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Anxiety or Fear?…… 7/19/26
The distinction between fear and anxiety is important to know. Anxiety is about something that might or might not happen in the future. With fear, the threat is fairly immediate. The example I use, and I think I’ve shared this before, is if I tell you there’s a 500 pound hungry lion walking around your car in your driveway or the parking lot, what you will probably feel will be anxious. …
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Anger…7/12/26
If you have trouble with anger, when you begin to feel irritated, or aggravated, tell yourself that you’re feeling powerless. Most people focus on what they are angry at and, frequently express it impulsively. A healthier way is to tell yourself what you’re feeling (powerless) and that it’s OK to feel that way. I tell clients that feelings will never get you in trouble. What gets you in…
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Being Enough…… 7/5/26
Are you enough? How do you know? What makes you so? Enough for what? Louise Hay certainly knows about affirmations. Her book, You Can Heal Your Life is filled with affirmations that people can use to heal their lives. One of the secrets of using affirmations is to repeat them until they become part of your psyche. You can also use them through your different senses. For instance, you can say “I…
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Before Sleep…… 6/28/26
At the end of the day I’ve been known to gather up all my leftover to-dos, my problems and unresolved conflicts, and lift my arms and say, “here they are, God. Take them. You’re gonna be up all night anyway. Give me the courage to handle whatever you put on my plate when I get up in the morning.” Try it. You might like it! Peace, John How to leave a comment on our blog: First, make sure that…
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Misfortunes..… 6/21/26
Maybe you don’t know why the toast got burn – but God does! At the time misfortune happens, we frequently don’t know why. It wasn’t what we wanted or had hoped for. Some time later, God might let us know what His reason was. Sometimes we may never find out. Trust God and trust that his plan for you is unfolding. Wait, watch it, learn and be pleasantly surprised. Peace, John I invite you to…
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Recovery…… 6/14/26
Active addicts are in a lot of emotional pain. They usually don’t have good coping skills and they have learned that substances (alcohol and/or drugs) frequently take the edge off the pain. I know that, if I feel anxious and don’t want to feel anxious, if I have a couple of drinks it takes the edge off. If I have many drinks, I don’t feel! Except…. tomorrow I wake up and I now have 3 issues. What…
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Moving On…… 6/7/26
In any given situation, identify those things you have no control over. Some things you may be able to influence or change; others not so much. Once you’ve identified what you were powerless over, you can rail against it, or you can make the best of and accept them. True acceptance means you stop trying to influence or change them; you free yourself to move on! Peace, John Please send me some…
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Guest Blog...Think! Think! Think! 6/3/26
“Guard your tongue when your heart is bitter or broken, be still until you heal” So often a friend, a relative, a boss, anyone will say something that really gets under your skin and you are very angry. Often times circuits from the dark side of my brain click into gear and the angry words come out too fast, too harsh and the damage is done. Practicing the pause was a technique that had to be…
Grandparenting & Grandchildren…… 5/31/26
Somewhere between Mother’s Day and Father’s Day I thought to pay tribute to Grandparents. While my profession has taught me that not all extended families are “hunky dory,” many are pretty good. Seventy-five (my present age) is considered “aging;” My wife and I definitely enjoy the rewards of knowing & spending time with our four grandchildren. I hope they enjoy our company as much as we enjoy…
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Dealing With Toxic People…… 5/24/26
Unfortunately there are a lot of toxic people in this world. Try to keep a balanced perspective; not everybody is toxic. But, when you run into them, the above advice is sound. The more you interact, the more it feeds their dysfunction. If you leave them alone, hopefully their toxicity will atrophy (waste away) or at least you won’t be as affected by them! Save your sanity and let them go!…
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Trust …… 5/17/26
Trust is essential! Nothing good comes from trusting the wrong people. Here’s a little handout that tells you who not to trust. Trust the right people. Peace, John See below I invite you to become a guest blogger. It’s easy – find a quote that speaks to you and write a few sentences about it and what it means to you. Send it all to me in an email with subject line reading “Guest blogger.” …
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What's Your Blood Type?...... 4/26/26
What do you think would happen if you started looking more frequently on the brighter side of situations? Those of us who like challenges may tend to look at the difficulties as challenges for us to straighten out. Years ago I came across this short ditty that seems appropriate here: “two men looked out from behind prison bars. One saw mud. The others saw stars!” What do you want to be looking…
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Failing To Succeed…… 4/19/26
A little play on words there in this blog title to get you thinking! When you fail, do you give up? A wise person once told me that “winners lose more than losers.” It took me a bit to figure out that may be because they take more risks, try more often, and persist through failure. They view setbacks as lessons rather than reasons to stop. While losers avoid risk to minimize failure, winners…
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Becoming…… 4/12/26
Two things to understand about “process:” First, there are steps in a process. One step usually follows another. Second, most things “in process” take time. When you become impatient, think “process.” Try to look forward to what might be coming next. You might also look back and see how far you’ve already come. Perspective can be an important part of growing. What processes are you currently…
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What To Do?...... 4/5/26
For years I’ve been fanatical about my to do lists. I’ve used at least a dozen apps or programs to list, categorize, organize and track them. At one point I became frustrated – at the end of the week I had put forth a lot of effort but it didn’t seem like I had accomplished anything. I made another list and I maintain it to this day, my “DONE” list. Now, at the end of the week I’m frequently…
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Self Care 101...... 3/29/26
This blog is a good follow up to last week’s. They’re both about taking care of your self. Make your self a priority. Don’t routinely put others ahead of your self. Ideally you want to be on the same level with others. On a commercial airline the flight attendant will tell you, if the air masks should drop during flight, put yours on first before assisting someone else. This is the same…
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Givers and Takers....3/22/26
If you are a giver, think about this: Have you trained those close to you to be takers? If so, it’s going to be difficult for either of you to change. Each of you have become set in your roles. If you decide to make a change and expect to get something back, please know that you are likely to meet resistance. They will continue to expect you to give and it will be difficult for them to…
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