One Little Voice

Aurora - 23 - US - White - able-bodied autistic - biromantic asexual - She/Her/Herself - cis woman - sort of Mormon - personal blog, mostly fandom and social justice -

[unuvocheto]

If I could somehow find everyone who ever bullied me and ask them why they targeted me, not a single one would say it was because I was autistic. None of them even knew I was.

Instead they’d say it was because I liked Pokemon too much after it stopped being cool, or my clothes looked ridiculous and I wore the same pair of jeans 3 days a week, or that I was just weird/nerdy/unpopular. In many, many cases, that is what neurodiversity looks like. Not someone with an obvious disability, but someone who’s just weird.

I see so many allistics and neurotypicals on here that claim to be anti-ableism but turn around and make jokes at the expense of people who are eccentric but harmless.

If you’re an allistic that claims to support autistic people, but then you turn around and make fun of the woman wearing a bizarre outfit or the guy who speaks in a monotone or the teenager who carries a teddy bear everywhere, you are hurting autistic people who do those same things.

[thecoloredcanvas]

You’re implying that hurting autistic people’s feelings is somehow worse than hurting non-autistic people’s feelings.

[unuvocheto]

No, I’m pointing out hypocrisy that the same people who say it’s wrong to make fun of an autistic person for being autistic are sometimes the same people who will make fun of an autistic person for having autistic traits.

Please learn to read before trying to critique posts.

[thecoloredcanvas]

There’s no hypocrisy; they’re not making fun of autistic people for being autistic. They’re making fun of people in general for doing things that they personally don’t like. Surely the lesson is to not make fun of anyone, and to accept the fact that everyone is different and likes different things and it’s no one else’s business what someone enjoys so long as they’re not hurting anyone.

Being eccentric, wearing “bizarre” outfits, speaking in monotone, and carrying around a teddybear aren’t “autistic traits”, they’re manifestations of different personality types and aesthetic/value sets.

Please learn how not to be ableist, before spreading offensive stereotypes in a self-righteous attempt to find fault with others.

[unuvocheto]

"They're making fun of people in general for doing things that they personally don't like." Many people don't like autistic people so this is not a defense.

"Surely the lesson is to not make fun of anyone, and to accept the fact that everyone is different and likes different things and it's no one else's business what someone enjoys so long as they're not hurting anyone." No fucking shit.

"Being eccentric, wearing "bizarre" outfits, speaking in monotone, and carrying around a teddybear aren't "autistic traits","

These are literally all autistic traits you dumb fuck.

[unuvocheto]

If I could somehow find everyone who ever bullied me and ask them why they targeted me, not a single one would say it was because I was autistic. None of them even knew I was.

Instead they’d say it was because I liked Pokemon too much after it stopped being cool, or my clothes looked ridiculous and I wore the same pair of jeans 3 days a week, or that I was just weird/nerdy/unpopular. In many, many cases, that is what neurodiversity looks like. Not someone with an obvious disability, but someone who’s just weird.

I see so many allistics and neurotypicals on here that claim to be anti-ableism but turn around and make jokes at the expense of people who are eccentric but harmless.

If you’re an allistic that claims to support autistic people, but then you turn around and make fun of the woman wearing a bizarre outfit or the guy who speaks in a monotone or the teenager who carries a teddy bear everywhere, you are hurting autistic people who do those same things.

[thecoloredcanvas]

You’re implying that hurting autistic people’s feelings is somehow worse than hurting non-autistic people’s feelings.

[unuvocheto]

No, I'm pointing out hypocrisy that the same people who say it's wrong to make fun of an autistic person for being autistic are sometimes the same people who will make fun of an autistic person for having autistic traits.

Please learn to read before trying to critique posts.

[quii]

czech green glass cat charms

[rapeculturerealities]

White Women Less Likely to Help Sexual Assault Victim If She's Black

Bystander intervention is seen as one of the most powerful tools in preventing on-campus sexual assaults—but a new study shows that white students feel "less personal responsibility" to help their black peers.

You’re at a house party off-campus—perhaps you’re coming out of the bathroom after finally breaking the seal or you’re walking out of the kitchen, drink in hand—and you notice a black woman who looks much more wasted than you do, being led into a bedroom by a relatively sober guy. Being the good feminist you are, you register that the situation looks suspect. What do you do?

According to a new study, white women aren’t likely to intervene and help. The study, published in The Psychology Of Women Quarterly, posed a similar scenario to 160 white female undergraduates. The students were randomly assigned whether the intoxicated woman in the story had a “distinctively black name"—LaToya—or an ambiguous name—Laura, as a control.

