Still active, but trying to manage fixations a bit

Celsius || 🎂 22 yrs || he/they || aro/ace || level 2 autism || medium support needs

[celsius451]

If you see a sudden shift in my blog habits, it cause I'm trying to manage my special interest and ocd better

Made breakthrough recently that I've berm more unhappy because my special interest became more unhealthy. mixing with my scrupulousity. Affecting way I see myself and people.

Wanting to lean into less political sides of it from now on and focus on smaller things.

Still blog about autism and disability, but try not engage with disability justice stuff as much and allow myself to post about unrelated things too.

Been feeling the brain worms for months now, it finally broke last night after connecting the dots that if I want to enjoy my interests more I need to engage with less negatives

Anyway, thats all

Welcoming more positivety here

(Also side blog @too-many-dish where I engage in current media fixation)

[aw-tysm]

so many of you getting angry at other people using our terms and using them incorrectly and you guys can't even use our own terms correctly either.

[aropride]

if your animal is lying on the floor, furniture etc, it’s important to take a picture of them. then, if they move or shift in any way, it’s important to take another picture. with this technique, you can take many pictures of your animal

[threedollarsdotcom]

ive had enough of you and your amazing digital antics

[etherealspacejelly]

happy pride to all my aspecs and arospecs out there

happy pride to asexuals

happy pride to aromantics

happy pride to aplatonics

happy pride to aroaces

happy pride to alloaces

happy pride to alloaros

happy pride to het aces/aros

happy pride to demi romantics/sexuals

happy pride to grey romantics/sexuals

happy pride to ace/arospecs in platonic, romantic, and/or sexual relationships, or relationships that dont fit into any of those categories

happy pride to ace/arospecs who aren't in relationships and never want to be

happy pride to people who use microlables to describe their ace/arospec identity

we are all valid and we belong in this community no matter what anyone says. we deserve pride too.

[ultraviolentangel-deactivated20]

Just because you did something wrong in the past doesn’t mean you can’t advocate against it now. It doesn’t make you a hypocrite. You just grew. Don’t let people use your past to invalidate your current mindset.

[ravenobviously]

Bruh. This needs to be a mandatory post on everybody’s blog. Y'all really be pullin out decade old receipts like woah.

[emmaubler]

Either you want people to grow and change or you want people to stay evil villains soyou can feel superior as you shame them.

[takesoffmymain]

It’s discouraging to see people in the comments immediately add on “i agree, except (list of people who commit highly heinous acts) of course”. No! No, you’re missing the point!! This post isn’t about forgiving people for heinous acts, and it definitely isn’t about excusing them. It’s telling you that if at any given point you fully decide you were doing some bullshit, no matter what some bullshit constituted, you can and should stop doing some bullshit and try to help other people see that said acts are some bullshit. Maybe try to advocate for other people to not do some bullshit while you’re at it.

This isn’t saying “doing some bullshit is good” or “we should let people who did some bullshit not face consequences if they feel bad”. It’s saying “hey, people probably aren’t gonna forgive you for that bullshit you did, but that doesn’t give you a license to keep doing it either.” It’s saying “once you come to terms with the fact that what you did was terrible, don’t let the fact that people will probably never forgive you for it just make you decide you’re incapable of using your free will to not do some bullshit again”.

This is the opposite of “letting those evil (x/y/z) get away with it”. This is saying “i don’t care WHAT you did, if you have suddenly grown enough as a person to see it was fucked up, don’t let the people who are probably very justifiably upset and hate you for it convince you that there’s no point in bothering to try to be less of a some bullshit causer”. This is a pro accountability statement! When we convince everyone “evil people are bad forever and can never make better choices”, why do we suddenly get surprised that the usual response from “evil person 5000” isn’t to try to stop being a terrible person? If they’re just “evil and terrible and irredeemable” as a state of being and not as a descriptor of the choices they make, then you are essentially absolving them of any responsibility to try to be better. “Good people” and “bad people” categories mean that nobody actually has to sit down and think about the consequences to themselves and others of any further actions. They are their category, and why bother trying anything else if it’s just not what they inherently are? “People who have historically done some fucked up shit who still have free will going forward” can potentially grow and choose to stop doing fucked up shit. “Bad people” as a state of being with a final irreversible label is a license to just keep doing the same shit because it’s not like it would change anything about them to stop doing it, right? So they might as well keep doing it.

People should face the consequences of their actions. Sometimes that consequence is that you never give them the chance to do that again, even if they could maybe in theory choose not to. Some things are absolutely fucked up and a terrible twisted and cruel action. None of this directly conflicts with “hey, don’t let the consequences of your previous terrible choices, whether they be deserved or not, convince you that you don’t have a chance at choosing not to do that again”.

The moment you condemn yourself as incapable of change forever is the moment you forfeit the accountability to do better.

[satanfemme]

children's movies love to set up parents and guardians as being cruel and unreasonable up until the child character is instructed by a third party to apologize or tell the truth or confess some kind of secret about themselves, and then all of a sudden the parental figure will learn empathy be like "wow... I didn't know you felt that way... don't worry, I'll always love you". and it really set some unrealistic expectations for me as a kid, where when I tried to follow that script irl I ended up getting told something more along the lines of "wow... you're really manipulative and spoiled... do you want me to apologize or something? I won't. it's your fault if you decided to feel 'unloved' or something. and if you don't start following my demands perfectly soon, you're going to ruin your life beyond repair and never be happy again. so consider that :)"

basically I think more movies should end with the parental figures continuing to be unreasonable instead of having a sudden and unrealistic change of heart, and then I think their kid should kill them. mhm. this would be good to teach kids what their backup options are if their attempts at diplomacy fail, and it'd be good as a cautionary tale for parents. I see no problems with this.

