him to be as scared as WE have been… 

It’s such an obvious power fantasy - a very nice pandering that we only occasionally get in films.  Which is why seeing it go straight above the heads of some people (men, it seems to have gone above the heads of men, lets just say that out right) is so hilarious.

I guess it’s hilarious because everybody else have watched male power fantasies for so many years that even if it never related to us, we still knew what it meant and the first time these people have had to see a female power fantasy they tripped before they even get to the starting gate.

I’m putting this reaction next to the “Women don’t enjoy sex” tweet and the “Captain Marvel is over powered” (doesn’t blink at Thor and his ability to literally move an entire space station or withstand the blast of a dwarf star) reactions.  Like you don’t often see people self burn and show you how deeply, deeply bad they are in bed, in life and in human interactions.  So when you do, you should treasure it (and avoid those people).

[hogtown-gdc]

so how bout that union

[superheroesincolor]

When They Call You a Terrorist: A Black Lives Matter Memoir (2018)

Raised by a single mother in an impoverished neighborhood in Los Angeles, Patrisse Khan-Cullors experienced firsthand the prejudice and persecution Black Americans endure at the hands of law enforcement. For Patrisse, the most vulnerable people in the country are Black people. Deliberately and ruthlessly targeted by a criminal justice system serving a white privilege agenda, Black people are subjected to unjustifiable racial profiling and police brutality. In 2013, when Trayvon Martin’s killer went free, Patrisse’s outrage led her to co-found Black Lives Matter with Alicia Garza and Opal Tometi.

Condemned as terrorists and as a threat to America, these loving women founded a hashtag that birthed the movement to demand accountability from the authorities who continually turn a blind eye to the injustices inflicted upon people of Black and Brown skin.

Championing human rights in the face of violent racism, Patrisse is a survivor. She transformed her personal pain into political power, giving voice to a people suffering inequality and a movement fueled by her strength and love to tell the country―and the world―that Black Lives Matter.

When They Call You a Terrorist is Patrisse Khan-Cullors and asha bandele’s reflection on humanity. It is an empowering account of survival, strength and resilience and a call to action to change the culture that declares innocent Black life expendable.

by Patrisse Khan-Cullors (Author), Asha bandele (Author), Angela Davis (Foreword)

Get it here

Yangsze Choo is a fourth generation Malaysian of Chinese descent. Due to a childhood spent in various countries, she can eavesdrop (badly) in several languages. After graduating from Harvard University, she worked as a management consultant and at a startup before writing her first novel. THE GHOST BRIDE, set in colonial Malaya and the elaborate Chinese world of the afterlife, is about a peculiar historic custom called a spirit marriage.

Yangsze lives in California with her husband, two children, and a potential rabbit. She loves to eat and read, and often does both at the same time.

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[theultradork]

THIS IS TOO PRECIOUS WTF

(Art by @anthonyholden)

[tofeklund]

Huh. Something with str8s and it’s hella cute.

[politicallypeng-deactivated2013]

Greek workers, after months without pay, apply austerity cuts on their bosses car

[anarchohellenism]

Showed this to my brother and he went “bet they won’t have jobs after that”

THEY WEREN’T GETTING PAID FOR THEIR WORK ANYWAY!!!!!! THAT’S THE WHOLE FUCKING POINT!!!

[queeranarchism]

[hotdevushkashit]

Someone print this post out and nail it to Jeff Bezos’ door like the 99 Theses

[cathemeralcoelocanth]

[left-reminders]

[jezi-belle]

There’s a reason for this.

Historically, people’s political views drift to the right as they accrue more wealth.

We are the first generation in recent American history for whom that hasn’t directly correlated with getting older.

[teapotpartythot]

… erm, it’s that, but it’s also the reverse and the darker, that the poor tend to die off

[tofeklund]

Me at 15: writes a poem about patriotism

Me at 20: votes Green Party

Me at 40: What do we want? Queer anarchist communes! When do we want it? Before the fascistic carceratory-capitialist system kills the fucking planet!

[caffeinewitchcraft]

Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.

Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?

And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run

But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually

Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.

Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!

[madammuffins]

Fyi- just in case you didn’t know.

TOUCH got a bro that likes to give high fives? Back slaps? Are they a hugger? Do they not blink an eye at cuddles?

QUALITY TIME this bro will (as op stated) sprint to spend every minute possible with you. Every second that you guys are together is a declaration of affection.

WORDS does your bro tell you how amazing and great and fantastic and wonderful you are all the time? Guess what…?

GIFTS do they buy you coffee? Snacks, energy drinks, spot you at the restaurant? Did that one key chain remind them of you? Ding ding!

ACTS are they always doing things for you? Ie: Nah bro, I got this, I can do that, need me to get anything for you, I can help with…?

PRO TIP - The way people show love is often how they receive love as well.

[queerautism]

Can I just say how much I love seeing this applied to friends / platonic relationships, when I’ve only seen it about romantic ones before?

[tofeklund]

Notes from my experience:

1. Some people are highly focussed on one category, but others have relatively even splits between categories.

2. Trauma can fuck with people’s presentation of their love languages. For example, I tend to default to acts of service to show love, but what I want most is touch, and I find it very difficult to ask for that.

[bb-wizard-deactivated20210901]

So my parents suspect I'm nonbinary because *gestures vaguely at all of me* but they won't just ask me about it so I've just been watching them gently test me over the last couple years. But last night was by far my favorite.

My dad, unable to look me in the eye, stumbled as he asked me if I would want a full length kilt or a knee length kilt.

These are the two genders folks

[tofeklund]

There you go.