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i-will-help-you-swim

Reblog if you think asexuality is a legitimate sexuality.

I’m trying to prove something.

cmoon-rabbit4-blog

Reblog if your blog is a safe place for asexuals.

maedaeeee

hi i am asexual and i approve this message

artemisiamasterofnone

Hi I am the asexual

obsessivebookwormalert

hi, asexual

nug-offical-deactiv

hello all asexuals!!!

trans-sans-offical

I’m arospec, you’re all safe here :D

mopni905

I’m aromantic and I have ace packmates and headmates and it’s totally valid •^-^•

tradgothwillbyers

Y'all ever just suddenly have the overwhelming urge to swim??? Like not actively but you just wanna,,, be in the water and have some Peace

parttimepup

Yes it’s called the mammalian diving response and it’s also why doing face masks and taking a shower is soothing. Our amphibian ancestors used this mechanism to slow down the heartbeat and lower body temperature so as not to waste calories while swimming (which is very calorie intensive). It makes you feel safe because predators are less likely to get you in water than on land. The fish brain is alive and well in all of us.

beyondthetemples-ooc

It’s literally activated by putting water on the face.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3768097/

dogs4ge

My amphibian ancestors gave me the instinct to dissociate in the shower for hours on end

unabashedlybi-deactivated201911

crabussy

this terrible distant blurry shot of two pigeons is one of my favourite photos out of any pic I’ve ever taken I think

foeofcolor

Only day you can rb this

foeofcolor

This post is like a fucking rosetta stone I've had the same theme song tagged in at least 6 languages so far

jenroses

Have I told y’all about my husband’s Fork Theory? If I did already, pretend I didn’t, I’m an old.

So the Spoon Theory is a fundamental metaphor used often in the chronic pain/chronic illness communities to explain to non-spoonies why life is harder for them. It’s super useful and we use that all the time. But it has a corollary. You know the phrase, “Stick a fork in me, I’m done,” right? Well, Fork Theory is that one has a Fork Limit, that is, you can probably cope okay with one fork stuck in you, maybe two or three, but at some point you will lose your shit if one more fork happens. A fork could range from being hungry or having to pee to getting a new bill or a new diagnosis of illness. There are lots of different sizes of forks, and volume vs. quantity means that the fork limit is not absolute. I might be able to deal with 20 tiny little escargot fork annoyances, such as a hangnail or slightly suboptimal pants, but not even one “you poked my trigger on purpose because you think it’s fun to see me melt down” pitchfork.

This is super relevant for neurodivergent folk. Like, you might be able to deal with your feet being cold or a tag, but not both. Hubby describes the situation as “It may seem weird that I just get up and leave the conversation to go to the bathroom, but you just dumped a new financial burden on me and I already had to pee, and going to the bathroom is the fork I can get rid of the fastest.”

cipheramnesia

I like this and also I like the low key point that you may be able to cope with bigger forks by finding little ones you can remove quickly. A combination of time, focus, and reduction to small stressors that can allow you to focus on the larger stressor in a constructive way.

thigm0taxis

This is a very well known phenomenon in dog training. Say your dog can cope with a loud truck going by without reacting, or a guy with a beard, or a grabby little kid, or etc… but he may not be able to cope with all of them at once, or one or two of them on top of also being itchy and grouchy from an allergy flare up… We often call it “trigger stacking” (each thing stacks on top of each other, to reach the height of the minimum threshold for a visible reaction, and to deal with it we can try to shrink the height of each trigger and/or try to raise the bar of the overall threshold), but I like the fork analogy! Having the visual of the little cocktail forks, dessert forks, dinner forks, gardening forks, pitchforks, etc, seems like it could be a really useful way to help people visualize this!

jenroses

the-rogue-of-london-town reblogged your post “Have I told y’all about my husband’s Fork Theory? If I did already, pretend I didn’t, I’m an old. So the Spoon Theory…”

In your tag you asked “What are knives” and the answer I like is “Knives are things that require help/medical attention/long periods of time to even pull out, let alone recover from.” Trigger-producing things are knives. Traumas. Being misgendered by random people is a plastic hors d’oeuvre fork for me, tiny but annoying. Having someone I love consistently ignore my gender identity is a small knife in a tender place. Being a teenager and being kicked out of the house for being trans or gay or whatever would be a machete, and may or may not be survivable long-term. Knives leave marks even when you heal from them. Forks, not so much. I have a knife in my kitchen with a fork on the end, and it would be possible to mistake it for a fork while it is in and then realize it was actually a knife when it was pulled out, so the metaphor is pretty consistent.

jenroses

Have I told y’all about my husband’s Fork Theory? If I did already, pretend I didn’t, I’m an old.

