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she/her ~ 20s ~ trans aro/ace lesbian ~ also known as someBODy on the hit social media platform natter

[cloghesy]

"Screenshot of our lives." - 2005

[pineappical]

think about it long time

[sandersstudies]

I think a great way to improve communication with kids (and adults) is to make every yes or no question a this or that question.

I started doing it when after brain surgery my husband had trouble forming responses to questions for a while, and realized that the habit was helping my students engage more truthfully with me.

Some examples:

Yes/No: “Did you clean up your room like I told you?”

This/That: “Did you clean up already, or do you still need to do that?”

Yes/No: “Are you going to sit quietly?”

This/That: “Are you ready to sit and do our quiet activity, or do you need some time by yourself first?”

Yes/No: “Are you doing anything fun for your birthday?”

This/That: “Are you having a party on your birthday, or are you going to relax?”

I think many children (and adults!) are averse to telling adults “No,” especially when a command is implied. (“Did you clean your room?” “Are you going to sit quietly?” Hmmm if I say ‘no’ I will be in trouble with the adult.) So they are actually pretty likely to just lie and say what they think you want to hear.

Presenting a this or that question provides an alternative to lying, a ‘no, but’ scenario where they are presented with the reasonable consequences of a No (“if you’re not ready to sit quietly, you cannot do our quiet activity with us yet.”)

[unfavorableinstigation]

I find it useful professionally with adults too - "Did you have a chance to finish that project, or is it more of a next-week item?" When done sincerely (rather than passive-aggressively), it gets over rough ground lightly: it gives the other person a solution you clearly already find acceptable, so they don't have to flail around trying to defend/excuse themselves, they can just take the solution and everyone can move on.

[setulose]

Trace amounts of Monica in my life

[setulose]

A statistically insignificant level of Monica in my life

[setulose]

My life manufactured in a facility that also processes Monica

[targetedknowledge]

[lamignonette]

[innerchildabortionclinic]

⚠️sweetiepie located

[rockabillywife]

You guys would like my posts a lot more if you had my exact life experiences and internal monologue

[kuuura]

[shittttyproblems]

not today...

[spicymochi]

your month, your seal!

[spicymochi]

Mystery mini seal charms are now in my shop!!

[heavensenthousepet]

you learn something new everyday. unless you're a historian. then you learn something old

[melonisopod]

[awolfswill]

Pokemon rainbow

[holy-leapin-splits-batman]

[utopians]

Passed the White Pharaoh on the freeway

[laikathestar]

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[creekfiend]

I'm so glad that that truncated fucking ran-into-a-wall-at-speed tadpole-ass looking squirrel only lives in high altitude forests in Borneo bc this means I am extremely unlikely to encounter one in my day to day life. thank god

[tuftedpygmysquirrel]

Hello.

[creekfiend]

DID YOU MAKE THIS BLOG SIMPLY TO TORMENT ME

[tuftedpygmysquirrel]

I can go upside down.

[creekfiend]

WHERE IS THE REST OF YOU

[homoidioticus]

Commenters praise the girls frugality

[bace-jeleren]

[ozempicofficial]

[ramdragons-deactivated20240319]

need people to see this i feel insane

[fullanimationfilmartist]

Girl, we've been knowing how to draw.