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tell me why this budgetless gay youtube series made for fun by a group of friends has the best editing and writing of anything i’ve watched in a year.

also tell me how this single scene can contain every single one of the top three most iconic lines in history.

elvishprincess-deactivated20190

Sometimes expensive things are worse

I kinda wanna punch every single cishet bigot out there

#cishet #bigot #lgbt #lgbt+#lgbtqia #asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #aspec #aroace #ace discourse #lesbian #gay #bi #actually asexual #homoromantic #demisexual #sexual orientation

awkwardlydumb

i don’t understand aphobes. like, I’m not doing anything or anyone, how and why is that bothering you.

gaypeopletwitter

acrylicqueen

Inclusionists: “ace people can want to have sex!”

Me:

🤔🤔🤔

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

weedcourse

Have you tried asking the ace community how we define the word?

a-polite-melody

Ah, yes, because google’s definitions of orientations are completely accurate and go by the agreed upon definitions of them, right?

Hahahahaha, nope.

Most bi organizations and bi people define bisexual as the attraction to more than one gender or to two or more genders. No specificity of what those genders are or how many - besides it being multiple.

Anyway, orientation-based communities are the ones who define the orientation, not dictionaries or google. The most widely accepted definition I’ve seen of asexual (as an arospec who isn’t ace, so if I’m wrong please let me know) is “sexual attraction to no genders” or “lack of sexual attraction.” Nothing about sexual feelings or desires or associations. Sexual attraction.

bye-bi-birdie

If you are going to ignore how a community defines themselves and instead choose to accept the definition of people who are not a part of the community your argument or whatever gotcha moment you’re trying to have is really not going to make sense except to people who already agree with you and also accept an inaccurate definition.

Like in the above example, if I see someone posting the dictionary definition of bisexual, I’m not going to go “oh darn it, guess I’ve been wrong about my identity this whole time because the dictionary says so”. I’m probably going to think “oh look, another misinformed person who rudely ignores my community’s definition of our orientation, not any point arguing with them”

asexualassassins

Hi, so I'm sure but is it ok for me to identify as ace if I'm scared of sex??? But I (female) like this dude and want to be in a romantic relationship with him but only with fluff, so like cuddling and whatnot, and no sexual stuff.

If you don’t feel sexual attraction, then you’re asexual. Doesn’t matter if you feel romantic attraction and want to cuddle and things like that!

If you do feel sexual attraction, but you don’t want to have a sexual relationship, then you might be lithosexual instead.

asexualisation

Asexuality is not limited to just a lack of sexual attraction, but t also include lack of a desire to indulge in sexual activities. If you see yourself fit into either of these groups, you can say you identify as an asexual.

That being said, asexuality is a rather huge spectrum, and if you do experience sexual attraction you might fall under one of the categories under the umbrella. Here are few of the more common ones (it includes lithosexuality, the one that the OP mentioned)

There are a few others too, bedi des the inse mentioned in this picture. You vous look into it for more clarity and narrowing down things, if you wish to do that. Either way, yes, you can say identity as an asexual.

gravitren

We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives. Raise. Awareness.

pokemonprofessor

For the uninformed, vaginismus is when the vagina painfully tightens and spasms when faced with pressure, usually from anything trying to insert into the vagina. It’s the reason I can’t wear tampons, and why many people can’t have vaginal sex without severe pain.

There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively - they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.

Seriously, this is so unaddressed and uncared for in medical circles. Please spread awareness, even if all it’s for is to let those who have it but don’t have a name for it finally be able to understand what’s happening to their bodies.

frustratedwaffle

I’ve never even heard of this??

shadowkat678

Me neither. :(

backpackfullofplums

Thank you for sharing bc I think I might actually have this but I thought it was just me. I can barely handle so much as a tampon. Will have to bring this up at my next doctor’s appointment.

saathiray

So, there is a website dedicated to vaginismus which I suffered from for years and had no idea how to talk about it. I found this website ten or twelve years ago and bought some of their products which helped immensely. I know nothing about the medications, but the dilator set is probably the best you can do because it is a way to help widen the vagina on your own terms. I still have mine even though I haven’t needed it for years because it could come back later.

One thing I appreciated about this website is that it emphasized that this is not your fault. Another thing I learned was that one cause could just be, you know, being part of a culture that gives women extreme anxiety about sex. This resource helped me when I was a lot younger and terrified that I was broken.

Anyways, here’s the website. Please share it with everyone you know: x

the-real-seebs

reblogging because of the people i’ve known with this, all were survivors of some kind of childhood abuse (not necessarily intentionally-sexual abuse), and given how many abused people follow this blog, i bet there’s more who just aren’t aware of this.

asexualisation

Can bpd be self diagnosed? I don’t know if I have it but I think I do but I really don’t know. And I know I probably should see a therapist but I don’t want to because I don’t even know what I’ll say. So, can someone help me figure this out?

tf-is-wrong-with-you

so anything can be self diagnosed but also GO SEE A FUCKING THERAPIST because a bunch of shit presents kinda like bpd but gets way uglier later and bpd kinda like…you learn to use you powers more and fuck up less and it’s pretty ok? so you kinda wanna know, not fuckin guess.

asexualisation

Thanks. I'll see what I can do about the therapy thing. My parents won't let me go see one and I can't afford it on my own at the moment. But thanks :)

socialinjustice--

Is it just me that can’t remember any of my childhood?

It’s like my memories start from 12

asexualisation

Mine start from when I was 12 or 13 too and I only vaguely remember that stuff.

Can bpd be self diagnosed? I don't know if I have it but I think I do but I really don't know. And I know I probably should see a therapist but I don't want to because I don't even know what I'll say. So, can someone help me figure this out?

#bpd #actually bpd #borderline #personality disorder #therapist

asterosian

There’s literally nothing wrong with wanting a life without romance.

You don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy.

giraffepoliceforce

(x)

stirnerstuff91-blog

stop ascribing sexualities to children just stop stop it

books-are-better-than-sex

This is Edward Gorey.

He is a fantastic author and illustrator who has created a great deal of strange and unsettling books.

I have heard rumours before that he was asexual, but they were just that—rumours. But recently, I was reading a collection of his interviews, and then:

A few questions later:

And in another interview:

Edward Gorey clearly knows what’s up. He’s been dead for a number of years, but the fact that such an amazing person was actually asexual makes me happy, and I wanted to share my findings. :-)

acevengersquad

Saw this on my dash, and I thought Id put it on here, in case anyone is interested! I guess I kinda wanted to show that there are people out there who are like you and us <3

karadin

look up Ralph Nader as another famous accomplished asexual

infiniteglitterfall

Whoa, what?

wow OK if you Google “Ralph Nader asexual” you get a lot of good arguments for him being aroace… all framed in the most amazing, like, vintage, crystallized allo bullshit.

(and I say this as an allo.

For example: one article that almost but not quite seems like a parody, where the author creeps on Nader and his volunteers, mentioning the idea of him being ace just to… be oddly creepy about it… and body-shames everybody else.

One book that talks about him never having had a romantic relationship, and tries to argue that instead of being ace, Nader is just super literal and that it’s impossible to be in romantic relationships if you’re super literal.

IDK, just… The usual Straight Bullshit of “this sexuality can’t exist if I’m attracted to or identify too much with this person.” But aroace-flavored. Also, all of them conflate romantic attraction and sexual attraction, but often, only for other people.)