Brain Rambles

Don’t expect consistency Aro/Ace/Agender

[amikyle]

Another day, another question from someone that made me re-evaluate my entire life and how I navigate through space

[pnglove]

[amikyle]

These are exquisite! I’m thinking of making a cake but it won’t be this fancy

[amikyle]

I’ve started talking to someone for the first time in a while & oh boy I did not miss having to explain how asexuality works

[amikyle]

I’ve had three coworkers tell me that I’m always so calm this week, two of which was after I mentioned being stressed. And like, yes, of course I’m calm. It’s my work persona. And I don’t know how not to mask in the workplace/ honestly it’s easier to get through the day. Nor do I know how to explain that to them. But also, I’ve been stressed for the last five years. At this point I’ve been stressed for so long I’ve forgotten about it on the day-to-day basis.

I think it’s cause ppl confuse stress and worried. Cause when I’m at work, I’m not worried because I’m focused on work. So I’m calm. Still stressed, but it’s almost entirely internal. Once I leave work however, I think about other things and that’s when I’m worried. But even then, it’s easier to not think about the things I can’t control. I’m already doing everything I can, so at this point it’s just doing what I can to try to make ends meet until things improve. And they just did, which is why I realized how stressed I was. Because I could feel the cortisol leaving my system for the first time in months, if not years.

It’s also that the things that are stressing me out, while work-adjacent, aren’t actually from work. Cause my job is so low-stakes and I enjoy the work, so it’s rarely actually stressful. So I tend to be happy at work. And since I prefer to focus on the positives when people ask how I’m doing, it’s rare that I actually complain about things at work

[amikyle]

I’ve been feeling really fatigued and brain foggy for the past week. Which is why it took that long to realize that it’s from caffeine withdrawal. I cut out one of my cups of tea and didn’t realize that I was cutting back too fast

I had green tea at my usual second cup of black tea this morning and damn. The immediate dopamine boost

[captainjonnitkessler]

You guys have GOTTA learn to stop seeking absolution from strangers online.

If someone says "haha Americans are so self-centered they don't know anything about other countries", you don't gotta jump in and explain that actually it's not your fault because you had a bad education. Just learn from the post and move on!

If someone says "white people hate rap because they're racist", you don't gotta jump in and start listing all the totally valid reasons you personally don't like it. You don't have to justify your music taste to strangers, just move on!

If someone says "people should be more involved in their local communities" you don't gotta jump in and start listing all the reasons that you personally can't leave your house and so actually the original post is really ableist. Just accept that the post doesn't apply to you and move on!

Stop publicly demanding that the internet absolve you of sins that some random dipshit made up, it is always going to make you look bad and you'll wind up trapped in an anxious cycle of needing external validation for every aspect of your personality. You don't have to justify yourself to randos on the internet.

[captainjonnitkessler]

The other reason you have to stop doing this is because when you have to come up with reasons and justifications for liking or not liking something, it slides into problematic REAL fuckin quick.

Like it's not racist to not like rap music but once you start grasping for reasons why rap is universally bad (so that it's okay that you don't like it) you're gonna get real racist real fast.

[amikyle]

It’s also important to avoid the mindset that you must justify everything. You’re allowed to like/ dislike something and don’t have to justify it. Opinions and feelings towards things are subjective and personal.

And sometimes posts like OP is talking about are an opportunity to consider whether your personal opinion is motivated by underlying socio-political reasons. I see them more as invitations to examine if the assertion applies to me. If not, I move on. The internet is such a big place. You don’t have to engage with everything. In fact you really shouldn’t if you want to stay sane

[mar64ds]

made a picture i will use a lot

[amikyle]

I’ve only finished two games & one took over a decade. And that’s fine

[valtsv]

tired: mermaids are all women

wired: much like elves, merfolk are mistaken by sailors for being all women because they have long hair and are very pretty

inspired: merfolk actually have very different concepts of gender to humans because they’re an entirely different species with their own unique culture

marine scientist: what’s your gender?

merperson: what’s a gender

marine scientist: like, are you a man or a woman?

merperson: i’m merfolk

marine scientist: no, like, what’s in your pants?

merperson: i don’t… wear any? i don’t have legs?