[annabelle--cane]

earth shattering news: I saw a post that wasn't exactly bad but which had a mixture of valid and invalid points and about which I now have vexed feelings

[aw-tysm]

I don't really understand when autism turned into a trauma/anixety disorder, but it apparently has. Comorbid no longer exists.

[squidorama]

Being an asexual with food sensitivities is one of the worst crimes you can commit in social situations. Every interaction is like no I don't like it. No I haven't tried it like that, but I think I get the idea. No I'm not saying there's something wrong with it, I just don't like it. Seriously, me not liking it doesn't stop you from liking it. I'm not trying to criticize your enjoyment. Like, this really doesn't affect you. No I don't think I should just try it. I think being pressured to try it makes it worse actually...Yeah I've survived without it so far but thanks for the concern.

[just-aro]

sometimes it's so very draining that the majority of aro content is about fictional relationships.

irl, i live alone. irl, i am disabled. irl, that intersection and my lack of interest in partnering actively makes life really hard. everything is expensive. i can't always cook when i want to or have fresh ingredients, because my symptoms don't care if I want to cut up vegetables and eat something homemade before they go bad. if I have a bad flareup and getting up is not in the cards, that's it. i have what's next to me. the lack of social support for single folks, for disabled folks, for folks whose family care is inadequate or damaging... it's impactful.

I talk about how i once visited a place with an ex partner. i mention how our relationship started because i was pressured into it, and i wasn't really into the level of seriousness and 'forever' she treated it with. everyone says it's weird that i agreed if i didn't want it to be serious. i remember being 16, saying no, and a chorus of people telling me i was stupid and immature, that her family was rich, that we would be cute and to listen to them, not my heart. my heart was saying nothing.

i look at my current age and life goals. for many of my peers, dating and marriage and eventual kids are common goals. i am watching my rights erode and trying to practice good mental hygeine. my five year goal is to be alive. my next major life milestone is a nebulous desire to find a life i can tolerate living.

being aromantic significantly impacts my day to day. i want to see aro people living their lives, and doing so with joy. i want to see aro adults making it, ones like me. i want aro people to thrive. i want to live, aromantically.

i scroll the aro tag. it's fandom and shipping and asexual posts.

[celsius451]

Insurance, in a spooky ghost voice: We denied coverage on this very standard and miniscule part of your medical careeeee~ oOooOo

Average person: Um, that's disappointing,, why?

Insurance ghost: I don't knoOooOoow~ it's a secret, why don't you figure it out on your owwWwWnnn~

Person: Tha- that sounds like you're full of absolute shit, just tell me why!! You're the one who denied it!!

[Ghost of insurance conveniently fades away,

Turns out it was never there~ oOooOo]

[daveedmee]

explosion at health potion factory 0 dead 0 injured

[kawaiiunii]

i really dislike what the term neurodivergent has turned into. i dont think term neurodivergent is at fault itself, i think it is as term good term to describe " other than neurotypical " essentially.

but what people have done with the term has done lot damage imo and continue do so. people use neurodivergent to mean autism and or adhd which i feel like in turn has feeded peoples confusion how some conditions are neurodivergent and them believing some things cant be called that and how since the term has been used in very specific but at same time meaningless misinformed ways.

which this in turn, in my opinion might also fed this whole idea people have that autism and adhd are same disorders and theyre so so same when they far from same just looking at criteria itself.

" neurodivergent people do this " " this is trait of neurodivergents " " neurodivergent people think this way " "neurodivergent people act like this because of this " all these type statements dont make sense. as neurodivergent is term for wide range conditions autism adhd dyslexia dysgraphia down syndrome alzheimers borderline personality disorder synesthesia dyspraxia narcissistic personality disorder. so on and on and on.. just examples but see how with examples can tell range is so far? you cant say neurodivergent people do this and this as blanket truth statement as it consists of all these ways brain function that arent same thing at all.

if you mean autism say autism. if you mean adhd say adhd. if you mean dyslexia say dyslexia. if you mean schizophrenia say schizophrenia! cant say that autism criteria symptom is what neurodivergent means, when you trying spread awareness you wont spread it well by making vague video post text slide whatever by lumping all these different condition traits into one blob, sometimes, even including things that arent even considered an actual autism trait at all, when thats what you trying to talk about without using word autism but "neurodivergent" instead.

[pangur-and-grim]

I think some of the loneliness of autism is that you feel like you hurt people just by Interacting Wrong, but you don’t know how to Interact Right, and the more effort you put into it, the more exhausted you are and the more artificial it comes across (with the end result of people still being upset with you). and it’s not anyone’s fault for not liking Being Interacted With Wrong, and it’s not your fault for doing it so wrong, but it is very, very lonely.

[sodomit]

Regardless of how wronged and hurt you are, regardless how much of a horrible piece of shit the other person is being, you still should not say bigoted things about them.

Bigotry is not a more advanced degree of insults that stings more, it's a reinforcement of the framework where certain marginalized traits are inferior. This is not about you and that person. This is about the society you live in.

[feluka]

i hate the way fat antagonists have their weight moralized and used as a metaphor for greed and corruption and i hate the way it's overcorrected into fat people being "soft squishy friend-shaped cupcakes who look like they give incredible hugs" and i long for the day we have nuanced, interesting, and complicated fat characters and most of all i long for the day people are normal about fatness