When asked to report on their intent to intervene and how they viewed the situation and the potential victim, the white undergrads said they would be less likely to help when they perceived the woman who was at risk of being sexually assaulted was black, because they felt “less personal responsibility.” Secondarily, they also “perceived that [the black victim] experienced more pleasure in the pre-assault situation” at a slightly higher rate than the control group. (The control group given the scenario with the non-racialized name uniformly perceived the victim to be white.)

“We found that although white students correctly perceived that black women were at risk in a pre-assault situation, they tended not to feel as personally involved in the situation,” the researchers at SUNY Geneseo, Jennifer Katz and Christine Merrilees, said in an interview with PsyPost. In other words, “despite their shared status as women, white female bystanders in the current study may have felt that a Black woman’s plight was not as personally relevant because race has a more powerful effect than gender on intent to intervene and feelings of responsibility to intervene,” they write in the study.

Previous research has found that white people, in general, are less likely to help black victims. A 2008 study on racial bias in helping behavior troublingly found that “as [a situation’s] level of emergency increased, the speed and quality of help white participants offered to black victims relative to white victims decreased.” When the victim was black, the white participants also viewed the situation as less severe.

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[flyandfamousblackgirls]

[gif87a-com]

[starskykarofsky]

For anyone not so familiar with cat behavior, this cat is out of its mind excited to do this. It’s much more rare for cars to wag their tails but it means the same as it does when a dog does it. This cat is curious and proud and playing. It keeps looking at its owner too, like “LOOK AT ME, DAD” and it’s so rare to get videos of cats this happy. This is fucking rad

[dendrytes-deactivated20211218]

Nope.. wagging tails means anger or irritation in cat body language.

[pangur-and-grim]

hey y’all, hope you don’t mind me stepping in!

you’re both right :) a wagging tail means the cat is highly stimulated (think coiled spring, ready to go off). depending on the situation, this can be interpreted differently - just like people can smile nervously at job interviews vs. happily grin at friends.

in most cases, it’s safe to interpret overstimulation as ‘you’re doing something to amp up the cat & it wants you to stop’ (ex. unwanted petting). it should be seen as a warning; all that pent-up energy COULD be released as a swat or bite.

BUT in this case, that tail-wagging ‘frustration’ is the stimulation that comes from problem-solving (where can I jump? is it safe to go here?) and the excitement of play. it’s good to be wary of ‘cute’ animals vids, but this seems like an unproblematic video!

[fluffy-shenanigans]

I’d like to add to this–just look at world-famous box-loving cat, Maru, who wags his tail every time he stuffs his body into a box or other small object. He’s clearly not about to attack the person behind the camera! It’s definitely based on stimulation, but more to the point of “ahhh FINALLY I’ve gotten into the small space, now how do I get the rest of me inside”:

[weezley]

i love everything about cats ever always

[ruinedchildhood]

Or more accurately…

[drearyhours]

unpopular opinion but i think the film and tv industries should have better labor laws even if it makes it harder or impossible to depict certain things

[drearyhours]

i dont care if it makes it harder to produce game of thrones or whatever, acting should not leave women traumatized

[squeeful]

Okay I know this is about acting and people are getting more traction about it (sexuality safety coordinators are a job! yell about them. demand your shows get them) but

Any person who has worked on a set for more than a few years has at least one person they know who died.  

Not usually on set, but afterwards.  Because we don’t have anyone shutting down production for unsafe practices when “unsafe” means 16 hour days.  Or more.  For weeks.  Finishing a day before hour 12 (not including lunch) is considered an early leave.

I had teachers tell us not to, unless we absolutely had to, take music video gigs because they’ll work you for 24 hours and send you to drive home.  And if we had to work that, pull over and nap in our car because multiple people per year fall asleep at the wheel and go over the canyons around LA.

I know you mean acting but please.  Don’t forget the crew.  We have a shockingly high rate of suicide because these working schedules leave us with no sleep, no time outside of work, and it destroys lives, relationships, and families.  Burnout is high.  Chronic illness and broken bodies are common.  Cocaine use in order to get through a 20 hour day is rampant.  Every single one of your reality shows is fueled by cocaine.

The number of days that are scheduled to shoot a feature has shrunk dramatically in the past two decades.  Which means longer days.

Netflix shows are notorious for being poorly organized, understaffed, and long days.

There are labor laws but what they do is levy fines.  Those fines are either factored into budget, people are bullied into not reporting actual hours, or crew members see them as incentive to take those jobs because more money and cost of living is high.  (Also this industry has a crew culture of dick measuring by sticking your wang in a blender and boasting about how many 100 hour weeks you pulled.)

[alexazombie]

this can be applied for people working in animation as well. Like I know people who work at Pixar and they straight up work 12 hour days and go into work on weekends to meet their deadlines. The incredibles 2 made over a billion dollars and Pixar still cut jobs due to “budget”. The entertainment industry is a business at the end of the day. There here to make money and they are going to do it at the expense of workers because they know no one is going to do anything about it.