So the Spoon Theory is a fundamental metaphor used often in the chronic pain/chronic illness communities to explain to non-spoonies why life is harder for them. It’s super useful and we use that all the time. But it has a corollary. You know the phrase, “Stick a fork in me, I’m done,” right? Well, Fork Theory is that one has a Fork Limit, that is, you can probably cope okay with one fork stuck in you, maybe two or three, but at some point you will lose your shit if one more fork happens. A fork could range from being hungry or having to pee to getting a new bill or a new diagnosis of illness. There are lots of different sizes of forks, and volume vs. quantity means that the fork limit is not absolute. I might be able to deal with 20 tiny little escargot fork annoyances, such as a hangnail or slightly suboptimal pants, but not even one “you poked my trigger on purpose because you think it’s fun to see me melt down” pitchfork.

This is super relevant for neurodivergent folk. Like, you might be able to deal with your feet being cold or a tag, but not both. Hubby describes the situation as “It may seem weird that I just get up and leave the conversation to go to the bathroom, but you just dumped a new financial burden on me and I already had to pee, and going to the bathroom is the fork I can get rid of the fastest.”

Please note, for future reference: attribution for Fork Theory should go to Andrew Ross. (edit made 2026)

catchymemes

teaboot

"she thinks this is bonding behavior" my friend this has BECOME your bonding behaviour

cherryhatter-deactivated2015072

KICK THE CAN!

Let’s play the biggest game of kick the can on the internet.

To kick the can, reblog it. I wanna see how long this can go on for.

visibun

the oldest reblogs for this post that i can find are from january 2nd of 2013. this can has been getting kicked around tumblr for almost 13½ years now

amerlcanapparel-deactivated2020

when she says she doesn’t send nudes

straighthater

when guys objectify women and expect them to send nudes

timelordpillbug

when someone asks you about your nuclear plans for russia

hikingnerd

When Russia sends you nudes

miss-jaxon-flaxon-waxon

#what the fuck happened here

her-eyes-dared-me-with-danger

This is my favorite post in all of tumblr

kyloschuyler

reminder that this post is now illegal in Russia

tree-of-blue-squirrel

reblog it, because Russia can´t

maradaisykat

Thanks Obama

my-sisters-eyeball

Wtf

roomba-with-knives-taped-to-it

When Russia makes this post illegal

earthnicity

I HAVE ONLY SEEN THIS IN SCREENSHOTS

dovahdez

I will reblog this every goddamn time I find it on my dash

a-wondering-thought-deactivated

I have a piece of tumblr history on my blog now

hellsitegenetics

String identified: atgctactttaatcaaaaattcaTattattatttgaagtcaacatTaaataattgaATCTgtgattaaacttg

Closest match: Bombyx mori BmN4 cell DNA, chromosome 24, sequence Common name: Domestic Silk Moth

(image source)

willifolts

When the domestic silk moth sends you nudes

scp-threats-is-back

Domestic silk moth is just being friendly

yoink-a-doink

Now the moth is banned in Russia

fantasylover4538

…well what the fuck is this

kingofkaumidy2

Art.

shower-thoughts-last-responder

ratsoupee

obligatory mourning of the dream of finding true love after society tells you true love will solve all your problems and the crushing reality of realizing you will never really find someone who completes you

spam-monster

Iron Lung and Project Hail Mary as "men who persevere against impossible odds and find courage in the depths of despair"

Versus Obsession and Backrooms "men will willingly stay in a literal horror movie situation over confronting their mistakes and taking responsibility for their actions"