It’s a biological fact that fish do indeed change their sex to keep the male/female ratio balanced in their school population. So this fluidity actually makes more sense from a scientific standpoint than the silly idea that merfolk are born with a strictly assigned sex like humans.

Merfolk are all canonically genderfluid and we love them for that

[anonymous-lizard]

Human: (invites merfolk friend to a boat party with their friends)

Merfolk: oh man, there are a lot of women here. Haha don’t worry guys, I got this :) *changes into a man to keep a balance because that’s culturally polite for merfolk*

Human: (spits drink) what the FUCK

OH MY GOD

[kingfisher-colours]

So in the presence of a ship with an entirely or mostly male crew, nearby mermaids would become female to keep the balance.

[ace-aussie-asshole]

That’s it. We figured out why everyone thinks merfolk are all women. Get a boat of fems out there and let’s see what they report.

[amikyle]

[myceliyolk]

reminder that "allies welcome" was once secret code for "those not out yet can still participate without putting themselves at risk", and for those who aren't out yet to comfortably exist in these spaces you have to let allies exist in those spaces too.

[meeks-peaks]

this is also important for queer people who don't know anyone else there. let them bring their friend, even if the friend is cishet. many would rather not go at all, rather than go somewhere alone.

[teaboot]

Few wars are won without allies

[amikyle]

Went to the gallery for the first time in months. I needed to be reminded that I love appreciating art. It makes me feel whole in a way that is hard to express, except through creating art myself

[angeltiddies]

reverse gaslighting where i pretend to know exactly what you are talking about

[invaderxan]

academic conferences

[urbanfantasyinspiration]

Work meetings

[greenekatgrey]

Interviews

[ambulatoryhoodie]

Auditory processing disorder

[lemonsharks]

conversations with my cats who are yelling

[sailermoon]

sometimes when I’m being especially self deprecating and convinced no one likes me I have to tell myself “you’re being goob. you are being goob right now”

[sailermoon]

[amikyle]

Oh good, I’m not the only one who does that

He’s a goober & I love him for it

[kalikatze]

OP made the post unrebloggable but said it's fine to screenshot and I'm in love with this

[amikyle]

I need an entire series about these sisters

[trans-ralsei]

[trans-ralsei]

[caughtthedarkness93]

I love my job, but reblogging employment jelly for someone else I love.

[amikyle]

Currently waiting to hear back from several apps. Why not

[amikyle]

Reblogging cause I got a job! That I’m pretty sure I’m going to enjoy!

Still waiting on a contract, but I’m excited!

[kagcomix]

Here's a comic about surgery & gender.

xoxo kag

[amikyle]

Thank you for sharing! There’s a lot in this that I resonate with.

I’m reblogging it now, but might come back to it with more thoughts later

[despazito]

[amikyle]

Gianmarco Soresi is quickly becoming one of my favorite comedians. Funny and politically astute

[rainia]

this speaking as a cis person. Nothing brings me more joy seeing people find gender euphoria in becoming a mediocre representation of humanity. And I mean that so genuinely. Local boy finds joy and fulfillment wearing a cargo shorts and t-shirt combo. Local girl has transitioned to look like someone's disheveled aunt, has never been happier. Local person experiences gender euphoria rocking the world's worst bowl-cut. Without a scap of irony, this shit makes me see the wonder and whimsy in just, being a human. An average, person going through their day-to-day, is a wondrous thing? That's amazing. And heteronormativity has stripped these experiences of their joy. Like you're right, wearing a basic girlypop skirt should make my heart sing. Why not? Why are these expressions lesser because they're normal? All this to say. Shoutout to all the basic bitches out there. Yes that polo shirt does make you look like a divorced golfer dad. Yes, that too is kind of a slay, now that I think of it.