[listentotheshityousay]

I know this post is specifically about film and tv but in general I don’t think I’ve seen any entertainment-related industry provide safe, sane working hours+environments to the creators who are working their asses off to create things the public can enjoy, and that pisses me off

[captoring]

every time you ridicule a nasty person’s appearance there is chance it’s going to reach a vulnerable person who sees themselves in their features 

[cripplechronicles]

This. It really frustrates me when someone is being problematic and then people start attacking their looks. Like go ahead and call out the person for bad behavior all you want but when you start making it about their appearance you become part of the problem.

[succubusboyfriend]

if you’re offline or away and i message you something (like a link to a meme or a picture or w/e) honestly just assume that i’m just leaving it there for when you get back and not expecting you to answer straight away. i don’t need you to respond with “hey, sorry, i wasn’t at the computer!” or anything. i was leaving u a gift for later.

[slightmayhem]

This also applies if you’re online and just don’t want to or have the energy to deal with humans in the moment. Just because we have the ability to reply in real time does not mean we have the obligation.

[melon-official]

im like a cat i drag the posts to ur doorstep and if ur not there it’s ok, the post will be on ur porch for later

[cullenfucked]

ok but imagine watching bella and edward’s relationship from the outside like. ok this new girl moves to school and she starts dating that really weird guy from that really weird family for like. 6 months. and then he leaves her and shes like. really depressed for 6 months. then he comes back and like 6 months later youre invited to their wedding??????? i would be like bitch what the fuck

[twodotsknowwhy]

And then they go on their honeymoon only to have him come back and be like “oh yeah, she’s dead now, so sad”

[scorpio-karma]

That sounds like an episode of one of those “True Crime” shows where they know he murdered her but never had the evidence to prove it.

[moonlight-at-dawn]

Why did “be critical of your media” turn into “find all its flaws and hate it” why did people become allergic to FUN

[sayitwithsarcophilus]

Because people confuse “critical as in critical thinking” with “critical as in criticizing something,” so they think that “look for something bad, no matter how far-fetched” is what “being critical” means.

[just-high-school-things]

teenager: *is good at math, bad at the arts*

society: oh that’s okay, not everyone’s artsy lol

teenager: *is bad at math, good at the arts*

society: you lazy fuck

[damn-shawty]

okay but this is exactly what society is like when it comes to school

[beckiboos]

For anyone who even THINKS about saying artists don’t contribute anything just remember EVERY. SINGLE. OBJECT in your fucking house, was DESIGNED by… ARTISTS. Every piece of media, your clothes, every fucking logo, YOUR PHONE IN YOUR FUCKING HAND. Had to be DESIGNED BY ARTISTS.

So shut the fuck up.

[oak23]

Gratitude - Tidying Up With Marie Kondo (2019)

[thebroccoligoblin]

A gentle genius

[bidoof]

Change.org - Petition To Hire 1,000,000 People To Put Their Fingers In The Shoot Hole Of Peoples’ Guns So They Can’t Shoot Them

[mycatisnamedfrank]

It’s still gonna shoot… And they’re gonna lose a finger

[bidoof]

No. The finger blocks the bullet. We can do this

[domozillla-deactivated20181216]

This is a gun we’re talking about. The projectile is fired using an explosion, not by compressed air of a toy gun or the elastic forces of a sling shot. People would be lucky if they only lost their finger.

[bidoof]

The finger blocks it

[dildomuncher3000]

The finger won’t block it - the shaft is only there for keeping the bullet straight, all the propulsion happens behind the bullet. The bullet would rip through the finger, not that many would actually fit without the victim being a child, and beyond.

[bidoof]

The bullet would go forward a little and then hit the finger and stop it’s not that hard to understand

[fifty-percent-possessed-deactiv]

People are going to lose their hands. Go watch Mythbusters. They did an episode on this, the hand fucking exploded.

[hungwy]

No, the bullet would start to go but stop at the finger. Thats basic physics. Also hands dont explode normally they did something wrong.

[blipblerp]

Why the dingleknockers would you even consider sticking your finger in the barrel of a loaded gun?? the amount of force propelling the bullet at that close of range would shatter the finger at the very least; this is a petition for 1,000,000 people to loose the use of their hands. If a bullet explodes the back of a persons skull when they shoot it in their mouth it sure as hell will explode a finger.

[gorps]

No the finger would stop it

[joryboi]

I’m loving the idiocy of this post.

Ppl with brains: ummm finger go boom…

Others: no bullet stop. U no kno fisics >:V

[foulserpent]

no the finger would stop it

[indianworiorprincess-blog]

You guy who think the bullet would stop at the finger have never shot a gun and can volunteer to it their fingers in the barrel of my 9 mil and I’ll I’ll the trigger and see if it will stop the bullet. Dumdasses

[foulserpent]

the finger would stop it

[meatswitch-deactivated20231107]

[mackthetrainer]

Since when was this a gender thing? 1,000,000 people are gonna lose their hand because people are taking such extreme was to show guns are bad when he can already see that. This is why I can’t stand shit like this sometimes.

[systlin]

No, silly, see, the bullet would stop because the finger would be in the way

[galaxy-bath-bomb]

Is this what they think will happen if the petition gets enough signatures?

[dresupi]

no, the finger will stop the bullet

[iliveinprocrasti-nation]

The bullet will rip straight through a finger and maybe more of the person’s body…. how hard is it to understand this

[systlin]

No, this is very simple, the bullet will get to the finger and then stop. 

[wodneswynn-deactivated-deactiva]

I really don’t understand what you people aren’t getting about this. The bullet will travel down the barrel a little ways but then the finger stops it. Easy.

[princesstigerbelle]

I will never understand why some cats have a bread addiction like

No cat, …….you are a carnivorous predator.

You no eat bread

What are you even doing

[princesstigerbelle]

[themintycupcake]

My coworker who adopted one of Mona’s kittens gave him some bagel once and now he’s a mad bagel fiend. He had to put locks on his pantry so the cat wouldn’t break in and eat through the bagel bag.

[f1rstperson]

One of my cats was rescued from outside. I’d only ever had a super polite cat who would come up and sniff food and then be like “can i have this?”

So when this other cat came up I was like oh you wanna sniff the bread right? Here it is so you can sniff it. 

Instead she just Jean Valjeaned the whole thing. 

[princesstigerbelle]

Oh my god 😂😂😂

[ace-and-ranty]

I was super curious about this, so I googled it, and apparently: it’s the yeast! Cats are batshit for the taste of yeast, to the point where it’s used to flavoUr kitty food.

I also read that MOST breads should be safe in small quantities, but other types (like garlic or raising bread) can be dangerous, and raw dough is a big no-no. So! PSA!

[sunnysynergy]

@beholdthebullshitnoonelikes

[yourplayersaidwhat]

Context: My character had just found a book of mispells (spells like message becomes massage, mage armor becomes mage armoire, and speak with dead becomes speak with dad) that she’s been using a lot until we had entered a private competition overseen by the king of a dwarven kingdom. In the middle of the competition he suddenly dropped dead, apparently from being poisoned.

Guards: all teams in are participating the competition are currently under suspicion of murdering the king, line up so we can find the murder weapon

(the guards search every team, until finally reaching us and searching through our stuff)

Guards: alright, we found the the murder weapon in this group

Our group: what

Guards: *pointing at my character* on her

Everyone in the group except me: WHAT!?but she’s too much of a coward to try and murder anyone!

Me: wow, thank guys.

Guards: regardless, you are under arrest. do want to say anything before we haul you off?

Me: …

Me: can i have my one phone call? i need to tell my dad i’ve been arrested.

I did not get my one phone call, and thus begun the rest of my group’s search for the real murderer.

[mostlysignssomeportents]

Microsoft announces it will shut down ebook program and confiscate its customers' libraries

Microsoft has a DRM-locked ebook store that isn’t making enough money, so they’re shutting it down and taking away every book that every one of its customers acquired effective July 1.

Customers will receive refunds.

This puts the difference between DRM-locked media and unencumbered media into sharp contrast. I have bought a lot of MP3s over the years, thousands of them, and many of the retailers I purchased from are long gone, but I still have the MP3s. Likewise, I have bought many books from long-defunct booksellers and even defunct publishers, but I still own those books.

When I was a bookseller, nothing I could do would result in your losing the book that I sold you. If I regretted selling you a book, I didn’t get to break into your house and steal it, even if I left you a cash refund for the price you paid.

People sometimes treat me like my decision not to sell my books through Amazon’s Audible is irrational (Audible will not let writers or publisher opt to sell their books without DRM), but if you think Amazon is immune to this kind of shenanigans, you are sadly mistaken. My books matter a lot to me. I just paid $8,000 to have a container full of books shipped from a storage locker in the UK to our home in LA so I can be closer to them. The idea that the books I buy can be relegated to some kind of fucking software license is the most grotesque and awful thing I can imagine: if the publishing industry deliberately set out to destroy any sense of intrinsic, civilization-supporting value in literary works, they could not have done a better job.

https://boingboing.net/2019/04/02/burning-libraries.html

[greenycrimson]

If you’ve got an ereader and want to actually own your books, I heartily recommend using cailbre to scrape the DRM off and so you can backup the files.

Cailbre d/l:

https://calibre-ebook.com/download

How to use cailbre to remove DRM:

http://www.geoffstratton.com/remove-drm-amazon-kindle-books

[dee-the-red-witch]

Seconding calibre as a brilliant tool for ebook management in general.